The one thing we have to avoid, then,
even while we carry on our own old process of education,
is this development of the powers of so-called self-expression
in a child. Let us beware of artificially stimulating
his self-consciousness and his so-called imagination.
All that we do is to pervert the child into a ghastly
state of self-consciousness, making him affectedly
try to show off as we wish him to show off. The
moment the least little trace of self-consciousness
enters in a child, good-by to everything except falsity.
Much better just pound away at the
ABC and simple arithmetic and so on. The modern
methods do make children sharp, give them a sort of
slick finesse, but it is the beginning of the mischief.
It ends in the great “unrest” of a nervous,
hysterical proletariat. Begin to teach a child
of five to “understand.” To understand
the sun and moon and daisy and the secrets of procreation,
bless your soul. Understanding all the way. And
when the child is twenty he’ll have a hysterical
understanding of his own invented grievance, and there’s
an end of him. Understanding is the devil.
A child mustn’t understand things.
He must have them his own way. His vision isn’t
ours. When a boy of eight sees a horse, he doesn’t
see the correct biological object we intend him to
see. He sees a big living presence of no particular
shape with hair dangling from its neck and four legs.
If he puts two eyes in the profile, he is quite right.
Because he does not see with optical, photographic
vision. The image on his retina is not
the image of his consciousness. The image on
his retina just does not go into him. His unconsciousness
is filled with a strong, dark, vague prescience of
a powerful presence, a two-eyed, four-legged, long-maned
presence looming imminent.
And to force the boy to see
a correct one-eyed horse-profile is just like pasting
a placard in front of his vision. It simply kills
his inward seeing. We don’t want
him to see a proper horse. The child is not
a little camera. He is a small vital organism
which has direct dynamic rapport with the objects
of the outer universe. He perceives from his
breast and his abdomen, with deep-sunken realism,
the elemental nature of the creature. So that
to this day a Noah’s Ark tree is more real than
a Corot tree or a Constable tree: and a flat
Noah’s Ark cow has a deeper vital reality than
even a Cuyp cow.
The mode of vision is not one and
final. The mode of vision is manifold. And
the optical image is a mere vibrating blur to a child and,
indeed, to a passionate adult. In this vibrating
blur the soul sees its own true correspondent.
It sees, in a cow, horns and squareness, and a long
tail. It sees, for a horse, a mane, and a long
face, round nose, and four legs. And in each case
a darkly vital presence. Now horns and squareness
and a long thin ox-tail, these are the fearful and
wonderful elements of the cow-form, which the dynamic
soul perfectly perceives. The ideal-image is just
outside nature, for a child something false.
In a picture, a child wants elemental recognition,
and not correctness or expression, or least of all,
what we call understanding. The child distorts
inevitably and dynamically. But the dynamic abstraction
is more than mental. If a huge eye sits in the
middle of the cheek, in a child’s drawing, this
shows that the deep dynamic consciousness of the eye,
its relative exaggeration, is the life-truth, even
if it is a scientific falsehood.
On the other hand, what on earth is
the good of saying to a child, “The world is
a flattened sphere, like an orange.” It
is simply pernicious. You had much better say
the world is a poached egg in a frying pan. That
might have some dynamic meaning. The only thing
about the flattened orange is that the child just sees
this orange disporting itself in blue air, and never
bothers to associate it with the earth he treads on.
And yet it would be so much better for the mass of
mankind if they never heard of the flattened sphere.
They should never be told that the earth is round.
It only makes everything unreal to them. They
are balked in their impression of the flat good earth,
they can’t get over this sphere business, they
live in a fog of abstraction, and nothing is anything.
Save for purposes of abstraction, the earth is a great
plain, with hills and valleys. Why force abstractions
and kill the reality, when there’s no need?
As for children, will we never realize
that their abstractions are never based on observations,
but on subjective exaggerations? If there is
an eye in the face, the face is all eye. It is
the child soul which cannot get over the mystery of
the eye. If there is a tree in a landscape, the
landscape is all tree. Always this partial focus.
