Why is Pain a Sexual Stimulant?-It
is the Most Effective Method of Arousing Emotion-Anger
and Fear the Most Powerful Emotions-Their
Biological Significance in Courtship-Their
General and Special Effects in Stimulating the Organism-Grief
as a Sexual Stimulant-The Physiological
Mechanism of Fatigue Renders Pain Pleasurable.
We have seen that the distinction
between “sadism” and “masochism”
cannot be maintained; not only was even De Sade himself
something of a masochist and Sacher-Masoch something
of a sadist, but between these two extreme groups
of phenomena there is a central group in which the
algolagnia is neither active nor passive. “Sadism”
and “masochism” are simply convenient
clinical terms for classes of manifestations which
quite commonly occur in the same person. We have
further found that-as might have been anticipated
in view of the foregoing result-it is scarcely
correct to use the word “cruelty” in connection
with the phenomena we have been considering.
The persons who experience these impulses usually show
no love of cruelty outside the sphere of sexual emotion;
they may even be very intolerant of cruelty.
Even when their sexual impulses come into play they
may still desire to secure the pleasure of the persons
who arouse their sexual emotions, even though it may
not be often true that those who desire to inflict
pain at these moments identify themselves with the
feelings of those on whom they inflict it. We
have thus seen that when we take a comprehensive survey
of all these phenomena a somewhat general formula
will alone cover them. Our conclusion so far must
be that under certain abnormal circumstances pain,
more especially the mental representation of pain,
acts as a powerful sexual stimulant.
The reader, however, who has followed
the discussion to this point will be prepared to take
the next and final step in our discussion and to reach
a more definite conclusion. The question naturally
arises: By what process does pain or its mental
representation thus act as a sexual stimulant?
The answer has over and over again been suggested
by the facts brought forward in this study. Pain
acts as a sexual stimulant because it is the most
powerful of all methods for arousing emotion.
The two emotions most intimately associated
with pain are anger and fear. The more masculine
and sthenic emotion of anger, the more passive and
asthenic emotion of fear, are the fundamental animal
emotions through which, on the psychic side, the process
of natural selection largely works. Every animal
in some degree owes its survival to the emotional
reaction of anger against weaker rivals, to the emotional
reaction of fear against stronger rivals. To
this cause we owe it that these two emotions are so
powerfully and deeply rooted in the whole zooelogical
series to which we belong. But anger and fear
are not less fundamental in the sexual life.
Courtship on the male’s part is largely a display
of combativity, and even the very gestures by which
the male seeks to appeal to the female are often those
gestures of angry hostility by which he seeks to intimidate
enemies. On the female’s part courtship
is a skillful manipulation of her own fears, and,
as we have seen elsewhere, when studying the phenomena
of modesty, that fundamental attitude of the female
in courtship is nothing but an agglomeration of fears.
The biological significance of the emotions
is now well recognized. “In general,”
remarks one of the shrewdest writers on animal
psychology, “we may say that emotional states
are, under natural conditions, closely associated
with behavior of biological value-with
tendencies that are beneficial in self-preservation
and race preservation-with actions that
promote survival, and especially with the behavior
which clusters round the pairing and parental
instincts. The value of the emotions in animals
is that they are an indirect means of furthering
survival.” (Lloyd Morgan, Animal Behavior,
.) Emotional aptitudes persist not only
by virtue of the fact that they are still beneficial,
but because they once were; that is to say, they
may exist as survivals. In this connection I may
quote from a suggestive paper on “Teasing
and Bullying,” by F.L. Burk; at the
conclusion of this study, which is founded on a large
body of data concerning American children, the
author asks: “Accepting for the moment
the theories of Spencer and Ribot upon the transmission
of rudimentary instincts, is it possible that the
movements which comprise the chief elements of bullying,
teasing, and the egotistic impulses in general
of the classes cited-pursuing, throwing
down, punching, striking, throwing missiles, etc.-are,
from the standpoint of consciousness, broken neurological
fragments, which are parts of old chains of activity
involved in the pursuit, combat, capture, torture,
and killing of men and enemies?... Is not
this hypothesis of transmitted fragments of instincts
in accord with the strangely anomalous fact that
children are at one moment seemingly cruel and at the
next affectionate and kind, vibrating, as it were,
between two worlds, egotistic and altruistic,
without conscious sense of incongruity?”
(F.L. Burk, “Teasing and Bullying,”
Pedagogical Seminary, April, 1897.)
