In addressing the following observations
to you, I keep in mind the peculiarity of your position, a
position which has made you, while scarcely more than
a child, independent of external control, and forced
you into the responsibilities of deciding thus early
on a course of conduct that may seriously affect your
temporal and eternal interests. More happy are
those placed under the authority of strict parents,
who have already chosen and marked out for themselves
a path to which they expect their children strictly
to adhere. The difficulties that may still perplex
the children of such parents are comparatively few:
even if the strictness of the authority over them
be inexpedient and over strained, it affords them
a safeguard and a support for which they cannot be
too grateful; it preserves them from the responsibility
of acting for themselves at a time when their age
and inexperience alike unfit them for a decision on
any important practical point; it keeps them disengaged,
as it were, from being pledged to any peculiar course
of conduct until they have formed and matured their
opinion as to the habits of social intercourse most
expedient for them to adopt. Thus, when the time
for independent action comes, they are quite free to
pursue any new course of life without being shackled
by former professions, or exposing themselves to the
reproach (and consequent probable loss of influence)
of having altered their former opinions and views.
Those, then, who are early guarded
from any intercourse with the world ought, instead
of murmuring at the unnecessary strictness of their
seclusion, to reflect with gratitude on the advantages
it affords them. Faith ought, even now, to teach
them the lesson that experience is sure to impress
on every thoughtful mind, that it is a special mercy
to be preserved from the duties of responsibility
until we are, comparatively speaking, fitted to enter
upon them.
This is not, however, the case with
you. Ignorant and inexperienced as you are, you
must now select, from among all the modes of life placed
within your reach, those which you consider the best
suited to secure your welfare for time and for eternity.
Your decision now, even in very trifling particulars,
must have some effect upon your state in both existences.
The most unimportant event of this life carries forward
a pulsation into eternity, and acquires a solemn importance
from the reaction. Every feeling which we indulge
or act upon becomes a part of ourselves, and is a
preparation, by our own hand, of a scourge or a blessing
for us throughout countless ages.
It may seem a matter of comparative
unimportance, of trifling influence over your future
fate, whether you attend Lady A.’s ball to-night,
or Lady H.’s to-morrow. You may argue to
yourself that even those who now think balls entirely
sinful have attended hundreds of them in their time,
and have nevertheless become afterwards more religious
and more useful than others who have never entered
a ball-room. You might add, that there could
be more positive sin in passing two or three hours
with two or three people in Lady A’s house in
the morning than in passing the same number of hours
with two or three hundred people in the same house
in the evening. This is indeed true; but are you
not deceiving yourself by referring to the mere overt
act? That is, as you imply, past and over when
the evening is past; but it is not so with the feelings
which may make the ball either delightful or
disagreeable to you; feelings, which may be then for
the first time excited, never to be stilled again, feelings
which, when they once exist, will remain with you
throughout eternity; for even if by the grace of God
they are finally subdued, they will still remain with
you in the memory of the painful conflicts, the severe
discipline of inward and outward trials, required
for their subjugation. Do not, however, suppose
that I mean to attribute exclusive or universally
injurious effects to the atmosphere of a ball-room.
In the innocent smiles and unclouded brow of many a
fair girl, the experienced eye truly reads their freedom
from any taint of envy, malice, or coquetry; while,
on the other hand, unmistakeable and unconcealed exhibitions
of all these evil feelings may often be witnessed
at a so-called “religious party.”
This remark, however, is not to my
purpose; it is only made par parenthèse, to
obviate any pretence for mistaking my meaning, and
for supposing that I attribute positive sin to that
which I only object to as the possible, or rather
the probable occasion of sin. I always think
this latter distinction a very important one to attend
to in discussing, in a more general point of view,
the subject of amusements of every kind: it is,
however, enough merely to notice it here, while we
pass on to the question which I urge upon you to apply
personally to yourself, namely, whether the ball-room
be not a more favourable atmosphere for the first
excitement and after-cultivation of many feminine failings
than the quieter and more confined scenes of other
social intercourse.
