I have now fulfilled as conscientiously
as possible the requests of those who feel that they
have a right to know exactly what was said in this
interview.
It has been my object, in doing this,
to place myself just where I should stand were I giving
evidence under oath before a legal tribunal.
In my first published account, there were given some
smaller details of the story, of no particular value
to the main purpose of it, which I received not from
Lady Byron, but from her confidential friend.
One of these was the account of her seeing Lord Byron’s
favourite spaniel lying at his door, and the other
was the scene of the parting.
The first was communicated to me before
I ever saw Lady Byron, and under these circumstances: I
was invited to meet her, and had expressed my desire
to do so, because Lord Byron had been all my life an
object of great interest to me. I inquired what
sort of a person Lady Byron was. My friend spoke
of her with enthusiasm. I then said, ’but
of course she never loved Lord Byron, or she would
not have left him.’ The lady answered,
’I can show you with what feelings she left him
by relating this story;’ and then followed the
anecdote.
Subsequently, she also related to
me the other story of the parting-scene between Lord
and Lady Byron. In regard to these two incidents,
my recollection is clear.
It will be observed by the reader
that Lady Byron’s conversation with me was simply
for consultation on one point, and that point whether
she herself should publish the story before her death.
It was not, therefore, a complete history of all
the events in their order, but specimens of a few
incidents and facts. Her object was, not to prove
her story to me, nor to put me in possession of it
with a view to my proving it, but simply and briefly
to show me what it was, that I might judge as to the
probable results of its publication at that time.
It therefore comprised primarily these points:
1. An exact statement, in so many words, of
the crime.
2. A statement of the manner
in which it was first forced on her attention by Lord
Byron’s words and actions, including his admissions
and defences of it.
3. The admission of a period
when she had ascribed his whole conduct to insanity.
4. A reference to later positive
evidences of guilt, the existence of a child, and
Mrs. Leigh’s subsequent repentance.
And here I have a word to say in reference
to the alleged inaccuracies of my true story.
The dates that Lady Byron gave me
on the memoranda did not relate either to the time
of the first disclosure, or the period when her doubts
became certainties; nor did her conversation touch
either of these points: and, on a careful review
of the latter, I see clearly that it omitted dwelling
upon anything which I might be supposed to have learned
from her already published statement.
I re-enclosed that paper to her from
London, and have never seen it since.
In writing my account, which I designed
to do in the most general terms, I took for my guide
Miss Martineau’s published Memoir of Lady Byron,
which has long stood uncontradicted before the public,
of which Macmillan’s London edition is now before
me. The reader is referred to page 316, which
reads thus:
’She was born 1792; married
in January 1814; returned to her father’s house
in 1816; died on May 16, 1860.’ This makes
her married life two years; but we need not say that
the date is inaccurate, as Lady Byron was married
in 1815.
Supposing Lady Byron’s married
life to have covered two years, I could only reconcile
its continuance for that length of time to her uncertainty
as to his sanity; to deceptions practised on her, making
her doubt at one time, and believe at another; and
his keeping her in a general state of turmoil and
confusion, till at last he took the step of banishing
her.
Various other points taken from Miss
Martineau have also been attacked as inaccuracies;
for example, the number of executions in the house:
but these points, though of no importance, are substantially
borne out by Moore’s statements.
This controversy, unfortunately, cannot
be managed with the accuracy of a legal trial.
Its course, hitherto, has rather resembled the course
of a drawing-room scandal, where everyone freely throws
in an assertion, with or without proof. In making
out my narrative, however, I shall use only certain
authentic sources, some of which have for a long time
been before the public, and some of which have floated
up from the waves of the recent controversy.
I consider as authentic sources,
Moore’s Life of Byron;
Lady Byron’s own account of the separation,
published in 1830;
Lady Byron’s statements to me in 1856;
Lord Lindsay’s communication,
giving an extract from Lady Anne Barnard’s diary,
and a copy of a letter from Lady Byron dated 1818,
about three years after her marriage;
Mrs. Mimms’ testimony, as given in a daily paper
published at Newcastle,
England;
And Lady Byron’s letters, as given recently
in the late ’London
Quarterly.’
All which documents appear to arrange themselves into
a connected series.
From these, then, let us construct the story.
According to Mrs. Mimms’ account,
which is likely to be accurate, the time spent by
Lord and Lady Byron in bridal-visiting was three weeks
at Halnaby Hall, and six weeks at Seaham, when Mrs.
Mimms quitted their service.