The primitive connection of the special
emotions of anger and fear with the sexual impulse
has been well expressed by Colin Scott in his
remarkable study of “Sex and Art”:
“If the higher forms of courting are based
on combat, among the males at least anger must
be intimately associated with love. And below
both of these lies the possibility of fear.
In combat the animal is defeated who is first
afraid. Competitive exhibition of prowess will
inspire the less able birds with a deterring fear.
Young grouse and woodcock do not enter the lists
with the older birds, and sing very quietly.
It is the same with the very oldest birds. Audubon
says that the old maids and bachelors of the Canada
goose move off by themselves during the courting
of the younger birds. In order to succeed
in love, fear must be overcome in the male as well
as in the female. Courage is the essential male
virtue, love is its outcome and reward. The
strutting, crowing, dancing, and singing of male
birds and the preliminary movements generally of animals
must gorge the neuromotor and muscular systems with
blood and put them in better fighting trim.
The effects of this upon the feelings of the animal
himself must be very great. Hereditary tendencies
swell his heart. He has ‘the joy that warriors
feel.’ He becomes regardless of danger,
and sometimes almost oblivious of his surroundings.
This intense passionateness must react powerfully
on the whole system, and more particularly on those
parts which are capable, such as the brain, of
using up a great surplus of blood, and on the
naturally erethic functions of sex. The flood
of anger or fighting instinct is drained off by the
sexual desires, the antipathy of the female is
overcome, and sexual union successfully ensues....
Courting and combat shade into one another, courting
tending to take the place of the more basal form
of combat. The passions which thus come to be
associated with love are those of fear and anger,
both of which, by arousing the whole nature and
stimulating the nutritive sources from which they
flow, come to increase the force of the sexual
passion to which they lead up and in which they culminate
and are absorbed,” (Colin Scott, “Sex
and Art,” American Journal of Psychology,
vol. vii, N, pp. 170 and 215.)
It must be remembered that fear is an
element liable to arise in all courtship on one
side or the other. It is usually on the side
of the female, but not invariably. Among spiders,
for instance, it is usually the male who feels
fear, and very reasonably, for he is much weaker
than the female. “Courtship by the male
spider” says T.H. Montgomery ("The
Courtship of Araneads,” American Naturalist,
March, 1910, , “results from a combination
of the state of desire for and fear of the female.”
It is by his movements of fear that he advertises
himself to the female as a male, and it is by
the same movements that he is unconsciously impelled
to display prominently his own ornamentation.
We are thus brought to those essential
facts of primitive courtship with which we started.
But we are now able to understand more clearly how
it is that alien emotional states became abnormally
associated with the sexual life. Normally the
sexual impulse is sufficiently reinforced by the ordinary
active energies of the organism which courtship itself
arouses, energies which, while they may be ultimately
in part founded on anger and fear, rarely allow these
emotions to be otherwise than latent. Motion,
it may be said, is more prominent than emotion.
Even normally a stimulant to emotional
activities is pleasurable, just as motion itself is
pleasurable. It may even be useful, as was noted
long ago by Erasmus Darwin; he tells of a friend of
his who, when painfully fatigued by riding, would
call up ideas arousing indignation, and thus relieve
the fatigue, the indignation, as Darwin pointed out,
increasing muscular activity.
It is owing to this stimulating action
that discomfort, even pain, may be welcomed on account
of the emotional waves they call up, because they
“lash into movement the dreary calm of the sea’s
soul,” and produce that alternation of pain
and enjoyment for which Faust longed. Groos, who
recalls this passage in his very thorough and profound
discussion of the region wherein tragedy has its psychological
roots, points out that it is the overwhelming might
of the storm itself, and not the peace of calm after
the storm, which appeals to us. In the same way,
he observes, even surprise and shock may also be pleasurable,
and fear, though the most depressing of emotional
states, by virtue of the joy produced by strong stimuli
is felt as attractive; we not only experience an impulse
of pleasure in dominating our environment, but also
have pleasure in being dominated and rendered helpless
by a higher power. Hirn, again, in his work on
the origins of art, has an interesting chapter on “The
Enjoyment of Pain,” a phenomenon which he explains
by its resultant reactions in increase of outward
activity, of motor excitement. Anger, he observes
elsewhere, is “in its active stage a decidedly
pleasurable emotion. Fear, which in its initial
stage is paralyzing and depressing, often changes
in time when the first shock has been relieved by motor
reaction.... Anger, fear, sorrow, notwithstanding
their distinctly painful initial stage, are often
not only not avoided, but even deliberately sought."
In the ordinary healthy organism,
however, although the stimulants of strong emotion
may be vaguely pleasurable, they do not have more than
a general action on the sexual sphere, nor are they
required for the due action of the sexual mechanism.
