A WOMAN who had had some weeks of
especially difficult work for mind and body, and who
had finished it feeling fresh and well, when a friend
expressed surprise at her freedom from fatigue, said,
with a smiling face: “Oh! but I took great
care of myself all through it: I always went
to bed early, and rested when it was possible.
I was careful to eat only nourishing food, and to
have exercise and fresh air when I could get them.
You see I knew that the work must be accomplished,
and that if I were over-tired I could not do it well.”
The work, instead of fatiguing, had evidently refreshed
her.
If that same woman had insisted, as
many have in similar cases, that she had no time to
think of herself; or if such care had seemed to her
selfish, her work could not have been done as well,
she would have ended it tired and jaded, and would
have declared to sympathizing friends that it was
“impossible to do a work like that without being
all tired out,” and the sympathizing friends
would have agreed and thought her a heroine.
A well-known author, who had to support
his wife and family while working for a start in his
literary career, had a commercial position that occupied
him every day from nine to five. He came home
and dined at six, went to bed at seven, slept until
three, when he got up, made himself a cup of coffee,
and wrote until he breakfasted at eight. He got
all the exercise he needed in walking to and from his
outside work and was able to keep up this regular
routine, with no loss of health, until he could support
his family comfortably on what he earned from his
pen. Then he returned to ordinary hours.
A brain once roused will take a man
much farther than his strength; if this man had come
home tired and allowed himself to write far into the
night, and then, after a short sleep, had gone to the
indispensable earning of his bread and butter, the
chances are that his intellectual power would have
decreased, until both publishers and author would have
felt quite certain that he had no power at all.
The complacent words, “I cannot
think of myself,” or, “It is out of the
question for me to care for myself,” or any other
of the various forms in which the same idea is expressed,
come often from those who are steadily thinking of
themselves, and, as a natural consequence, are so
blinded that they cannot see the radical difference
between unselfish care for one’s self, as a
means to an end, and the selfish care for one’s
self which has no other object in view.
The wholesome care is necessary to
the best of all good work. The morbid care means
steady decay for body and soul.
We should care for our bodies as a
violinist cares for his instrument. It is the
music that comes from his violin which he has in mind,
and he is careful of his instrument because of its
musical power. So we, with some sense of the
possible power of a healthy body, should be careful
to keep it fully supplied with fresh air; to keep it
exercised and rested; to supply it with the quality
and quantity of nourishment it needs; and to protect
it from unnecessary exposure. When, through mistake
or for any other reason, our bodies get out of order,
instead of dwelling on our discomfort, we should take
immediate steps to bring them back to a normal state.
If we learned to do this as a matter
of course, as we keep our hands clean, even though
we had to be conscious of our bodies for a short time
while we were gaining the power, the normal care would
lead to a happy unconsciousness. Carlyle says,
and very truly, that we are conscious of no part of
our bodies until it is out of order, and it certainly
follows that the habit of keeping our bodies in order
would lead us eventually to a physical freedom which,
since our childhood, few of us have known. In
the same way we can take care of our minds with a
wholesome spirit. We can see to it that they are
exercised to apply themselves well, that they are
properly diverted, and know how to change, easily,
from one kind of work to another. We can be careful
not to attempt to sleep directly after severe mental
work, but first to refresh our minds by turning our
attention into entirely different channels in the
way of exercise or amusement.
We must not allow our minds to be
over-fatigued any more than our bodies, and we must
learn how to keep them in a state of quiet readiness
for whatever work or emergency may be before them.
There is also a kind of moral care
which is quite in line with the care of the mind and
the body, and which is a very material aid to these,-a
way of refusing to be irritable, of gaining and maintaining
cheerfulness, kindness, and thoughtfulness for others.
It is well known how much the health
of any one part of us depends upon all the others.
The theme of one of Howells’s novels is the steady
mental, moral, and physical degeneration of a man from
eating a piece of cold mince-pie at midnight, and
the sequence of steps by which he is led down is a
very natural process. Indeed, how much irritability
and unkindness might be traced to chronic indigestion,
which originally must have come from some careless
disobedience of simple physical laws.
