Somewhat more than 300 years ago,
John Knox, who did more than any man to mould the
thoughts of his nation and indeed of our
English Puritans likewise was writing a
little book on the ‘Regiment of Women,’
in which he proved woman, on account of her natural
inferiority to man, unfit to rule.
And but the other day, Mr. John Stuart
Mill, who has done more than any man to mould the
thought of the rising generation of Englishmen, has
written a little book, in the exactly opposite sense,
on the ’Subjection of Women,’ in which
he proves woman, on account of her natural equality
with man, to be fit to rule.
Truly ‘the whirligig of Time
brings round its revenges.’ To this point
the reason of civilised nations has come, or at least
is coming fast, after some fifteen hundred years of
unreason, and of a literature of unreason, which discoursed
gravely and learnedly of nuns and witches, hysteria
and madness, persecution and torture, and, like a madman
in his dreams, built up by irrefragable logic a whole
inverted pyramid of seeming truth upon a single false
premiss. To this it has come, after long centuries
in which woman was regarded by celibate theologians
as the ‘noxious animal,’ the temptress,
the source of earthly misery, which derived at
least in one case ’femina’
from ‘fe’ faith, and ‘minus’
less, because women had less faith than men; which
represented them as of more violent and unbridled
animal passions; which explained learnedly why they
were more tempted than men to heresy and witchcraft,
and more subject (those especially who had beautiful
hair) to the attacks of demons; and, in a word, regarded
them as a necessary evil, to be tolerated, despised,
repressed, and if possible shut up in nunneries.
Of this literature of celibate unreason,
those who have no time to read for themselves the
pages of Sprenger, Meier, or Delrio the Jesuit, may
find notices enough in Michelet, and in both Mr. Lecky’s
excellent works. They may find enough of it,
and to spare also, in Burton’s ’Anatomy
of Melancholy.’ He, like Knox, and many
another scholar of the 16th and of the first half
of the 17th century, was unable to free his brain
altogether from the idola specus which haunted
the cell of the bookworm. The poor student,
knowing nothing of women, save from books or from
contact with the most debased, repeated, with the pruriency
of a boy, the falsehoods about women which, armed
with the authority of learned doctors, had grown reverend
and incontestable with age; and even after the Reformation
more than one witch-mania proved that the corrupt
tree had vitality enough left to bring forth evil fruit.
But the axe had been laid to the root
thereof. The later witch prosecutions were not
to be compared for extent and atrocity to the mediaeval
ones; and first, as it would seem, in France, and gradually
in other European countries, the old contempt of women
was being replaced by admiration and trust.
Such examples as that of Marguerite d’Angoulême
did much, especially in the South of France, where
science, as well as the Bible, was opening men’s
eyes more and more to nature and to fact. Good
little Rondelet, or any of his pupils, would have as
soon thought of burning a woman for a witch as they
would have of immuring her in a nunnery.
In Scotland, John Knox’s book
came, happily for the nation, too late. The
woes of Mary Stuart called out for her a feeling of
chivalry which has done much, even to the present
day, to elevate the Scotch character. Meanwhile,
the same influences which raised the position of women
among the Reformed in France raised it likewise in
Scotland; and there is no country on earth in which
wives and mothers have been more honoured, and more
justly honoured, for two centuries and more.
In England, the passionate loyalty with which Elizabeth
was regarded, at least during the latter part of her
reign, scattered to the winds all John Knox’s
arguments against the ‘Regiment of Women;’
and a literature sprang up in which woman was set
forth no longer as the weakling and the temptress,
but as the guide and the inspirer of man. Whatever
traces of the old foul leaven may be found in Beaumont
and Fletcher, Massinger, or Ben Jonson, such books
as Sidney’s ‘Arcadia,’ Lyly’s
‘Euphues,’ Spenser’s ‘Fairy
Queen,’ and last, but not least, Shakespeare’s
Plays, place the conception of woman and of the rights
of woman on a vantage-ground from which I believe
it can never permanently fall again at least
until (which God forbid) true manhood has died out
of England. To a boy whose notions of his duty
to woman had been formed, not on Horace and Juvenal,
but on Spenser and Shakespeare, as I trust
they will be some day in every public school, Mr.
John Stuart Mill’s new book would seem little
more than a text-book of truths which had been familiar
and natural to him ever since he first stood by his
mother’s knee.