It is by tracing the effect produced
on our own mind that we can alone form a safe estimate
of the expediency of doubtful occupations. This
is the primary point of view in which to consider
the subject, though by no means the only one; for
every Christian ought to exhibit a readiness in his
own small sphere to emulate the unselfishness of the
great apostle: “If meat make my brother
to offend, I will eat no flesh while the world standeth,
lest I make my brother to offend." The fear of
the awful threatenings against those who “offend,”
i.e. lead into sin, any of “God’s
little ones," should combine with love for those
for whom the Saviour died, to induce us freely to
sacrifice things which would be personally harmless,
on the ground of their being injurious to others.
This part of the subject is, however,
of less importance for our present consideration,
as from your youth and inexperience your example cannot
yet exercise much influence on those around you.
Let us therefore return to the more
personal part of the subject, namely, the effect produced
on your own mind. I have spoken of feminine “failings:”
I should, however, be inclined to apply a stronger
term to the first that I am about to notice the
love of admiration, considering how closely it must
ever be connected with the fatal vice of envy.
She who has an earnest craving for general admiration
for herself, is exposed to a strong temptation to
regret the bestowal of any admiration on another.
She has an instinctive exactness in her account of
receipt and expenditure; she calculates almost unconsciously
that the time and attention and interest excited by
the attractive powers of others is so much homage
subtracted from her own. That beautiful aphorism,
“The human heart is like heaven the
more angels the more room for them,” is to such
persons as unintelligible in its loving spirit as in
its wonderful philosophic truth. Their craving
is insatiable, once it has become habitual, and their
appetite is increased and stimulated, instead of being
appeased, by the anxiously-sought-for nourishment.
These observations can only strictly
apply to the fatal desire for general admiration.
As long as the approbation only of the wise and good
is our object, it is not so much that there are fewer
opportunities of exciting the feeling of envy at this
approbation being granted to others; there is, further,
an instinctive feeling of its incompatibility with
the very object we are aiming at. The case is
altogether different when we seek to attract those
whose admiration may be won by qualities quite different
from any connected with moral excellence. There
is here no restraint on our evil feelings: and
when we cannot equal the accomplishments, the beauty,
and the graces of another, we may possibly be tempted
to envy, and, still further, to depreciate, those of
the hated rival perhaps, worse than all,
may be tempted to seek to attract attention by means
less simple and less obvious. If the receiving
of admiration be injurious to the mind, what must
the seeking for it be! “The flirt of many
seasons” loses all mental perceptions of refinement
by long practice in hardihood, as the hackneyed practitioner
unconsciously deepens the rouge upon her cheek, until,
unperceived by her blunted visual organs, it loses
all appearance of truth and beauty. Some instances
of the kind I allude to nave come before even your
inexperienced eyes; and from the shrinking surprise
with which you now contemplate them, I have no doubt
that you would wish to shun even the first step in
the same career. Indeed, it is probable that you,
under any circumstances, would never go so far in
coquetry as those to whom your memory readily recurs.
Your innate delicacy, your feminine high-mindedness
may, at any future time, as well as at present, preserve
you from the bad taste of challenging those attentions
which your very vanity would reject as worthless if
they were not voluntarily offered.
Nevertheless, even in you, habits
of dissipation may produce an effect which to your
inmost being may be almost equally injurious.
You may possess an antidote to prevent any external
manifestations of the poisonous effects of an indulged
craving for excitement; but general admiration, however
spontaneously offered and modestly received, has nevertheless
a tendency to create a necessity for mental stimulants.
This, among other ill-effects, will, worst of all,
incapacitate you from the appreciative enjoyment of
healthy food.
The heart that with its luscious
cates
The world has
fed so long,
Could never taste the simple
food
That gives fresh virtue to
the good,
Fresh vigour to
the strong.
The pure and innocent pleasures which
the hand of Providence diffuses plentifully around
us will, too probably, become tasteless and insipid
to one whose habits of excitement have destroyed the
fresh and simple tastes of her mind. Stronger
doses, as in the case of the opium-eater, will each
day be required to produce an exhilarating effect,
without which there is now no enjoyment, without which,
in course of time, there will not be even freedom
from suffering.