But in a slightly abnormal organism-whether
the anomaly is due to a congenital neuropathic condition,
or to a possibly acquired neurasthenic condition, or
merely to the physiological inadequacy of childhood
or old age-the balance of nervous energy
is less favorable for the adequate play of the ordinary
energies in courtship. The sexual impulse is itself
usually weaker, even when, as often happens, its irritability
assumes the fallacious appearance of strength.
It has become unusually sensitive to unusual stimuli
and also, it is possible,-perhaps as a
result of those conditions,-more liable
to atavistic manifestations. An organism in this
state becomes peculiarly apt to seize on the automatic
sources of energy generated by emotion. The parched
sexual instinct greedily drinks up and absorbs the
force it obtains by applying abnormal stimuli to its
emotional apparatus. It becomes largely, if not
solely, dependent on the energy thus secured.
The abnormal organism in this respect may become as
dependent on anger or fear, and for the same reason,
as in other respects it may become dependent on alcohol.
We see the process very well illustrated
by the occasional action of the emotion of anger.
In animals the connection between love and anger is
so close that even normally, as Groos points out,
in some birds the sight of an enemy may call out the
gestures of courtship. As Krafft-Ebing remarks,
both love and anger “seek their object, try to
possess themselves of it, and naturally exhaust themselves
in a physical effect on it; both throw the psychomotor
sphere into the most intense excitement, and by means
of this excitement reach their normal expression."
Fere has well remarked that the impatience of desire
may itself be regarded as a true state of anger, and
Stanley Hall, in his admirable study of anger, notes
that “erethism of the breasts or sexual parts”
was among the physical manifestations of anger occurring
in some of his cases, and in one case a seminal emission
accompanied every violent outburst. Thus it is
that anger may be used to reinforce a weak sexual impulse,
and cases have been recorded in which coitus could
only be performed when the man had succeeded in working
himself up into an artificial state of anger.
On the other hand, Fere has recorded a case in which
the sexual excitement accompanying delayed orgasm
was always transformed into anger, though without
any true sadistic manifestations.
As a not unexpected complementary
phenomenon to this connection of anger and sexual
emotion in the male, it is sometimes found that the
spectacle of masculine anger excites pleasurable emotion
in women. The case has been recorded of a woman
who delighted in arousing anger for the pleasure it
gave her, and who advised another woman to follow her
example and excite her husband’s anger, as nothing
was so enjoyable as to see a man in a fury of rage;
Lombroso mentions a woman who was mostly frigid, but
experienced sexual feelings when she heard anyone swearing;
and a medical friend tells me of a lady considerably
past middle age who experienced sexual erethism after
listening to a heated argument between her husband
and a friend on religious topics. The case has
also been recorded of a masochistic man who found
sexual satisfaction in masturbating while a woman,
by his instructions, addressed him in the lowest possible
terms of abuse. Such a feeling doubtless underlies
that delight in teasing men which is so common among
young women. Stanley Hall, referring to the almost
morbid dread of witnessing manifestations of anger
felt by many women, remarks: “In animals,
females are often described as watching with complacency
the conflict of rival males for their possession, and
it seems probable that the intense horror of this
state, which many females report, is associated more
or less unconsciously with the sexual rage which has
followed it." The dread may well be felt at least
as much as regards the emotional state in themselves
as in the males.
Even when the emotion aroused is disgust
it may still act as a sexual stimulant. Stcherbak
has narrated the instructive case of a very intelligent
and elegant married lady of rather delicate constitution,
an artist of some talent, who never experienced any
pleasure in sexual intercourse, but ever since sexual
feelings first began to be manifested at all (at the
age of 18) has only experienced them in relation to
disgusting things. Anything that is repulsive,
like vomit, etc., causes vague but pleasurable
feelings which she gradually came to recognize as
sexual. The sight of a crushed frog will cause
very definite sexual sensations. She has had
many admirers and she has observed that a declaration
of love by a disagreeable or even repulsive man sexually
excites her, though she has no desire for sexual intercourse
with him.
After all that has gone before it
is easy to see how the emotion of fear may act in
an analogous manner to anger. Just as anger may
reinforce the active forms of the sexual impulse to
which it is allied, so fear may reinforce the passive
forms of that impulse. The following observations,
written by a lady, very well show how we may thus explain
the sexual attractiveness of whipping: “The
fascination of whipping, which has always greatly
puzzled me, seems to be a sort of hankering after the
stimulus of fear. In a wild state animals live
in constant fear. In civilized life one but rarely
feels it. A woman’s pleasure in being afraid
of a husband or lover may be an equivalent of a man’s
love of adventure; and the fear of children for their
parents may be the dawning of the love of adventure.