I say this not in depreciation of
Mr. Mill’s book. I mean it for the very
highest praise. M. Agassiz says somewhere that
every great scientific truth must go through three
stages of public opinion. Men will say of it,
first, that it is not true; next, that it is contrary
to religion; and lastly, that every one knew it already.
The last assertion of the three is often more than
half true. In many cases every one ought to
have known the truth already, if they had but used
their common sense. The great antiquity of the
earth is a case in point. Forty years ago it
was still untrue; five-and-twenty years ago it was
still contrary to religion. Now every child
who uses his common sense can see, from looking at
the rocks and stones about him, that the earth is many
thousand, it may be many hundreds of thousands of years
old; and there is no difficulty now in making him
convince himself, by his own eyes and his own reason,
of the most prodigious facts of the glacial epoch.
And so it ought to be with the truths
which Mr. Mill has set forth. If the minds of
lads can but be kept clear of Pagan brutalities and
mediaeval superstitions, and fed instead on the soundest
and noblest of our English literature, Mr. Mill’s
creed about women will, I verily believe, seem to
them as one which they have always held by instinct;
as a natural deduction from their own intercourse
with their mothers, their aunts, their sisters:
and thus Mr. Mill’s book may achieve the highest
triumph of which such a book is capable; namely that
years hence young men will not care to read it, because
they take it all for granted.
There are those who for years past
have held opinions concerning women identical with
those of Mr. Mill. They thought it best, however,
to keep them to themselves; trusting to the truth
of the old saying, ’Run not round after the
world. If you stand still long enough, the world
will come round to you.’ And the world
seems now to be coming round very fast towards their
standing-point; and that not from theory, but from
experience. As to the intellectual capacity of
girls when competing with boys (and I may add as to
the prudence of educating boys and girls together),
the experience of those who for twenty years past have
kept up mixed schools, in which the farmer’s
daughter has sat on the same bench with the labourer’s
son, has been corroborated by all who have tried mixed
classes, or have, like the Cambridge local examiners,
applied to the powers of girls the same tests as they
applied to boys; and still more strikingly by the
results of admitting women to the Royal College of
Science in Ireland, where young ladies have repeatedly
carried off prizes for scientific knowledge against
young men who have proved themselves, by subsequent
success in life, to have been formidable rivals.
On every side the conviction seems growing (a conviction
which any man might have arrived at for himself long
ago, if he would have taken the trouble to compare
the powers of his own daughters with those of his sons),
that there is no difference in kind, and probably
none in degree, between the intellect of a woman and
that of a man; and those who will not as yet assent
to this are growing more willing to allow fresh experiments
on the question, and to confess that, after all (as
Mr. Fitch well says in his report to the Schools Inquiry
Commission), ’The true measure of a woman’s
right to knowledge is her capacity for receiving it,
and not any theories of ours as to what she is fit
for, or what use she is likely to make of it.’
This is, doubtless, a most important
concession. For if it be allowed to be true
of woman’s capacity for learning, it ought to
be and I believe will be allowed
to be true of all her other capacities whatsoever.
From which fresh concession results will follow,
startling no doubt to those who fancy that the world
always was, and always will be, what it was yesterday
and to-day: but results which some who have contemplated
them steadily and silently for years past, have learnt
to look at not with fear and confusion, but with earnest
longing and high hope.
However startling these results may
be, it is certain from the books, the names whereof
head this article, that some who desire their fulfilment
are no mere fanatics or dreamers. They evince,
without exception, that moderation which is a proof
of true earnestness. Mr. Mill’s book it
is almost an impertinence in me to praise. I
shall not review it in detail. It is known, I
presume, to every reader of this Magazine, either by
itself or reviews: but let me remind those who
only know the book through reviews, that those reviews
(however able or fair) are most probably written by
men of inferior intellect to Mr. Mill, and by men who
have not thought over the subject as long and as deeply
as he has done; and that, therefore, if they wish
to know what Mr. Mill thinks, it would be wisest for
them to read Mr. Mill himself a truism which
(in these days of second-hand knowledge) will apply
to a good many books beside. But if they still
fancy that the advocates of ‘Woman’s Rights’
in England are of the same temper as certain female
clubbists in America, with whose sayings and doings
the public has been amused or shocked, then I beg them
to peruse the article on the ‘Social Position
of Women,’ by Mr. Boyd Kinnear; to find any
fault with it they can; and after that, to show cause
why it should not be reprinted (as it ought to be)
in the form of a pamphlet, and circulated among the
working men of Britain to remind them that their duty
toward woman coincides (as to all human duties) with
their own palpable interest. I beg also attention
to Dr. Hodgson’s little book, ’Lectures
on the Education of Girls, and Employment of Women;’
and not only to the text, but to the valuable notes
and references which accompany them. Or if any
one wish to ascertain the temper, as well as the intellectual
calibre of the ladies who are foremost in this movement,
let them read, as specimens of two different styles,
the Introduction to ‘Woman’s Work, and
Woman’s Culture,’ by Mrs. Butler, and
the article on ‘Female Suffrage,’ by Miss
Wedgewood, at . I only ask that these
two articles should be judged on their own merits the
fact that they are written by women being ignored meanwhile.