There is an analogy throughout between
the mental and the physical intoxication; and it continues
most strikingly, even when we consider both in their
most favourable points of view, by supposing the victim
to self-indulgence at last willing to retrace her
steps. This fearful advantage is granted to our
spiritual enemy by wilful indulgence in sin; that
it is only when trying to adopt or resume a life of
sobriety and self-denial that we become exposed to
the severest temporal punishments of self-indulgence.
As long as a course of this self-indulgence is continued,
if external things should prosper with us, comparative
peace and happiness may be enjoyed (if
indeed the loftier pleasures of devotion to God, self-control,
and active usefulness can be forgotten, supposing
them to have been once experienced.) It is only when
the grace of repentance is granted that the returning
child of God becomes at the same time alive to the
sinfulness of those pleasures which she has cultivated
the habit of enjoying, and to the mournful fact of
having lost all taste for those simple pleasures which
are the only safe ones, because they alone leave the
mind free for the exercise of devotion, and the affections
warm and fresh for the contemplation of “the
things that belong to our peace.”
Sad and dreary is the path the penitent
worldling has to traverse; often, despairing at the
difficulties her former habits have brought upon her,
she looks back, longingly and lingeringly, upon the
broad and easy path she has lately left. Alas!
how many of those thus tempted to “look back”
have turned away entirely, and never more set their
faces Zion-ward.
From the dangers and sorrows just
described you have still the power of preserving yourself.
You have as yet acquired no factitious tastes; you
still retain the power of enjoying the simple pleasures
of innocent childhood. It now depends upon your
manner of spending the intervening years, whether,
in the trying period of middle-age, simple and natural
pleasures will still awaken emotions of joyousness
and thankfulness in your heart.
I have spoken of thankfulness, for one of the best tests of the innocence and
safety of our pleasures is, the being able to thank God for them. While we
thus look upon them as coming to us from his hand, we may safely bask in the
sunshine of even earthly pleasures:
The colouring may be of this
earth,
The lustre comes of heavenly
birth.
Can you feel this with respect to
the emotions of pleasurable excitement with which
you left Lady M.’s ball? I am no fanatic,
nor ascetic; and I can imagine it possible (though
not probable) that among the visitors there some simple-minded
and simple-hearted people, amused with the crowds,
the dresses, the music, and the flowers, may have felt,
even in this scene of feverish and dangerous excitement,
something of “a child’s pure delight in
little things." Without profaneness, and in all
sincerity, they might have thanked God for the, to
them, harmless recreation.
This I suppose possible in the case
of some, but for you it is not so. The keen susceptibilities
of your excitable nature will prevent your resting
contented without sharing in the more exciting pleasures
of the ball-room; and your powers of adaptation will
easily tempt you forward to make use of at least some
of those means of attracting general admiration which
seem to succeed so well with others.
“Wherever there is life there
is danger;” and the danger is probably in proportion
to the degree of life. The more energy, the more
feeling, the more genius possessed by an individual,
the greater also are the temptations to which that
individual is exposed. The path which is safe
and harmless for the dull and inexcitable the
mere animals of the human race is beset
with dangers for the ardent, the enthusiastic, the
intellectual. These must pay a heavy penalty for
their superiority; but is it therefore a superiority
they would resign? Besides, the very trials and
temptations to which their superior vitality subjects
them are not alone its necessary accompaniment, but
also the necessary means for forming a superior character
into eminent excellence.
Self-will, love of pleasure, quick
excitability, and consequent irritability, are the
marked ingredients in every strong character; its
strength must be employed against itself to produce
any high moral superiority.
There is an analogy between the metaphysical
truths above spoken of and that fact in the physical
history of the world, that coal-mines are generally
placed in the neighbourhood of iron-mines. This
is a provision involved in the nature of the thing
itself; and we know that, without the furnaces thus
placed within reach, the natural capabilities of the
useful ore would never be developed.