The attempt to make a child focus for a whole view which
is really a generalization and an adult abstraction is
simply wicked. Yet the first thing we do is to
set a child making relief-maps in clay, for example:
of his own district. Imbecility! He has not
even the faintest impression of the total hill on
which his home stands. A steepness going up to
a door and front garden railings and
perhaps windows. That’s the lot.
The top and bottom of it is, that
it is a crime to teach a child anything at all, school-wise.
It is just evil to collect children together and teach
them through the head. It causes absolute starvation
in the dynamic centers, and sterile substitute of brain
knowledge is all the gain. The children of the
middle classes are so vitally impoverished, that the
miracle is they continue to exist at all. The
children of the lower classes do better, because they
escape into the streets. But even the children
of the proletariat are now infected.
And, of course, as my critics point
out, under all the school-smarm and newspaper-cant,
man is to-day as savage as a cannibal, and more dangerous.
The living dynamic self is denaturalized instead of
being educated.
We talk about education leading
forth the natural intelligence of a child. But
ours is just the opposite of leading forth. It
is a ramming in of brain facts through the head, and
a consequent distortion, suffocation, and starvation
of the primary centers of consciousness. A nice
day of reckoning we’ve got in front of us.
Let us lead forth, by all means.
But let us not have mental knowledge before us as
the goal of the leading. Much less let us make
of it a vicious circle in which we lead the unhappy
child-mind, like a cow in a ring at a fair. We
don’t want to educate children so that they may
understand. Understanding is a fallacy and a vice
in most people. I don’t even want my child
to know, much less to understand. I don’t
want my child to know that five fives are twenty-five,
any more than I want my child to wear my hat or my
boots. I don’t want my child to
know. If he wants five fives let him count
them on his fingers. As for his little mind,
give it a rest, and let his dynamic self be alert.
He will ask “why” often enough. But
he more often asks why the sun shines, or why men
have mustaches, or why grass is green, than anything
sensible. Most of a child’s questions are,
and should be, unanswerable. They are not questions
at all. They are exclamations of wonder, they
are remarks half-sceptically addressed.
When a child says, “Why is grass green?”
he half implies. “Is it really green, or
is it just taking me in?” And we solemnly begin
to prate about chlorophyll. Oh, imbéciles,
idiots, inexcusable owls!
The whole of a child’s development
goes on from the great dynamic centers, and is basically
non-mental. To introduce mental activity is to
arrest the dynamic activity, and stultify true dynamic
development. By the age of twenty-one our young
people are helpless, hopeless, selfless, floundering
mental entities, with nothing in front of them, because
they have been starved from the roots, systematically,
for twenty-one years, and fed through the head.
They have had all their mental excitements, sex and
everything, all through the head, and when it comes
to the actual thing, why, there’s nothing in
it. Blase. The affective centers have been
exhausted from the head.
Before the age of fourteen, children
should be taught only to move, to act, to do.
And they should be taught as little as possible even
of this. Adults simply cannot and do not know
any more what the mode of childish intelligence is.
Adults always interfere. They always
force the adult mental mode. Therefore children
must be preserved from adult instructions.
Make a child work yes.
Make it do little jobs. Keep a fine and delicate
and fierce discipline, so that the little jobs are
performed as perfectly as is consistent with the child’s
nature. Make the child alert, proud, and becoming
in its movements. Make it know very definitely
that it shall not and must not trespass on other people’s
privacy or patience. Teach it songs, tell it tales.
But never instruct it school-wise. And
mostly, leave it alone, send it away to be with other
children and to get in and out of mischief, and in
and out of danger. Forget your child altogether
as much as possible.
All this is the active and strenuous
business of parents, and must not be shelved off on
to strangers. It is the business of parents mentally
to forget but dynamically never to forsake their children.
It is no use expecting parents to
know why schools are closed, and why
they, the parents, must be quite responsible for their
own children during the first ten years. If it
is quite useless to expect parents to understand a
theory of relativity, much less will they understand
the development of the dynamic consciousness.
But why should they understand? It is the business
of very few to understand and for the mass, it is
their business to believe and not to bother, but to
be honorable and humanly to fulfill their human responsibilities.
To give active obedience to their leaders, and to
possess their own souls in natural pride.