After that has been done, it may be but just and right
for the man who has read them to ask himself (especially
if he has had a mother), whether women who can so
think and write, have not a right to speak, and a right
to be heard when they speak, of a subject with which
they must be better acquainted than men woman’s
capacities, and woman’s needs?
If any one who has not as yet looked
into this ‘Woman’s Question’ wishes
to know how it has risen to the surface just now, let
them consider these words of Mrs. Butler. They
will prove, at least, that the movement has not had
its origin in the study, but in the market; not from
sentimental dreams or abstract theories, but from
the necessities of physical fact:
’The census taken eight years ago
gave three and a half millions of women in England
working for a subsistence; and of these two and a
half millions were unmarried. In the interval
between the census of 1851 and that of 1861, the
number of self-supporting women had increased by
more than half a million. This is significant;
and still more striking, I believe, on this point,
will be the returns of the nest census two years
hence.’
Thus a demand for employment has led
naturally to a demand for improved education, fitting
woman for employment; and that again has led, naturally
also, to a demand on the part of many thoughtful women
for a share in making those laws and those social
regulations which have, while made exclusively by
men, resulted in leaving women at a disadvantage at
every turn. They ask and they have
surely some cause to ask What greater right
have men to dictate to women the rules by which they
shall live, than women have to dictate to men?
All they demand all, at least, that is
demanded in the volumes noticed in this review is
fair play for women; ‘A clear stage and no favour.’
Let ‘natural selection,’ as Miss Wedgwood
well says, decide which is the superior, and in what.
Let it, by the laws of supply and demand, draught
women as well as men into the employments and positions
for which they are most fitted by nature. To
those who believe that the laws of nature are the laws
of God, the Vox Dei in rebus revelata; that
to obey them is to prove our real faith in God, to
interfere with them (as we did in social relations
throughout the Middle Ages, and as we did till lately
in commercial relations likewise) by arbitrary restrictions
is to show that we have no faith in God, and consider
ourselves wise enough to set right an ill-made universe to
them at least this demand must seem both just and
modest.
Meanwhile, many women, and some men
also, think the social status of women is just now
in special peril. The late extension of the franchise
has admitted to a share in framing our laws many thousands
of men of that class which whatever be
their other virtues, and they are many is
most given to spending their wives’ earnings
in drink, and personally maltreating them; and least
likely to judge from the actions of certain
trades to admit women to free competition
for employment. Further extension of the suffrage
will, perhaps, in a very few years, admit many thousands
more. And it is no wonder if refined and educated
women, in an age which is disposed to see in the possession
of a vote the best means of self-defence, should ask
for votes, for the defence, not merely of themselves,
but of their lowlier sisters, from the tyranny of men
who are as yet to the shame of the State most
of them altogether uneducated.
As for the reasonableness of such
a demand, I can only say what has been
said elsewhere that the present state of
things, ’in which the franchise is considered
as something so important and so sacred that the most
virtuous, the most pious, the most learned, the most
wealthy, the most benevolent, the most justly powerful
woman, is refused it, as something too precious for
her; and yet it is entrusted, freely and hopefully,
to any illiterate, drunken, wife-beating ruffian who
can contrive to keep a home over his head,’
is equally unjust and absurd.
There may be some sufficient answer
to the conclusion which conscience and common sense,
left to themselves, would draw from this statement
of the case as it now stands: but none has occurred
to me which is not contrary to the first principle
of a free government.