When the stomach is out of order,
it needs more than its share of vital force to do
its work, and necessarily robs the brain; but when
it is in good condition this force may be used for
mental work. Then again, when we are in a condition
of mental strain or unhealthy concentration, this
condition affects our circulation and consumes force
that should properly be doing its work elsewhere,
and in this way the normal balance of our bodies is
disturbed.
The physical and mental degeneration
that follows upon moral wrong-doing is too well known
to dwell upon. It is self-evident in conspicuous
cases, and very real in cases that are too slight to
attract general attention. We might almost say
that little ways of wrongdoing often produce a worse
degeneration, for they are more subtle in their effects,
and more difficult to realize, and therefore to eradicate.
The wise care for one’s self
is simply steering into the currents of law and order,-mentally,
morally, and physically. When we are once established
in that life and our forces are adjusted to its currents,
then we can forget ourselves, but not before:
and no one can find these currents of law and order
and establish himself in them, unless he is working
for some purpose beyond his own health. For a
man may be out of order physically, mentally, or morally
simply for the want of an aim in life beyond his own
personal concerns. No care is to any purpose-indeed,
it is injurious-unless we are determined
to work for an end which is not only useful in itself,
but is cultivating in us a living interest in accomplishment,
and leading us on to more usefulness and more accomplishment.
The physical, mental, and moral man are all three
mutually interdependent, but all the care in the world
for each and all of them can only lead to weakness
instead of strength, unless they are all three united
in a definite purpose of useful life for the benefit
of others.
Even a hobby re-acts upon itself and
eats up the man who follows it, unless followed to
some useful end. A man interested in a hobby for
selfish purposes alone first refuses to look at anything
outside of his hobby, and later turns his back on
everything but his own idea of his hobby. The
possible mental contraction which may follow, is almost
unlimited, and such contraction affects the whole man.
It is just as certain a law for an
individual that what he gives out must have a definite
relation to what he takes in, as it is for the best
strength of a country that its imports and exports
should be in proper balance. Indeed, this law
is much more evident in the case of the individual,
if we look only a little below the surface. A
man can no more expect to live without giving out
to others than a shoemaker can expect to earn his
bread and butter by making shoes and leaving them
piled in a closet.
To be sure, there are many men who
are well and happy, and yet, so far as appearances
go, are living entirely for themselves, with not only
no thought of giving, but a decided unwillingness
to give. But their comfort and health are dependent
on temporary conditions, and the external well-being
they have acquired would vanish, if a serious demand
were made upon their characters.
Happy the man or woman who, through
illness of body or soul, or through stress of circumstances,
is aroused to appreciate the strengthening power of
useful work, and develops a wholesome sense of the
usefulness and necessity of a rational care of self!
Try to convince a man that it is better
on all accounts that he should keep his hands clean
and he might answer, “Yes, I appreciate that;
but I have never thought of my hands, and to keep
them clean would make me conscious of them.”
Try to convince an unselfishly-selfish or selfishly-unselfish
person that the right care for one’s self means
greater usefulness to others, and you will have a most
difficult task. The man with dirty hands is quite
right in his answer. To keep his hands clean
would make him more conscious of them, but he does
not see that, after he had acquired the habit of cleanliness,
he would only be conscious of his hands when they
were dirty, and that this consciousness could be at
any time relieved by soap and water. The selfishly-unselfish
person is right: it is most pernicious to care
for one’s self in a self-centred spirit; and
if we cannot get a clear sense of wholesome care of
self, it is better not to care at all.
With a perception of the need for
such wholesome care, would come a growing realization
of the morbidness of all self-centred care, and a
clearer, more definite standard of unselfishness.
For the self-centred care takes away life, closes
the sympathies, and makes useful service obnoxious
to us; whereas the wholesome care, with useful service
as an end, gives renewed life, an open sympathy, and
growing power for further usefulness.
We do not need to study deeply into
the laws of health, but simply to obey those we know.
This obedience will lead to our knowing more laws
and knowing them better, and it will in time become
a very simple matter to distinguish the right care
from the wrong, and to get a living sense of how power
increases with the one, and decreases with the other.