THE TRUE STORY OF LADY BYRON’S LIFE,
AS ORIGINALLY PUBLISHED IN ‘THE ATLANTIC MONTHLY.’
The reading world of America has lately
been presented with a book which is said to sell rapidly,
and which appears to meet with universal favour.
The subject of the book may be thus
briefly stated: The mistress of Lord Byron comes
before the world for the sake of vindicating his fame
from slanders and aspersions cast on him by his wife.
The story of the mistress versus wife may be summed
up as follows:
Lord Byron, the hero of the story,
is represented as a human being endowed with every
natural charm, gift, and grace, who, by the one false
step of an unsuitable marriage, wrecked his whole life.
A narrow-minded, cold-hearted precisian, without
sufficient intellect to comprehend his genius, or
heart to feel for his temptations, formed with him
one of those mere worldly marriages common in high
life; and, finding that she could not reduce him to
the mathematical proprieties and conventional rules
of her own mode of life, suddenly, and without warning,
abandoned him in the most cruel and inexplicable manner.
It is alleged that she parted from
him in apparent affection and good-humour, wrote
him a playful, confiding letter upon the way, but,
after reaching her father’s house, suddenly,
and without explanation, announced to him that she
would never see him again; that this sudden abandonment
drew down upon him a perfect storm of scandalous stories,
which his wife never contradicted; that she never
in any way or shape stated what the exact reasons
for her departure had been, and thus silently gave
scope to all the malice of thousands of enemies.
The sensitive victim was actually driven from England,
his home broken up, and he doomed to be a lonely wanderer
on foreign shores.
In Italy, under bluer skies, and among
a gentler people, with more tolerant modes of judgment,
the authoress intimates that he found peace and consolation.
A lovely young Italian countess falls in love with
him, and, breaking her family ties for his sake, devotes
herself to him; and, in blissful retirement with her,
he finds at last that domestic life for which he was
so fitted.
Soothed, calmed, and refreshed, he
writes ‘Don Juan,’ which the world is
at this late hour informed was a poem with a high moral
purpose, designed to be a practical illustration of
the doctrine of total depravity among young gentlemen
in high life.
Under the elevating influence of love,
he rises at last to higher realms of moral excellence,
and resolves to devote the rest of his life to some
noble and heroic purpose; becomes the saviour of Greece;
and dies untimely, leaving a nation to mourn his loss.
The authoress dwells with a peculiar
bitterness on Lady Byron’s entire silence during
all these years, as the most aggravated form of persecution
and injury. She informs the world that Lord Byron
wrote his Autobiography with the purpose of giving
a fair statement of the exact truth in the whole matter;
and that Lady Byron bought up the manuscript of the
publisher, and insisted on its being destroyed, unread;
thus inflexibly depriving her husband of his last
chance of a hearing before the tribunal of the public.
As a result of this silent persistent
cruelty on the part of a cold, correct, narrow-minded
woman, the character of Lord Byron has been misunderstood,
and his name transmitted to after-ages clouded with
aspersions and accusations which it is the object of
this book to remove.
Such is the story of Lord Byron’s
mistress, a story which is going the length
of this American continent, and rousing up new sympathy
with the poet, and doing its best to bring the youth
of America once more under the power of that brilliant,
seductive genius, from which it was hoped they had
escaped. Already we are seeing it revamped in
magazine-articles, which take up the slanders of the
paramour and enlarge on them, and wax eloquent in
denunciation of the marble-hearted insensible wife.
All this while, it does not appear
to occur to the thousands of unreflecting readers
that they are listening merely to the story of Lord
Byron’s mistress, and of Lord Byron; and that,
even by their own showing, their heaviest accusation
against Lady Byron is that she has not spoken at all.
Her story has never been told.
For many years after the rupture between
Lord Byron and his wife, that poet’s personality,
fate, and happiness had an interest for the whole
civilized world, which, we will venture to say, was
unparalleled. It is within the writer’s
recollection, how, in the obscure mountain-town where
she spent her early days, Lord Byron’s separation
from his wife was, for a season, the all-engrossing
topic.
She remembers hearing her father recount
at the breakfast-table the facts as they were given
in the public papers, together with his own suppositions
and theories of the causes.
Lord Byron’s ‘Fare thee
well,’ addressed to Lady Byron, was set to music,
and sung with tears by young school-girls, even in
this distant America.
Madame de Stael said of this appeal,
that she was sure it would have drawn her at once
to his heart and his arms; she could have forgiven
everything: and so said all the young ladies all
over the world, not only in England but in France
and Germany, wherever Byron’s poetry appeared
in translation.
Lady Byron’s obdurate cold-heartedness
in refusing even to listen to his prayers, or to have
any intercourse with him which might lead to reconciliation,
was the one point conceded on all sides.
The stricter moralists defended her;
but gentler hearts throughout all the world regarded
her as a marble-hearted monster of correctness and
morality, a personification of the law unmitigated
by the gospel.
Literature in its highest walks busied
itself with Lady Byron. Hogg, in the character
of the Ettrick Shepherd, devotes several eloquent passages
to expatiating on the conjugal fidelity of a poor Highland
shepherd’s wife, who, by patience and prayer
and forgiveness, succeeds in reclaiming her drunken
husband, and making a good man of him; and then points
his moral by contrasting with this touching picture
the cold-hearted pharisaical correctness of Lady Byron.
Moore, in his ‘Life of Lord
Byron,’ when beginning the recital of the series
of disgraceful amours which formed the staple of his
life in Venice, has this passage:
’Highly censurable in point
of morality and decorum as was his course of life
while under the roof of Madame ,
it was (with pain I am forced to confess) venial in
comparison with the strange, headlong career of licence
to which, when weaned from that connection, he so unrestrainedly,
and, it may be added, defyingly abandoned himself.
Of the state of his mind on leaving England, I have
already endeavoured to convey some idea; and among
the feelings that went to make up that self-centred
spirit of resistance which he then opposed to his
fate was an indignant scorn for his own countrymen
for the wrongs he thought they had done him.
For a time, the kindly sentiments which he still harboured
toward Lady Byron, and a sort of vague hope, perhaps,
that all would yet come right again, kept his mind
in a mood somewhat more softened and docile, as well
as sufficiently under the influence of English opinions
to prevent his breaking out into open rebellion against
it, as he unluckily did afterward.
’By the failure of the attempted
mediation with Lady Byron, his last link with home
was severed: while, notwithstanding the quiet
and unobtrusive life which he led at Geneva, there
was as yet, he found, no cessation of the slanderous
warfare against his character; the same busy and misrepresenting
spirit which had tracked his every step at home, having,
with no less malicious watchfulness, dogged him into
exile.’
We should like to know what the misrepresentations
and slanders must have been, when this sort of thing
is admitted in Mr. Moore’s justification.
It seems to us rather wonderful how anybody, unless
it were a person like the Countess Guiccioli, could
misrepresent a life such as even Byron’s friend
admits he was leading.
During all these years, when he was
setting at defiance every principle of morality and
decorum, the interest of the female mind all over Europe
in the conversion of this brilliant prodigal son was
unceasing, and reflects the greatest credit upon the
faith of the sex.
Madame de Stael commenced the first
effort at evangelization immediately after he left
England, and found her catechumen in a most edifying
state of humility. He was, metaphorically, on
his knees in penitence, and confessed himself a miserable
sinner in the loveliest manner possible. Such
sweetness and humility took all hearts. His conversations
with Madame de Stael were printed, and circulated
all over the world; making it to appear that only
the inflexibility of Lady Byron stood in the way of
his entire conversion.
Lady Blessington, among many others,
took him in hand five or six years afterwards, and
was greatly delighted with his docility, and edified
by his frank and free confessions of his miserable
offences. Nothing now seemed wanting to bring
the wanderer home to the fold but a kind word from
Lady Byron. But, when the fair countess offered
to mediate, the poet only shook his head in tragic
despair; ’he had so many times tried in vain;
Lady Byron’s course had been from the first that
of obdurate silence.’
Any one who would wish to see a specimen
of the skill of the honourable poet in mystification
will do well to read a letter to Lady Byron, which
Lord Byron, on parting from Lady Blessington, enclosed
for her to read just before he went to Greece.
He says,
’The letter which I enclose
I was prevented from sending by my despair of its
doing any good. I was perfectly sincere when
I wrote it, and am so still. But it is difficult
for me to withstand the thousand provocations on that
subject which both friends and foes have for seven
years been throwing in the way of a man whose feelings
were once quick, and whose temper was never patient.’
’TO LADY BYRON, CARE OF THE HON. MRS. LEIGH,
LONDON.
’PISA,
No, 1821.
’I have to acknowledge the receipt
of “Ada’s hair,” which is very soft
and pretty, and nearly as dark already as mine was
at twelve years old, if I may judge from what I recollect
of some in Augusta’s possession, taken at that
age. But it don’t curl perhaps
from its being let grow.
’I also thank you for the inscription
of the date and name; and I will tell you why:
I believe that they are the only two or three words
of your handwriting in my possession. For your
letters I returned; and except the two words, or rather
the one word, “Household,” written twice
in an old account book, I have no other. I burnt
your last note, for two reasons: firstly, it
was written in a style not very agreeable; and, secondly,
I wished to take your word without documents, which
are the worldly resources of suspicious people.
’I suppose that this note will
reach you somewhere about Ada’s birthday the
10th of December, I believe. She will then be
six: so that, in about twelve more, I shall have
some chance of meeting her; perhaps sooner, if I am
obliged to go to England by business or otherwise.
Recollect, however, one thing, either in distance
or nearness every day which keeps us asunder
should, after so long a period, rather soften our
mutual feelings; which must always have one rallying
point as long as our child exists, which, I presume,
we both hope will be long after either of her parents.
’The time which has elapsed
since the separation has been considerably more than
the whole brief period of our union, and the not much
longer one of our prior acquaintance. We both
made a bitter mistake; but now it is over, and irrevocably
so. For at thirty-three on my part, and few
years less on yours, though it is no very extended
period of life, still it is one when the habits and
thought are generally so formed as to admit of no
modification; and, as we could not agree when younger,
we should with difficulty do so now.
’I say all this, because I own
to you, that notwithstanding everything, I considered
our reunion as not impossible for more than a year
after the separation; but then I gave up the hope
entirely and for ever. But this very impossibility
of reunion seems to me at least a reason why, on all
the few points of discussion which can arise between
us, we should preserve the courtesies of life, and
as much of its kindness as people who are never to
meet may preserve, perhaps more easily than
nearer connections. For my own part, I am violent,
but not malignant; for only fresh provocations can
awaken my resentments. To you, who are colder
and more concentrated, I would just hint, that you
may sometimes mistake the depth of a cold anger for
dignity, and a worse feeling for duty. I assure
you that I bear you now (whatever I may have done)
no resentment whatever. Remember, that, if you
have injured me in aught, this forgiveness is something;
and that, if I have injured you, it is something more
still, if it be true, as the moralists say, that the
most offending are the least forgiving.
’Whether the offence has been
solely on my side, or reciprocal, or on yours chiefly,
I have ceased to reflect upon any but two things; viz.,
that you are the mother of my child, and that we shall
never meet again. I think, if you also consider
the two corresponding points with reference to myself,
it will be better for all three.
’Yours
ever,
‘NOEL
BYRON.’
The artless Thomas Moore introduces
this letter in the ‘Life,’ with the remark,
’There are few, I should think,
of my readers, who will not agree with me in pronouncing,
that, if the author of the following letter had not
right on his side, he had at least most of those good
feelings which are found in general to accompany it.’
The reader is requested to take notice
of the important admission; that the letter was never
sent to Lady Byron at all. It was, in fact, never
intended for her, but was a nice little dramatic performance,
composed simply with the view of acting on the sympathies
of Lady Blessington and Byron’s numerous female
admirers; and the reader will agree with us, we think,
that, in this point of view, it was very neatly done,
and deserves immortality as a work of high art.
For six years he had been plunged into every kind
of vice and excess, pleading his shattered domestic
joys, and his wife’s obdurate heart, as the
apology and the impelling cause; filling the air with
his shrieks and complaints concerning the slander
which pursued him, while he filled letters to his confidential
correspondents with records of new mistresses.
During all these years, the silence of Lady Byron
was unbroken; though Lord Byron not only drew in private
on the sympathies of his female admirers, but employed
his talents and position as an author in holding her
up to contempt and ridicule before thousands of readers.
We shall quote at length his side of the story, which
he published in the First Canto of ‘Don Juan,’
that the reader may see how much reason he had for
assuming the injured tone which he did in the letter
to Lady Byron quoted above. That letter never
was sent to her; and the unmanly and indecent caricature
of her, and the indelicate exposure of the whole story
on his own side, which we are about to quote, were
the only communications that could have reached her
solitude.
In the following verses, Lady Byron
is represented as Donna Inez, and Lord Byron as Don
Jose; but the incidents and allusions were so very
pointed, that nobody for a moment doubted whose history
the poet was narrating.
’His mother was a learned
lady, famed
For every branch
of every science known
In every Christian language ever
named,
With virtues equalled
by her wit alone:
She made the cleverest people quite
ashamed;
And even the good
with inward envy groaned,
Finding themselves so very much
exceeded
In their own way by all the things
that she did.
. . .
.
Save that her duty both to man and
God
Required this conduct; which seemed
very odd.
She kept a journal where his faults
were noted,
And opened certain
trunks of books and letters,
(All which might, if occasion served,
be quoted);
And then she had
all Seville for abettors,
Besides her good old grandmother
(who doted):
The hearers of
her case become repeaters,
Then advocates, inquisitors, and
judges,
Some for amusement, others for old
grudges.
And then this best and meekest woman
bore
With such serenity
her husband’s woes!
Just as the Spartan ladies did of
yore,
Who saw their
spouses killed, and nobly chose
Never to say a word about them more.
Calmly she heard
each calumny that rose,
And saw his agonies with such sublimity,
That all the world exclaimed, “What
magnanimity!"’
This is the longest and most elaborate
version of his own story that Byron ever published;
but he busied himself with many others, projecting
at one time a Spanish romance, in which the same story
is related in the same transparent manner: but
this he was dissuaded from printing. The booksellers,
however, made a good speculation in publishing what
they called his domestic poems; that is, poems bearing
more or less relation to this subject.
