IT is not generally recognized that
the will can be trained, little by little, by as steadily
normal a process as the training of a muscle, and
that such training must be through regular daily exercise,
and as slow in its effects as the training of a muscle
is slow. Perhaps we are unconsciously following,
as a race, the law that Froebel has given for the
beginnings of individual education, which bids us lead
from the “outer to the inner,” from the
known to the unknown. There is so much more to
be done to make methods of muscular training perfect,
that we have not yet come to appreciate the necessity
for a systematic training of the will. Every
individual, however, who recognizes the need of such
training and works accordingly, is doing his part to
hasten a more intelligent use of the will by humanity
in general.
When muscles are trained abnormally
their development weakens, instead of strengthening,
the whole system. Great muscular strength is often
deceptive in the appearance of power that it gives;
it often effectually hides, under a strong exterior,
a process of degeneration which is going on within,
and it is not uncommon for an athlete to die of heart
disease or pulmonary consumption.
This is exactly analogous to the frequently
deceptive appearance of great strength of will.
The will is trained abnormally when it is used only
in the direction of personal desire, and the undermining
effect upon the character in this case is worse than
the weakening result upon the body in the case of
abnormal muscular development. A person who is
persistently strong in having his own way may be found
inconsistently weak when he is thwarted in his own
way. This weakness is seldom evident to the general
public, because a man with a strong will to accomplish
his own ends is quick to detect and hide any appearance
of weakness, when he knows that it will interfere
with whatever he means to do. The weakness, however,
is none the less certainly there, and is often oppressively
evident to those from whom he feels that he has nothing
to gain.
When the will is truly trained to
its best strength, it is trained to obey; not to obey
persons or arbitrary ideas, but to obey laws of life
which are as fixed and true in their orderly power,
as the natural laws which keep the suns and planets
in their appointed spheres. There is no one who,
after a little serious reflection, may not be quite
certain of two or three fixed laws, and as we obey
the laws we know, we find that we discover more.
To obey truly we must use our wills
to yield as well as to act. Often the greatest
strength is gained through persistent yielding, for
to yield entirely is the most difficult work a strong
will can do, and it is doing the most difficult work
that brings the greatest strength.
To take a simple example: a small
boy with a strong will is troubled with stammering.
Every time he stammers it makes him angry, and he
pushes and strains and exerts himself with so much
effort to speak, that the stammering, in consequence,
increases. If he were told to do something active
and very painful, and to persist in it until his stammering
were cured, he would set his teeth and go through the
work like a soldier, so as to be free from the stammering
in the shortest possible time. But when he is
told that he must relax his body and stop pushing,
in order to drop the resistance that causes his trouble,
he fights against the idea with all his little might.
It is all explained to him, and he understands that
it is his only road to smooth speaking; but the inherited
tendency to use his will only in resistance is so
strong, that at first it seems impossible for him to
use it in any other way.
The fact that the will sometimes gains
its greatest power by yielding seems such a paradox
that it is not strange that it takes us long to realize
it. Indeed, the only possible realization of it
is through practice.
The example of the little stammering
boy is an illustration that applies to many other
cases of the same need for giving up resistance.
No matter how actively we need to
use our wills, it is often, necessary to drop all
self-willed resistance first, before we begin an action,
if we want to succeed with the least possible effort
and the best result.
When we use the will forcibly to resist
or to repress, we are simply straining our nerves
and muscles, and are exerting ourselves in a way which
must eventually be weakening, not only to them, but
to the will itself. We are using the will normally
when, without repression or unnecessary effort, we
are directing the muscles and nerves in useful work.
We want “training and not straining” as
much for the will as for the body, and only in that
way does the will get its strength.
The world admires a man for the strength
of his will if he can control the appearance of anger,
whereas the only strength of will that is not spurious
is that which controls the anger itself. We have
had the habit for so long of living in appearances,
that it is only by a slow process that we acquire
a strong sense of their frailty and lack of genuine
value. In order to bring the will, by training,
out of the region of appearances into that of realities,
we must learn to find the true causes of weakness
and use our wills little by little to remove them.
To remove the external effect does no permanent good
and produces an apparent strength which only hides
an increasing weakness.
