On a Friday afternoon everyone was
very busy in Benjamin’s home washing and dressing
to go to Shule. The mother was getting the living-room
clean and tidy for the Sabbath.
THE OFFENCE
The family lived in a few rooms off
Commercial Road, in one of the many back streets.
The underground kitchen had to be used as the dining-and
sitting-room, for they had not been many years in England
and it was a hard struggle for Benjamin’s parents
to make ends meet and provide for a large family.
The father and the elder boys were
dressing as best they could in this room. Just
then the mother came in, very excited, and said to
her husband: “What will you say to this?
I gave Benjamin his Sabbath clothes and a clean tsitsith,
and what do you think he did?”
“What?” asked the father,
and stopped brushing his clothes.
“Why, he took the tsitsith and
threw it on the floor, and said he would never wear
it again. I punished him, and told him to put
it on again. So you had better go to him and
give him what he deserves.”
“You are rather hasty, my dear
wife,” said the father; “for, before punishing
him, you should have asked him why he did such a thing.”
“What!” exclaimed the
mother, “do you think I have nothing else to
do but to stand and argue with him just before Sabbath,
when I have so much work? You are far too easy-going,
Jacob you should really be firmer with
the children.”
“No, no!” said Jacob,
who was a kindly man and understood human nature better
than his hasty, but well-meaning and loving, wife.
The struggle and constant hard work in keeping the
home of a large family was telling upon her, and any
disobedience in the children irritated her very much.
“We must not be hasty with the
children,” continued Jacob, “especially
now-a-days, for they live under different circumstances
from those we knew when we were young. Instead
of hastily scolding and punishing them, let us rather
quietly reason with them, when possible, and show them
where they are wrong.”
“Perhaps you may be right,”
said Benjamin’s mother; “so let us leave
the matter till you return from Shule and have had
our Sabbath meal then you can quietly ask
Benjamin why he acted as he did.”
THE BOY BENJAMIN
An elder brother was sent to call
Benjamin to go to Shule with his father and brothers.
Benjamin expected a scolding from his father similar
to that which he had had from his mother, so he came
into the room looking very sulky. As nothing
was said to him on the subject when he came into the
room, he took his prayer-book, and followed his father
to Shule.
Benjamin was like many other boys
of 13, not very clever, but blessed with a good deal
of common sense. His great ambition was to become
a teacher, and so he worked steadily at his lessons.
His reason for wishing to be a teacher was that he
wanted to rule and to punish boys as his master did.
Whenever he had a caning from his headmaster he always
consoled himself with the thought that his turn
would come some day when he was a teacher to
do the same to other boys.
When they returned from Shule and
nothing was said, even at the evening meal, about
the way Benjamin had annoyed his mother, he was rather
surprised. His mother, during the time they were
at Shule, had made the living-room, which was really
the kitchen, look so clean and bright with the five
lighted candles placed on the snow-white table-cloth,
and the old stove so well polished, that it almost
looked as bright as a looking glass. What interested
the young ones most was the saucepan which stood on
one side of the stove waiting for its contents to be
put on the table, and, oh, how they enjoyed the sweet
savour which came from it!
FRIDAY EVE
They all gathered round the table
to welcome the Princess Sabbath. The father made
kiddush, and the wine cup was handed round to all.
Then they washed their hands and said a prayer before
sitting down to the evening meal, which passed off
very pleasantly, and zmires (or songs or psalms of
praise) were sung at intervals during the meal.
When the meal was ended, and the grace
said by the father, they all separated: one or
two went out for a walk, while the other members of
the family took a newspaper or a book and quietly read.
When the table was cleared, the mother
sat down to rest. Grateful, indeed, was she for
this Sabbath rest after her week’s hard work.
She often said that, for such as herself, no blessing
was as great as the command: “Thou shalt
not do any work on the Sabbath.”
WORD OF LOVE
When all were quietly settled down,
Benjamin’s father took him between his knees,
and said: “My son, I wish to ask you something,
and I want you to answer my question frankly and truly.