Every person with whom he became acquainted
with any degree of intimacy was made familiar with
his side of the story. Moore’s Biography
is from first to last, in its representations, founded
upon Byron’s communicativeness, and Lady Byron’s
silence; and the world at last settled down to believing
that the account so often repeated, and never contradicted,
must be substantially a true one.
The true history of Lord and Lady
Byron has long been perfectly understood in many circles
in England; but the facts were of a nature that could
not be made public. While there was a young daughter
living whose future might be prejudiced by its recital,
and while there were other persons on whom the disclosure
of the real truth would have been crushing as an avalanche,
Lady Byron’s only course was the perfect silence
in which she took refuge, and those sublime works of
charity and mercy to which she consecrated her blighted
early life.
But the time is now come when the
truth may be told. All the actors in the scene
have disappeared from the stage of mortal existence,
and passed, let us have faith to hope, into a world
where they would desire to expiate their faults by
a late publication of the truth.
No person in England, we think, would
as yet take the responsibility of relating the true
history which is to clear Lady Byron’s memory;
but, by a singular concurrence of circumstances, all
the facts of the case, in the most undeniable and
authentic form, were at one time placed in the hands
of the writer of this sketch, with authority to make
such use of them as she should judge best. Had
this melancholy history been allowed to sleep, no
public use would have been made of them; but the appearance
of a popular attack on the character of Lady Byron
calls for a vindication, and the true story of her
married life will therefore now be related.
Lord Byron has described in one of
his letters the impression left upon his mind by a
young person whom he met one evening in society, and
who attracted his attention by the simplicity of her
dress, and a certain air of singular purity and calmness
with which she surveyed the scene around her.
On inquiry, he was told that this
young person was Miss Milbanke, an only child, and
one of the largest heiresses in England.
Lord Byron was fond of idealising
his experiences in poetry; and the friends of Lady
Byron had no difficulty in recognising the portrait
of Lady Byron, as she appeared at this time of her
life, in his exquisite description of Aurora Raby:
’There
was
Indeed a certain fair and fairy
one,
Of the best class,
and better than her class,
Aurora Raby, a young star who shone
O’er life,
too sweet an image for such glass;
A lovely being scarcely formed or
moulded;
A rose with all its sweetest leaves
yet folded.
. . .
.
Early in years, and yet more infantine
In figure, she had something of sublime
In eyes which sadly shone as seraphs’ shine;
All youth, but with an aspect beyond time;
Radiant and grave, as pitying man’s decline;
Mournful, but mournful of another’s crime,
She looked as if she sat by Éden’s door,
And grieved for those who could return no more.
. . .
.
She gazed upon a world she scarcely
knew,
As seeking not
to know it; silent, lone,
As grows a flower, thus quietly
she grew,
And kept her heart
serene within its zone.
There was awe in the homage which
she drew;
Her spirit seemed
as seated on a throne,
Apart from the surrounding world,
and strong
In its own strength, most
strange in one so young!’
Some idea of the course which their
acquaintance took, and of the manner in which he was
piqued into thinking of her, is given in a stanza or
two:
’The dashing and proud air
of Adeline
Imposed not upon
her: she saw her blaze
Much as she would have seen a glow-worm
shine;
Then turned unto
the stars for loftier rays.
Juan was something she could not
divine,
Being no sibyl
in the new world’s ways;
Yet she was nothing dazzled by the
meteor,
Because she did not pin her faith
on feature.
His fame too (for he had that kind
of fame
Which sometimes
plays the deuce with womankind,
A heterogeneous mass of glorious
blame,
Half virtues and
whole vices being combined;
Faults which attract because they
are not tame;
Follies tricked
out so brightly that they blind),
These seals upon her wax made no
impression,
Such was her coldness or her self-possession.
Aurora sat with that indifference
Which piqués
a preux chevalier, as it ought.
Of all offences, that’s the
worst offence
Which seems to
hint you are not worth a thought.
. . .
.
To his gay nothings, nothing was
replied,
Or something which
was nothing, as urbanity
Required. Aurora scarcely
looked aside,
Nor even smiled
enough for any vanity.
The Devil was in the girl!
Could it be pride,
Or modesty, or
absence, or inanity?
. . .
.
Juan was drawn thus into some attentions,
Slight but select,
and just enough to express,
To females of perspicuous compréhensions,
That he would
rather make them more than less.
Aurora at the last (so history mentions,
Though probably
much less a fact than guess)
So far relaxed her thoughts from
their sweet prison
As once or twice to smile, if not
to listen.
. . .
.
But Juan had a sort of winning way,
A proud humility,
if such there be,
Which showed such deference to what
females say,
As if each charming
word were a decree.
His tact, too, tempered him from
grave to gay,
And taught
him when to be reserved or free.
He had the art of drawing people
out,
Without their seeing what he was
about.
Aurora, who in her indifference,
Confounded him
in common with the crowd
Of flatterers, though she deemed
he had more sense
Than whispering
foplings or than witlings loud,
Commenced (from such slight things
will great commence)
To feel that flattery
which attracts the proud,
Rather by deference than compliment,
And wins even by a delicate dissent.
And then he had good looks:
that point was carried
Nem. con. amongst
the women.
. . .
.
Now, though we
know of old that looks deceive,
And always have done, somehow these
good looks,
Make more impression than the best
of books.
Aurora, who looked more on books
than faces,
Was very young,
although so very sage:
Admiring more Minerva than the Graces,
Especially upon
a printed page.
But Virtue’s self, with all
her tightest laces,
Has not the natural
stays of strict old age;
And Socrates, that model of all
duty,
Owned to a penchant, though discreet
for beauty.’
The presence of this high-minded,
thoughtful, unworldly woman is described through two
cantos of the wild, rattling ‘Don Juan,’
in a manner that shows how deeply the poet was capable
of being affected by such an appeal to his higher
nature.
For instance, when Don Juan sits silent
and thoughtful amid a circle of persons who are talking
scandal, the poet says,
’’Tis true, he saw Aurora
look as though
She approved his
silence: she perhaps mistook
Its motive for that charity we owe,
But seldom pay,
the absent.
. . .
.
He gained esteem where it was worth
the most;
And certainly
Aurora had renewed
In him some feelings he had lately
lost
Or hardened, feelings
which, perhaps ideal,
Are so divine that I must deem them
real:
The love of higher things and better
days;
The unbounded
hope and heavenly ignorance
Of what is called the world and
the world’s ways;
The moments when
we gather from a glance
More joy than from all future pride
or praise,
Which kindled
manhood, but can ne’er entrance
The heart in an existence of its
own
Of which another’s bosom is
the zone.
And full of sentiments sublime as
billows
Heaving between
this world and worlds beyond,
Don Juan, when the midnight hour
of pillows
Arrived, retired
to his.’ . . .
In all these descriptions of a spiritual
unworldly nature acting on the spiritual and unworldly
part of his own nature, every one who ever knew Lady
Byron intimately must have recognised the model from
which he drew, and the experience from which he spoke,
even though nothing was further from his mind than
to pay this tribute to the woman he had injured, and
though before these lines, which showed how truly he
knew her real character, had come one stanza of ribald,
vulgar caricature, designed as a slight to her:
’There was Miss Millpond,
smooth as summer’s sea,
That usual paragon,
an only daughter,
Who seemed the cream of equanimity
’Till skimmed;
and then there was some milk and water;
With a slight shade of blue, too,
it might be,
Beneath the surface:
but what did it matter?
Love’s riotous; but marriage
should have quiet,
And, being consumptive, live on
a milk diet.’
The result of Byron’s intimacy
with Miss Milbanke and the enkindling of his nobler
feelings was an offer of marriage, which she, though
at the time deeply interested in him, declined with
many expressions of friendship and interest.
In fact, she already loved him, but had that doubt
of her power to be to him all that a wife should be,
which would be likely to arise in a mind so sensitively
constituted and so unworldly. They, however,
continued a correspondence as friends; on her part,
the interest continually increased; on his, the transient
rise of better feelings was choked and overgrown by
the thorns of base unworthy passions.
From the height at which he might
have been happy as the husband of a noble woman, he
fell into the depths of a secret adulterous intrigue
with a blood relation, so near in consanguinity, that
discovery must have been utter ruin and expulsion
from civilised society.
From henceforth, this damning guilty
secret became the ruling force in his life; holding
him with a morbid fascination, yet filling him with
remorse and anguish, and insane dread of detection.
Two years after his refusal by Miss Milbanke, his
various friends, seeing that for some cause he was
wretched, pressed marriage upon him.
Marriage has often been represented
as the proper goal and terminus of a wild and dissipated
career; and it has been supposed to be the appointed
mission of good women to receive wandering prodigals,
with all the rags and disgraces of their old life
upon them, and put rings on their hands, and shoes
on their feet, and introduce them, clothed and in their
right minds, to an honourable career in society.
Marriage was, therefore, universally
recommended to Lord Byron by his numerous friends
and well-wishers; and so he determined to marry, and,
in an hour of reckless desperation, sat down and wrote
proposals to two ladies. One was declined:
the other, which was accepted, was to Miss Milbanke.
The world knows well that he had the gift of expression,
and will not be surprised that he wrote a very beautiful
letter, and that the woman who had already learned
to love him fell at once into the snare.
Her answer was a frank, outspoken
avowal of her love for him, giving herself to him
heart and hand. The good in Lord Byron was not
so utterly obliterated that he could receive such
a letter without emotion, or practise such unfairness
on a loving, trusting heart without pangs of remorse.
He had sent the letter in mere recklessness; he had
not seriously expected to be accepted; and the discovery
of the treasure of affection which he had secured
was like a vision of lost heaven to a soul in hell.
But, nevertheless, in his letters
written about the engagement, there are sufficient
evidences that his self-love was flattered at the preference
accorded him by so superior a woman, and one who had
been so much sought. He mentions with an air
of complacency that she has employed the last two
years in refusing five or six of his acquaintance;
that he had no idea she loved him, admitting that
it was an old attachment on his part. He dwells
on her virtues with a sort of pride of ownership.
There is a sort of childish levity about the frankness
of these letters, very characteristic of the man who
skimmed over the deepest abysses with the lightest
jests. Before the world, and to his intimates,
he was acting the part of the successful fiance, conscious
all the while of the deadly secret that lay cold at
the bottom of his heart.
When he went to visit Miss Milbanke’s
parents as her accepted lover, she was struck with
his manner and appearance: she saw him moody and
gloomy, evidently wrestling with dark and desperate
thoughts, and anything but what a happy and accepted
lover should be. She sought an interview with
him alone, and told him that she had observed that
he was not happy in the engagement; and magnanimously
added, that, if on review, he found he had been mistaken
in the nature of his feelings, she would immediately
release him, and they should remain only friends.
Overcome with the conflict of his
feelings, Lord Byron fainted away. Miss Milbanke
was convinced that his heart must really be deeply
involved in an attachment with reference to which
he showed such strength of emotion, and she spoke
no more of a dissolution of the engagement.
There is no reason to doubt that Byron
was, as he relates in his ‘Dream,’ profoundly
agonized and agitated when he stood before God’s
altar with the trusting young creature whom he was
leading to a fate so awfully tragic; yet it was not
the memory of Mary Chaworth, but another guiltier
and more damning memory, that overshadowed that hour.
The moment the carriage-doors were
shut upon the bridegroom and the bride, the paroxysm
of remorse and despair unrepentant remorse
and angry despair broke forth upon her
gentle head:
’You might have saved me from
this, madam! You had all in your own power when
I offered myself to you first. Then you might
have made me what you pleased; but now you will find
that you have married a devil!’
In Miss Martineau’s Sketches,
recently published, is an account of the termination
of this wedding-journey, which brought them to one
of Lady Byron’s ancestral country seats, where
they were to spend the honeymoon.
Miss Martineau says,
’At the altar she did not know
that she was a sacrifice; but before sunset of that
winter day she knew it, if a judgment may be formed
from her face, and attitude of despair, when she alighted
from the carriage on the afternoon of her marriage-day.
It was not the traces of tears which won the sympathy
of the old butler who stood at the open door.
The bridegroom jumped out of the carriage and walked
away. The bride alighted, and came up the steps
alone, with a countenance and frame agonized and listless
with evident horror and despair. The old servant
longed to offer his arm to the young, lonely creature,
as an assurance of sympathy and protection.
From this shock she certainly rallied, and soon.
The pecuniary difficulties of her new home were exactly
what a devoted spirit like hers was fitted to encounter.
Her husband bore testimony, after the catastrophe,
that a brighter being, a more sympathising and agreeable
companion, never blessed any man’s home.
When he afterwards called her cold and mathematical,
and over-pious, and so forth, it was when public opinion
had gone against him, and when he had discovered that
her fidelity and mercy, her silence and magnanimity,
might be relied on, so that he was at full liberty
to make his part good, as far as she was concerned.
’Silent she was even to her
own parents, whose feelings she magnanimously spared.
She did not act rashly in leaving him, though she
had been most rash in marrying him.’
Not all at once did the full knowledge
of the dreadful reality into which she had entered
come upon the young wife. She knew vaguely, from
the wild avowals of the first hours of their marriage,
that there was a dreadful secret of guilt; that Byron’s
soul was torn with agonies of remorse, and that he
had no love to give to her in return for a love which
was ready to do and dare all for him. Yet bravely
she addressed herself to the task of soothing and
pleasing and calming the man whom she had taken ‘for
better or for worse.’
Young and gifted; with a peculiar
air of refined and spiritual beauty; graceful in every
movement; possessed of exquisite taste; a perfect
companion to his mind in all the higher walks of literary
culture; and with that infinite pliability to all
his varying, capricious moods which true love alone
can give; bearing in her hand a princely fortune, which,
with a woman’s uncalculating generosity, was
thrown at his feet, there is no wonder
that she might feel for a while as if she could enter
the lists with the very Devil himself, and fight with
a woman’s weapons for the heart of her husband.