Imagine, for instance, a woman with
an emotional, excitable nature who is suffering from
jealousy; she does not call it jealousy, she calls
it “sensitive nerves,” and the doctors
call it “hysteria.” She has severe
attacks of “sensitive nerves” or “hysteria”
every time her jealousy is excited. It is not
uncommon for such persistent emotional strain, with
its effect upon the circulation and other functions
of the body, to bring on organic disease. In
such a case the love of admiration, and the strength
of will resulting from that selfish desire, makes her
show great fortitude, for which she receives much
welcome praise. That is the effect she wants,
and in the pose of a wonderful character she finds
it easy to produce more fortitude-and so
win more admiration.
A will that is strong for the wrong,
may-if taken in time-become
equally strong for the right. Perversion is not,
at first, through lack of will, but through the want
of true perception to light the way to its intelligent
use.
A man sometimes appears to be without
power of will who is only using a strong will in the
wrong way, but if he continues in his wrong course
long enough, his weakness becomes real.
If a woman who begins her nervous
degeneration by indulging herself in jealousy-which
is really a gross emotion, however she may refine it
in appearance-could be made to see the
truth, she would, in many cases, be glad to use her
will in the right direction, and would become in reality
the beautiful character which her friends believe her
to be. This is especially true because this moral
and nervous perversion often attacks the finest natures.
But when such perversion is allowed to continue, the
sufferer’s strength is always prominent in external
dramatic effects, but disappears oppressively when
she is brought face to face with realities.
Many people who are nervous invalids,
and many who are not, are constantly weakening themselves
and making themselves suffer by using their wills
vigorously in every way but that which is necessary
to their moral freedom: by bearing various unhappy
effects with so-called stoicism, or fighting against
them with their eyes tight shut to the real cause
of their suffering, and so hiding an increasing weakness
under an appearance of strength.
A ludicrous and gross example of this
misuse of the will may be observed in men or women
who follow vigorously and ostentatiously paths of
self-sacrifice which they have marked out for themselves,
while overlooking entirely places where self-denial
is not only needed for their better life, but where
it would add greatly to the happiness and comfort
of others.
It is curious a such weakness is common
with people who are apparently very intelligent; and
parallel with this are cases of men who are remarkably
strong in the line of their own immediate careers,
and proportionately weak in every other phase of their
lives. We very seldom find a soldier, or a man
who is powerful in politics, who can answer in every
principle and action of his life to Wordsworth’s
“Character of the Happy Warrior.”
Absurd as futile self-sacrifice seems,
it is not less well balanced than the selfish fortitude
of a jealous woman or than the apparent strength of
a man who can only work forcibly for selfish ends.
The wisest use of the will can only grow with the
decrease of self-indulgence.
“Nervous” women are very
effective examples of the perversion of a strong will.
There are women who will work themselves into an illness
and seem hopelessly weak when they are not having their
own way, who would feel quite able to give dinner
parties at which they could be prominent in whatever
rôle they might prefer, and would forget their supposed
weakness with astonishing rapidity. When things
do not go to please such women, they are weak and
ill; when they stand out among their friends according
to their own ideal of themselves and are sufficiently
flattered, they enter into work which is far beyond
their actual strength, and sooner or later break down
only to be built up on another false basis.
This strong will turned the wrong
way is called “hysteria,” or “neurasthenia,”
or “degeneracy.” It may be one of
these or all three, in its effect, but the
training of the will to overcome the cause, which
is always to be found in some kind of selfishness,
would cure the hysteric, give the neurasthenic more
wholesome nerves, and start the degenerate on a course
of regeneration. At times it would hardly surprise
us to hear that a child with a stomach-ache crying
for more candy was being treated for “hysteria”
and studied as a “degenerate.” Degenerate
he certainly is, but only until he can be taught to
deny himself candy when it is not good for him, with
quiet and content.
There are many petty self-indulgences
which, if continually practised, can do great and
irreparable harm in undermining the will. Every
man or woman knows his own little weaknesses best,
but that which leads to the greatest harm is the excuse,
“It is my temperament; if I were not tardy,
or irritable, or untidy,”-or whatever
it may be,-“I would not be myself.”
Our temperament is given us as a servant, not as a
master; and when we discover that an inherited perversion
of temperament can be trained to its opposite good,
and train it so, we do it not at a loss of individuality,
but at a great gain. This excuse of “temperament”
is often given as a reason for not yielding.
The family will is dwelt upon with a pride which effectually
prevents it from keeping its best strength, and blinds
the members of the family to the weakness that is
sure to come, sooner or later, as a result of the misuse
of the inheritance of which they are so proud.
If we train our wills to be passive
or active, as the need may be, in little things, that
prepares us for whatever great work may be before
us. Just as in the training of a muscle, the daily
gentle exercise prepares it to lift a great weight.