Some must understand why a child is
not to be mentally educated. Some must have a
faint inkling of the processes of consciousness during
the first fourteen years. Some must know what
a child beholds, when it looks at a horse, and what
it means when it says, “Why is grass green?”
The answer to this question, by the way, is “Because
it is.”
The interplay of the four dynamic
centers follows no one conceivable law. Mental
activity continues according to a law of co-relation.
But there is no logical or rational co-relation in
the dynamic consciousness. It pulses on inconsequential,
and it would be impossible to determine any sequence.
Out of the very lack of sequence in dynamic consciousness
does the individual himself develop. The dynamic
abstraction of a child’s precepts follows no
mental law, and even no law which can ever be mentally
propounded. And this is why it is utterly pernicious
to set a child making a clay relief-map of its own
district, or to ask a child to draw conclusions from
given observations. Dynamically, a child draws
no conclusions. All things still remain dynamically
possible. A conclusion drawn is a nail in the
coffin of a child’s developing being. Let
a child make a clay landscape, if it likes. But
entirely according to its own fancy, and without conclusions
drawn. Only, let the landscape be vividly made always
the discipline of the soul’s full attention.
“Oh, but where are the factory chimneys?” or
else “Why have you left out the gas-works?”
or “Do you call that sloppy thing a church?”
The particular focus should be vivid, and the record
in some way true. The soul must give earnest
attention, that is all.
And so actively disciplined, the child
develops for the first ten years. We need not
be afraid of letting children see the passions and
reactions of adult life. Only we must not strain
the sympathies of a child, in any direction,
particularly the direction of love and pity.
Nor must we introduce the fallacy of right and wrong.
Spontaneous distaste should take the place of right
and wrong. And least of all must there be a cry:
“You see, dear, you don’t understand.
When you are older ” A child’s
sagacity is better than an adult understanding, anyhow.
Of course it is ten times criminal
to tell young children facts about sex, or to implicate
them in adult relationships. A child has a strong
evanescent sex consciousness. It instinctively
writes impossible words on back walls. But this
is not a fully conscious mental act. It is a
kind of dream act quite natural. The
child’s curious, shadowy, indecent sex-knowledge
is quite in the course of nature. And does nobody
any harm at all. Adults had far better not notice
it. But if a child sees a cockerel tread a hen,
or two dogs coupling, well and good. It should
see these things. Only, without comment.
Let nothing be exaggeratedly hidden. By instinct,
let us preserve the decent privacies. But if
a child occasionally sees its parent nude, taking a
bath, all the better. Or even sitting in the W.
C. Exaggerated secrecy is bad. But indecent exposure
is also very bad. But worst of all is dragging
in the mental consciousness of these shadowy
dynamic realities.
In the same way, to talk to a child
about an adult is vile. Let adults keep their
adult feelings and communications for people of their
own age. But if a child sees its parents violently
quarrel, all the better. There must be storms.
And a child’s dynamic understanding is far deeper
and more penetrating than our sophisticated interpretation.
But never make a child a party to adult affairs.
Never drag the child in. Refuse its sympathy on
such occasions. Always treat it as if it had
no business to hear, even if it is present and
must hear. Truly, it has no business mentally
to hear. And the dynamic soul will always weigh
things up and dispose of them properly, if there be
no interference of adult comment or adult desire for
sympathy. It is despicable for any one parent
to accept a child’s sympathy against the other
parent. And the one who received the sympathy
is always more contemptible than the one who is hated.
Of course so many children are born
to-day unnaturally mentally awake and alive to adult
affairs, that there is nothing left but to tell them
everything, crudely: or else, much better, to
say: “Ah, get out, you know too much, you
make me sick.”
To return to the question of sex.
A child is born sexed. A child is either male
or female, in the whole of its psyche and physique
is either male or female. Every single living
cell is either male or female, and will remain either
male or female as long as life lasts. And every
single cell in every male child is male, and every
cell in every female child is female. The talk
about a third sex, or about the indeterminate sex,
is just to pervert the issue.
Biologically, it is true, the rudimentary
formation of both sexes is found in every individual.
That doesn’t mean that every individual is a
bit of both, or either, ad lib. After a sufficient
period of idealism, men become hopelessly self-conscious.