There are indications scattered through
the letters of Lord Byron, which, though brief indeed,
showed that his young wife was making every effort
to accommodate herself to him, and to give him a cheerful
home. One of the poems that he sends to his
publisher about this time, he speaks of as being copied
by her. He had always the highest regard for
her literary judgments and opinions; and this little
incident shows that she was already associating herself
in a wifely fashion with his aims as an author.
The poem copied by her, however, has
a sad meaning, which she afterwards learned to understand
only too well:
’There’s not a joy the
world can give like that it takes away
When the glow of early thought declines
in feeling’s dull decay:
’Tis not on youth’s
smooth cheek the blush alone that fades so fast;
But the tender bloom of heart is
gone e’er youth itself be past.
Then the few whose spirits float
above the wreck of happiness
Are driven o’er the shoals
of guilt, or ocean of excess:
The magnet of their course is gone,
or only points in vain
The shore to which their shivered
sail shall never stretch again.’
Only a few days before she left him
for ever, Lord Byron sent Murray manuscripts, in Lady
Byron’s handwriting, of the ‘Siege of Corinth,’
and ‘Parisina,’ and wrote,
’I am very glad that the handwriting
was a favourable omen of the morale of the piece:
but you must not trust to that; for my copyist would
write out anything I desired, in all the ignorance
of innocence.’
There were lucid intervals in which
Lord Byron felt the charm of his wife’s mind,
and the strength of her powers. ’Bell,
you could be a poet too, if you only thought so,’
he would say. There were summer-hours in her
stormy life, the memory of which never left her, when
Byron was as gentle and tender as he was beautiful;
when he seemed to be possessed by a good angel:
and then for a little time all the ideal possibilities
of his nature stood revealed.
The most dreadful men to live with
are those who thus alternate between angel and devil.
The buds of hope and love called out by a day or two
of sunshine are frozen again and again, till the tree
is killed.
But there came an hour of revelation, an
hour when, in a manner which left no kind of room
for doubt, Lady Byron saw the full depth of the abyss
of infamy which her marriage was expected to cover,
and understood that she was expected to be the cloak
and the accomplice of this infamy.
Many women would have been utterly
crushed by such a disclosure; some would have fled
from him immediately, and exposed and denounced the
crime. Lady Byron did neither. When all
the hope of womanhood died out of her heart, there
arose within her, stronger, purer, and brighter, that
immortal kind of love such as God feels for the sinner, the
love of which Jesus spoke, and which holds the one
wanderer of more account than the ninety and nine
that went not astray. She would neither leave
her husband nor betray him, nor yet would she for
one moment justify his sin; and hence came two years
of convulsive struggle, in which sometimes, for a
while, the good angel seemed to gain ground, and then
the evil one returned with sevenfold vehemence.
Lord Byron argued his case with himself
and with her with all the sophistries of his powerful
mind. He repudiated Christianity as authority;
asserted the right of every human being to follow out
what he called ‘the impulses of nature.’
Subsequently he introduced into one of his dramas
the reasoning by which he justified himself in incest.
In the drama of ‘Cain,’
Adah, the sister and the wife of Cain, thus addresses
him:
’Cain, walk
not with this spirit.
Bear with what we have borne, and
love me: I
Love thee.
Lucifer. More than thy mother
and thy sire?
Adah. I do. Is that
a sin, too?
Lucifer.
No, not yet:
It one day will be in your children.
Adah.
What!
Must not my daughter love her brother
Enoch?
Lucifer. Not as thou lovest
Cain.
Adah.
O my God!
Shall they not love, and bring forth
things that love
Out of their love? Have they
not drawn their milk
Out of this bosom? Was not
he, their father,
Born of the same sole womb, in the
same hour
With me? Did we not love each
other, and,
In multiplying our being, multiply
Things which will love each other
as we love
Them? And as I love thee,
my Cain, go not
Forth with this spirit: he
is not of ours.
Lucifer. The sin I speak of
is not of my making
And cannot be a sin in you, whate’er
It seems in those who will replace
ye in
Mortality.
Adah. What is the sin which
is not
Sin in itself? Can circumstance
make sin
Of virtue? If it doth, we
are the slaves
Of’
Lady Byron, though slight and almost
infantine in her bodily presence, had the soul, not
only of an angelic woman, but of a strong reasoning
man. It was the writer’s lot to know her
at a period when she formed the personal acquaintance
of many of the very first minds of England; but, among
all with whom this experience brought her in connection,
there was none who impressed her so strongly as Lady
Byron. There was an almost supernatural power
of moral divination, a grasp of the very highest and
most comprehensive things, that made her lightest opinions
singularly impressive. No doubt, this result
was wrought out in a great degree from the anguish
and conflict of these two years, when, with no one
to help or counsel her but Almighty God, she wrestled
and struggled with fiends of darkness for the redemption
of her husband’s soul.
She followed him through all his sophistical
reasonings with a keener reason. She besought
and implored, in the name of his better nature, and
by all the glorious things that he was capable of being
and doing; and she had just power enough to convulse
and shake and agonise, but not power enough to subdue.
One of the first of living writers,
in the novel of ‘Romola,’ has given, in
her masterly sketch of the character of Tito, the whole
history of the conflict of a woman like Lady Byron
with a nature like that of her husband. She
has described a being full of fascinations and sweetnesses,
full of generosities and of good-natured impulses;
a nature that could not bear to give pain, or to see
it in others, but entirely destitute of any firm moral
principle; she shows how such a being, merely by yielding
step by step to the impulses of passion, and disregarding
the claims of truth and right, becomes involved in
a fatality of evil, in which deceit, crime, and cruelty
are a necessity, forcing him to persist in the basest
ingratitude to the father who has done all for him,
and hard-hearted treachery to the high-minded wife
who has given herself to him wholly.
There are few scenes in literature
more fearfully tragic than the one between Romola
and Tito, when he finally discovers that she knows
him fully, and can be deceived by him no more.
Some such hour always must come for strong decided
natures irrevocably pledged one to the service
of good, and the other to the slavery of evil.
The demoniac cried out, ’What have I to do
with thee, Jesus of Nazareth? Art thou come to
torment me before the time?’ The presence of
all-pitying purity and love was a torture to the soul
possessed by the demon of evil.
These two years in which Lady Byron
was with all her soul struggling to bring her husband
back to his better self were a series of passionate
convulsions.
During this time, such was the disordered
and desperate state of his worldly affairs, that there
were ten executions for debt levied on their family
establishment; and it was Lady Byron’s fortune
each time which settled the account.
Toward the last, she and her husband
saw less and less of each other; and he came more
and more decidedly under evil influences, and seemed
to acquire a sort of hatred of her.
Lady Byron once said significantly
to a friend who spoke of some causeless dislike in
another, ’My dear, I have known people to be
hated for no other reason than because they impersonated
conscience.’
The biographers of Lord Byron, and
all his apologists, are careful to narrate how sweet
and amiable and obliging he was to everybody who approached
him; and the saying of Fletcher, his man-servant, that
‘anybody could do anything with my Lord, except
my Lady,’ has often been quoted.
The reason of all this will now be
evident. ‘My Lady’ was the only one,
fully understanding the deep and dreadful secrets of
his life, who had the courage resolutely and persistently
and inflexibly to plant herself in his way, and insist
upon it, that, if he went to destruction, it should
be in spite of her best efforts.
He had tried his strength with her
fully. The first attempt had been to make her
an accomplice by sophistry; by destroying her faith
in Christianity, and confusing her sense of right
and wrong, to bring her into the ranks of those convenient
women who regard the marriage-tie only as a friendly
alliance to cover licence on both sides.
When her husband described to her
the Continental latitude (the good-humoured marriage,
in which complaisant couples mutually agreed to form
the cloak for each other’s infidelities), and
gave her to understand that in this way alone she
could have a peaceful and friendly life with him,
she answered him simply, ‘I am too truly your
friend to do this.’
When Lord Byron found that he had
to do with one who would not yield, who knew him fully,
who could not be blinded and could not be deceived,
he determined to rid himself of her altogether.
It was when the state of affairs between
herself and her husband seemed darkest and most hopeless,
that the only child of this union was born. Lord
Byron’s treatment of his wife during the sensitive
period that preceded the birth of this child, and
during her confinement, was marked by paroxysms of
unmanly brutality, for which the only possible charity
on her part was the supposition of insanity.
Moore sheds a significant light on this period, by
telling us that, about this time, Byron was often
drunk, day after day, with Sheridan. There had
been insanity in the family; and this was the plea
which Lady Byron’s love put in for him.
She regarded him as, if not insane, at least so nearly
approaching the boundaries of insanity as to be a
subject of forbearance and tender pity; and she loved
him with that love resembling a mother’s, which
good wives often feel when they have lost all faith
in their husband’s principles, and all hopes
of their affections. Still, she was in heart
and soul his best friend; true to him with a truth
which he himself could not shake.
In the verses addressed to his daughter,
Lord Byron speaks of her as
’The child of love, though
born in bitterness,
And nurtured in convulsion.’
A day or two after the birth of this
child, Lord Byron came suddenly into Lady Byron’s
room, and told her that her mother was dead.
It was an utter falsehood; but it was only one of
the many nameless injuries and cruelties by which
he expressed his hatred of her. A short time
after her confinement, she was informed by him, in
a note, that, as soon as she was able to travel, she
must go; that he could not and would not longer have
her about him; and, when her child was only five weeks
old, he carried this threat of expulsion into effect.
Here we will insert briefly Lady Byron’s
own account (the only one she ever gave to the public)
of this separation. The circumstances under
which this brief story was written are affecting.
Lord Byron was dead. The whole
account between him and her was closed for ever in
this world. Moore’s ‘Life’
had been prepared, containing simply and solely Lord
Byron’s own version of their story. Moore
sent this version to Lady Byron, and requested to
know if she had any remarks to make upon it.
In reply, she sent a brief statement to him, the
first and only one that had come from her during all
the years of the separation, and which appears to
have mainly for its object the exculpation of her
father and mother from the charge, made by the poet,
of being the instigators of the separation.
In this letter, she says, with regard
to their separation,
’The facts are, I left London
for Kirkby Mallory, the residence of my father and
mother, on the 15th of January, 1816. LORD BYRON
HAD SIGNIFIED TO ME IN WRITING, JA, HIS ABSOLUTE
DESIRE THAT I SHOULD LEAVE LONDON ON THE EARLIEST
DAY THAT I COULD CONVENIENTLY FIX. It was not
safe for me to undertake the fatigue of a journey sooner
than the 15th. Previously to my departure, it
had been strongly impressed upon my mind that Lord
Byron was under the influence of insanity. This
opinion was derived, in a great measure, from the
communications made me by his nearest relatives and
personal attendant, who had more opportunity than
myself for observing him during the latter part of
my stay in town. It was even represented to
me that he was in danger of destroying himself.
’With the concurrence of his
family, I had consulted Dr. Baillie as a friend (Ja respecting the supposed malady. On acquainting
him with the state of the case, and with Lord Byron’s
desire that I should leave London, Dr. Baillie thought
that my absence might be advisable as an experiment,
assuming the fact of mental derangement; for Dr. Baillie,
not having had access to Lord Byron, could not pronounce
a positive opinion on that point. He enjoined
that, in correspondence with Lord Byron, I should
avoid all but light and soothing topics. Under
these impressions, I left London, determined to follow
the advice given by Dr. Baillie. Whatever might
have been the conduct of Lord Byron toward me from
the time of my marriage, yet, supposing him to be
in a state of mental alienation, it was not for me,
nor for any person of common humanity, to manifest
at that moment a sense of injury.’
Nothing more than this letter from
Lady Byron is necessary to substantiate the fact,
that she did not leave her husband, but was driven
from him, driven from him that he might
give himself up to the guilty infatuation that was
consuming him, without being tortured by her imploring
face, and by the silent power of her presence and her
prayers.
For a long time before this, she had
seen little of him. On the day of her departure,
she passed by the door of his room, and stopped to
caress his favourite spaniel, which was lying there;
and she confessed to a friend the weakness of feeling
a willingness even to be something as humble as that
poor little creature, might she only be allowed to
remain and watch over him. She went into the
room where he and the partner of his sins were sitting
together, and said, ‘Byron, I come to say goodbye,’
offering, at the same time, her hand.
Lord Byron put his hands behind him,
retreated to the mantel-piece, and, looking on the
two that stood there, with a sarcastic smile said,
’When shall we three meet again?’ Lady
Byron answered, ‘In heaven, I trust’.
And those were her last words to him on earth.
Now, if the reader wishes to understand
the real talents of Lord Byron for deception and dissimulation,
let him read, with this story in his mind, the ‘Fare
thee well,’ which he addressed to Lady Byron
through the printer:
’Fare thee well; and if for
ever,
Still for ever
fare thee well!
Even though unforgiving, never
’Gainst
thee shall my heart rebel.
Would that breast were bared before
thee
Where thy head
so oft hath lain,
While that placid sleep came o’er
thee
Thou canst never
know again!
Though my many faults defaced me,
Could no other
arm be found
Than the one which once embraced
me
To inflict a careless
wound?’
The re-action of society against him
at the time of the separation from his wife was something
which he had not expected, and for which, it appears,
he was entirely unprepared. It broke up the guilty
intrigue and drove him from England. He had
not courage to meet or endure it. The world,
to be sure, was very far from suspecting what the truth
was: but the tide was setting against him with
such vehemence as to make him tremble every hour lest
the whole should be known; and henceforth, it became
a warfare of desperation to make his story good, no
matter at whose expense.
He had tact enough to perceive at
first that the assumption of the pathetic and the
magnanimous, and general confessions of faults, accompanied
with admissions of his wife’s goodness, would
be the best policy in his case. In this mood,
he thus writes to Moore:
’The fault was not in my choice
(unless in choosing at all); for I do not believe
(and I must say it in the very dregs of all this bitter
business) that there ever was a better, or even a
brighter, a kinder, or a more amiable, agreeable being
than Lady Byron. I never had, nor can have, any
reproach to make her while with me. Where there
is blame, it belongs to myself.’