What made you throw the tsitsith down on the floor
this afternoon and say to your mother that you would
not wear it?”
The boy Benjamin dropped his head
and was silent for a minute or two, for to hear his
father speak in a kindly way made Benjamin far more
ashamed of himself and his deed than if his father
had scolded him and given him a whipping in
fact, he felt so wretched that he longed to run out
of the room and hide himself from everybody. His
father’s knowledge of human nature made him
understand what was passing through Benjamin’s
mind, and he said: “Do not fear to tell
me, my son, why you acted in such an unusual way,
for there must be some reason for a Jewish boy to
act so.”
With his head still down, Benjamin
said: “When I go swimming in the baths,
my school-fellows see my tsitsith when I undress, and
they make fun of it and pull it about, and say all
sorts of nasty things to me for wearing it, and it
makes me feel I cannot stand it any longer. I
will gladly put on my tsitsith at home in the morning
when I say my prayers, but, Father, do let me go to
school without wearing it?”
“I expected something like this,”
said his father, looking at his wife. “Listen
to me, my child instead of being ashamed,
you should feel it a privilege to wear tsitsith.”
“But I can’t see why,” said Benjamin.
“Well,” said his father,
“I will tell you the idea of the tsitsith.
When you say the Shema twice a day, as every good
Jew is expected to do, you read in it that God commanded
us, through Moses, to wear a fringe on our garment the
tsitsith, a visible sign to remind us of His Commandments,
just in the same way as a table, spread ready for a
meal, reminds us of our meals. Our religion is
not a thing to be kept only for the Sabbath and the
Holy Days, and left out of our minds on all other days.
Our religion must be a living influence, always with
us, so the tsitsith is a very simple kind of symbol
to be ever worn to remind a Jew of his God, his duty
to Him and to his neighbour. It is not only we
Jews who have religious symbols; every other religion
has them. Now imagine if you were to go up to
a Christian boy and mock him and say nasty words to
him for wearing a cross, or crucifix, he would turn
round and fight you, and he would be right in doing
so, for no one has a right to insult another for wearing
or doing what he believes to be holy. Instead
of being ashamed when you were mocked and laughed
at by Christian boys for wearing your tsitsith, you
should have asked them to hear you explain the reason
for wearing it. I am sure they would not have
laughed at you any more. They would respect you
for trying to be true and to live up to your convictions.
“We Jews have, in the past,
made a great mistake in not letting the outside world
know more of the deeper spiritual meaning of each of
our symbols. Had we not done this, we should
have been better understood by non-Jews, and our children
would not have suffered as you and many others also
have done, through the ignorant mocking of your Christian
schoolmates.
“I know that in Palestine the
Jews, whether old or young, greatly love to wear their
tsitsith, and take a pride in letting them be seen,
so that the Arabs and the Turks look upon the tsitsith
as a sacred garment.”
UNCLE’S LETTER
“How do you know this, Father?” said Benjamin.
By this time all in the room had dropped
their papers and books, and were listening to their
father.
“Well, this is how I know:
nearly thirty years ago my uncle and his family went
to live in Jerusalem, and for many years one of my
cousins used to write to me about once a month.
His letters were most interesting. When his letters
came I could almost imagine, when reading them, that
I was living in Bible times.
“Have you any of his letters
still, Father?” they all exclaimed.
“Yes,” said the father, “I have
many of them.”
“Oh, do read some of them to
us!” they pleaded. “All right, I will;
and I will first try to find the one about the tsitsith.”
The father went up to his bedroom,
and soon came down with a bundle of letters wrapped
in a newspaper. He started looking through them
while all the family stood around him, watching as
eagerly as if he were searching for an heirloom.
“I will choose a very short
one,” said the father, “for it is on the
subject I have spoken to Benjamin about; but if you
like I will make it a rule every Friday evening, after
our Sabbath meal, to read some of the letters to you.”