During this first period of three
weeks, Lord Byron’s treatment of his wife, as
testified to by the servant, was such that she advised
her young mistress to return to her parents; and,
at one time, Lady Byron had almost resolved to do
so.
What the particulars of his conduct
were, the servant refuses to state; being bound by
a promise of silence to her mistress. She, however,
testifies to a warm friendship existing between Lady
Byron and Mrs. Leigh, in a manner which would lead
us to feel that Lady Byron received and was received
by Lord Byron’s sister with the greatest affection.
Lady Byron herself says to Lady Anne Barnard, ’I
had heard that he was the best of brothers;’
and the inference is, that she, at an early period
of her married life, felt the greatest confidence
in his sister, and wished to have her with them as
much as possible. In Lady Anne’s account,
this wish to have the sister with her was increased
by Lady Byron’s distress at her husband’s
attempts to corrupt her principles with regard to
religion and marriage.
In Moore’s Life, vol. iii.,
letter 217, Lord Byron writes from Seaham to Moore,
under date of March 8, sending a copy of his verses
in Lady Byron’s handwriting, and saying, ’We
shall leave this place to-morrow, and shall stop on
our way to town, in the interval of taking a house
there, at Colonel Leigh’s, near Newmarket, where
any epistle of yours will find its welcome way.
I have been very comfortable here, listening to that
d –d monologue which elderly gentlemen
call conversation, in which my pious father-in-law
repeats himself every evening, save one, when he played
upon the fiddle. However, they have been vastly
kind and hospitable, and I like them and the place
vastly; and I hope they will live many happy months.
Bell is in health and unvaried good-humour and behaviour;
but we are in all the agonies of packing and parting.’
Nine days after this, under date of
March 17, Lord Byron says, ’We mean to metropolize
to-morrow, and you will address your next to Piccadilly.’
The inference is, that the days intermediate were spent
at Colonel Leigh’s. The next letters,
and all subsequent ones for six months, are dated
from Piccadilly.
As we have shown, there is every reason
to believe that a warm friendship had thus arisen
between Mrs. Leigh and Lady Byron, and that, during
all this time, Lady Byron desired as much of the society
of her sister-in-law as possible. She was a
married woman and a mother, her husband’s nearest
relative; and Lady Byron could with more propriety
ask, from her, counsel or aid in respect to his peculiarities
than she could from her own parents. If we consider
the character of Lady Byron as given by Mrs. Mimms,
that of a young person of warm but repressed feeling,
without sister or brother, longing for human sympathy,
and having so far found no relief but in talking with
a faithful dependant, we may easily see
that the acquisition of a sister through Lord Byron
might have been all in all to her, and that the feelings
which he checked and rejected for himself might have
flowed out towards his sister with enthusiasm.
The date of Mrs. Leigh’s visit does not appear.
The first domestic indication in Lord
Byron’s letters from London is the announcement
of the death of Lady Byron’s uncle, Lord Wentworth,
from whom came large expectations of property.
Lord Byron had mentioned him before in his letters
as so kind to Bell and himself that he could not find
it in his heart to wish him in heaven if he preferred
staying here. In his letter of April 23, he mentions
going to the play immediately after hearing this news,
‘although,’ as he says, ’he ought
to have stayed at home in sackcloth for “unc."’
On June 12, he writes that Lady Byron
is more than three months advanced in her progress
towards maternity; and that they have been out very
little, as he wishes to keep her quiet. We are
informed by Moore that Lord Byron was at this time
a member of the Drury-Lane Theatre Committee; and
that, in this unlucky connection, one of the fatalities
of the first year of trial as a husband lay.
From the strain of Byron’s letters, as given
in Moore, it is apparent, that, while he thinks it
best for his wife to remain at home, he does not propose
to share the retirement, but prefers running his own
separate career with such persons as thronged the
greenroom of the theatre in those days.
In commenting on Lord Byron’s
course, we must not by any means be supposed to indicate
that he was doing any more or worse than most gay
young men of his time. The licence of the day
as to getting drunk at dinner-parties, and leading,
generally, what would, in these days, be called a
disorderly life, was great. We should infer that
none of the literary men of Byron’s time would
have been ashamed of being drunk occasionally.
The Noctes Ambrosianae Club of ‘Blackwood’
is full of songs glorying, in the broadest terms,
in out-and-out drunkenness, and inviting to it as
the highest condition of a civilised being.
But drunkenness upon Lord Byron had
a peculiar and specific effect, which he notices afterwards,
in his Journal, at Venice: ’The effect of
all wines and spirits upon me is, however, strange.