As there must be somewhere a scapegoat
to bear the sin of the affair, Lord Byron wrote a
poem called ‘A Sketch,’ in which he lays
the blame of stirring up strife on a friend and former
governess of Lady Byron’s; but in this sketch
he introduces the following just eulogy on Lady Byron:
’Foiled
was perversion by that youthful mind
Which flattery fooled not, baseness
could not blind,
Deceit infect not, near contagion
soil,
Indulgence weaken, nor example spoil,
Nor mastered science tempt her to
look down
On humbler talents with a pitying
frown,
Nor genius swell, nor beauty render
vain,
Nor envy ruffle to retaliate pain,
Nor fortune change, pride raise,
nor passion bow,
Nor virtue teach austerity, till
now;
Serenely purest of her sex that
live,
But wanting one sweet weakness, to
forgive;
Too shocked at faults her soul can
never know,
She deemed that all could be like
her below:
Foe to all vice, yet hardly Virtue’s
friend;
For Virtue pardons those she would
amend.’
In leaving England, Lord Byron first
went to Switzerland, where he conceived and in part
wrote out the tragedy of ‘Manfred.’
Moore speaks of his domestic misfortunes, and the
sufferings which he underwent at this time, as having
influence in stimulating his genius, so that he was
enabled to write with a greater power.
Anybody who reads the tragedy of ‘Manfred’
with this story in his mind will see that it is true.
The hero is represented as a gloomy
misanthrope, dwelling with impenitent remorse on the
memory of an incestuous passion which has been the
destruction of his sister for this life and the life
to come, but which, to the very last gasp, he despairingly
refuses to repent of, even while he sees the fiends
of darkness rising to take possession of his departing
soul. That Byron knew his own guilt well, and
judged himself severely, may be gathered from passages
in this poem, which are as powerful as human language
can be made; for instance this part of the ‘incantation,’
which Moore says was written at this time:
’Though thy slumber may be
deep,
Yet thy spirit shall not sleep:
There are shades which will not
vanish;
There are thoughts thou canst not
banish.
By a power to thee unknown,
Thou canst never be alone:
Thou art wrapt as with a shroud;
Thou art gathered in a cloud;
And for ever shalt thou dwell
In the spirit of this spell.
. .
. .
From thy false tears I did distil
An essence which had strength to
kill;
From thy own heart I then did wring
The black blood in its blackest
spring;
From thy own smile I snatched the
snake,
For there it coiled as in a brake;
From thy own lips I drew the charm
Which gave all these their chiefest
harm:
In proving every poison known,
I found the strongest was thine
own.
By thy cold breast and serpent smile,
By thy unfathomed gulfs of guile,
By that most seeming virtuous eye,
By thy shut soul’s hypocrisy,
By the perfection of thine art
Which passed for human thine own
heart,
By thy delight in other’s
pain,
And by thy brotherhood of Cain,
I call upon thee, and compel
Thyself to be thy proper hell!’
Again: he represents Manfred
as saying to the old abbot, who seeks to bring him
to repentance,
’Old man, there is no power
in holy men,
Nor charm in prayer, nor purifying
form
Of penitence, nor outward look,
nor fast,
Nor agony, nor greater than all
these,
The innate tortures of that deep
despair,
Which is remorse without the fear
of hell,
But, all in all sufficient to itself,
Would make a hell of heaven, can
exorcise
From out the unbounded spirit the
quick sense
Of its own sins, wrongs, sufferance,
and revenge
Upon itself: there is no future
pang
Can deal that justice on the self-condemned
He deals on his own soul.’
And when the abbot tells him,
’All this
is well;
For this will pass away, and be
succeeded
By an auspicious hope, which shall
look up
With calm assurance to that blessed
place
Which all who seek may win, whatever
be
Their earthly errors,’
he answers,
‘It is too late.’
Then the old abbot soliloquises:
’This should have been a noble
creature: he
Hath all the energy which would
have made
A goodly frame of glorious elements,
Had they been wisely mingled; as
it is,
It is an awful chaos, light
and darkness,
And mind and dust, and passions
and pure thoughts,
Mixed, and contending without end
or order.’
The world can easily see, in Moore’s
Biography, what, after this, was the course of Lord
Byron’s life; how he went from shame to shame,
and dishonour to dishonour, and used the fortune which
his wife brought him in the manner described in those
private letters which his biographer was left to print.
Moore, indeed, says Byron had made the resolution
not to touch his lady’s fortune; but adds, that
it required more self-command than he possessed to
carry out so honourable a purpose.
Lady Byron made but one condition
with him. She had him in her power; and she
exacted that the unhappy partner of his sins should
not follow him out of England, and that the ruinous
intrigue should be given up. Her inflexibility
on this point kept up that enmity which was constantly
expressing itself in some publication or other, and
which drew her and her private relations with him
before the public.
The story of what Lady Byron did with
the portion of her fortune which was reserved to her
is a record of noble and skilfully administered charities.
Pitiful and wise and strong, there was no form of
human suffering or sorrow that did not find with her
refuge and help. She gave not only systematically,
but also impulsively.
Miss Martineau claims for her the
honour of having first invented practical schools,
in which the children of the poor were turned into
agriculturists, artizans, seamstresses, and good wives
for poor men. While she managed with admirable
skill and economy permanent institutions of this sort,
she was always ready to relieve suffering in any form.
The fugitive slaves William and Ellen Crafts, escaping
to England, were fostered by her protecting care.
In many cases where there was distress
or anxiety from poverty among those too self-respecting
to make their sufferings known, the delicate hand
of Lady Byron ministered to the want with a consideration
which spared the most refined feelings.
As a mother, her course was embarrassed
by peculiar trials. The daughter inherited from
the father not only brilliant talents, but a restlessness
and morbid sensibility which might be too surely traced
to the storms and agitations of the period in which
she was born. It was necessary to bring her
up in ignorance of the true history of her mother’s
life; and the consequence was that she could not fully
understand that mother.
During her early girlhood, her career
was a source of more anxiety than of comfort.
She married a man of fashion, ran a brilliant course
as a gay woman of fashion, and died early of a lingering
and painful disease.
In the silence and shaded retirement
of the sick-room, the daughter came wholly back to
her mother’s arms and heart; and it was on that
mother’s bosom that she leaned as she went down
into the dark valley. It was that mother who
placed her weak and dying hand in that of her Almighty
Saviour.
To the children left by her daughter,
she ministered with the faithfulness of a guardian
angel; and it is owing to her influence that those
who yet remain are among the best and noblest of mankind.
The person whose relations with Byron
had been so disastrous, also, in the latter years
of her life, felt Lady Byron’s loving and ennobling
influences, and, in her last sickness and dying hours,
looked to her for consolation and help.
There was an unfortunate child of
sin, born with the curse upon her, over whose wayward
nature Lady Byron watched with a mother’s tenderness.
She was the one who could have patience when the
patience of every one else failed; and though her
task was a difficult one, from the strange abnormal
propensities to evil in the object of her cares, yet
Lady Byron never faltered, and never gave over, till
death took the responsibility from her hands.
During all this trial, strange to
say, her belief that the good in Lord Byron would
finally conquer was unshaken.
To a friend who said to her, ‘Oh!
how could you love him?’ she answered briefly,
‘My dear, there was the angel in him.’
It is in us all.
It was in this angel that she had
faith. It was for the deliverance of this angel
from degradation and shame and sin that she unceasingly
prayed. She read every work that Byron wrote read
it with a deeper knowledge than any human being but
herself could possess. The ribaldry and the
obscenity and the insults with which he strove to make
her ridiculous in the world fell at her pitying feet
unheeded.
When he broke away from all this unworthy
life to devote himself to a manly enterprise for the
redemption of Greece, she thought that she saw the
beginning of an answer to her prayers. Even although
one of his latest acts concerning her was to repeat
to Lady Blessington the false accusation which made
Lady Byron the author of all his errors, she still
had hopes from the one step taken in the right direction.
In the midst of these hopes came the
news of his sudden death. On his death-bed,
it is well-known that he called his confidential English
servant to him, and said to him, ’Go to my sister;
tell her Go to Lady Byron, you
will see her, and say’
Here followed twenty minutes of indistinct
mutterings, in which the names of his wife, daughter,
and sister, frequently occurred. He then said,
‘Now I have told you all.’
‘My lord,’ replied Fletcher,
’I have not understood a word your lordship
has been saying.’
‘Not understand me!’ exclaimed
Lord Byron with a look of the utmost distress:
‘what a pity! Then it is too late, all
is over!’ He afterwards, says Moore, tried
to utter a few words, of which none were intelligible
except ‘My sister my child.’
When Fletcher returned to London,
Lady Byron sent for him, and walked the room in convulsive
struggles to repress her tears and sobs, while she
over and over again strove to elicit something from
him which should enlighten her upon what that last
message had been; but in vain: the gates of eternity
were shut in her face, and not a word had passed to
tell her if he had repented.
For all that, Lady Byron never doubted
his salvation. Ever before her, during the few
remaining years of her widowhood, was the image of
her husband, purified and ennobled, with the shadows
of earth for ever dissipated, the stains of sin for
ever removed; ‘the angel in him,’ as she
expressed it, ‘made perfect, according to its
divine ideal.’
Never has more divine strength of
faith and love existed in woman. Out of the
depths of her own loving and merciful nature, she gained
such views of the divine love and mercy as made all
hopes possible. There was no soul of whose future
Lady Byron despaired, such was her boundless
faith in the redeeming power of love.
After Byron’s death, the life
of this delicate creature so frail in body
that she seemed always hovering on the brink of the
eternal world, yet so strong in spirit, and so unceasing
in her various ministries of mercy was
a miracle of mingled weakness and strength.
To talk with her seemed to the writer
of this sketch the nearest possible approach to talking
with one of the spirits of the just made perfect.
She was gentle, artless; approachable
as a little child; with ready, outflowing sympathy
for the cares and sorrows and interests of all who
approached her; with a naïve and gentle playfulness,
that adorned, without hiding, the breadth and strength
of her mind; and, above all, with a clear, divining,
moral discrimination; never mistaking wrong for right
in the slightest shade, yet with a mercifulness that
made allowance for every weakness, and pitied every
sin.
There was so much of Christ in her,
that to have seen her seemed to be to have drawn near
to heaven. She was one of those few whom absence
cannot estrange from friends; whose mere presence
in this world seems always a help to every generous
thought, a strength to every good purpose, a comfort
in every sorrow.
Living so near the confines of the
spiritual world, she seemed already to see into it:
hence the words of comfort which she addressed to a
friend who had lost a son:
’Dear friend, remember, as long
as our loved ones are in God’s world, they are
in ours.’
It has been thought by some friends
who have read the proof-sheets of the foregoing that
the author should give more specifically her authority
for these statements.
The circumstances which led the writer
to England at a certain time originated a friendship
and correspondence with Lady Byron, which was always
regarded as one of the greatest acquisitions of that
visit.
On the occasion of a second visit
to England, in 1856, the writer received a note from
Lady Byron, indicating that she wished to have some
private, confidential conversation upon important subjects,
and inviting her, for that purpose, to spend a day
with her at her country-seat near London,
The writer went and spent a day with
Lady Byron alone; and the object of the invitation
was explained to her. Lady Byron was in such
a state of health, that her physicians had warned
her that she had very little time to live. She
was engaged in those duties and rétrospections
which every thoughtful person finds necessary, when
coming deliberately, and with open eyes, to the boundaries
of this mortal life.
At that time, there was a cheap edition
of Byron’s works in contemplation, intended
to bring his writings into circulation among the masses;
and the pathos arising from the story of his domestic
misfortunes was one great means relied on for giving
it currency.
Under these circumstances, some of
Lady Byron’s friends had proposed the question
to her, whether she had not a responsibility to society
for the truth; whether she did right to allow these
writings to gain influence over the popular mind by
giving a silent consent to what she knew to be utter
falsehoods.
Lady Byron’s whole life had
been passed in the most heroic self-abnegation and
self-sacrifice: and she had now to consider whether
one more act of self-denial was not required of her
before leaving this world; namely, to declare the
absolute truth, no matter at what expense to her own
feelings.
For this reason, it was her desire
to recount the whole history to a person of another
country, and entirely out of the sphere of personal
and local feelings which might be supposed to influence
those in the country and station in life where the
events really happened, in order that she might be
helped by such a person’s views in making up
an opinion as to her own duty.
The interview had almost the solemnity
of a death-bed avowal. Lady Byron stated the
facts which have been embodied in this article, and
gave to the writer a paper containing a brief memorandum
of the whole, with the dates affixed.
We have already spoken of that singular
sense of the reality of the spiritual world which
seemed to encompass Lady Byron during the last part
of her life, and which made her words and actions seem
more like those of a blessed being detached from earth
than of an ordinary mortal. All her modes of
looking at things, all her motives of action, all her
involuntary exhibitions of emotion, were so high above
any common level, and so entirely regulated by the
most unworldly causes, that it would seem difficult
to make the ordinary world understand exactly how the
thing seemed to lie before her mind. What impressed
the writer more strongly than anything else was Lady
Byron’s perfect conviction that her husband
was now a redeemed spirit; that he looked back with
pain and shame and regret on all that was unworthy
in his past life; and that, if he could speak or could
act in the case, he would desire to prevent the further
circulation of base falsehoods, and of seductive poetry,
which had been made the vehicle of morbid and unworthy
passions.
Lady Byron’s experience had
led her to apply the powers of her strong philosophical
mind to the study of mental pathology: and she
had become satisfied that the solution of the painful
problem which first occurred to her as a young wife,
was, after all, the true one; namely, that Lord Byron
had been one of those unfortunately constituted persons
in whom the balance of nature is so critically hung,
that it is always in danger of dipping towards insanity;
and that, in certain periods of his life, he was so
far under the influence of mental disorder as not to
be fully responsible for his actions.
She went over with a brief and clear
analysis the history of his whole life as she had
thought it out during the lonely musings of her widowhood.
She dwelt on the ancestral causes that gave him a
nature of exceptional and dangerous susceptibility.