In a woman this desire of adventure receives a serious
check when she begins to realize what she might be
subjected to by a man if she gratified it. Excessive
fear is demoralizing, but it seems to me that the idea
of being whipped gives a sense of fear which is not
excessive. It is almost the only kind of pain
(physical) which is inflicted on children or women
by persons whom they can love and trust, and with
a moral object. Any other kind of bodily ill
treatment suggests malignity and may rouse resentment,
and, in extreme cases, an excess of fear which goes
beyond the limits of pleasurable excitement.
Given a hereditary feeling of this sort, I think it
is helped by the want of actual experience, as the
association with excitement is freed from the idea
of pain as such.” In his very valuable
and suggestive study of fears, Stanley Hall, while
recognizing the evil of excessive fear, has emphasized
the emotional and even the intellectual benefits of
fear, and the great part played by fear in the evolution
of the race as “the rudimentary organ on the
full development and subsequent reduction of which
many of the best things in the soul are dependent.”
“Fears that paralyze some brains,” he remarks,
“are a good tonic for others. In some form
and degree all need it always. Without the fear
apparatus in us, what a wealth of motive would be lost!"
It is on the basis of this tonic influence
of fear that in some morbidly sensitive natures fear
acts as a sexual stimulant. Cullerre has brought
together a number of cases in both men and women, mostly
neurasthenic, in which fits of extreme anxiety and
dread, sometimes of a religious character and often
in highly moral people, terminate in spontaneous orgasm
or in masturbation.
Professor Gurlitt mentions that his
first full sexual emission took place in class at
school, when he was absorbed in writing out the life
of Aristides and very anxious lest he should not be
able to complete it within the set time.
Dread and anxiety not only excite
sexual emotion, but in the more extreme morbid cases
they may suppress and replace it. Terror, say
Fliess, is transmuted coitus, and Freud believes that
the neurosis of anxiety always has a sexual cause,
while Ballet, Capgras, Loewenfeld, and others, though
not regarding a sexual traumatism as the only cause,
still regard it as frequent.
It is worthy of note that not only
fear, but even so depressing an emotion as grief,
may act as a sexual stimulant, more especially in women.
This fact is not sufficiently recognized, though probably
everyone can recall instances from his personal knowledge,
such cases being generally regarded as inexplicable.
It is, however, not more surprising that grief should
be transformed into sexual emotion than that (as in
a case recorded by Stanley Hall) it should manifest
itself as anger. In any case we have to bear
in mind the frequency of this psychological transformation
in the presence of cases which might otherwise seem
to call for a cynical interpretation.
The case has been recorded of an English
lady of good social position who fell in love
with an undertaker at her father’s funeral
and insisted on marrying him. It is known that
some men have been so abnormally excited by the
funeral trappings of death that only in such surroundings
have they been able to effect coitus. A case
has been recorded of a physician of unimpeachable
morality who was unable to attend funerals, even
of his own relatives, on account of the sexual
excitement thus aroused. Funerals, tragedies
at the theater, pictures of martyrdom, scenes of
execution, and trials at the law-courts have been grouped
together as arousing pleasure in many people, especially
women. (C.F. von Schlichtegroll, Sacher-Masoch
und der Masochismus, pp. 30-31.) Wakes
and similar festivals may here find their psychological
basis, and funerals are an unquestionable source of
enjoyment among some people, especially of so-called
“Celtic” race. The stimulating
reaction after funerals is well known to many,
and Leigh Hunt refers to this (in his Autobiography)
as affecting the sincerely devoted friends who
had just cremated Shelley.
It may well be, as Kiernan has argued
(Alienist and Neurologist, 1891; ibid.,
1902, , that in the disturbance of emotional
balance caused by grief the primitive instincts become
peculiarly apt to respond to stimulus, and that in
the aboulia of grief the mind is specially liable
to become the prey to obsessions.
“When my child died at the age
of 6 months,” a correspondent writes, “I
had a violent paroxysm of weeping and for some days
I could not eat. When I kissed the dead boy
for the last time (I had never seen a corpse before)
I felt I had reached the depths of misery and
could never smile or have any deep emotions again.
Yet that night, though my thoughts had not strayed
to sexual subjects since the child’s death,
I had a violent erection. I felt ashamed
to desire carnal things when my dead child was still
in the house, and explained to my wife. She
was sympathetic, for her idea was that our common
grief had intensified my love for her. I
feel convinced, however, that my desire was the result
of a stimulus propagated to the sexual centers
from the centers affected by my grief, the transference
of my emotion from one set of nerves to another.