That is, the great affective centers no longer act
spontaneously, but always wait for control from the
head. This always breeds a great fluster in the
psyche, and the poor self-conscious individual cannot
help posing and posturing. Our ideal has taught
us to be gentle and wistful: rather girlish and
yielding, and very yielding in our sympathies.
In fact, many young men feel so very like what they
imagine a girl must feel, that hence they draw the
conclusion that they must have a large share of female
sex inside them. False conclusion.
These girlish men have often, to-day,
the finest maleness, once it is put to the test.
How is it then that they feel, and look, so girlish?
It is largely a question of the direction of the polarized
flow. Our ideal has taught us to be so
loving and so submissive and so yielding
in our sympathy, that the mode has become automatic
in many men. Now in what we will call the “natural”
mode, man has his positivity in the volitional centers,
and women in the sympathetic. In fulfilling the
Christian love ideal, however, men have reversed this.
Man has assumed the gentle, all-sympathetic rôle, and
woman has become the energetic party, with the authority
in her hands. The male is the sensitive, sympathetic
nature, the woman the active, effective, authoritative.
So that the male acts as the passive, or recipient
pole of attraction, the female as the active, positive,
exertive pole, in human relations. Which is a
reversal of the old flow. The woman is now the
initiator, man the responder. They seem to play
each other’s parts. But man is purely male,
playing woman’s part, and woman is purely female,
however manly. The gulf between Heliogabalus,
or the most womanly man on earth, and the most manly
woman, is just the same as ever: just the same
old gulf between the sexes. The man is male,
the woman is female. Only they are playing one
another’s parts, as they must at certain periods.
The dynamic polarity has swung around.
If we look a little closer, we can
define this positive and negative business better.
As a matter of fact, positive and negative, passive
and active cuts both ways. If the man, as thinker
and doer, is active, or positive, and the woman negative,
then, on the other hand, as the initiator of emotion,
of feeling, and of sympathetic understanding the woman
is positive, the man negative. The man may be
the initiator in action, but the woman is initiator
in emotion. The man has the initiative as far
as voluntary activity goes, and the woman the initiative
as far as sympathetic activity goes. In love,
it is the woman naturally who loves, the man who is
loved. In love, woman is the positive, man the
negative. It is woman who asks, in love, and man
who answers. In life, the reverse is the case.
In knowing and in doing, man is positive and woman
negative: man initiates, and woman lives up to
it.
Naturally this nicely arranged order
of things may be reversed. Action and utterance,
which are male, are polarized against feeling, emotion,
which are female. And which is positive, which
negative? Was man, the eternal protagonist, born
of woman, from her womb of fathomless emotion?
Or was woman, with her deep womb of emotion, born from
the rib of active man, the first created? Man,
the doer, the knower, the original in being,
is he lord of life? Or is woman, the great Mother,
who bore us from the womb of love, is she the supreme
Goddess?
This is the question of all time.
And as long as man and woman endure, so will the answer
be given, first one way, then the other. Man,
as the utterer, usually claims that Eve was created
out of his spare rib: from the field of the creative,
upper dynamic consciousness, that is. But woman,
as soon as she gets a word in, points to the fact that
man inevitably, poor darling, is the issue of his
mother’s womb. So the battle rages.
But some men always agree with the
woman. Some men always yield to woman the creative
positivity. And in certain periods, such as the
present, the majority of men concur in regarding woman
as the source of life, the first term in creation:
woman, the mother, the prime being.
And then, the whole polarity shifts
over. Man still remains the doer and thinker.
But he is so only in the service of emotional and
procreative woman. His highest moment is now the
emotional moment when he gives himself up to the woman,
when he forms the perfect answer for her great emotional
and procreative asking. All his thinking, all
his activity in the world only contributes to this
great moment, when he is fulfilled in the emotional
passion of the woman, the birth of rebirth, as Whitman
calls it. In his consummation in the emotional
passion of a woman, man is reborn, which is quite true.
And there is the point at which we
all now stick. Life, thought, and activity, all
are devoted truly to the great end of Woman, wife and
mother.