She went through the mismanagements of his childhood,
the history of his school-days, the influence of the
ordinary school-course of classical reading on such
a mind as his. She sketched boldly and clearly
the internal life of the young men of the time, as
she, with her purer eyes, had looked through it; and
showed how habits, which, with less susceptible fibre,
and coarser strength of nature, were tolerable for
his companions, were deadly to him, unhinging his
nervous system, and intensifying the dangers of ancestral
proclivities. Lady Byron expressed the feeling
too, that the Calvinistic theology, as heard in Scotland,
had proved in his case, as it often does in certain
minds, a subtle poison. He never could either
disbelieve or become reconciled to it; and the sore
problems it proposes embittered his spirit against
Christianity.
‘The worst of it is, I do believe,’
he would often say with violence, when he had been
employing all his powers of reason, wit, and ridicule
upon these subjects.
Through all this sorrowful history
was to be seen, not the care of a slandered woman
to make her story good, but the pathetic anxiety of
a mother, who treasures every particle of hope, every
intimation of good, in the son whom she cannot cease
to love. With indescribable resignation, she
dwelt on those last hours, those words addressed to
her, never to be understood till repeated in eternity.
But all this she looked upon as for
ever past; believing, that, with the dropping of the
earthly life, these morbid impulses and influences
ceased, and that higher nature which he often so beautifully
expressed in his poems became the triumphant one.
While speaking on this subject, her
pale ethereal face became luminous with a heavenly
radiance; there was something so sublime in her belief
in the victory of love over evil, that faith with
her seemed to have become sight. She seemed
so clearly to perceive the divine ideal of the man
she had loved, and for whose salvation she had been
called to suffer and labour and pray, that all memories
of his past unworthiness fell away, and were lost.
Her love was never the doting fondness
of weak women; it was the appreciative and discriminating
love by which a higher nature recognised god-like
capabilities under all the dust and defilement of misuse
and passion: and she never doubted that the love
which in her was so strong, that no injury or insult
could shake it, was yet stronger in the God who made
her capable of such a devotion, and that in him it
was accompanied by power to subdue all things to itself.
The writer was so impressed and excited
by the whole scene and recital, that she begged for
two or three days to deliberate before forming any
opinion. She took the memorandum with her, returned
to London, and gave a day or two to the consideration
of the subject. The decision which she made
was chiefly influenced by her reverence and affection
for Lady Byron. She seemed so frail, she had
suffered so much, she stood at such a height above
the comprehension of the coarse and common world, that
the author had a feeling that it would almost be like
violating a shrine to ask her to come forth from the
sanctuary of a silence where she had so long abode,
and plead her cause. She wrote to Lady Byron,
that while this act of justice did seem to be called
for, and to be in some respects most desirable, yet,
as it would involve so much that was painful to her,
the writer considered that Lady Byron would be entirely
justifiable in leaving the truth to be disclosed after
her death; and recommended that all the facts necessary
should be put in the hands of some person, to be so
published.
Years passed on. Lady Byron
lingered four years after this interview, to the wonder
of her physicians and all her friends.
After Lady Byron’s death, the
writer looked anxiously, hoping to see a Memoir of
the person whom she considered the most remarkable
woman that England has produced in the century.
No such Memoir has appeared on the part of her friends;
and the mistress of Lord Byron has the ear of the
public, and is sowing far and wide unworthy slanders,
which are eagerly gathered up and read by an undiscriminating
community.
There may be family reasons in England
which prevent Lady Byron’s friends from speaking.
But Lady Byron has an American name and an American
existence; and reverence for pure womanhood is, we
think, a national characteristic of the American;
and, so far as this country is concerned, we feel
that the public should have this refutation of the
slanders of the Countess Guiccioli’s book.
LORD LINDSAY’S LETTER TO THE LONDON ‘TIMES.’
TO THE EDITOR OF ‘THE TIMES.’
SIR, I have waited in expectation
of a categorical denial of the horrible charge brought
by Mrs. Beecher Stowe against Lord Byron and his sister
on the alleged authority of the late Lady Byron.
Such denial has been only indirectly given by the
letter of Messrs. Wharton and Fords in your impression
of yesterday. That letter is sufficient to prove
that Lady Byron never contemplated the use made of
her name, and that her descendants and representatives
disclaim any countenance of Mrs. B. Stowe’s
article; but it does not specifically meet Mrs. Stowe’s
allegation, that Lady Byron, in conversing with her
thirteen years ago, affirmed the charge now before
us. It remains open, therefore, to a scandal-loving
world, to credit the calumny through the advantage
of this flaw, involuntary, I believe, in the answer
produced against it. My object in addressing
you is to supply that deficiency by proving that what
is now stated on Lady Byron’s supposed authority
is at variance, in all respects, with what she stated
immediately after the separation, when everything
was fresh in her memory in relation to the time during
which, according to Mrs. B. Stowe, she believed that
Byron and his sister were living together in guilt.
I publish this evidence with reluctance, but in obedience
to that higher obligation of justice to the voiceless
and defenceless dead which bids me break through a
reserve that otherwise I should have held sacred.
The Lady Byron of 1818 would, I am certain, have
sanctioned my doing so, had she foreseen the present
unparalleled occasion, and the bar that the conditions
of her will present (as I infer from Messrs Wharton
and Fords’ letter) against any fuller communication.
Calumnies such as the present sink deep and with rapidity
into the public mind, and are not easily eradicated.
The fame of one of our greatest poets, and that of
the kindest and truest and most constant friend that
Byron ever had, is at stake; and it will not do to
wait for revelations from the fountain-head, which
are not promised, and possibly may never reach us.
The late Lady Anne Barnard, who died
in 1825, a contemporary and friend of Burke, Windham,
Dundas, and a host of the wise and good of that generation,
and remembered in letters as the authoress of ’Auld
Robin Gray,’ had known the late Lady Byron from
infancy, and took a warm interest in her; holding
Lord Byron in corresponding repugnance, not to say
prejudice, in consequence of what she believed to be
his harsh and cruel treatment of her young friend.
I transcribe the following passages, and a letter
from Lady Byron herself (written in 1818) from ricordi,
or private family memoirs, in Lady Anne’s autograph,
now before me. I include the letter, because,
although treating only in general terms of the matter
and causes of the separation, it affords collateral
evidence bearing strictly upon the point of the credibility
of the charge now in question:
’The separation of Lord and
Lady Byron astonished the world, which believed him
a reformed man as to his habits, and a becalmed man
as to his remorses. He had written nothing that
appeared after his marriage till the famous “Fare
thee well,” which had the power of compelling
those to pity the writer who were not well aware that
he was not the unhappy person he affected to be.
Lady Byron’s misery was whispered soon after
her marriage and his ill usage, but no word transpired,
no sign escaped, from her. She gave birth, shortly,
to a daughter; and when she went, as soon as she was
recovered, on a visit to her father’s, taking
her little Ada with her, no one knew that it was to
return to her lord no more. At that period,
a severe fit of illness had confined me to bed for
two months. I heard of Lady Byron’s distress;
of the pains he took to give a harsh impression of
her character to the world. I wrote to her, and
entreated her to come and let me see and hear her,
if she conceived my sympathy or counsel could be any
comfort to her. She came; but what a tale was
unfolded by this interesting young creature, who had
so fondly hoped to have made a young man of genius
and romance (as she supposed) happy! They had
not been an hour in the carriage which conveyed them
from the church, when, breaking into a malignant sneer,
“Oh! what a dupe you have been to your imagination!
How is it possible a woman of your sense could form
the wild hope of reforming me? Many are the tears
you will have to shed ere that plan is accomplished.
It is enough for me that you are my wife for me to
hate you! If you were the wife of any other
man, I own you might have charms,” etc.
I who listened was astonished. “How could
you go on after this,” said I, “my dear?
Why did you not return to your father’s?”
“Because I had not a conception he was in earnest;
because I reckoned it a bad jest, and told him so, that
my opinions of him were very different from his of
himself, otherwise he would not find me by his side.
He laughed it over when he saw me appear hurt:
and I forgot what had passed, till forced to remember
it. I believe he was pleased with me, too, for
a little while. I suppose it had escaped his
memory that I was his wife.” But she described
the happiness they enjoyed to have been unequal and
perturbed. Her situation, in a short time, might
have entitled her to some tenderness; but she made
no claim on him for any. He sometimes reproached
her for the motives that had induced her to marry
him: all was “vanity, the vanity of Miss
Milbanke carrying the point of reforming Lord Byron!
He always knew her inducements; her pride shut her
eyes to his: he wished to build up his character
and his fortunes; both were somewhat deranged:
she had a high name, and would have a fortune worth
his attention, let her look to that for
his motives!” “O Byron, Byron!”
she said, “how you desolate me!” He would
then accuse himself of being mad, and throw himself
on the ground in a frenzy, which she believed was affected
to conceal the coldness and malignity of his heart, an
affectation which at that time never failed to meet
with the tenderest commiseration. I could find
by some implications, not followed up by me, lest she
might have condemned herself afterwards for her involuntary
disclosures, that he soon attempted to corrupt her
principles, both with respect to her own conduct and
her latitude for his. She saw the precipice on
which she stood, and kept his sister with her as much
as possible. He returned in the evenings from
the haunts of vice, where he made her understand he
had been, with manners so profligate! “O
the wretch!” said I. “And had he
no moments of remorse?” “Sometimes he
appeared to have them. One night, coming home
from one of his lawless parties, he saw me so indignantly
collected, and bearing all with such a determined calmness,
that a rush of remorse seemed to come over him.
He called himself a monster, though his sister was
present, and threw himself in agony at my feet.
I could not no I could not
forgive him such injuries. He had lost me for
ever! Astonished at the return of virtue, my
tears, I believe, flowed over his face, and I said,
’Byron, all is forgotten: never, never shall
you hear of it more!’ He started up, and, folding
his arms while he looked at me, burst into laughter.
‘What do you mean?’ said I. ’Only
a philosophical experiment; that’s all,’
said he. ’I wished to ascertain the value
of your resolutions.’” I need not say
more of this prince of duplicity, except that varied
were his methods of rendering her wretched, even to
the last. When her lovely little child was born,
and it was laid beside its mother on the bed, and
he was informed he might see his daughter, after gazing
at it with an exulting smile, this was the ejaculation
that broke from him: “Oh, what an implement
of torture have I acquired in you!” Such he
rendered it by his eyes and manner, keeping her in
a perpetual alarm for its safety when in his presence.
All this reads madder than I believe he was:
but she had not then made up her mind to disbelieve
his pretended insanity, and conceived it best to intrust
her secret with the excellent Dr. Baillie; telling
him all that seemed to regard the state of her husband’s
mind, and letting his advice regulate her conduct.
Baillie doubted of his derangement; but, as he did
not reckon his own opinion infallible, he wished her
to take precautions as if her husband were so.
He recommended her going to the country, but to give
him no suspicion of her intentions of remaining there,
and, for a short time, to show no coldness in her
letters, till she could better ascertain his state.
She went, regretting, as she told me, to wear any
semblance but the truth. A short time disclosed
the story to the world. He acted the part of
a man driven to despair by her inflexible resentment
and by the arts of a governess (once a servant in the
family) who hated him. “I will give you,”
proceeds Lady Anne, “a few paragraphs transcribed
from one of Lady Byron’s own letters to me.
It is sorrowful to think, that, in a very little
time, this young and amiable creature, wise, patient,
and feeling, will have her character mistaken by every
one who reads Byron’s works. To rescue
her from this, I preserved her letters; and, when
she afterwards expressed a fear that any thing of her
writings should ever fall into hands to injure him
(I suppose she meant by publication), I safely assured
her that it never should. But here this letter
shall be placed, a sacred record in her favour, unknown
to herself:
’"I am a very incompetent judge
of the impression which the last canto of ‘Childe
Harold’ may produce on the minds of indifferent
readers. It contains the usual trace of a conscience
restlessly awake; though his object has been too long
to aggravate its burden, as if it could thus be oppressed
into eternal stupor. I will hope, as you do,
that it survives for his ultimate good. It was
the acuteness of his remorse, impenitent in its character,
which so long seemed to demand from my compassion to
spare every resemblance of reproach, every look of
grief, which might have said to his conscience, ‘You
have made me wretched.’ I am decidedly
of opinion that he is responsible. He has wished
to be thought partially deranged, or on the brink
of it, to perplex observers, and prevent them from
tracing effects to their real causes through all the
intricacies of his conduct. I was, as I told
you, at one time the dupe of his acted insanity, and
clung to the former delusions in regard to the motives
that concerned me personally, till the whole system
was laid bare. He is the absolute monarch of
words, and uses them, as Bonaparte did lives, for
conquest, without more regard to their intrinsic value;
considering them only as ciphers, which must derive
all their import from the situation in which he places
them, and the ends to which he adapts them with such
consummate skill. Why, then, you will say, does
he not employ them to give a better colour to his
own character? Because he is too good an actor
to over-act, or to assume a moral garb which it would
be easy to strip off. In regard to his poetry,
egotism is the vital principle of his imagination,
which it is difficult for him to kindle on any subject
with which his own character and interests are not
identified: but by the introduction of fictitious
incidents, by change of scene or time, he has enveloped
his poetical disclosures in a system impenetrable except
to a very few; and his constant desire of creating
a sensation makes him not averse to be the object
of wonder and curiosity, even though accompanied by
some dark and vague suspicions. Nothing has contributed
more to the misunderstanding of his real character
than the lonely grandeur in which he shrouds it, and
his affectation of being above mankind, when he exists
almost in their voice. The romance of his sentiments
is another feature of this mask of state. I
know no one more habitually destitute of that enthusiasm
he so beautifully expresses, and to which he can work
up his fancy chiefly by contagion. I had heard
he was the best of brothers, the most generous of
friends; and I thought such feelings only required
to be warmed and cherished into more diffusive benevolence.
Though these opinions are eradicated, and could never
return but with the decay of my memory, you will not
wonder if there are still moments when the association
of feelings which arose from them soften and sadden
my thoughts. But I have not thanked you, dearest
Lady Anne, for your kindness in regard to a principal
object, that of rectifying false impressions.