Whether in little ways or in great
ways, it is stupid and useless to expect to gain real
strength, unless we are working in obedience to the
laws that govern its development. We have a faculty
for distinguishing order from disorder and harmony
from discord, which grows in delicacy and strength
as we use it, and we can only use it through refusing
disorder and choosing order. As our perception
grows, we choose more wisely, and as we choose more
wisely, our perception grows. But our perceptions
must work in causes, not at all in effects, except
as they lead us to a knowledge of causes. We
must, above all, train our wills as a means of useful
work. It is impossible to perfect ourselves for
the sake of ourselves.
It is a happy thing to have been taught
the right use of the will as a child, but those of
us who have not been so taught, can be our own fathers
and our own mothers, and we must be content with a
slow growth. We are like babies learning to walk.
The baby tries day after day, and does not feel any
strain, or wake in the morning with a distressing
sense of “Oh! I must practise walking to-day.
When shall I have finished learning?” He works
away, time after time falling down and picking himself
up, and some one day finally walks, without thinking
about it any more. So we, in the training of our
wills, need to work patiently day by day; if we fall,
we must pick ourselves up and go on, and just as the
laws of balance guide the baby, so the laws of life
will carry us.
When the baby has succeeded in walking,
he is not elated at his new power, but uses it quietly
and naturally to accomplish his ends. We cannot
realize too strongly that any elation or personal pride
on our part in a better use of the will, not only
obstructs its growth, but is directly and immediately
weakening.
A quiet, intelligent use of the will
is at the root of all character; and unselfish, well-balanced
character, with the insight which it develops, will
lead us to well-balanced nerves.
SUMMING UP
TO sum it all up, the nerves are conductors
for impression and expression. As channels, they
should be as free as Emerson’s “smooth
hollow tube,” for transmission from without in,
and from within out. Thus the impressions will
be clear, and the expressions powerful.
The perversions in the way of allowing
to the nerves the clear conducting power which Nature
would give them are, so far as the body is concerned,
unnecessary fatigue and strain caused by not resting
entirely when the times come for rest, and by working
with more than the amount of force needed to accomplish
our ends,-thus defying the natural laws
of equilibrium and economy. Not only in the ways
mentioned do we defy these most powerful laws, but,
because of carelessness in nourishment and want of
normal exercise out of doors, we make the establishment
of such equilibrium impossible.
The nerves can never be open channels
while the body wants either proper nourishment, the
stimulus that comes from open air exercise, perfect
rest, or true economy of force in running the human
machine.
The physical training should be a
steady shunning of personal perversions until the
nervous system is in a natural state, and the muscles
work in direct obedience to the will with the exquisite
co-ordination which is natural to them.
The same equilibrium must be found
in the use of the mind. Rest must be complete
when taken, and must balance the effort in work,-rest
meaning often some form of recreation as well as the
passive rest of steep. Economy of effort should
be gained through normal concentration,-that
is, the power of erasing all previous impressions and
allowing a subject to hold and carry us, by dropping
every thought or effort that interferes with it, in
muscle, nerve, and mind. The nerves of the senses
must be kept clear through this same ability to drop
all previous impressions.
First in importance, and running all
through the previous training, is the use of the will,
from which all these servants, mental and physical,
receive their orders,-true or otherwise
as the will itself obeys natural and spiritual laws
in giving them. The perversions in the will to
be shunned are misuse of muscles by want of economy
in force and power of direction; abuse of the nervous
system by unwisely dwelling upon pain and illness
beyond the necessary care for the relief of either,
or by allowing sham emotions, irritability, and all
other causes of nervous distemper to overcome us.
The remedy for this is to make a peaceful
state possible through a normal training of the physique;
to realize and follow a wholesome life in all its
phases; to recognize daily more fully through obedience
the great laws of life by which we must be governed,
as certainly as an engineer must obey the laws of
mechanics if he wants to build a bridge, that will
stand, as certainly as a musician must obey the laws
of harmony if he would write good music, as surely
as a painter must obey the laws of perspective and
of color if he wishes to illuminate Nature by means
of his art.
No matter what our work in life, whether
scientific, artistic, or domestic, it is the same
body through which the power is transmitted; and the
same freedom in the conductors for impression and expression
is needed, to whatever end the power may be moved,
from the most simple action to the highest scientific
or artistic attainment.
The quality of power differs greatly;
the results are widely different, but the laws of
transmission are the same. So wonderful is the
unity of life and its laws!