THE HOLY CITY
When all were quietly and comfortably
seated, their father started reading:
“My dear Cousin, After
a great many adventures and suffering (which I will
write to you about another time) we arrived safely
in Jerusalem. To me, it seemed rather dull after
London, but both father and mother shed tears of joy
when they at last arrived in the Holy City. Some
people met us a little way out, for father had written
telling them we were coming. We were almost royally
received and heartily welcomed, for very few Jews
come here with their young families.
“We must have looked a sight you
in London could not imagine anything like our cavalcade!
First went Father riding on a mule, with Mother following
on another mule. Mother’s saddle was made
with pillows, for it is impossible for a woman to
ride for sixteen or eighteen hours without a soft,
comfortable seat.
“You go up high hills, and then
down again, imagining every time you go down that
you will topple over and fall over the precipice and
be killed. In fact, your heart is in your mouth
every five minutes, so that by the time you arrive
in Jerusalem (which is surrounded by hills) you are
almost too weak to rejoice at the beauty that greets
your sight, for nowhere in the world can, I think,
anything be seen more beautiful than a sunrise over
the mountains around Jerusalem.
“Oh, I forgot to tell you that
we youngsters were put into baskets on a camel’s
back, and how we were shaken! I felt as if I were
praying and shaking all the time, for it seemed as
if we could never get to Jerusalem alive in this way.”
THE PROUD BOYS OF JERUSALEM
“At last we entered the Holy
City, and arrived at Father’s friend’s
house, where we were made very welcome and treated
most kindly. I soon made friends with the boys,
for, you know, I can speak yiddish quite well.
“They are funny little chaps.
They look like old men, with long kaftans (coats)
and side ear-locks of hair, carrying their prayer book
or Bible to Shule. The first thing I noticed
was the tsitsith. They wear really long ones,
with long fringes hanging down about a quarter of a
yard or more. They wear them as we do a waistcoat,
so that they can be seen by everyone, not as we wear
them in England, tucked away out of sight. Here
young and old, even little boys who can only just walk
and lisp their prayers, wear them, and, what is more,
take a real pleasure in wearing them. I asked
some of them why they wore them so openly, and they
answered: ’Because when we look at them
we always remember that our chief duty in life is
to try to obey God’s commands, and if we had
them tucked away out of sight we should forget to
be obedient.’ ‘Besides,’ they
said, ‘we are commanded in the Torah to do so
openly.’ Then I told them if we wore them
so openly in Europe we should perhaps be laughed at
by some people and made fun of. They said:
’Why should doing so make us be laughed at by
other nations? Do we laugh at the symbols and
charms that many of them wear? Every nation,’
they said, ’has its tokens and symbols, and
we Jews have ours, and we should rejoice in wearing
ours when they are to help us to feel that God is
near us when we think and act rightly.’
All this made me think very seriously, and in a way
I had never thought before. I began to realize
that they were more in the right than we Jews are
in England.
“So now I have decided to wear
my tsitsith, too, on the outside, as the Jerusalem
boys do. The boys never play except on the quiet,
just now and then, for their parents think that their
only duty in life is to study and do as many Mitzvoth
as they can. Really, the boys are as full of fun
and pranks as we English boys, and they just love a
bit of play and larking when they can get it.
“I must now end this letter,
but I have a lot more to tell you, and I will keep
my promise and write you by degrees of all I see.
Meanwhile, I send you the greeting of Zion and Sabbath.
Rachael wanted to put a letter into my envelope to
your sister, but she says she has not finished it
yet, although she has already written ten pages.
So I will wait no longer, in case I miss the post,
as it goes only once a week from here, and sometimes
only once a month.”
Thus ended the first letter, and Benjamin’s
brothers and sisters were so pleased with it that
they were delighted that one of the bundle of letters
should be read aloud after the Sabbath meal on every
Friday evening.
Benjamin was quite happy now, for,
although he had done a thing which was not right,
now that he had repented good would come out of it,
for there was a chance of their now having pleasanter
and more instructive Sabbath evenings than they had
ever had before. Besides, he now made up his
mind always to wear his tsitsith.