I trust you understand my wishes, which never were
to injure Lord Byron in any way: for, though
he would not suffer me to remain his wife, he cannot
prevent me from continuing his friend; and it was
from considering myself as such that I silenced the
accusations by which my own conduct might have been
more fully justified. It is not necessary to
speak ill of his heart in general: it is sufficient
that to me it was hard and impenetrable; that my own
must have been broken before his could have been touched.
I would rather represent this as my misfortune than
as his guilt; but surely that misfortune is not to
be made my crime! Such are my feelings:
you will judge how to act. His allusions to
me in ‘Childe Harold’ are cruel and cold,
but with such a semblance as to make me appear so,
and to attract all sympathy to himself. It is
said in this poem that hatred of him will be taught
as a lesson to his child. I might appeal to
all who have ever heard me speak of him, and still
more to my own heart, to witness that there has been
no moment when I have remembered injury otherwise
than affectionately and sorrowfully. It is not
my duty to give way to hopeless and wholly unrequited
affection; but, so long as I live, my chief struggle
will probably be not to remember him too kindly.
I do not seek the sympathy of the world; but I wish
to be known by those whose opinion is valuable, and
whose kindness is clear to me. Among such, my
dear Lady Anne, you will ever be remembered by your
truly affectionate,
‘"A.
BYRON."’
It is the province of your readers,
and of the world at large, to judge between the two
testimonies now before them, Lady Byron’s
in 1816 and 1818, and that put forward in 1869 by
Mrs. B. Stowe, as communicated by Lady Byron thirteen
years ago. In the face of the evidence now given,
positive, negative, and circumstantial, there can be
but two alternatives in the case: either Mrs.
B. Stowe must have entirely misunderstood Lady Byron,
and been thus led into error and misstatement; or we
must conclude that, under the pressure of a lifelong
and secret sorrow, Lady Byron’s mind had become
clouded with an hallucination in respect of the particular
point in question.
The reader will admire the noble but
severe character displayed in Lady Byron’s letter;
but those who keep in view what her first impressions
were, as above recorded, may probably place a more
lenient interpretation than hers upon some of the
incidents alleged to Byron’s discredit.
I shall conclude with some remarks upon his character,
written shortly after his death by a wise, virtuous,
and charitable judge, the late Sir Walter Scott, likewise
in a letter to Lady Anne Barnard:
’Fletcher’s account of
poor Byron is extremely interesting. I had always
a strong attachment to that unfortunate though most
richly-gifted man, because I thought I saw that his
virtues (and he had many) were his own; and his eccentricities
the result of an irritable temperament, which sometimes
approached nearly to mental disease. Those who
are gifted with strong nerves, a regular temper, and
habitual self-command, are not, perhaps, aware how
much of what they may think virtue they owe to constitution;
and such are but too severe judges of men like Byron,
whose mind, like a day of alternate storm and sunshine,
is all dark shades and stray gleams of light, instead
of the twilight gray which illuminates happier though
less distinguished mortals. I always thought,
that, when a moral proposition was placed plainly
before Lord Byron, his mind yielded a pleased and
willing assent to it; but, if there was any side view
given in the way of raillery or otherwise, he was willing
enough to evade conviction . . . . It augurs
ill for the cause of Greece that this master-spirit
should have been withdrawn from their assistance just
as he was obtaining a complete ascendancy over their
counsels. I have seen several letters from the
Ionian Islands, all of which unite in speaking in
the highest praise of the wisdom and temperance of
his counsels, and the ascendancy he was obtaining
over the turbulent and ferocious chiefs of the insurgents.
I have some verses written by him on his last birthday:
they breathe a spirit of affection towards his wife,
and a desire of dying in battle, which seems like
an anticipation of his approaching fate.’
I remain, sir, your
obedient servant,
LINDSAY.
DUNECHT, Sep.
DR. FORBES WINSLOW’S LETTER TO THE LONDON ‘TIMES.’
TO THE EDITOR.
SIR, Your paper of the
4th of September, containing an able and deeply interesting
‘Vindication of Lord Byron,’ has followed
me to this place. With the general details of
the ‘True Story’ (as it is termed) of Lady
Byron’s separation from her husband, as recorded
in ’Macmillan’s Magazine,’ I have
no desire or intention to grapple. It is only
with the hypothesis of insanity, as suggested by the
clever writer of the ‘Vindication’ to
account for Lady Byron’s sad revelations to Mrs.
Beecher Stowe, with which I propose to deal.
I do not believe that the mooted theory of mental
aberration can, in this case, be for a moment maintained.
If Lady Byron’s statement of facts to Mrs. B.
Stowe is to be viewed as the creation of a distempered
fancy, a delusion or hallucination of an insane mind,
what part of the narrative are we to draw the boundary-line
between fact and delusion, sanity and insanity?
Where are we to fix the point d’appui of the
lunacy? Again: is the alleged ‘hallucination’
to be considered as strictly confined to the idea
that Lord Byron had committed the frightful sin of
incest? or is the whole of the ‘True Story’
of her married life, as reproduced with such terrible
minuteness by Mrs. Beecher Stowe, to be viewed as the
delusion of a disordered fancy? If Lady Byron
was the subject of an ‘hallucination’
with regard to her husband, I think it not unreasonable
to conclude that the mental alienation existed on the
day of her marriage. If this proposition be
accepted, the natural inference will be, that the
details of the conversation which Lady Byron represents
to have occurred between herself and Lord Byron as
soon as they entered the carriage never took place.
Lord Byron is said to have remarked to Lady Byron,
’You might have prevented this (or words to this
effect): you will now find that you have married
a devil. Is this alleged conversation to be
viewed as fact, or fiction? evidence of sanity, or
insanity? Is the revelation which Lord Byron
is said to have made to his wife of his ‘incestuous
passion’ another delusion, having no foundation
except in his wife’s disordered imagination?
Are his alleged attempts to justify to Lady Byron’s
mind the morale of the plea of ’Continental latitude the
good-humoured marriage, in which complaisant couples
mutually agree to form the cloak for each other’s
infidelities,’ another morbid perversion
of her imagination? Did this conversation ever
take place? It will be difficult to separate
one part of the ‘True Story’ from another,
and maintain that this portion indicates insanity,
and that portion represents sanity. If we accept
the hypothesis of hallucination, we are bound to view
the whole of Lady Byron’s conversations with
Mrs. B. Stowe, and the written statement laid before
her, as the wild and incoherent representations of
a lunatic. On the day when Lady Byron parted
from her husband, did she enter his private room,
and find him with the ’object of his guilty
passion?’ and did he say, as they parted, ’When
shall we three meet again?’ Is this to be considered
as an actual occurrence, or as another form of hallucination?
It is quite inconsistent with the theory of Lady
Byron’s insanity to imagine that her delusion
was restricted to the idea of his having committed
‘incest.’ In common fairness, we
are bound to view the aggregate mental phenomena which
she exhibited from the day of the marriage to their
final separation and her death. No person practically
acquainted with the true characteristics of insanity
would affirm, that, had this idea of ‘incest’
been an insane hallucination, Lady Byron could, from
the lengthened period which intervened between her
unhappy marriage and death, have refrained from exhibiting
her mental alienation, not only to her legal advisers
and trustees, but to others, exacting no pledge of
secrecy from them as to her disordered impressions.
Lunatics do for a time, and for some special purpose,
most cunningly conceal their delusions; but they have
not the capacity to struggle for thirty-six years
with a frightful hallucination, similar to the one
Lady Byron is alleged to have had, without the insane
state of mind becoming obvious to those with whom
they are daily associating. Neither is it consistent
with experience to suppose that, if Lady Byron had
been a monomaniac, her state of disordered understanding
would have been restricted to one hallucination.
Her diseased brain, affecting the normal action of
thought, would, in all probability, have manifested
other symptoms besides those referred to of aberration
of intellect.
During the last thirty years, I have
not met with a case of insanity (assuming the hypothesis
of hallucination) at all parallel with that of Lady
Byron’s. In my experience, it is unique.
I never saw a patient with such a delusion.
If it should be established, by the statements of
those who are the depositors of the secret (and they
are now bound, in vindication of Lord Byron’s
memory, to deny, if they have the power of doing so,
this most frightful accusation), that the idea of incest
did unhappily cross Lady Byron’s mind prior
to her finally leaving him, it no doubt arose from
a most inaccurate knowledge of facts and perfectly
unjustifiable data, and was not, in the right psychological
acceptation of the phrase, an insane hallucination.
Sir, I remain your
obedient servant,
FORBES
WINSLOW, M.D.
ZARINGERHOF, FREIBURG-EN-BREISGAU, Sep, 1869.
EXTRACT FROM LORD BYRON’S EXPUNGED LETTER.
TO MR. MURRAY.
’BOLOGNA,
June 7, 1819.
. . . ’Before I left Venice,
I had returned to you your late, and Mr. Hobhouse’s
sheets of “Juan.” Don’t wait
for further answers from me, but address yours to
Venice as usual. I know nothing of my own movements.
I may return there in a few days, or not for some
time; all this depends on circumstances. I left
Mr. Hoppner very well. My daughter Allegra is
well too, and is growing pretty: her hair is growing
darker, and her eyes are blue. Her temper and
her ways, Mr. Hoppner says, are like mine, as well
as her features: she will make, in that case,
a manageable young lady.
’I have never seen anything
of Ada, the little Electra of my Mycenae . . . .
But there will come a day of reckoning, even if I
should not live to see it. I have at least seen
shivered, who was one of my assassins.
When that man was doing his worst to uproot my whole
family, tree, branch, and blossoms; when,
after taking my retainer, he went over to them; when
he was bringing desolation on my hearth, and destruction
on my household gods, did he think that,
in less than three years, a natural event, a severe
domestic, but an expected and common calamity, would
lay his carcass in a cross-road, or stamp his name
in a verdict of lunacy? Did he (who in his sexagenary
. . .) reflect or consider what my feelings must have
been when wife and child and sister, and name and fame
and country, were to be my sacrifice on his legal
altar? and this at a moment when my health
was declining, my fortune embarrassed, and my mind
had been shaken by many kinds of disappointment? while
I was yet young, and might have reformed what might
be wrong in my conduct, and retrieved what was perplexing
in my affairs? But he is in his grave, and What
a long letter I have scribbled!’ . . .
In order that the reader may measure
the change of moral tone with regard to Lord Byron,
wrought by the constant efforts of himself and his
party, we give the two following extracts from ‘Blackwood:’
The first is ‘Blackwood’
in 1819, just after the publication of ’Don
Juan:’ the second is ‘Blackwood’
in 1825.
’In the composition of this
work, there is, unquestionably, a more thorough and
intense infusion of genius and vice, power and profligacy,
than in any poem which had ever before been written
in the English, or, indeed, in any other modern language.
Had the wickedness been less inextricably mingled
with the beauty and the grace and the strength of a
most inimitable and incomprehensible Muse, our task
would have been easy. ‘Don Juan’
is by far the most admirable specimen of the mixture
of ease, strength, gaiety, and seriousness, extant
in the whole body of English poetry: the author
has devoted his powers to the worst of purposes and
passions; and it increases his guilt and our sorrow
that he has devoted them entire.
’The moral strain of the whole
poem is pitched in the lowest key. Love, honour,
patriotism, religion, are mentioned only to be scoffed
at, as if their sole resting-place were, or ought
to be, in the bosoms of fools. It appears, in
short, as if this miserable man, having exhausted every
species of sensual gratification, having drained the
cup of sin even to its bitterest dregs, were resolved
to show us that he is no longer a human being, even
in his frailties, but a cool, unconcerned fiend, laughing
with a detestable glee over the whole of the better
and worse elements of which human life is composed;
treating well-nigh with equal derision the most pure
of virtues, and the most odious of vices; dead alike
to the beauty of the one, and the deformity of the
other; a mere heartless despiser of that frail but
noble humanity, whose type was never exhibited in
a shape of more deplorable degradation than in his
own contemptuously distinct delineation of himself.
To confess to his Maker, and weep over in secret
agonies the wildest and most fantastic transgressions
of heart and mind, is the part of a conscious sinner,
in whom sin has not become the sole principle of life
and action; but to lay bare to the eye of man and
of woman all the hidden convulsions of a wicked spirit,
and to do all this without one symptom of contrition,
remorse, or hesitation, with a calm, careless ferociousness
of contented and satisfied depravity, this
was an insult which no man of genius had ever before
dared to put upon his Creator or his species.
Impiously railing against his God, madly and meanly
disloyal to his sovereign and his country, and brutally
outraging all the best feelings of female honour,
affection, and confidence, how small a part of chivalry
is that which remains to the descendant of the Byrons! a
gloomy visor and a deadly weapon!
’Those who are acquainted (and
who is not?) with the main incidents in the private
life of Lord Byron, and who have not seen this production,
will scarcely believe that malignity should have carried
him so far as to make him commence a filthy and impious
poem with an elaborate satire on the character and
manners of his wife, from whom, even by his own confession,
he has been separated only in consequence of his own
cruel and heartless misconduct. It is in vain
for Lord Byron to attempt in any way to justify his
own behaviour in that affair; and, now that he has
so openly and audaciously invited inquiry and reproach,
we do not see any good reason why he should not be
plainly told so by the general voice of his countrymen.
It would not be an easy matter to persuade any man
who has any knowledge of the nature of woman, that
a female such as Lord Byron has himself described
his wife to be would rashly or hastily or lightly
separate herself from the love with which she had once
been inspired for such a man as he is or was.
Had he not heaped insult upon insult, and scorn upon
scorn, had he not forced the iron of his contempt
into her very soul, there is no woman of delicacy and
virtue, as he admitted Lady Byron to be, who would
not have hoped all things, and suffered all things,
from one, her love of whom must have been inwoven
with so many exalting elements of delicious pride,
and more delicious humility. To offend the love
of such a woman was wrong, but it might be forgiven;
to desert her was unmanly, but he might have returned,
and wiped for ever from her eyes the tears of her
desertion: but to injure and to desert, and then
to turn back and wound her widowed privacy with unhallowed
strains of cold-blooded mockery, was brutally, fiendishly,
inexpiably mean. For impurities there might be
some possibility of pardon, were they supposed to
spring only from the reckless buoyancy of young blood
and fiery passions; for impiety there might at least
be pity, were it visible that the misery of the impious
soul equalled its darkness: but for offences
such as this, which cannot proceed either from the
madness of sudden impulse or the bewildered agonies
of doubt, but which speak the wilful and determined
spite of an unrepenting, unsoftened, smiling, sarcastic,
joyous sinner, there can be neither pity nor pardon.