It settles, but makes me gloomy gloomy
at the very moment of their effect: it composes,
however, though sullenly.’ And, again,
in another place, he says, ’Wine and spirits
make me sullen, and savage to ferocity.’
It is well known that the effects
of alcoholic excitement are various as the natures
of the subjects. But by far the worst effects,
and the most destructive to domestic peace, are those
that occur in cases where spirits, instead of acting
on the nerves of motion, and depriving the subject
of power in that direction, stimulate the brain so
as to produce there the ferocity, the steadiness,
the utter deadness to compassion or conscience, which
characterise a madman. How fearful to a sensitive
young mother in the period of pregnancy might be the
return of such a madman to the domestic roof!
Nor can we account for those scenes described in
Lady Anne Barnard’s letters, where Lord Byron
returned from his evening parties to try torturing
experiments on his wife, otherwise than by his own
statement, that spirits, while they steadied him, made
him ‘gloomy, and savage to ferocity.’
Take for example this:
’One night, coming home from one
of his lawless parties, he saw me (Lady B.) so
indignantly collected, and bearing all with such a
determined calmness, that a rush of remorse seemed
to come over him. He called himself a monster,
and, though his sister was present, threw himself
in agony at my feet. “I could not, no,
I could not, forgive him such injuries! He
had lost me forever!” Astonished at this return
to virtue, my tears, I believe, flowed over his face;
and I said, “Byron, all is forgotten; never,
never shall you hear of it more.”
’He started up, and folding his
arms while he looked at me, burst out into laughter.
“What do you mean?” said I. “Only
a philosophical experiment; that’s all,”
said he. “I wished to ascertain the value
of your resolutions."’
To ascribe such deliberate cruelty
as this to the effect of drink upon Lord Byron, is
the most charitable construction that can be put upon
his conduct.
Yet the manners of the period were
such, that Lord Byron must have often come to this
condition while only doing what many of his acquaintances
did freely, and without fear of consequences.
Mr. Moore, with his usual artlessness,
gives us an idea of a private supper between himself
and Lord Byron. We give it, with our own italics,
as a specimen of many others:
’Having taken upon me to order
the repast, and knowing that Lord Byron for the
last two days had done nothing towards sustenance beyond
eating a few biscuits and (to appease appetite)
chewing mastic, I desired that we should have a
good supply of at least two kinds of fish.
My companion, however, confined himself to lobsters;
and of these finished two or three, to his own
share, interposing, sometimes, a small liqueur-glass
of strong white brandy, sometimes a tumbler of very
hot water, and then pure brandy again, to the amount
of near half a dozen small glasses of the latter,
without which, alternately with the hot water,
he appeared to think the lobster could not be digested.
After this, we had claret, of which, having despatched
two bottles between us, at about four o’clock
in the morning we parted.
’As Pope has thought his “delicious
lobster-nights” worth
commemorating, these particulars
of one in which Lord Byron was
concerned may also have some interest.
’Among other nights of the same
description which I had the happiness of passing
with him, I remember once, in returning home from some
assembly at rather a late hour, we saw lights in
the windows of his old haunt, Stevens’s in
Bond Street, and agreed to stop there and sup.
On entering, we found an old friend of his, Sir
G W , who joined
our party; and, the lobsters and brandy and water being
put in requisition, it was (as usual on such occasions)
broad daylight before we separated.’ Vol.
iii. .
During the latter part of Lady Byron’s
pregnancy, it appears from Moore that Byron was, night
after night, engaged out at dinner parties, in which
getting drunk was considered as of course the finale,
as appears from the following letters:
(LETTER
228.)
TO MR.
MOORE.
’TERRACE,
PICCADILLY, OC,1815.
’I have not been able to ascertain
precisely the time of duration of the stock-market;
but I believe it is a good time for selling out, and
I hope so. First, because I shall see you;
and, next, because I shall receive certain moneys
on behalf of Lady B., the which will materially conduce
to my comfort; I wanting (as the duns say) “to
make up a sum.”
’Yesterday I dined out with a large-ish
party, where were Sheridan and Colman, Harry Harris,
of C. G., and his brother, Sir Gilbert Heathcote,
Ds. Kinnaird, and others of note and notoriety.
Like other parties of the kind, it was first silent,
then talky, then argumentative, then disputatious,
then unintelligible, then altogethery, then inarticulate,
and then drunk. When we had reached the last
step of this glorious ladder, it was difficult to get
down again without stumbling; and, to crown all,
Kinnaird and I had to conduct Sheridan down a d –d
corkscrew staircase, which had certainly been constructed
before the discovery of fermented liquors, and to
which no legs, however crooked, could possibly accommodate
themselves. We deposited him safe at home,
where his man, evidently used to the business,
waited to receive him in the hall.