This I presume to be: that every
citizen has a right to share in choosing those who
make the laws; in order to prevent, as far as he can,
laws being made which are unjust and injurious to
him, to his family, or to his class; and that all
are to be considered as ‘active’ citizens,
save the criminal, the insane, or those unable to
support themselves. The best rough test of a
man’s being able to support himself is, I doubt
not, his being able to keep a house over his head,
or, at least, a permanent lodging; and that, I presume,
will be in a few years the one and universal test
of active citizenship, unless we should meanwhile obtain
the boon of a compulsory Government education, and
an educational franchise founded thereon. But,
it must be asked and answered also What
is there in such a test, even as it stands now, only
partially applied, which is not as fair for women
as it is for men? ’Is it just that an
educated man, who is able independently to earn his
own livelihood, should have a vote: but that
an equally educated woman, equally able independently
to earn her own livelihood, should not? Is it
just that a man owning a certain quantity of property
should have a vote in respect of that property:
but that a woman owning the same quantity of property,
and perhaps a hundred or a thousand times more, should
have no vote?’ What difference, founded on Nature
and Fact, exists between the two cases?
If it be said that Nature and Fact
(arguments grounded on aught else are to be left to
monks and mediaeval jurists) prove that women are less
able than men to keep a house over their head, or
to manage their property, the answer is that Fact
is the other way. Women are just as capable as
men of managing a large estate, a vast wealth.
Mr. Mill gives a fact which surprised even him that
the best administered Indian States were those governed
by women who could neither read nor write, and were
confined all their lives to the privacy of the harem.
And any one who knows the English upper classes must
know more than one illustrious instance besides
that of Miss Burdett Coutts, or the late Dowager Lady
Londonderry in which a woman has proved
herself able to use wealth and power as well, or better,
than most men. The woman at least is not likely,
by gambling, horseracing, and profligacy, to bring
herself and her class to shame. Women, too,
in every town keep shops. Is there the slightest
evidence that these shops are not as well managed,
and as remunerative, as those kept by men? unless,
indeed, as too often happens, poor Madame has her
Mantalini and his vices to support, as well as herself
and her children. As for the woman’s power
of supporting herself and keeping up at least a lodging
respectably, can any one have lived past middle age
without meeting dozens of single women, or widows,
of all ranks, who do that, and do it better and more
easily than men, because they do not, like men, require
wine, beer, tobacco, and sundry other luxuries?
So wise and thrifty are such women, that very many
of them are able, out of their own pittance, to support
beside themselves others who have no legal claim upon
them. Who does not know, if he knows anything
of society, the truth of Mr. Butler’s words? ’It
is a very generally accepted axiom, and one which
it seems has been endorsed by thoughtful men, without
a sufficiently minute examination into the truth of
it, that a man in the matter of maintenance means
generally a man, a wife and children; while a woman
means herself alone, free of dependence. A closer
inquiry into the facts of life would prove that conclusions
have been too hastily adopted on the latter head.
I believe it may be said with truth that there is
scarcely a female teacher in England, who is not working
for another or others besides herself, that
a very large proportion are urged on of necessity
in their work by the dependence on them of whole families,
in many cases of their own aged parents, that
many hundreds are keeping broken-down relatives, fathers,
and brothers, out of the workhouse, and that many
are widows supporting their own children. A
few examples, taken at random from the lists of governesses
applying to the Institution in Sackville Street, London,
would illustrate this point. And let it be remembered
that such cases are the rule, and not the exception.
Indeed, if the facts of life were better known, the
hollowness of this defence of the inequality of payment
would become manifest; for it is in theory alone that
in families man is the only bread-winner, and it is
false to suppose that single women have no obligations
to make and to save money as sacred as those which
are imposed on a man by marriage; while there is this
difference, that a man may avoid such obligation if
he pleases, by refraining from marriage, while the
poverty of parents, or the dependence of brothers and
sisters, are circumstances over which a woman obliged
to work for others has no control.’
True: and, alas! too true.
But what Mr. Butler asserts of governesses may be
asserted, with equal truth, of hundreds of maiden aunts
and maiden sisters who are not engaged in teaching,
but who spend their money, their time, their love,
their intellect, upon profligate or broken-down relations,
or upon their children; and who exhibit through long
years of toil, anxiety, self-sacrifice, a courage,
a promptitude, a knowledge of business and of human
nature, and a simple but lofty standard of duty and
righteousness, which if it does not fit them for the
franchise, what can?