Our knowledge that it is committed by one of the most
powerful intellects our island ever has produced lends
intensity a thousand-fold to the bitterness of our
indignation. Every high thought that was ever
kindled in our breasts by the Muse of Byron, every
pure and lofty feeling that ever responded from within
us to the sweep of his majestic inspirations, every
remembered moment of admiration and enthusiasm, is
up in arms against him. We look back with a mixture
of wrath and scorn to the delight with which we suffered
ourselves to be filled by one, who, all the while
he was furnishing us with delight, must, we cannot
doubt it, have been mocking us with a cruel mockery;
less cruel only, because less peculiar, than that
with which he has now turned him from the lurking-place
of his selfish and polluted exile to pour the pitiful
chalice of his contumely on the surrendered devotion
of a virgin bosom, and the holy hopes of the mother
of his child. It is indeed a sad and a humiliating
thing to know, that in the same year, there proceeded
from the same pen two productions in all things so
different as the fourth canto of “Childe Harold”
and his loathsome “Don Juan.”
’We have mentioned one, and,
all will admit, the worst instance of the private
malignity which has been embodied in so many passages
of “Don Juan;” and we are quite sure the
lofty-minded and virtuous men whom Lord Byron has
debased himself by insulting will close the volume
which contains their own injuries, with no feelings
save those of pity for him that has inflicted them,
and for her who partakes so largely in the same injuries.’ August,
1819.
’BLACKWOOD,’ iterum.
’We shall, like all others who
say anything about Lord Byron, begin, sans apologie,
with his personal character. This is the great
object of attack, the constant theme of open vituperation
to one set, and the established mark for all the petty
but deadly artillery of sneers, shrugs, groans, to
another. Two widely different matters, however,
are generally, we might say universally, mixed up
here, the personal character of the man,
as proved by his course of life; and his personal
character, as revealed in or guessed from his books.
Nothing can be more unfair than the style in which
this mixture is made use of. Is there a noble
sentiment, a lofty thought, a sublime conception, in
the book? “Ah, yes!” is the answer.
“But what of that? It is only the roue
Byron that speaks!” Is a kind, a generous action
of the man mentioned? “Yes, yes!”
comments the sage; “but only remember the atrocities
of ‘Don Juan:’ depend on it, this,
if it be true, must have been a mere freak of caprice,
or perhaps a bit of vile hypocrisy.” Salvation
is thus shut out at either entrance: the poet
damns the man, and the man the poet.
’Nobody will suspect us of being
so absurd as to suppose that it is possible for people
to draw no inferences as to the character of an author
from his book, or to shut entirely out of view, in
judging of a book, that which they may happen to know
about the man who writes it. The cant of the
day supposes such things to be practicable; but they
are not. But what we complain of and scorn is
the extent to which they are carried in the case of
this particular individual, as compared with others;
the impudence with which things are at once assumed
to be facts in regard to his private history; and
the absolute unfairness of never arguing from his
writings to him, but for evil.
’Take the man, in the first
place, as unconnected, in so far as we can thus consider
him, with his works; and ask, What, after all, are
the bad things we know of him? Was he dishonest
or dishonourable? had he ever done anything to forfeit,
or even endanger, his rank as a gentleman? Most
assuredly, no such accusations have ever been maintained
against Lord Byron the private nobleman, although
something of the sort may have been insinuated against
the author. “But he was such a profligate
in his morals, that his name cannot be mentioned with
anything like tolerance.” Was he so, indeed?
We should like extremely to have the catechising of
the individual man who says so. That he indulged
in sensual vices, to some extent, is certain, and
to be regretted and condemned. But was he worse,
as to such matters, than the enormous majority of those
who join in the cry of horror upon this occasion?
We most assuredly believe exactly the reverse; and
we rest our belief upon very plain and intelligible
grounds. First, we hold it impossible that the
majority of mankind, or that anything beyond a very
small minority, are or can be entitled to talk of
sensual profligacy as having formed a part of the
life and character of the man, who, dying at six and
thirty, bequeathed a collection of works such as Byron’s
to the world. Secondly, we hold it impossible,
that laying the extent of his intellectual labours
out of the question, and looking only to the nature
of the intellect which generated, and delighted in
generating, such beautiful and noble conceptions as
are to be found in almost all Lord Byron’s works, we
hold it impossible that very many men can be at once
capable of comprehending these conceptions, and entitled
to consider sensual profligacy as having formed the
principal, or even a principal, trait in Lord Byron’s
character. Thirdly, and lastly, we have never
been able to hear any one fact established which could
prove Lord Byron to deserve anything like the degree
or even kind of odium which has, in regard to matters
of this class, been heaped upon his name. We
have no story of base unmanly seduction, or false
and villainous intrigue, against him, none
whatever. It seems to us quite clear, that, if
he had been at all what is called in society an unprincipled
sensualist, there must have been many such stories,
authentic and authenticated. But there are none
such, absolutely none. His name has
been coupled with the names of three, four, or more
women of some rank: but what kind of women?
Every one of them, in the first place, about as old
as himself in years, and therefore a great deal older
in character; every one of them utterly battered in
reputation long before he came into contact with them, licentious,
unprincipled, characterless women. What father
has ever reproached him with the ruin of his daughter?
What husband has denounced him as the destroyer of
his peace?
’Let us not be mistaken.
We are not defending the offences of which Lord Byron
unquestionably was guilty; neither are we finding fault
with those, who, after looking honestly within and
around themselves, condemn those offences, no matter
how severely: but we are speaking of society in
general as it now exists; and we say that there is
vile hypocrisy in the tone in which Lord Byron is
talked of there. We say, that, although all
offences against purity of life are miserable things,
and condemnable things, the degrees of guilt attached
to different offences of this class are as widely
different as are the degrees of guilt between an assault
and a murder; and we confess our belief, that no man
of Byron’s station or age could have run much
risk in gaining a very bad name in society, had a
course of life similar (in so far as we know any thing
of that) to Lord Byron’s been the only thing
chargeable against him.
’The last poem he wrote was
produced upon his birthday, not many weeks before
he died. We consider it as one of the finest
and most touching effusions of his noble genius.
We think he who reads it, and can ever after bring
himself to regard even the worst transgressions that
have been charged against Lord Byron with any feelings
but those of humble sorrow and manly pity, is not
deserving of the name of man. The deep and passionate
struggles with the inferior elements of his nature
(and ours) which it records; the lofty thirsting after
purity; the heroic devotion of a soul half weary of
life, because unable to believe in its own powers
to live up to what it so intensely felt to be, and
so reverentially honoured as, the right; the whole
picture of this mighty spirit, often darkened, but
never sunk, often erring, but never ceasing
to see and to worship the beauty of virtue; the repentance
of it; the anguish; the aspiration, almost stifled
in despair, the whole of this is such a
whole, that we are sure no man can read these solemn
verses too often; and we recommend them for repetition,
as the best and most conclusive of all possible answers
whenever the name of Byron is insulted by those who
permit themselves to forget nothing, either in his
life or in his writings, but the good.’
LETTERS OF LADY BYRON TO H. C. ROBINSON.
The following letters of Lady Byron’s
are reprinted from the Memoirs of H. C. Robinson.
They are given that the reader may form some judgment
of the strength and activity of her mind, and the
elevated class of subjects upon which it habitually
dwelt.
LADY BYRON TO H. C. R.
’DEC.
31, 1853.
’DEAR MR. CRABB ROBINSON, I
have an inclination, if I were not afraid of trespassing
on your time (but you can put my letter by for any
leisure moment), to enter upon the history of a character
which I think less appreciated than it ought to be.
Men, I observe, do not understand men in certain
points, without a woman’s interpretation.
Those points, of course, relate to feelings.
’Here is a man taken by most
of those who come in his way either for Dry-as-Dust,
Matter-of-fact, or for a “vain visionary.”
There are, doubtless, some defective or excessive
characteristics which give rise to those impressions.
’My acquaintance was made, oddly
enough, with him twenty-seven years ago. A pauper
said to me of him, “He’s the poor man’s
doctor.” Such a recommendation seemed
to me a good one: and I also knew that his organizing
head had formed the first district society in England
(for Mrs. Fry told me she could not have effected
it without his aid); yet he has always ignored his
own share of it. I felt in him at once the curious
combination of the Christian and the cynic, of
reverence for man, and contempt of men. It was
then an internal war, but one in which it was evident
to me that the holier cause would be victorious, because
there was deep belief, and, as far as I could learn,
a blameless and benevolent life. He appeared
only to want sunshine. It was a plant which
could not be brought to perfection in darkness.
He had begun life by the most painful conflict between
filial duty and conscience, a large provision
in the church secured for him by his father; but he
could not sign. There was discredit, as you
know, attached to such scruples.
’He was also, when I first knew
him, under other circumstances of a nature to depress
him, and to make him feel that he was unjustly treated.
The gradual removal of these called forth his better
nature in thankfulness to God. Still the old
misanthropic modes of expressing himself obtruded
themselves at times. This passed in ’48
between him and Robertson. Robertson said to
me, “I want to know something about ragged schools.”
I replied, “You had better ask Dr. King:
he knows more about them.” “I?”
said Dr. King. “I take care to know nothing
of ragged schools, lest they should make me ragged.”
Robertson did not see through it. Perhaps I
had been taught to understand such suicidal speeches
by my cousin, Lord Melbourne.
’The example of Christ, imperfectly
as it may be understood by him, has been ever before
his eyes: he woke to the thought of following
it, and he went to rest consoled or rebuked by it.
After nearly thirty years of intimacy, I may, without
presumption, form that opinion. There is something
pathetic to me in seeing any one so unknown.
Even the other medical friends of Robertson, when
I knew that Dr. King felt a woman’s tenderness,
said on one occasion to him, “But we know that
you, Dr. King, are above all feeling.”
’If I have made the character
more consistent to you by putting in these bits of
mosaic, my pen will not have been ill employed, nor
unpleasingly to you.
’Yours
truly,
‘A.
NOEL BYRON.’
LADY BYRON TO H. C. R.
’BRIGHTON,
NO,1854.
’The thoughts of all this public
and private suffering have taken the life out of my
pen when I tried to write on matters which would otherwise
have been most interesting to me: these seemed
the shadows, that the stern reality. It is good,
however, to be drawn out of scenes in which one is
absorbed most unprofitably, and to have one’s
natural interests revived by such a letter as I have
to thank you for, as well as its predecessor.
You touch upon the very points which do interest me
the most, habitually. The change of form, and
enlargement of design, in “The Prospective”
had led me to express to one of the promoters of that
object my desire to contribute. The religious
crisis is instant; but the man for it? The next
best thing, if, as I believe, he is not to be found
in England, is an association of such men as are to
edit the new periodical. An address delivered
by Freeman Clarke at Boston, last May, makes me think
him better fitted for a leader than any other of the
religious “Free-thinkers.” I wish
I could send you my one copy; but you do not need,
it, and others do. His object is the same as
that of the “Alliance Universelle:”
only he is still more free from “partialism”
(his own word) in his aspirations and practical suggestions
with respect to an ultimate “Christian synthesis.”
He so far adopts Comte’s theory as to speak
of religion itself under three successive aspects,
historically, 1. Thesis; 2.
Antithesis; 3. Synthesis. I made his acquaintance
in England; and he inspired confidence at once by
his brave independence (incomptis capillis) and self-unconsciousness.
J. J. Tayler’s address of last month follows
in the same path, all in favour of the “irenics,”
instead of polemics.
’The answer which you gave me
so fully and distinctly to the questions I proposed
for your consideration was of value in turning to my
view certain aspects of the case which I had not before
observed. I had begun a second attack on your
patience, when all was forgotten in the news of the
day.’
LADY BYRON TO H. C. R.
’BRIGHTON,
De, 1854.
’With J. J. Tayler, though almost
a stranger to him, I have a peculiar reason for sympathising.
A book of his was a treasure to my daughter on her
death-bed.
’I must confess to intolerance
of opinion as to these two points, eternal
evil in any form, and (involved in it) eternal suffering.
To believe in these would take away my God, who is
all-loving. With a God with whom omnipotence
and omniscience were all, evil might be eternal; but
why do I say to you what has been better said elsewhere?’
LADY BYRON TO H. C. R.
’BRIGHTON,
Ja, 1855.
. . . ’The great difficulty
in respect to “The Review” seems
to be to settle a basis, inclusive and exclusive;
in short, a boundary question. From what you
said, I think you agreed with me, that a latitudinarian
Christianity ought to be the character of the periodical;
but the depth of the roots should correspond with the
width of the branches of that tree of knowledge.
Of some of those minds one might say, “They
have no root;” and then, the richer the foliage,
the more danger that the trunk will fall. “Grounded
in Christ” has to me a most practical significance
and value. I, too, have anxiety about a friend
(Miss Carpenter) whose life is of public importance:
she, more than any of the English reformers, unless
Nash and Wright, has found the art of drawing out
the good of human nature, and proving its existence.
She makes these discoveries by the light of love.
I hope she may recover, from to-day’s report.
The object of a Reformatory in Leicester has just
been secured at a county meeting . . . . Now
the desideratum is well-qualified masters and mistresses.
If you hear of such by chance, pray let me know.
The regular schoolmaster is an extinguisher.
Heart, and familiarity with the class to be educated,
are all important. At home and abroad, the evidence
is conclusive on that point; for I have for many years
attended to such experiments in various parts of Europe.
“The Irish Quarterly” has taken up the
subject with rather more zeal than judgment.
I had hoped that a sound and temperate exposition
of the facts might form an article in the “Might-have-been
Review."’
LADY BYRON TO H. C. R.
’BRIGHTON,
Fe, 1855.
’I have at last earned the pleasure
of writing to you by having settled troublesome matters
of little moment, except locally; and I gladly take
a wider range by sympathizing in your interests.