In the same way, we know that an accompanying
furnace of affliction and temptation is necessarily
involved in that very strength of character which
we admire; and also, that, without this fiery furnace,
the vast capabilities of their nature, both moral
and mental, could never be fully developed.
Suffering, sorrow, and temptations
are the invariable conditions of a life of progress;
and suffering, sorrow, and temptations are all of them
always in proportion to the energies and capabilities
of the character.
There is another analogy in animated
nature, illustrative of the case of those who, without
injury to themselves, (the injury to our neighbour
is, as I said before, a different part of the subject,)
may attend the ball-room, the theatre, and the race-course.
Those animals lowest in the scale of creation, those
who scarcely manifest one of the energies of vitality,
are also those which are the least susceptible of suffering
from external causes. The medusæ are supposed
to feel no pain even in being devoured, and the human
zoophyte is, in like manner, comparatively out of
the reach of every suffering but death. Have you
not seen some beings endowed with humanity nearly
as destitute of a nervous system as the medusæ, nearly
as insusceptible of any sensation from the accidents
of life. Some of these, too, may possess virtue
and piety as well as the animal qualities of patience
and sweetness of temper, which are the mere results
of their physical organization. No degree of effort
or discipline, however, (indeed they bear within themselves
no capabilities for either,) could enable such persons
to become eminently useful, eminently respected, or
eminently loved. They have doubtless some work
appointed them to do, and that a necessary work in
God’s earthly kingdom; but theirs are inferior
duties, very different from those which you, and such
as you, are called on to fulfil.
Have I in any degree succeeded in
reconciling you to the unvaryingly-accompanying penalties
necessary to qualify the glad consciousness of possessing
intellectual powers, a warm heart, and a strong mind?
Your high position will indeed afford you far less
happiness than that which may belong to the lower ranks
in the scale of humanity; but the noble mind will
soon be disciplined into dispensing with happiness; it
will find instead blessedness.
If yours be a more difficult path
than that of others, it is also a more honourable
one: in proportion to the temptations endured
will be the brightness of that “crown of life
which the Lord hath promised to them that love him."
But there is, perhaps, less necessity
for trying to impress upon your mind a sense of your
superiority than for urging upon you its accompanying
responsibility, and the severe circumspection it calls
upon you to exercise. Thus, from what I have
above written, it necessarily follows that you cannot
evade the question I am now pressing upon you by observing
the effect of dissipation upon others, by bringing
forward the example of many excellent women who have
passed through the ordeal of dissipation untainted,
and, still themselves possessing loving hearts and
simple minds, are fearlessly preparing their daughters
for the same dangerous course. Remember that
those from whom you would shrink from a supposed equality
on other points cannot be safely taken as examples
for your own course of life. Your own concern
is to ascertain the effect produced upon your own
mind by different kinds of society, and to examine
whether you yourself have the same healthy taste for
simple pleasures and unexciting pursuits as before
you engaged, even as slightly as you have already
done, in the dissipation of a London season.
I once heard a young lady exclaim,
when asked to accompany her family on a boating excursion,
“Can any thing be more tiresome than a family
party?” Young as she was, she had already lost
all taste for the simple pleasures of domestic life.
As she was intellectual and accomplished, she could
still enjoy solitude; but her only ideas of pleasure
as connected with a party were those of admiration
and excitement. We may trace the same feelings
in the complaints perpetually heard of the stupidity
of parties, complaints generally proceeding
from those who are too much accustomed to attention
and admiration to be contented with the unexciting
pleasures of rational conversation, the exercise of
kindly feelings, and the indulgence of social habits all
in their way productive of contentment to those who
have preserved their mind in a state of freshness
and simplicity. Any greater excitement than that
produced by the above means cannot surely be profitable
to those who only seek in society for so much pleasure
as will afford them relaxation; those who engage
in an arduous conflict with ever-watchful enemies
both within and without ought carefully to avoid having
their weapons of defence unstrung. I know
that at present you would shrink from the idea of
making pleasure your professed pursuit, from the idea
of engaging in it for any other purpose but the one
above stated that of necessary relaxation;
I should not otherwise have addressed you as I do
now. Your only danger at present is, that you
may, I should hope indeed unconsciously, acquire
the habit of requiring excitement during your hours
of relaxation.