’Both he and Colman were, as usual,
very good; but I carried away much wine, and the
wine had previously carried away my memory: so
that all was hiccough and happiness for the last
hour or so, and I am not impregnated with any of
the conversation. Perhaps you heard of a late
answer of Sheridan to the watchman who found him
bereft of that “divine particle of air”
called reason . . . He (the watchman) found Sherry
in the street fuddled and bewildered, and almost insensible.
“Who are you, sir?” No answer.
“What’s your name?” A
hiccough. “What’s your name?” Answer,
in a slow, deliberate, and impassive tone, “Wilberforce!”
Is not that Sherry all over? and, to my
mind, excellent. Poor fellow, his very dregs
are better than the “first sprightly runnings”
of others.
’My paper is full, and I have
a grievous headache.
’P.S. Lady B. is in
full progress. Next month will bring to light
(with the aid of “Juno Lucina, fer opem,”
or rather opes, for the last are most wanted)
the tenth wonder of the world; Gil Blas being the
eighth, and he (my son’s father) the ninth.’
Here we have a picture of the whole
story, Lady Byron within a month of her
confinement; her money being used to settle debts;
her husband out at a dinner-party, going through the
usual course of such parties, able to keep his legs
and help Sheridan downstairs, and going home ’gloomy,
and savage to ferocity,’ to his wife.
Four days after this (letter 229),
we find that this dinner-party is not an exceptional
one, but one of a series: for he says, ’To-day
I dine with Kinnaird, we are to have Sheridan
and Colman again; and to-morrow, once more, at Sir
Gilbert Heathcote’s.’
Afterward, in Venice, he reviews the
state of his health, at this period in London; and
his account shows that his excesses in the vices of
his times had wrought effects on his sensitive, nervous
organisation, very different from what they might
on the more phlegmatic constitutions of ordinary Englishmen.
In his journal, dated Venice, Fe, 1821, he says,
’I have been considering what can
be the reason why I always wake at a certain hour
in the morning, and always in very bad spirits, I
may say, in actual despair and despondency, in
all respects, even of that which pleased me over
night. In about an hour or two this goes off,
and I compose either to sleep again, or at least
to quiet. In England, five years ago, I had
the same kind of hypochondria, but accompanied
with so violent a thirst, that I have drunk as many
as fifteen bottles of soda-water in one night,
after going to bed, and been still thirsty, calculating,
however, some lost from the bursting- out and effervescence
and overflowing of the soda-water in drawing the corks,
or striking off the necks of the bottles from mere
thirsty impatience. At present, I have not
the thirst; but the depression of spirits is no
less violent.’ Vol. v. .
These extracts go to show what must
have been the condition of the man whom Lady Byron
was called to receive at the intervals when he came
back from his various social excitements and pleasures.
That his nerves were exacerbated by violent extremes
of abstinence and reckless indulgence; that he was
often day after day drunk, and that drunkenness made
him savage and ferocious, such are the
facts clearly shown by Mr. Moore’s narrative.
Of the natural peculiarities of Lord Byron’s
temper, he thus speaks to the Countess of Blessington:
’I often think that I inherit my
violence and bad temper from my poor mother, not
that my father, from all I could ever learn, had a
much better; so that it is no wonder I have such
a very bad one. As long as I can remember
anything, I recollect being subject to violent paroxysms
of rage, so disproportioned to the cause as to surprise
me when they were over; and this still continues.
I cannot coolly view any thing which excites my
feelings; and, once the lurking devil in me is
roused, I lose all command of myself. I do not
recover a good fit of rage for days after.
Mind, I do not by this mean that the ill humour
continues, as, on the contrary, that quickly subsides,
exhausted by its own violence; but it shakes me
terribly, and leaves me low and nervous after.’ Lady
Blessington’s Conversations, .
That during this time also his irritation
and ill temper were increased by the mortification
of duns, debts, and executions, is on the face of
Moore’s story. Moore himself relates one
incident, which gives some idea of the many which
may have occurred at these times, in a note on ,
vol. iv., where he speaks of Lord Byron’s
destroying a favourite old watch that had been his
companion from boyhood, and gone with him to Greece.
’In a fit of vexation and rage, brought upon
him by some of these humiliating embarrassments, to
which he was now almost daily a prey, he furiously
dashed this watch on the hearth, and ground it to
pieces with the poker among the ashes.’