Man has now entered on to his negative
mode. Now, his consummation is in feeling, not
in action. Now, his activity is all of the domestic
order and all his thought goes to proving that nothing
matters except that birth shall continue and woman
shall rock in the nest of this globe like a bird who
covers her eggs in some tall tree. Man is the
fetcher, the carrier, the sacrifice, the crucified,
and the reborn of woman.
This being so, the whole tendency
of his nature changes. Instead of being assertive
and rather insentient, he becomes wavering and sensitive.
He begins to have as many feelings nay,
more than a woman. His heroism is all in altruistic
endurance. He worships pity and tenderness and
weakness, even in himself. In short, he takes
on very largely the original rôle of woman. Woman
meanwhile becomes the fearless, inwardly relentless,
determined positive party. She grips the responsibility.
The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world.
Nay, she makes man discover that cradles should not
be rocked, in order that her hands may be left free.
She is now a queen of the earth, and inwardly a fearsome
tyrant. She keeps pity and tenderness emblazoned
on her banners. But God help the man whom she
pities. Ultimately she tears him to bits.
Therefore we see the reversal of the
old poles. Man becomes the emotional party, woman
the positive and active. Man begins to show strong
signs of the peculiarly strong passive sex desire,
the desire to be taken, which is considered characteristic
of woman. Man begins to have all the feelings
of woman or all the feelings which he attributed
to woman. He becomes more feminine than woman
ever was, and worships his own femininity, calling
it the highest. In short, he begins to exhibit
all signs of sexual complexity. He begins to imagine
he really is half female. And certainly woman
seems very male. So the hermaphrodite fallacy
revives again.
But it is all a fallacy. Man,
in the midst of all his effeminacy, is still male
and nothing but male. And woman, though she harangue
in Parliament or patrol the streets with a helmet
on her head, is still completely female. They
are only playing each other’s roles, because
the poles have swung into reversion. The compass
is reversed. But that doesn’t mean that
the north pole has become the south pole, or that
each is a bit of both.
Of course a woman should stick to
her own natural emotional positivity. But then
man must stick to his own positivity of being,
of action, disinterested, non-domestic, male
action, which is not devoted to the increase of the
female. Once man vacates his camp of sincere,
passionate positivity in disinterested being, his supreme
responsibility to fulfill his own profoundest impulses,
with reference to none but God or his own soul, not
taking woman into count at all, in this primary responsibility
to his own deepest soul; once man vacates this strong
citadel of his own genuine, not spurious, divinity;
then in comes woman, picks up the scepter and begins
to conduct a rag-time band.
Man remains man, however he may put
on wistfulness and tenderness like petticoats, and
sensibilities like pearl ornaments. Your sensitive
little big-eyed boy, so much more gentle and loving
than his harder sister, is male for all that, believe
me. Perhaps evilly male, so mothers may learn
to their cost: and wives still more.
Of course there should be a great
balance between the sexes. Man, in the daytime,
must follow his own soul’s greatest impulse,
and give himself to life-work and risk himself to
death. It is not woman who claims the highest
in man. It is a man’s own religious soul
that drives him on beyond woman, to his supreme activity.
For his highest, man is responsible to God alone.
He may not pause to remember that he has a life to
lose, or a wife and children to leave. He must
carry forward the banner of life, though seven worlds
perish, with all the wives and mothers and children
in them. Hence Jesus, “Woman, what have
I to do with thee?” Every man that lives has
to say it again to his wife or mother, once he has
any work or mission in hand, that comes from his soul.
But again, no man is a blooming marvel
for twenty-four hours a day. Jesus or Napoleon
or any other of them ought to have been man enough
to be able to come home at tea-time and put his slippers
on and sit under the spell of his wife. For there
you are, the woman has her world, her positivity:
the world of love, of emotion, of sympathy. And
it behooves every man in his hour to take off his shoes
and relax and give himself up to his woman and her
world. Not to give up his purpose. But to
give up himself for a time to her who is his mate. And
so it is one detests the clock-work Kant, and the
petit-bourgeois Napoleon divorcing his Josephine for
a Hapsburg or even Jesus, with his “Woman,
what have I to do with thee?” He might
have added “just now.” They
were all failures.