It may be, that such women would not
care to use the franchise, if they had it. That
is their concern, not ours. Voters who do not
care to vote may be counted by thousands among men;
some of them, perhaps, are wiser than their fellows,
and not more foolish; and take that method of showing
their wisdom. Be that as it may, we are no more
justified in refusing a human being a right, because
he may not choose to exercise it, than we are in refusing
to pay him his due, because he may probably hoard the
money.
The objection that such women are
better without a vote, because a vote would interest
them in politics, and so interfere with their domestic
duties, seems slender enough. What domestic duties
have they, of which the State can take cognisance,
save their duty to those to whom they may owe money,
and their duty to keep the peace? Their other
and nobler duties are voluntary and self-imposed;
and, most usually, are fulfilled as secretly as possible.
The State commits an injustice in debarring a woman
from the rights of a citizen because she chooses, over
and above them, to perform the good works of a saint.
And, after all, will it be the worse
for these women, or for the society in which they
live, if they do interest themselves in politics?
Might not (as Mr. Boyd Kinnear urges in an article
as sober and rational as it is earnest and chivalrous)
their purity and earnestness help to make what is
now called politics somewhat more pure, somewhat more
earnest? Might not the presence of the voting
power of a few virtuous, experienced, well-educated
women, keep candidates, for very shame, from saying
and doing things from which they do not shrink, before
a crowd of men who are, on the average, neither virtuous,
experienced, or well-educated, by wholesome dread
of that most terrible of all earthly punishments at
least in the eyes of a manly man the fine
scorn of a noble woman? Might not the intervention
of a few women who are living according to the eternal
laws of God, help to infuse some slightly stronger
tincture of those eternal laws into our legislators
and their legislation? What women have done
for the social reforms of the last forty years is known,
or ought to be known, to all. Might not they
have done far more, and might not they do far more
hereafter, if they, who generally know far more than
men do of human suffering, and of the consequences
of human folly, were able to ask for further social
reforms, not merely as a boon to be begged from the
physically stronger sex, but as their will, which
they, as citizens, have a right to see fulfilled, if
just and possible? Woman has played for too many
centuries the part which Lady Godiva plays in the
old legend. It is time that she should not be
content with mitigating by her entreaties or her charities
the cruelty and greed of men, but exercise her right,
as a member of the State, and (as I believe) a member
of Christ and a child of God, to forbid them.
As for any specific difference between
the intellect of women and that of men, which should
preclude the former meddling in politics, I must confess
that the subtle distinctions drawn, even by those who
uphold the intellectual equality of women, have almost,
if not altogether, escaped me. The only important
difference, I think, is, that men are generally duller
and more conceited than women. The dulness is
natural enough, on the broad ground that the males
of all animals (being more sensual and selfish) are
duller than the females. The conceit is easily
accounted for. The English boy is told from
childhood, as the negro boy is, that men are superior
to women. The negro boy shows his assent to the
proposition by beating his mother, the English one
by talking down his sisters. That is all.
But if there be no specific intellectual
difference (as there is actually none), is there any
practical and moral difference? I use the two
epithets as synonymous; for practical power may exist
without acuteness of intellect: but it cannot
exist without sobriety, patience, and courage, and
sundry other virtues, which are ‘moral’
in every sense of that word.
I know of no such difference.
There are, doubtless, fields of political action
more fitted for men than for women; but are there not
again fields more fitted for women than for men? fields
in which certain women, at least, have already shown
such practical capacity, that they have established
not only their own right, but a general right for the
able and educated of their sex, to advise officially
about that which they themselves have unofficially
mastered. Who will say that Mrs. Fry, or Miss
Nightingale, or Miss Burdett Coutts, is not as fit
to demand pledges of a candidate at the hustings on
important social questions as any male elector; or
to give her deliberate opinion thereon in either House
of Parliament, as any average M.P. or peer of the
realm? And if it be said that these are only
brilliant exceptions, the rejoinder is, What proof
have you of that? You cannot pronounce on the
powers of the average till you have tried them.
These exceptions rather prove the existence of unsuspected
and unemployed strength below. If a few persons
of genius, in any class, succeed in breaking through
the barriers of routine and prejudice, their success
shows that they have left behind them many more who
would follow in their steps if those barriers were
but removed. This has been the case in every
forward movement, religious, scientific, or social.