It is no wonder, that, with a man
of this kind to manage, Lady Byron should have clung
to the only female companionship she could dare to
trust in the case, and earnestly desired to retain
with her the sister, who seemed, more than herself,
to have influence over him.
The first letter given by ‘The
Quarterly,’ from Lady Byron to Mrs. Leigh, without
a date, evidently belongs to this period, when the
sister’s society presented itself as a refuge
in her approaching confinement. Mrs Leigh speaks
of leaving. The young wife, conscious that the
house presents no attractions, and that soon she herself
shall be laid by, cannot urge Mrs. Leigh’s stay
as likely to give her any pleasure, but only as a
comfort to herself.
’You will think me very foolish;
but I have tried two or three times, and cannot
talk to you of your departure with a decent visage:
so let me say one word in this way to spare my
philosophy. With the expectations which I
have, I never will nor can ask you to stay one moment
longer than you are inclined to do. It would
[be] the worst return for all I ever received from
you. But in this at least I am “truth
itself,” when I say, that whatever the situation
may be, there is no one whose society is dearer
to me, or can contribute more to my happiness.
These feelings will not change under any circumstances,
and I should be grieved if you did not understand
them. Should you hereafter condemn me, I
shall not love you less. I will say no more.
Judge for yourself about going or staying.
I wish you to consider yourself, if you could
be wise enough to do that, for the first time in
your life.
’Thine,
‘A.
I. B.’
Addressed on the cover, ‘To
The Hon. Mrs. Leigh.’
This letter not being dated, we have
no clue but what we obtain from its own internal evidence.
It certainly is not written in Lady Byron’s
usual clear and elegant style; and is, in this respect,
in striking contrast to all her letters that I have
ever seen.
But the notes written by a young woman
under such peculiar and distressing circumstances
must not be judged by the standard of calmer hours.
Subsequently to this letter, and during
that stormy, irrational period when Lord Byron’s
conduct became daily more and more unaccountable, may
have come that startling scene in which Lord Byron
took every pains to convince his wife of improper
relations subsisting between himself and his sister.
What an utter desolation this must
have been to the wife, tearing from her the last hold
of friendship, and the last refuge to which she had
clung in her sorrows, may easily be conceived.
In this crisis, it appears that the
sister convinced Lady Byron that the whole was to
be attributed to insanity. It would be a conviction
gladly accepted, and bringing infinite relief, although
still surrounding her path with fearful difficulties.
That such was the case is plainly
asserted by Lady Byron in her statement published
in 1830. Speaking of her separation, Lady Byron
says:
’The facts are, I left London for
Kirkby Mallory, the residence of my father and
mother, on the 15th of January, 1816. Lord Byron
had signified to me in writing, Ja, his absolute
desire that I should leave London on the earliest
day that I could conveniently fix. It was
not safe for me to encounter the fatigues of a journey
sooner than the 15th. Previously to my departure,
it had been strongly impressed on my mind that
Lord Byron was under the influence of insanity.
’This opinion was in a great
measure derived from the communications
made to me by his nearest relatives
and personal attendant’
Now there was no nearer relative than
Mrs. Leigh; and the personal attendant was Fletcher.
It was therefore presumably Mrs. Leigh who convinced
Lady Byron of her husband’s insanity.
Lady Byron says, ’It was even
represented to me that he was in danger of destroying
himself.
’With the concurrence of his
family, I had consulted with Dr. Baillie, as a friend,
on Ja, as to his supposed malady.’
Now, Lord Byron’s written order for her to leave
came on Ja. It appears, then, that Lady
Byron, acting in concurrence with Mrs. Leigh and others
of her husband’s family, consulted Dr. Baillie,
on Ja, as to what she should do; the symptoms
presented to Dr. Baillie being, evidently, insane hatred
of his wife on the part of Lord Byron, and a determination
to get her out of the house. Lady Byron goes
on:
’On acquainting him with the state
of the case, and with Lord Byron’s desire
that I should leave London, Dr. Baillie thought my
absence might be advisable as an experiment, assuming
the fact of mental derangement; for Dr. Baillie,
not having had access to Lord Byron, could not
pronounce an opinion on that point. He enjoined,
that, in correspondence with Lord Byron, I should
avoid all but light and soothing topics.
Under these impressions, I left London, determined
to follow the advice given me by Dr. Baillie.
Whatever might have been the nature of Lord Byron’s
treatment of me from the time of my marriage, yet,
supposing him to have been in a state of mental alienation,
it was not for me, nor for any person of common humanity,
to manifest at that moment a sense of injury.’