I do not perhaps express my meaning clearly.”
How far the emotional influence of grief
entered into the following episode it is impossible
to say, for here it is probable that we are mainly
concerned with one of those almost irresistible
impulses by which adolescent girls are sometimes overcome.
The narrative is from the lips of a reliable witness,
a railway guard, who, some thirty years ago, when
a youth of 18, in Cornwall, lodged with a man
and woman who had a daughter of his own age.
Some months later, when requiring a night’s lodging,
he called at the house, and was greeted warmly
by the woman, who told him her husband had just
died and that she and her daughter were very nervous
and would be glad if he would stay the night, but
that as the corpse occupied the other bedroom he would
have to share their bed ("We don’t think
very much of that among us,” my informant
added). He agreed, and went to bed, and when,
a little later, the two women also came to bed,
the girl, at her own suggestion, lay next to the
youth. Nothing happened during the night,
but in the morning, when the mother went down to light
the fire, the daughter immediately threw off the
bedclothes, exposing her naked person, and before
the youth had realized what was happening she
had drawn him over on to her. He was so utterly
surprised that nothing whatever happened, but the
incident made a life-long impression on him.
In this connection reference may be
made to the story of the Ephesian matron in Petronius;
the story of the widow, overcome by grief, who
watches by her husband’s tomb, and very speedily
falls into the arms of the soldier who is on guard.
This story, in very various forms, is found in
China and India, and has occurred repeatedly in
European literature during the last two thousand years.
The history of the wanderings of this story has been
told by Grisebach (Eduard Grisebach, Die Treulose
Witwe, third edition, 1877). It is not
probable, however, that all the stories of this
type are actually related; in any case it would seem
that their vitality is due to the fact that they
have been found to show a real correspondence
to life; one may note, for instance, the curious
tone of personal emotion with which George Chapman
treated this theme in his play, Widow’s
Tears.
It may be added that, in explaining
the resort to pain as an emotional stimulus, we have
to take into account not only the biological and psychological
considerations here brought forward, but also the abnormal
physiological conditions under which stimuli usually
felt as painful come specially to possess a sexually
exciting influence. The neurasthenic and neuropathic
states may be regarded as conditions of more or less
permanent fatigue. It is true that under the
conditions we are considering there may be an extreme
sensitiveness to stimuli not usually felt as of sexual
character, a kind of hyperesthesia; but hyperesthesia,
it has well been said, is nothing but the beginning
of anesthesia. Sergeant Bertrand, the classical
example of necrophily, began to masturbate at
the age of 9, stimulating a sexual impulse which may
have been congenitally feeble by accompanying thoughts
of ill-treating women. It was not till subsequently
that he began to imagine that the women were corpses.
The sadistic thoughts were only incidents in the emotional
evolution, and the real object throughout was to procure
strong emotion and not to inflict cruelty. Some
observations of Fere’s as to the conditions which
influence the amount of muscular work accomplished
with the ergograph are instructive from the present
point of view: “Although sensibility diminishes
in the course of fatigue,” Fere found that “there
are periods during which the excitability increases
before it disappears. As fatigue increases, the
perception of the intercurrent excitation is retarded;
an odor is perceived as exciting before it is perceived
as a differentiated sensation; the most fetid odors
arouse feelings of well-being before being perceived
as odors, and their painful quality only appears afterward,
or is not noticed at all.” And after recording
a series of results with the ergograph obtained under
the stimulus of unpleasant odors he remarks: “We
are thus struck by two facts: the diminution of
work during painful excitation, and its increase when
the excitation has ceased. When the effects following
the excitation have disappeared the diminution is more
rapid than in the ordinary state. When the fatigue
is manifested by a notable diminution, if the same
excitation is brought into action again, no diminution
is produced, but a more or less durable increase, exactly
as though there had been an agreeable excitation.
Moreover, the stimulus which appears painful in a
state of repose loses that painful character either
partially or completely when acting on the same subject
in a more and more fatigued state.” Fere
defines a painful stimulus as a strong excitation
which causes displays of energy which the will cannot
utilize; when, as a result of diminished sensibility,
the excitants are attenuated, the will can utilize
them, and so there is no pain. These experiments
had no reference to the sexual instinct, but it will
be seen at once that they have an extremely significant
bearing on the subject before us, for they show us
the mechanism of the process by which in an abnormal
organism pain becomes a sexual stimulant.