A daring spirit here and there has shown his fellow-men
what could be known, what could be done; and behold,
when once awakened to a sense of their own powers,
multitudes have proved themselves as capable, though
not as daring, as the leaders of their forlorn hope.
Dozens of geologists can now work out problems which
would have puzzled Hutton or Werner; dozens of surgeons
can perform operations from which John Hunter would
have shrunk appalled; and dozens of women, were they
allowed, would, I believe, fulfil in political and
official posts the hopes which Miss Wedgwood and Mr.
Boyd Kinnear entertain.
But, after all, it is hard to say
anything on this matter, which has not been said in
other words by Mr. Mill himself, in pp. 98-104
of his ‘Subjection of Women;’ or give
us more sound and palpable proof of women’s
political capacity, than the paragraph with which he
ends his argument:
’Is it reasonable to think that
those who are fit for the greater functions of
politics are incapable of qualifying themselves for
the less? Is there any reason, in the nature
of things, that the wives and sisters of princes
should, whenever called on, be found as competent
as the princes themselves to their business, but that
the wives and sisters of statesmen, and administrators,
and directors of companies, and managers of public
institutions, should be unable to do what is done
by their brothers and husbands? The real reason
is plain enough; it is that princesses, being more
raised above the generality of men by their rank
than placed below them by their sex, have never been
taught that it was improper for them to concern themselves
with politics; but have been allowed to feel the
liberal interest natural to any cultivated human
being, in the great transactions which took place
around them, and in which they might be called on to
take a part. The ladies of reigning families
are the only women who are allowed the same range
of interests and freedom of development as men; and
it is precisely in their case that there is not found
to be any inferiority. Exactly where and
in proportion as women’s capacities for government
have been tried, in that proportion have they been
found adequate.’
Though the demands of women just now
are generally urged in the order of first,
employment, then education, and lastly, the franchise,
I have dealt principally with the latter, because
I sincerely believe that it, and it only, will lead
to their obtaining a just measure of the two former.
Had I been treating of an ideal, or even a truly civilised
polity, I should have spoken of education first; for
education ought to be the necessary and sole qualification
for the franchise. But we have not so ordered
it in England in the case of men; and in all fairness
we ought not to do so in the case of women.
We have not so ordered it, and we had no right to
order it otherwise than we have done. If we have
neglected to give the masses due education, we have
no right to withhold the franchise on the strength
of that neglect. Like Frankenstein, we may have
made our man ill: but we cannot help his being
alive; and if he destroys us, it is our own fault.
If any reply, that to add a number
of uneducated women-voters to the number of uneducated
men-voters will be only to make the danger worse,
the answer is: That women will be always
less brutal than men, and will exercise on them (unless
they are maddened, as in the first French Revolution,
by the hunger and misery of their children) the same
softening influence in public life which they now exercise
in private; and, moreover, that as things stand now,
the average woman is more educated, in every sense
of the word, than the average man; and that to admit
women would be to admit a class of voters superior,
not inferior, to the average.
Startling as this may sound to some,
I assert that it is true.
We must recollect that the just complaints
of the insufficient education of girls proceed almost
entirely from that ‘lower-upper’ class
which stocks the professions, including the Press;
that this class furnishes only a small portion of
the whole number of voters; that the vast majority
belong (and will belong still more hereafter) to other
classes, of whom we may say, that in all of them the
girls are better educated than the boys. They
stay longer at school sometimes twice as
long. They are more open to the purifying and
elevating influences of religion. Their brains
are neither muddled away with drink and profligacy,
or narrowed by the one absorbing aim of turning a
penny into five farthings. They have a far larger
share than their brothers of that best of all practical
and moral educations, that of family life. Any
one who has had experience of the families of farmers
and small tradesmen, knows how boorish the lads are,
beside the intelligence, and often the refinement,
of their sisters. The same rule holds (I am told)
in the manufacturing districts. Even in the
families of employers, the young ladies are, and have
been for a generation or two, far more highly cultivated
than their brothers, whose intellects are always early
absorbed in business, and too often injured by pleasure.