In opposition to all that I have said,
you will probably be often told that excitement, instead
of being prejudicial, is favourable to the health
of both mind and body; and this in some respects is
true: the whole mental and physical constitution
benefit by, and acquire new energy from, nay, they
seem to develop hidden forces on occasions of natural
excitement; but natural it ought to be, coming in the
providential course of the events of life, and neither
considered as an essential part of daily food, nor
inspiring distaste for simple, ordinary nourishment.
I fear much, on the other hand, any excitement that
we choose for ourselves; that only is quite safe which
is dispensed to us by the hand of the Great Physician
of souls: he alone knows the exact state of our
moral constitution, and the exact species of discipline
it requires from hour to hour.
You will wonder, perhaps, that throughout
the foregoing remonstrance I have never recommended
to you the test so common among many good people of
our acquaintance, viz. whether you are able to
pray as devoutly on returning from a ball as after
an evening spent at home? My reason for this
silence was, that I have found the test an ineffectual
one. The advanced Christian, if obedience to
those who are set in authority over her should lead
her into scenes of dissipation, will not find her mind
disturbed by being an unwilling actor in the uninteresting
amusements. She, on the other hand, who is just
beginning a spiritual life, must be an incompetent
judge of the variations in the devotional spirit of
her mind, anxious, besides, as one should
be to discourage any of that minute attention to variations
of religious feeling which only disturbs and harasses
the mind, and hinders it from concentrating its efforts
upon obedience. Lastly, she who has never been
mindful of her baptismal vows of renunciation of the
world, the flesh, and the devil, will “say her
prayers” quite as satisfactorily to herself after
a day spent in one manner as in another. The
test of a distaste for former simple pursuits, and
want of interest in them, is a much safer one, more
universally applicable, and not so easily evaded.
It is equally effectual, too, as a religious safeguard;
for the natural and impressible state in which the
mind is kept by the absence of habitual stimulants
is surely the state in which it is best qualified for
the exercise of devotion, for self-denial,
for penitence and prayer.
Let us return now to a further examination
of the nature of the dangers to which you may be exposed
by a life of gayety an examination that
must be carried on in your own mind with careful and
anxious inquiry. I have before spoken of the
duty of ascertaining what effects different kinds
of society produce upon you: it is only by thus
qualifying yourself to pass your own judgment
on this important subject that you can avoid being
dangerously influenced by those assertions that you
hear made by others. You will probably, for instance,
be told that a love of admiration often manifests
itself as glaringly in the quiet drawing-room as in
the crowded ball-room; and I readily admit that the
feelings cherished into existence, or at least into
vigour, by the exciting atmosphere of the latter cannot
be readily laid aside with the ball-dress. There
will, indeed, be less opportunity for their display,
less temptation to the often accompanying feelings
of envy and discontent, but the mental process will
probably still be carried on of distilling
from even the most innocent pleasures but one species
of dangerous excitement: I cannot, however, admit,
that to the unsophisticated mind there will be any
danger of the same nature in the one case as in the
other. Society, when entered into with a simple,
prayerful spirit, may be considered one of the most
improving as well as one of the most innocent pleasures
allotted to us. Still further, I believe that
the exercise of patience, benevolence, and self-denial
which it involves, is a most important part of the
disciplining process by which we are being brought
into a state of preparation for the society of glorified
spirits, of “just men made perfect.”
I advise you earnestly, therefore,
against any system of conduct, or indulgence of feeling,
that would involve your seclusion from society not
only on the grounds of such seclusion obliging you
to unnecessary self-denial, but on the still stronger
grounds of the loss to our moral being which would
result from the absence of the peculiar species of
discipline that social intercourse affords. My
object in addressing you is to point out the dangers
to you of peculiar kinds of society, not by any means
to seek to persuade you to avoid it altogether.