It appears, then, that the domestic
situation in Byron’s house at the time of his
wife’s expulsion was one so grave as to call
for family counsel; for Lady Byron, generally accurate,
speaks in the plural number. ‘His nearest
relatives’ certainly includes Mrs. Leigh.
‘His family’ includes more. That
some of Lord Byron’s own relatives were cognisant
of facts at this time, and that they took Lady Byron’s
side, is shown by one of his own chance admissions.
In vol. vi. , in a letter on Bowles, he
says, speaking of this time, ’All my relations,
save one, fell from me like leaves from a tree in
autumn.’ And in Medwin’s Conversations
he says, ’Even my cousin George Byron, who had
been brought up with me, and whom I loved as a brother,
took my wife’s part.’ The conduct
must have been marked in the extreme that led to this
result.
We cannot help stopping here to say
that Lady Byron’s situation at this time has
been discussed in our days with a want of ordinary
human feeling that is surprising. Let any father
and mother, reading this, look on their own daughter,
and try to make the case their own.
After a few short months of married
life, months full of patient endurance
of the strangest and most unaccountable treatment, she
comes to them, expelled from her husband’s house,
an object of hatred and aversion to him, and having
to settle for herself the awful question, whether
he is a dangerous madman or a determined villain.
Such was this young wife’s situation.
With a heart at times wrung with compassion
for her husband as a helpless maniac, and fearful
that all may end in suicide, yet compelled to leave
him, she writes on the road the much-quoted letter,
beginning ’Dear Duck.’ This is an
exaggerated and unnatural letter, it is true, but of
precisely the character that might be expected from
an inexperienced young wife when dealing with a husband
supposed to be insane.
The next day, she addressed to Augusta this letter:
’MY DEAREST A., It
is my great comfort that you are still in
Piccadilly.’
And again, on the 23rd:
’DEAREST A., I know
you feel for me, as I do for you; and perhaps I am
better understood than I think. You have been,
ever since I knew you, my best comforter; and will
so remain, unless you grow tired of the office, which
may well be.’
We can see here how self-denying and
heroic appears to Lady Byron the conduct of the sister,
who patiently remains to soothe and guide and restrain
the moody madman, whose madness takes a form, at times,
so repulsive to every womanly feeling. She intimates
that she should not wonder should Augusta grow weary
of the office.
Lady Byron continues her statement thus:
’When I arrived at Kirkby Mallory,
my parents were unacquainted with the existence
of any causes likely to destroy my prospects of happiness;
and, when I communicated to them the opinion that had
been formed concerning Lord Byron’s state
of mind, they were most anxious to promote his
restoration by every means in their power. They
assured those relations that were with him in London
that “they would devote their whole case
and attention to the alleviation of his malady."’
Here we have a quotation from
a letter written by Lady Milbanke to the anxious ‘relations’
who are taking counsel about Lord Byron in town.
Lady Byron also adds, in justification of her mother
from Lord Byron’s slanders, ’She had always
treated him with an affectionate consideration and
indulgence, which extended to every little peculiarity
of his feelings. Never did an irritating word
escape her lips in her whole intercourse with him.’
Now comes a remarkable part of Lady Byron’s
statement:
’The accounts given me after I
left Lord Byron, by those in constant intercourse
with him, added to those doubts which had before
transiently occurred to my mind as to the reality
of the alleged disease; and the reports of his
medical attendants were far from establishing anything
like lunacy.’
When these doubts arose in her mind,
it is not natural to suppose that they should, at
first, involve Mrs. Leigh. She still appears
to Lady Byron as the devoted, believing sister, fully
convinced of her brother’s insanity, and endeavouring
to restrain and control him.
But if Lord Byron were sane, if the
purposes he had avowed to his wife were real, he must
have lied about his sister in the past, and perhaps
have the worst intentions for the future.
The horrors of that state of vacillation
between the conviction of insanity and the commencing
conviction of something worse can scarcely be told.
At all events, the wife’s doubts
extend so far that she speaks out to her parents.
‘UNDER THIS UNCERTAINTY,’ says the statement,
’I deemed it right to communicate to my parents,
that, if I were to consider Lord Byron’s past
conduct as that of a person of sound mind, nothing
could induce me to return to him. It therefore
appeared expedient, both to them and to myself, to
consult the ablest advisers. For that object,
and also to obtain still further information respecting
appearances which indicated mental derangement, my
mother determined to go to London. She was empowered
by me to take legal opinion on a written statement
of mine; though I then had reasons for reserving a
part of the case from the knowledge even of my father
and mother.’
It is during this time of uncertainty
that the next letter to Mrs. Leigh may be placed.
