CHAPTER III - ON CHRISTMAS GIVING
Being a Word of Much Needed Advice
Christmas is the birthday of our Lord,
upon which we celebrate God’s ineffable gift
of Himself to His children. No human soul has
ever been able to realize the full significance of
that gift, no heart has ever been glad enough to contain
the joy of it, and no mind has ever been wise enough
to express it. Nevertheless we powerfully appreciate
the blessing and would fain convey it fitly.
Therefore to commemorate that great gift the custom
of exchanging tokens of love and remembrance has grown
until it has become well nigh universal. This
is a day in which we ourselves crave, as never at
any other time, happiness and peace for those we love
and that ought to include everybody, for with the angelic
message in our ears it should be impossible to hate
any one on Christmas day however we may feel before
or after.
But despite the best of wills almost
inevitably Christmas in many instances has created
a burdensome demand. Perhaps by the method of
exclusion we shall find out what Christmas should be.
It is not a time for extravagance, for ostentation,
for vulgar display, it is possible to purchase pleasure
for someone else at too high a price to ourselves.
To paraphrase Polonius, “Costly thy gift as
thy purse can buy, rich but not expressed in fancy,
for the gift oft proclaims the man.” In
making presents observe three principal facts; the
length of your purse, the character of your friend,
and the universal rule of good taste. Do not
plunge into extravagance from which you will scarcely
recover except in months of nervous strain and desperate
financial struggle. On the other hand do not
be mean and niggardly in your gifts. Oh, not that;
avoid selfishness at Christmas, if at no other time.
Rather no gift at all than a grudging one. Let
your offerings represent yourselves and your affections.
Indeed if they do not represent you, they are not gifts
at all. “The gift without the giver is
bare.”
And above all banish from your mind
the principle of reciprocity. The lex talionis
has no place in Christmas giving. Do not think
or feel that you must give to someone because someone
gave to you. There is no barter about it.
You give because you love and without a thought of
return. Credit others with the same feeling and
be governed thereby. I know one upon whose Christmas
list there are over one hundred and fifty people,
rich and poor, high and low, able and not able.
That man would be dismayed beyond measure if everyone
of those people felt obliged to make a return for
the Christmas remembrances he so gladly sends them.
In giving remember after all the cardinal
principle of the day. Let your gift be an expression
of your kindly remembrance, your gentle consideration,
your joyful spirit, your spontaneous gratitude, your
abiding desire for peace and goodwill toward men.
Hunt up somebody who needs and who without you may
lack and suffer heart hunger, loneliness, and disappointment.
Nor is Christmas a time for gluttonous
eating and drinking. To gorge one’s self
with quantities of rich and indigestible food is not
the noblest method of commemorating the day.
The rules and laws of digestion are not abrogated
upon the Holy day. These are material cautions,
the day has a spiritual significance of which material
manifestations are, or ought to be, outward and visible
expressions only.
Christmas is one of the great days
of obligation in the Church year, then as at Easter
if at no other time, Christians should gather around
the table of the Lord, kneeling before God’s
altar in the ministering of that Holy Communion which
unites them with the past, the present, and the future-the
communion of the saints of God’s Holy Church
with His Beloved Son. Then and thus in body,
soul, and spirit we do truly participate in the privilege
and blessing of the Incarnation, then and there we
receive that strength which enables everyone of us
to become factors in the great extension of that marvellous
occurrence throughout the ages and throughout the
world.
Let us therefore on this Holy Natal
Day, from which the whole world dates its time, begin
on our knees before that altar which is at once manger,
cross, throne. Let us join thereafter in holy
cheer of praise and prayer and exhortation and Christmas
carol, and then let us go forth with a Christmas spirit
in our hearts resolved to communicate it to the children
of men, and not merely for the day but for the future.
To make the right use of these our privileges, this
it is to save the world.
In this spirit, therefore, so far
as poor, fallible human nature permits him to realize
it and exhibit it, the author wishes all his readers
which at present comprise his only flock-
A MERRY CHRISTMAS AND A HAPPY NEW YEAR.