Let us, then, consider carefully the
respective tendencies of different kinds of society
to cherish or create the feelings of “envy, hatred,
and malice, and all uncharitableness,” by exciting
a craving for general admiration, and a desire to
secure the largest portion for yourself.
You have already been a few weeks
out in the world; you have been at small social parties
and crowded balls: they must have given you sufficient
experience to understand the remarks I make.
Have you not, then, felt at the quiet
parties of which I have spoken (as contrasted with
dissipated ones) that it was pleasure enough for you
to spend your whole evening talking with persons of
your own sex and age over the simple occupations o£
your daily-life, or the studies which engage the interest
of your already cultivated mind? Lady L. may have
collected a circle of admirers around her, and Miss
M.’s music may have been extolled as worthy
of an artist, but upon all this you looked merely
as a spectator; without either wish or idea of sharing
in their publicity or their renown, you probably did
not form a thought, certainly not a wish, of the kind.
In the ball-room, however, the case is altogether
different; the most simple and fresh-minded woman cannot
escape from feelings of pain or regret at being neglected
or unobserved here. She goes for the professed
purpose of dancing; and when few or no opportunities
are afforded her of sharing in that which is the amusement
of the rest of the room, should she feel neither mortification
at her own position, nor envy, however disguised and
modified, at the different position of others, she
can possess none of that sensitiveness which is your
distinctive quality. It is true, indeed, that
the experienced chaperon is well aware that the girl
who commands the greatest number of partners is not
the one most likely to have the greatest number of
proposals-at the end of the season, nor the one who
will finally make the most successful parti.
This reconciles the prudential looker-on to the occasional
and partial appearance of neglect. Not so the
young and inexperienced aspirant to admiration:
her worldliness is now in an earlier phase;
and she thinks that her fame rises or falls among her
companions according as she can compete with them in
the number of her partners, or their exclusive devotion
to her, which after a season or two is discovered
to be a still safer test of successful coquetry.
Thus may the young innocent heart be gradually led
on to depend for its enjoyment on the factitious passing
admiration of a light and thoughtless hour; and still
worse, if possessed of keen susceptibilities and powers
of quick adaptation, the lesson is often too easily
learned of practising the arts likely to attract notice,
thus losing for ever the simplicity and modest freshness
of a woman’s nature. That may be a fatal
evening to you on which you will first attract sufficient
notice to have it said of you that you were more admired
than Lucy D. or Ellen M.; this may be a moment for
a poisonous plant to spring up in your heart, which
will spread around its baleful influence until your
dying day. It is a disputed point among ethical
metaphysicians, whether the seeds of every vice are
equally planted in each human bosom, and only prevented
from germinating by opposing circumstances, and by
the grace of God assisting self-control. If this
be true, how carefully ought we to avoid every circumstance
that may favour the commencing existence of before
unknown sins and temptations. The grain that has
been destitute of vitality for a score of centuries
is wakened into unceasing, because continually renewed
existence, by the fostering influences of light and
air and a suitable soil. Evil tendencies may be
slumbering in your bosom, as destitute of life, as
incapable of growth, as the oats in the foldings of
the mummy’s envelope. Be careful lest, by
going into the way of temptation, you may involuntarily
foster them into the very existence which they would
otherwise never possess.
When once the craving for excitement
has become a part of our nature, there is of course
no safety in the quietest, or, under other circumstances,
most innocent kind of society. The same amusements
will be sought for in it as those which have been
enjoyed in the ball-room, and every company will be
considered insufferably wearisome which does not furnish
the now necessary stimulant of exclusive attention
and general admiration.
I write the more strongly to you on
the subject of worldly amusements, because I see with
regret a tendency in the writings and conversation
of the religious world, as it is called, to extol
every other species of self-denial, but to Observe
a studied silence respecting this one.