It seems to be rather a fragment of a letter than
a whole one: perhaps it is an extract; in which
case it would be desirable, if possible, to view it
in connection with the remaining text:
Ja, 1816.
’MY DEAREST AUGUSTA, Shall
I still be your sister? I must resign my
right to be so considered; but I don’t think
that will make any
difference in the kindness I have so uniformly
experienced from you.’
This fragment is not signed, nor finished
in any way, but indicates that the writer is about
to take a decisive step.
On the 17th, as we have seen, Lady
Milbanke had written, inviting Lord Byron. Subsequently
she went to London to make more particular inquiries
into his state. This fragment seems part of a
letter from Lady Byron, called forth in view of some
evidence resulting from her mother’s observations.
Lady Byron now adds,
’Being convinced by the result
of these inquiries, and by the tenour of Lord Byron’s
proceedings, that the notion of insanity was an illusion,
I no longer hesitated to authorize such measures as
were necessary in order to secure me from ever
being again placed in his power.
’Conformably with this resolution,
my father wrote to him, on the 2nd
of February, to request an amicable separation.’
The following letter to Mrs. Leigh
is dated the day after this application, and is in
many respects a noticeable one:
’KIRKBY
MALLORY, Fe, 1816.
’MY DEAREST AUGUSTA, You
are desired by your brother to ask if my father
has acted with my concurrence in proposing a separation.
He has. It cannot be supposed, that, in
my present distressing situation, I am capable
of stating in a detailed manner the reasons which
will not only justify this measure, but compel me to
take it; and it never can be my wish to remember
unnecessarily [sic] those injuries for which, however
deep, I feel no resentment. I will now only
recall to Lord Byron’s mind his avowed and insurmountable
aversion to the married state, and the desire and
determination he has expressed ever since its commencement
to free himself from that bondage, as finding it
quite insupportable, though candidly acknowledging
that no effort of duty or affection has been wanting
on my part. He has too painfully convinced
me that all these attempts to contribute towards
his happiness were wholly useless, and most unwelcome
to him. I enclose this letter to my father, wishing
it to receive his sanction.
’Ever
yours most affectionately,
‘A.
I. BYRON.’
We observe in this letter that it
is written to be shown to Lady Byron’s father,
and receive his sanction; and, as that father was in
ignorance of all the deeper causes of trouble in the
case, it will be seen that the letter must necessarily
be a reserved one. This sufficiently accounts
for the guarded character of the language when speaking
of the causes of separation. One part of the
letter incidentally overthrows Lord Byron’s
statement, which he always repeated during his life,
and which is repeated for him now; namely, that his
wife forsook him, instead of being, as she claims,
expelled by him.
She recalls to Lord Byron’s
mind the ’desire and determination he has expressed
ever since his marriage to free himself from its bondage.’
This is in perfect keeping with the
‘absolute desire,’ signified by writing,
that she should leave his house on the earliest day
possible; and she places the cause of the separation
on his having ‘too painfully’ convinced
her that he does not want her as a wife.
It appears that Augusta hesitates
to show this note to her brother. It is bringing
on a crisis which she, above all others, would most
wish to avoid.
In the meantime, Lady Byron receives
a letter from Lord Byron, which makes her feel it
more than ever essential to make the decision final.
I have reason to believe that this letter is preserved
in Lady Byron’s papers:
’Fe, 1816.
’I hope, my dear A., that you would
on no account withhold from your brother the letter
which I sent yesterday in answer to yours written
by his desire, particularly as one which I have
received from himself to-day renders it still more
important that he should know the contents of that
addressed to you. I am, in haste and not very
well,
’Yours
most affectionately,
‘A.
I. BYRON.’
The last of this series of letters
is less like the style of Lady Byron than any of them.
We cannot judge whether it is a whole consecutive
letter, or fragments from a letter, selected and united.
There is a great want of that clearness and precision
which usually characterised Lady Byron’s style.
It shows, however, that the decision is made, a
decision which she regrets on account of the sister
who has tried so long to prevent it.
’KIRKBY
MALLORY, Fe, 1816.
’The present sufferings of all
may yet be repaid in blessings. Do not despair
absolutely, dearest; and leave me but enough of your
interest to afford you any consolation by partaking
of that sorrow which I am most unhappy to cause
thus unintentionally. You will be of my opinion
hereafter; and at present your bitterest reproach
would be forgiven, though Heaven knows you have
considered me more than a thousand would have done, more
than anything but my affection for B., one most dear
to you, could deserve. I must not remember
these feelings. Farewell! God bless
you from the bottom of my heart!
