WHILE the path of progress in the
gaining of repose could not be traced thus far without
reference to the freedom of a baby, a fuller consideration
of what we may learn from this source must be of great
use to us.
The peace and freshness of a little
baby are truly beautiful, but are rarely appreciated.
Few of us have peace enough in ourselves to respond
to these charms. It is like playing the softest
melody upon a harp to those whose ears have long been
closed.
Let us halt, and watch, and listen,
and see what we shall gain!
Throughout the muscular system of
a normal, new-born baby it is impossible to find any
waste of force. An apparent waste will, upon
examination, prove itself otherwise. Its cry will
at first seem to cause contractions of the face; but
the absolute removal of all traces of contraction
as the cry ceases, and a careful watching of the act
itself, show it to be merely an exaggeration of muscular
action, not a permanent contraction. Each muscle
is balanced by an opposing one; in fact, the whole
thing is only a very even stretching of the face, and,
undoubtedly, has a purpose to accomplish.
Examine a baby’s bed, and see
how distinctly it bears the impression of an absolute
giving up of weight and power. They actually do
that which we only theorize about, and from them we
may learn it all, if we will.
A babe in its bath gives us another
fine opportunity for learning to be simple and free.
It yields to the soft pressure of the water with a
repose which is deeply expressive of gratitude; while
we, in our clumsy departures from Nature’s state,
often resist with such intensity as not to know-in
circumstances just as simply useful to us-that
we have anything for which to be grateful.
In each new experience we find it
the same, the healthy baby yields, lets himself
go, with an case which must double his chances
for comfort. Could we but learn to do so, our
lives would lengthen, and our joys and usefulness
strengthen in exact proportion.
All through the age of unconsciousness,
this physical freedom is maintained even where the
mental attitude is not free. Baby wrath is as
free and economical of physical force as are the winsome
moods, and this until the personality has developed
to some extent,-that is, until the child
reflects the contractions of those around him.
It expends itself in well-balanced muscular exercise,
one set of muscles resting fully in their moment of
non-use, while another set takes up the battle.
At times it will seem that all wage war together; if
so, the rest is equal to the action.
It is not the purpose of this chapter
to recommend anger, even of the most approved sort;
but if we will express the emotion at all, let us
do it as well as we did in our infancy!
Channels so free as this would necessitate,
would lessen our temptations to such expression; we,
with mature intellects, would see it for what it is,
and the next generation of babies would less often
exercise their wonderfully balanced little bodies in
such an unlovely waste.
Note the perfect openness of a baby
throat as the child coos out his expression of happiness.
Could anything be more free, more like the song of
a bird in its obedience to natural laws? Alas,
for how much must we answer that these throats are
so soon contracted, the tones changed to so high a
pitch, the voice becoming so shrill and harsh!
Can we not open our throats and become as these little
children?
The same openness in the infant
organism is the child’s protection in many dangers.
Falls that would result in breaks, strains, or sprains
in us, leave the baby entirely whole save in its “feelings,”
and often there, too, if the child has been kept in
the true state mentally.
Watch a baby take its food, and contrast
it with our own ways of eating. The baby draws
it in slowly and evenly, with a quiet rhythm which
is in exact accord with the rhythmic action of its
digestive organs. You feel each swallow taken
in the best way for repair, and for this reason it
seems sometimes as if one could see a baby grow while
feeding. There cannot be a lovelier glimpse of
innocent physical repose than the little respites
from the fatigue of feeding which a baby often takes.
His face moist, with open pores, serene and satisfied,
he views the hurry about him as an interesting phase
of harmless madness. He is entirely outside of
it until self-consciousness is quite developed.
The sleep of a little child is another
opportunity for us to learn what we need. Every
muscle free, every burden dropped, each breath carries
away the waste, and fills its place with the needed
substance of increasing growth and power.
In play, we find the same freedom.
When one idea is being executed, every other is excluded.
They do not think dolls while they roll hoop!
They do not think of work while they
play. Examine and see how we do both. The
baby of one year, sitting on the shore burying his
fat hand in the soft warm sand, is for the time being
alive only to its warmth and softness, with
a dim consciousness of the air and color about him.
If we could engross ourselves as fully and with as
simple a pleasure, we should know far more of the
possible power of our minds for both work and rest.
It is interesting to watch normal
children in these concentrations, because from their
habits we may learn so much which may improve our
own sadly different manner of living. It is also
interesting but pathetic to see the child gradually
leaving them as he approaches boyhood, and to trace
our part in leading him away from the true path.
The baby’s perfect placidity,
caused by mental and bodily freedom, is disturbed
at a very early age by those who should be his true
guides. It would be impossible to say when the
first wrong impression is made, but it is so early
that a true statement of the time could only be accepted
from scientific men. For mothers and fathers have
often so dulled their own sensitiveness, that they
are powerless to recognize the needs of their children,
and their impressions are, in consequence, untrustworthy.
At the time the pangs of teething
begin, it is the same. The healthy child left
to itself would wince occasionally at the slight pricking
pain, and then turn its entire attention elsewhere,
and thus become refreshed for the next trial.
But under the adult influence the agony of the first
little prick is often magnified until the result is
a cross, tired baby, already removed several degrees
from the beautiful state of peace and freedom in which
Nature placed him under our care.
The bodily freedom of little children
is the foundation of a most beautiful mental freedom,
which cannot be wholly destroyed by us. This
is plainly shown by the childlike trust which they
display in all the affairs of life, and also in their
exquisite responsiveness to the spiritual truths which
are taught to them. The very expression of face
of a little child as it is led by the hand is a lesson
to us upon which pages might be written.
Had we the same spirit dwelling in
us, we more often should feel ourselves led “beside
the still waters,” and made “to lie down
in green pastures.” We should grow faster
spiritually, because we should not make conflicts
for ourselves, but should meet with the Lord’s
quiet strength whatever we had to pass through.
Let us learn of these little ones,
and help them to hold fast to that which they teach
us. Let us remember that the natural and the ideal
are truly one, and endeavor to reach the latter by
means of the former.
When through hereditary tendency our
little child is not ideal,-that is, natural,-let
us with all the more earnestness learn to be quiet
ourselves that we may lead him to it, and thus open
the channels of health and strength.