There is, besides, no responsibility for
me at least in canvassing the merits of
Russell or Palmerston, but much in deciding whether
the “village politician” Jackson or Thompson
shall be leader in the school or public-house.
’Has not the nation been brought
to a conviction that the system should be broken up?
and is Lord Palmerston, who has used it so long and
so cleverly, likely to promote that object?
’But, whatever obstacles there
may be in state affairs, that general persuasion must
modify other departments of action and knowledge.
“Unroasted coffee” will no longer be accepted
under the official seal, another reason
for a new literary combination for distinct special
objects, a review in which every separate article should
be convergent. If, instead of the problem to
make a circle pass through three given points, it
were required to find the centre from which to describe
a circle through any three articles in the “Edinburgh”
or “Westminster Review,” who would accomplish
it? Much force is lost for want of this one-mindedness
amongst the contributors. It would not exclude
variety or freedom in the unlimited discussion of
means towards the ends unequivocally recognized.
If St. Paul had edited a review, he might
have admitted Peter as well as Luke or Barnabas .
. . .
’Ross gave us an excellent sermon,
yesterday, on “Hallowing the Name.”
Though far from commonplace, it might have been delivered
in any church.
’We have had Fanny Kemble here
last week. I only heard her “Romeo and
Juliet,” not less instructive, as
her readings always are, than exciting; for in her
glass Shakspeare is a philosopher. I know her,
and honour her, for her truthfulness amidst all trials.’
LADY BYRON TO H. C. R.
’BRIGHTON,
March 5, 1855.
’I recollect only those passages
of Dr. Kennedy’s book which bear upon the opinions
of Lord Byron. Strange as it may seem, Dr. Kennedy
is most faithful where you doubt his being so.
Not merely from casual expressions, but from the
whole tenor of Lord Byron’s feelings, I could
not but conclude he was a believer in the inspiration
of the Bible, and had the gloomiest Calvinistic tenets.
To that unhappy view of the relation of the creature
to the Creator, I have always ascribed the misery
of his life . . . . It is enough for me to remember,
that he who thinks his transgressions beyond forgiveness
(and such was his own deepest feeling) has righteousness
beyond that of the self-satisfied sinner, or, perhaps,
of the half-awakened. It was impossible for me
to doubt, that, could he have been at once assured
of pardon, his living faith in a moral duty, and love
of virtue ("I love the virtues which I cannot claim"),
would have conquered every temptation. Judge,
then, how I must hate the creed which made him see
God as an Avenger, not a Father! My own impressions
were just the reverse, but could have little weight;
and it was in vain to seek to turn his thoughts for
long from that idée fixe with which he connected
his physical peculiarity as a stamp. Instead
of being made happier by any apparent good, he felt
convinced that every blessing would be “turned
into a curse” to him. Who, possessed by
such ideas, could lead a life of love and service
to God or man? They must, in a measure, realize
themselves. “The worst of it is, I do believe,”
he said. I, like all connected with him, was
broken against the rock of predestination. I
may be pardoned for referring to his frequent expression
of the sentiment that I was only sent to show him the
happiness he was forbidden to enjoy. You will
now better understand why “The Deformed Transformed”
is too painful to me for discussion. Since writing
the above, I have read Dr. Granville’s letter
on the Emperor of Russia, some passages of which seem
applicable to the prepossession I have described.
I will not mix up less serious matters with these,
which forty years have not made less than present
still to me.’
LADY BYRON TO H. C. R.
’BRIGHTON,
April 8, 1855.
. . . . ’The book which
has interested me most, lately, is that on “Mosaism,”
translated by Miss Goldsmid, and which I read, as you
will believe, without any Christian (unchristian?)
prejudice. The missionaries of the Unity were
always, from my childhood, regarded by me as in that
sense the people; and I believe they were true to that
mission, though blind, intellectually, in demanding
the crucifixion. The present aspect of Jewish
opinions, as shown in that book, is all but Christian.
The author is under the error of taking, as the representatives
of Christianity, the Mystics, Ascetics, and Quietists;
and therefore he does not know how near he is to the
true spirit of the gospel. If you should happen
to see Miss Goldsmid, pray tell her what a great service
I think she has rendered to us soi-disant
Christians in translating a book which must make us
sensible of the little we have done, and the much
we have to do, to justify our preference of the later
to the earlier dispensation.’ . . .
LADY BYRON TO H. C. R.
BRIGHTON,
April 11, 1855.
’You appear to have more definite
information respecting “The Review” than
I have obtained . . . It was also said that “The
Review” would, in fact, be “The Prospective”
amplified, not satisfactory to me, because
I have always thought that periodical too Unitarian,
in the sense of separating itself from other Christian
churches, if not by a high wall, at least by a wire-gauze
fence. Now, separation is to me the [Greek text].
The revelation through Nature never separates:
it is the revelation through the Book which separates.
Whewell and Brewster would have been one, had they
not, I think, equally dimmed their lamps of science
when reading their Bibles. As long as we think
a truth better for being shut up in a text, we are
not of the wide-world religion, which is to include
all in one fold: for that text will not be accepted
by the followers of other books, or students of the
same; and separation will ensue. The Christian
Scripture should be dear to us, not as the charter
of a few, but of mankind; and to fashion it into cages
is to deny its ultimate objects. These thoughts
hot, like the roll at breakfast, where your letter
was so welcome an addition.’
THREE DOMESTIC POEMS BY LORD BYRON.
FARE THEE WELL.
Fare thee well! and if for ever,
Still for ever fare thee well!
Even though unforgiving, never
’Gainst thee shall my heart
rebel.
Would that breast were bared before
thee
Where thy head so oft hath lain,
While that placid sleep came o’er
thee
Which thou ne’er canst know
again!
Would that breast, by thee glanced
over,
Every inmost thought could show!
Then thou wouldst at last discover
’Twas not well to spurn it
so.
Though the world for this commend
thee,
Though it smile upon the blow,
Even its praises must offend thee,
Founded on another’s woe.
Though my many faults defaced me,
Could no other arm be found,
Than the one which once embraced
me,
To inflict a cureless wound?
Yet, oh! yet, thyself deceive not:
Love may sink by slow decay;
But, by sudden wrench, believe not
Hearts can thus be torn away:
Still thine own its life retaineth;
Still must mine, though bleeding,
beat
And the undying thought which paineth
Is that we no more may
meet.
These are words of deeper sorrow
Than the wail above the dead:
Both shall live, but every morrow
Wake us from a widowed bed.
And when thou wouldst solace gather,
When our child’s first accents
flow,
Wilt thou teach her to say ‘Father,’
Though his care she must forego?
When her little hand shall press
thee,
When her lip to thine is pressed,
Think of him whose prayer shall
bless thee;
Think of him thy love had blessed.
Should her linéaments resemble
Those thou never more mayst see,
Then thy heart will softly tremble
With a pulse yet true to me.
All my faults, perchance, thou knowest;
All my madness none can know:
All my hopes, where’er thou
goest,
Wither; yet with thee they go.
Every feeling hath been shaken:
Pride, which not a world could bow,
Bows to thee, by thee forsaken;
Even my soul forsakes me now.
But ’tis done: all words
are idle;
Words from me are vainer still;
But the thoughts we cannot bridle
Force their way without the will.
Fare thee well! thus
disunited,
Torn from every nearer tie,
Seared in heart, and lone and blighted,
More than this I scarce can die.
A SKETCH.
Born in the garret, in the kitchen
bred;
Promoted thence to deck her mistress’
head;
Next for some gracious
service unexpress’d,
And from its wages only to be guessed
Raised from the toilette to the
table, where
Her wondering betters wait behind
her chair,
With eye unmoved, and forehead unabashed,
She dines from off the plate she
lately washed.
Quick with the tale, and ready with
the lie,
The genial confidante and general
spy,
Who could, ye gods! her next employment
guess?
An only infant’s earliest
governess!
She taught the child to read, and
taught so well,
That she herself, by teaching, learned
to spell.
An adept next in penmanship she
grows,
As many a nameless slander deftly
shows:
What she had made the pupil of her
art,
None know; but that high soul secured
the heart,
And panted for the truth it could
not hear,
With longing breast and undeluded
ear.
Foiled was perversion by that youthful
mind,
Which flattery fooled not, baseness
could not blind,
Deceit infect not, near contagion
soil,
Indulgence weaken, nor example spoil,
Nor mastered science tempt her to
look down
On humbler talents with a pitying
frown,
Nor genius swell, nor beauty render
vain,
Nor envy ruffle to retaliate pain,
Nor fortune change, pride raise,
nor passion bow,
Nor virtue teach austerity, till
now.
Serenely purest of her sex that
live;
But wanting one sweet weakness, to
forgive;
Too shocked at faults her soul can
never know,
She deems that all could be like
her below:
Foe to all vice, yet hardly Virtue’s
friend;
For Virtue pardons those she would
amend.
But to the theme, now laid aside
too long,
The baleful burthen of this honest
song.
Though all her former functions
are no more,
She rules the circle which she served
before.
If mothers none know
why before her quake;
If daughters dread her for the mothers’
sake;
If early habits those
false links, which bind
At times the loftiest to the meanest
mind
Have given her power too deeply
to instil
The angry essence of her deadly
will;
If like a snake she steal within
your walls
Till the black slime betray her
as she crawls;
If like a viper to the heart she
wind,
And leave the venom there she did
not find,
What marvel that this hag of hatred
works
Eternal evil latent as she lurks,
To make a Pandemonium where she
dwells,
And reign the Hecate of domestic
hells?
Skilled by a touch to deepen scandal’s
tints
With all the kind mendacity of hints,
While mingling truth with falsehood,
sneers with smiles,
A thread of candour with a web of
wiles;
A plain blunt show of briefly-spoken
seeming,
To hide her bloodless heart’s
soul-hardened scheming;
A lip of lies; a face formed to
conceal,
And, without feeling, mock at all
who feel;
With a vile mask the Gorgon would
disown;
A cheek of parchment, and an eye
of stone.
Mark how the channels of her yellow
blood
Ooze to her skin, and stagnate there
to mud!
Cased like the centipede in saffron
mail,
Or darker greenness of the scorpion’s
scale,
(For drawn from reptiles only may
we trace
Congenial colours in that soul or
face,)
Look on her features! and behold
her mind
As in a mirror of itself defined.
Look on the picture! deem it not
o’ercharged;
There is no trait which might not
be enlarged:
Yet true to ‘Nature’s
journeymen,’ who made
This monster when their mistress
left off trade,
This female dog-star of her little
sky,
Where all beneath her influence
droop or die.
O wretch without a tear, without
a thought,
Save joy above the ruin thou hast
wrought!
The time shall come, nor long remote,
when thou
Shalt feel far more than thou inflictest
now,
Feel for thy vile self-loving self
in vain,
And turn thee howling in unpitied
pain.
May the strong curse of crushed
affections light
Back on thy bosom with reflected
blight,
And make thee, in thy leprosy of
mind,
As loathsome to thyself as to mankind,
Till all thy self-thoughts curdle
into hate
Black as thy will for others would
create:
Till thy hard heart be calcined
into dust,
And thy soul welter in its hideous
crust!
Oh, may thy grave be sleepless as
the bed,
The widowed couch of fire, that
thou hast spread!
Then, when thou fain wouldst weary
Heaven with prayer,
Look on thine earthly victims, and
despair!
Down to the dust! and, as thou rott’st
away,
Even worms shall perish on thy poisonous
clay.
But for the love I bore, and still
must bear,
To her thy malice from all ties
would tear,
Thy name, thy human name, to every
eye
The climax of all scorn, should
hang on high,
Exalted o’er thy less abhorred
compeers,
And festering in the infamy of years.
LINES ON HEARING THAT LADY BYRON WAS ILL.
And thou wert sad, yet I was not
with thee!
And thou wert
sick, and yet I was not near!
Methought that joy and health alone
could be
Where I was not, and pain and sorrow
here.
And is it thus? It is as I
foretold,
And shall be more so; for the mind
recoils
Upon itself, and the wrecked heart
lies cold,
While heaviness collects the shattered
spoils.
It is not in the storm nor in the
strife
We feel benumbed, and wish to be
no more,
But in the after-silence on the
shore,
When all is lost except a little
life.
I am too well avenged! But
’twas my right:
Whate’er my sins might be,
thou wert not sent
To be the Nemesis who should requite;
Nor did Heaven choose so near an
instrument.
Mercy is for the merciful! if
thou
Hast been of such, ’twill
be accorded now.
Thy nights are banished from the
realms of sleep!
Yes! they may flatter thee; but
thou shalt feel
A hollow agony which will not heal;
For thou art pillowed on a curse
too deep:
Thou hast sown in my sorrow, and
must reap
The bitter harvest in a woe as real!
I have had many foes, but none like
thee;
For ’gainst the rest myself
I could defend,
And be avenged, or turn them into
friend;
But thou in safe implacability
Hadst nought to dread, in thy own
weakness shielded;
And in my love, which hath but too
much yielded,
And spared, for thy sake, some I
should not spare.
And thus upon the world, trust
in thy truth,
And the wild fame of my ungoverned
youth,
On things that were not and on things
that are,
Even upon such a basis hast thou
built
A monument, whose cement hath been
guilt;
The moral Clytemnestra of thy lord,
And hewed down, with an unsuspected
sword,
Fame, peace, and hope, and all the
better life,
Which, but for this cold treason
of thy heart,
Might still have risen from out
the grave of strife,
And found a nobler duty than to
part.
But of thy virtues didst thou make
a vice,
Trafficking with them in a purpose
cold,
For present anger and for future
gold,
And buying others’ grief at
any price.
And thus, once entered into crooked
ways,
The early truth, which was thy proper
praise,
Did not still walk beside thee,
but at times,
And with a breast unknowing its
own crimes,
Deceit, averments incompatible,
Equivocations, and the thoughts
which dwell
In Janus-spirits; the significant
eye
Which learns to lie with silence;
the pretext
Of prudence, with advantages annexed;
The acquiescence in all things which
tend,
No matter how, to the desired end,
All found a place in thy philosophy.
The means were worthy, and the end
is won:
I would not do by thee as thou hast
done!