‘A.
I. B.’
We are here to consider that Mrs.
Leigh has stood to Lady Byron in all this long agony
as her only confidante and friend; that she has denied
the charges her brother has made, and referred them
to insanity, admitting insane attempts upon herself
which she has been obliged to watch over and control.
Lady Byron has come to the conclusion
that Augusta is mistaken as to insanity; that there
is a real wicked purpose and desire on the part of
the brother, not as yet believed in by the sister.
She regards the sister as one, who, though deceived
and blinded, is still worthy of confidence and consideration;
and so says to her, ’You will be of my opinion
hereafter.’
She says, ‘You have considered
me more than a thousand would have done.’
Mrs. Leigh is, in Lady Byron’s eyes, a most abused
and innocent woman, who, to spare her sister in her
delicate situation, has taken on herself the whole
charge of a maniacal brother, although suffering from
him language and actions of the most injurious kind.
That Mrs. Leigh did not flee the house at once under
such circumstances, and wholly decline the management
of the case, seems to Lady Byron consideration and
self-sacrifice greater than she can acknowledge.
The knowledge of the whole extent
of the truth came to Lady Byron’s mind at a
later period.
We now take up the history from Lushington’s
letter to Lady Byron, published at the close of her
statement.
The application to Lord Byron for
an act of separation was positively refused at first;
it being an important part of his policy that all the
responsibility and insistence should come from his
wife, and that he should appear forced into it contrary
to his will.
Dr. Lushington, however, says to Lady Byron,
’I was originally consulted by
Lady Noel on your behalf while you were in the
country. The circumstances detailed by her were
such as justified a separation; but they were not
of that aggravated description as to render such
a measure indispensable. On Lady Noel’s
representations, I deemed a reconciliation with
Lord Byron practicable, and felt most sincerely
a wish to aid in effecting it. There was not,
on Lady Noel’s part, any exaggeration of the
facts, nor, so far as I could perceive, any determination
to prevent a return to Lord Byron: certainly
none was expressed when I spoke of a reconciliation.’
In this crisis, with Lord Byron refusing
the separation, with Lushington expressing a wish
to aid in a reconciliation, and Lady Noel not expressing
any aversion to it, the whole strain of the dreadful
responsibility comes upon the wife.
She resolves to ask counsel of her
lawyer, in view of a statement of the whole case.
Lady Byron is spoken of by Lord Byron
(letter 233) as being in town with her father on the
29th of February; viz., fifteen days after the
date of the last letter to Mrs. Leigh. It must
have been about this time, then, that she laid her
whole case before Lushington; and he gave it a thorough
examination.
The result was, that Lushington expressed
in the most decided terms his conviction that reconciliation
was impossible. The language be uses is very
striking:
’When you came to town in about
a fortnight, or perhaps more, after my first interview
with Lady Noel, I was, for the first time, informed
by you of facts utterly unknown, as I have no doubt,
to Sir Ralph and Lady Noel. On receiving
this additional information, my opinion was entirely
changed. I considered a reconciliation impossible.
I declared my opinion, and added, that, if such
an idea should be entertained, I could not, either
professionally or otherwise, take any part towards
effecting it.’
It does not appear in this note what
effect the lawyer’s examination of the case
had on Lady Byron’s mind. By the expressions
he uses, we should infer that she may still have been
hesitating as to whether a reconciliation might not
be her duty.
This hesitancy he does away with most
decisively, saying, ’A reconciliation is impossible;’
and, supposing Lady Byron or her friends desirous
of one, he declares positively that he cannot, either
professionally as a lawyer or privately as a friend,
have anything to do with effecting it.
The lawyer, it appears, has drawn,
from the facts of the case, inferences deeper and
stronger than those which presented themselves to the
mind of the young woman; and he instructs her in the
most absolute terms.
Fourteen years after, in 1830, for
the first time the world was astonished by this declaration
from Dr. Lushington, in language so pronounced and
positive that there could be no mistake.
Lady Byron had stood all these fourteen
years slandered by her husband, and misunderstood
by his friends, when, had she so chosen, this opinion
of Dr. Lushington’s could have been at once made
public, which fully justified her conduct.
If, as the ‘Blackwood’
of July insinuates, the story told to Lushington was
a malignant slander, meant to injure Lord Byron, why
did she suppress the judgment of her counsel at a
time when all the world was on her side, and this
decision would have been the decisive blow against
her husband? Why, by sealing the lips of counsel,
and of all whom she could influence, did she deprive
herself finally of the very advantage for which it
has been assumed she fabricated the story?