A reaction seems to have taken place
in the public mind. Instead of the puritanic
strictness that condemned the meeting of a few friends
for any purposes besides those of reading the Scriptures
and praying extempore, practices are now introduced,
and favoured, and considered harmless, almost as strongly
contrasted with the former ones as was the promulgation
of the Book of Sports with the strict observances that
preceded it. We see some, of whose piety and excellence
no doubt can be entertained, mingling unhesitatingly
in the most worldly amusements of those who are by
profession as well as practice “lovers of pleasure
more than lovers of God.”
How cruelly are the minds of the simple
and the timid perplexed by the persons who thus act,
as well as by those popular writings which countenance
in professedly religious persons these worldly and
self-indulgent habits of life. The hearts and
the consciences of the “weak brethren”
re-echo the warnings given them by the average opinions
of the wise and good in all ages of the world, namely,
that, with respect to worldly amusements, they must
“come out and be separate.” How else
can they be sons and daughters of Him, to whom they
vowed, as the necessary condition of entering into
that high relationship, that they would “renounce
the pomps and vanities of this wicked world?”
If the question of pomps should be perplexing to some
by the different requirements of different stations
in life, there is surely less difficulty of the same
kind in relation to its vanities. But while the
“weak in faith” are hesitating and trembling
at the thought of all the opposition and sacrifices
a self-denying course of conduct must, under any circumstances,
involve, they are still further discouraged by finding
that some whom they are accustomed to respect and admire
have in appearance gone over to the enemy’s
camp.
It is only, indeed, in their hours
of relaxation that they select as their favourite
companions those who are professedly engaged in a
different service from their own those whom
they know to be devoted heart and soul to the love
and service of that “world which lieth in wickedness."
Are not, however, their hours of relaxation also their
hours of danger those in which they are
more likely to be surprised and overcome by temptation
than in hours of study or of business? All this
is surely very perplexing to the young and inexperienced,
however personally safe and prudent it may be for
those from whom a better example might have been justly
expected. It is deeply to be regretted that there
is not more unity of action and opinion among those
who “love the Lord Jesus Christ in sincerity,”
more especially in cases where such unity of action
is only interfered with by dislike to the important
and eminent Christian duty of self-denial.
I am inclined to apply terms of stronger
and more general condemnation than any I have hitherto
used to those amusements which are more especially
termed “public.”
You should carefully examine, with
prayer to be guided aright, whether a voluntary attendance
at the theatre or the race-course is not in a degree
exposed to the solemn denunciation uttered by the Saviour
against those who cause others to offend. Can
that relaxation be a part of the education to fit
us for our eternal home which is regardless of danger
to the spiritual interests of others, and acts upon
the spirit of the haughty remonstrance of Cain “Am
I my brother’s keeper?" For all the details
of this argument, I refer you to Wilberforce’s
“Practical View of Christianity.”
Many other writers besides have treated this subject
ably and convincingly; but none other has ever been
so satisfactory to my own mind: I think it will
be so to yours. I am aware that much may be said
in defence of the expediency of the amusements to
which I refer; and as there is a certainty that both
of them, or others of a similar nature, will meet
with general support until “the kingdoms of
this world become the kingdoms of the Lord and of
his Christ," it is a compensatory satisfaction
that they are neither of them without their advantages
to the general welfare of the country; that good is
mixed with their evil, as well as brought out of their
evil. This does not, however, serve as an excuse
for those who, having their mind and judgment enlightened
to see the dangers to others and the temptations to
themselves of attending such amusements, should still
disfigure lives, it may be, in other respects, of excellence
and usefulness, by giving their time, their money,
and their example to countenance and support them.
Wo to those who venture to lay their sinful human
hands upon the complicated machinery of God’s
providence, by countenancing the slightest shade of
moral evil, because there may be some accompanying
good! We cannot look forward to a certain result
from any action: the most virtuous one may produce
effects entirely different from those which we had
anticipated; and we can then only fearlessly leave
the consequences in the hands of God, when we are sure
that we have acted in strict accordance with His will.