The same, I believe, in spite of all that has been
written about the frivolity of the girl of the period,
holds true of that class which is, by a strange irony,
called ‘the ruling class.’ I suspect
that the average young lady already learns more worth
knowing at home than her brother does at the public
school. Those, moreover, who complain that girls
are trained now too often merely as articles for the
so-called ‘marriage market,’ must remember
this that the great majority of those who
will have votes will be either widows, who have long
passed all that, have had experience, bitter and wholesome,
of the realities of life, and have most of them given
many pledges to the State in the form of children;
or women who, by various circumstances, have been early
withdrawn from the competition of this same marriage-market,
and have settled down into pure and honourable celibacy,
with full time, and generally full inclination, to
cultivate and employ their own powers. I know
not what society those men may have lived in who are
in the habit of sneering at ‘old maids.’
My experience has led me to regard them with deep
respect, from the servant retired on her little savings
to the unmarried sisters of the rich and the powerful,
as a class pure, unselfish, thoughtful, useful, often
experienced and able; more fit for the franchise,
when they are once awakened to their duties as citizens,
than the average men of the corresponding class.
I am aware that such a statement will be met with
‘laughter, the unripe fruit of wisdom.’
But that will not affect its truth.
Let me say a few words more on this
point. There are those who, while they pity
the two millions and a half, or more, of unmarried
women earning their own bread, are tempted to do no
more than pity them, from the mistaken notion that
after all it is their own fault, or at least the fault
of nature. They ought (it is fancied) to have
been married: or at least they ought to have
been good-looking enough and clever enough to be married.
They are the exceptions, and for exceptions we cannot
legislate. We must take care of the average article,
and let the refuse take care of itself. I have
put plainly, it may be somewhat coarsely, a belief
which I believe many men hold, though they are too
manly to express it. But the belief itself is
false. It is false even of the lower classes.
Among them, the cleverest, the most prudent, the most
thoughtful, are those who, either in domestic service
or a few very few, alas! other
callings, attain comfortable and responsible posts
which they do not care to leave for any marriage,
especially when that marriage puts the savings of
their life at the mercy of the husband and
they see but too many miserable instances of what
that implies. The very refinement which they
have acquired in domestic service often keeps them
from wedlock. ‘I shall never marry,’
said an admirable nurse, the daughter of a common
agricultural labourer. ’After being so
many years among gentlefolk, I could not live with
a man who was not a scholar, and did not bathe every
day.’
And if this be true of the lower class,
it is still more true of some, at least, of the classes
above them. Many a ‘lady’ who remains
unmarried does so, not for want of suitors, but simply
from nobleness of mind; because others are dependent
on her for support; or because she will not degrade
herself by marrying for marrying’s sake.
How often does one see all that can make a woman
attractive talent, wit, education, health,
beauty, possessed by one who never will
enter holy wedlock. ’What a loss,’
one says, ’that such a woman should not have
married, if it were but for the sake of the children
she might have borne to the State.’ ‘Perhaps,’
answer wise women of the world, ’she did not
see any one whom she could condescend to many.’
And thus it is that a very large proportion
of the spinsters of England, so far from being, as
silly boys and wicked old men fancy, the refuse of
their sex, are the very elite thereof; those
who have either sacrificed themselves for their kindred,
or have refused to sacrifice themselves to that longing
to marry at all risks of which women are so often and
so unmanly accused.
Be all this as it may, every man is
bound to bear in mind, that over this increasing multitude
of ‘spinsters,’ of women who are either
self-supporting or desirous of so being, men have,
by mere virtue of their sex, absolutely no rights
at all. No human being has such a right over
them as the husband has (justly or unjustly) over the
wife, or the father over the daughter living in his
house. They are independent and self-supporting
units of the State, owing to it exactly the same allegiance
as, and neither more nor less than, men who have attained
their majority. They are favoured by no privilege,
indulgence, or exceptional legislation from the State,
and they ask none. They expect no protection
from the State save that protection for life and property
which every man, even the most valiant, expects, since
the carrying of side-arms has gone out of fashion.
They prove themselves daily, whenever they have simple
fair play, just as capable as men of not being a burden
to the State. They are in fact in exactly the
same relation to the State as men. Why are similar
relations, similar powers, and similar duties not
to carry with them similar rights? To this question
the common sense and justice of England will have
soon to find an answer. I have sufficient faith
in that common sense and justice, when once awakened,
to face any question fairly, to anticipate what that
answer will be.