Does it become the servant of God voluntarily to expose
herself to hear contempt and blasphemy attached to
the Holy Name and the holy things which she loves;
to see on the stage an awful mockery of prayer itself,
on the race-course the despair of the ruined gambler
and the debasement of the drunkard? The choice
of the scenes you frequent now, of the company you
keep now, is of an importance involved in the very
nature of things, and not dependent alone on the expressed
will of God. It is only the pure in heart who
can see God. It is only those who have here acquired
a meetness for the inheritance of the saints in light
who can enjoy its possession.
It is almost entirely in this point
of view that I have urged upon you the close consideration
of the permanent influences of every present action.
At your age, and with your inexperience, I know that
there is an especial aptness to deceive one’s-self
by considering the case of those who, after leading
a gay life for many years, have afterwards become the
most zealous and devoted servants of God. That
such cases are to be met with, is to the glory of
the free grace of God: but what reason have you
to hope that you should be among this small number?
Having once wilfully chosen the pleasures of this
life as your portion, on what promise do you depend
ever again to be awakened to a sense of the awful alternative
of fulfilling your baptismal vows, by renouncing the
pomps and vanities of the world, or becoming a withered
branch of the vine into which you were once grafted a
branch whose end is to be burned?
Without urging further upon you this
hackneyed, though still awful warning, let me return
once more to the peculiar point of view in which I
have, all along, considered the subject; namely, that
each present act and feeling, however momentary may
be its indulgence, is an inevitable preparation for
eternity, by becoming a part of our never-dying moral
nature. You must deeply feel how much this consideration
adds to the improbability of your having any desires
whatever to become the servant of God some years hence,
and how much it must increase in future every difficulty
and every unwillingness which you at present experience.
Let us, however, suppose that God
will still be merciful to you at the last; that, after
having devoted to the world during the years of your
youth that love, those energies, and those powers of
mind which had been previously vowed to his holier
and happier service, he will still in future years
send you the grace of repentance; that he will effect
such a change in your heart and mind, that the world
does not only become unsatisfactory to you, which
is a very small way towards real religion, but
that to love and serve God becomes to you the one thing
desirable above all others. Alas! it is even then,
in the very hour of redeeming mercy, of renewing grace,
that your severest trials will begin. Then first
will you thoroughly experience how truly it is “an
evil thing and bitter, to forsake the Lord your God."
Then you will find that every late effort at self-denial,
simplicity of mind and purpose, abstinence from worldly
excitements, &c., is met, not only by the evil instincts
which belong to our nature, but by the superinduced
difficulty of opposing confirmed habits.
Smoothly and tranquilly flows on the
stream of habit, and we are unaware of its growing
strength until we try to erect an obstacle in its course,
and see this obstacle swept away by the long-accumulating
power of the current.
In truth, all those who have wilfully
added the power of evil habits to the evil tendencies
of their fallen nature must expect “to go mourning
all the days of their life.” It is only
to those who have served the Lord from their youth
that “wisdom’s ways are ways of pleasantness,
and all her paths peace.” To others, though
by the grace of God they may be finally saved, there
is but a dreary prospect until the end come. They
must ever henceforth consult their safety by denying
themselves many pleasant things which the well-regulated
mind of the habitually pious may find not only safe
but profitable. At the same time they sorrowfully
discover that they have lost all taste for those entirely
simple pleasures with which the path of God’s
obedient children is abundantly strewn. Their
path, on the contrary, is rugged, and their flowers
are few: their sun seldom shines; for they themselves
have formed clouds out of the vapours of earth, to
intercept its warming and invigorating radiance:
what wonder, then, if some among them should turn it
back into the bright and sunny land of self-indulgence,
now looking brighter and more alluring than ever from
its contrast with the surrounding gloom?
Let not this dangerous risk be yours.
While yet young young in habits, in energies,
in affections, devote all to the service of the best
of masters. “The work of righteousness,”
even now, through difficulties, self-denial, and anxieties,
will be “peace, and the effect thereof quietness
and assurance for ever."