Special Characters of the Sexual Impulse
in Women-The More Passive Part Played by
Women in Courtship-This Passivity only Apparent-The
Physical Mechanism of the Sexual Process in Women
More Complex-The Slower Development of
Orgasm in Women-The Sexual Impulse in Women
More Frequently Needs to be Actively Aroused-The
Climax of Sexual Energy Falls Later in Women’s
Lives than in Men’s-Sexual Ardor in
Women Increased After the Establishment of Sexual
Relationships-Women bear Sexual Excesses
better than Men-The Sexual Sphere Larger
and More Diffused in Women-The Sexual Impulse
in Women Shows a Greater Tendency to Periodicity and
a Wider Range of Variation.
So far I have been discussing the
question of the sexual impulse in women on the ground
upon which previous writers have usually placed it.
The question, that is, has usually presented itself
to them as one concerning the relative strength of
the impulse in men and women. When so considered,
not hastily and with prepossession, as is too often
the case, but with a genuine desire to get at the
real facts in all their aspects, there is no reason,
as we have seen, to conclude that, on the whole, the
sexual impulse in women is lacking in strength.
But we have to push our investigation
of the matter further. In reality, the question
as to whether the sexual impulse is or is not stronger
in one sex than in the other is a somewhat crude one.
To put the question in that form is to reveal ignorance
of the real facts of the matter. And in that
form, moreover, no really definite and satisfactory
answer can be given.
It is necessary to put the matter
on different ground. Instead of taking more or
less insolvable questions as to the strength of the
sexual impulse in the two sexes, it is more profitable
to consider its differences. What are the special
characters of the sexual impulse in women?
There is certainly one purely natural
sexual difference of a fundamental character, which
lies at the basis of whatever truth may be in the
assertion that women are not susceptible of sexual
emotion. As may he seen when considering the
phenomena of modesty, the part played by the female
in courtship throughout nature is usually different
from that played by the male, and is, in some respects,
a more difficult and complex part. Except when
the male fails to play his part properly, she is usually
comparatively passive; in the proper playing of her
part she has to appear to shun the male, to flee from
his approaches-even actually to repel them.
Courtship resembles very closely,
indeed, a drama or game; and the aggressiveness of
the male, the coyness of the female, are alike unconsciously
assumed in order to bring about in the most effectual
manner the ultimate union of the sexes. The seeming
reluctance of the female is not intended to inhibit
sexual activity either in the male or in herself,
but to increase it in both. The passivity of the
female, therefore, is not a real, but only an apparent,
passivity, and this holds true of our own species
as much as of the lower animals. “Women
are like delicately adjusted alembics,” said
a seventeenth-century author. “No fire can
be seen outside, but if you look underneath the alembic,
if you place your hand on the hearts of women, in
both places you will find a great furnace." Or,
as Marro has finely put it, the passivity of women
in love is the passivity of the magnet, which in its
apparent immobility is drawing the iron toward it.
An intense energy lies behind such passivity, an absorbed
preoccupation in the end to be attained.
Tarde, when exercising magistrate’s
functions, once had to inquire into a case in which
a young man was accused of murder. In questioning
a girl of 18, a shepherdess, who appeared before him
as a witness, she told him that on the morning following
the crime she had seen the footmarks of the accused
up to a certain point. He asked how she recognized
them, and she replied, ingenuously but with assurance,
that she could recognize the footprints of every young
man in the neighborhood, even in a plowed field.
No better illustration could be given of the real significance
of the sexual passivity of women, even at its most
negative point.
“The women I have known,”
a correspondent writes, “do not express their
sensations and feelings as much as I do. Nor have
I found women usually anxious to practise ‘luxuries.’
They seldom care to practice fellatio;
I have only known one woman who offered to do
fellatio because she liked it. Nor do they
generally care to masturbate a man; that is, they
do not care greatly to enjoy the contemplation
of the other person’s excitement. (To me, to
see the woman excited means almost more than my
own pleasure.) They usually resist cunnilinctus,
although they enjoy it. They do not seem
to care to touch or look at a man’s parts so
much as he does at theirs. And they seem
to dislike the tongue-kiss unless they feel very
sexual or really love a man.” My correspondent
admits that his relationships have been numerous
and facile, while his erotic demands tend also
to deviate from the normal path. Under such
circumstances, which not uncommonly occur, the woman’s
passions fail to be deeply stirred, and she retains
her normal attitude of relative passivity.
It is owing to the fact that the sexual
passivity of women is only an apparent, and not
a real, passivity that women are apt to suffer,
as men are, from prolonged sexual abstinence.
This, indeed, has been denied, but can scarcely
be said to admit of doubt. The only question
is as to the relative amount of such suffering,
necessarily a very difficult question. As far
back as the fourteenth century Johannes de Sancto
Amando stated that women are more injured than
men by sexual abstinence. In modern times
Maudsley considers that women “suffer more than
men do from the entire deprivation of sexual intercourse”
("Relations between Body and Mind,” Lancet,
May 28, 1870). By some it has been held that
this cause may produce actual disease. Thus, Tilt,
an eminent gynecologist of the middle of the nineteenth
century, in discussing this question, wrote:
“When we consider how much of the lifetime
of woman is occupied by the various phases of the
generative process, and how terrible is often the
conflict within her between the impulse of passion
and the dictates of duty, it may be well understood
how such a conflict reacts on the organs of the
sexual economy in the unimpregnated female, and principally
on the ovaria, causing an orgasm, which, if often
repeated, may possibly be productive of
subacute ovaritis.” (Tilt, On Uterine
and Ovarian Inflammation, 1862, pp. 309-310.)
Long before Tilt, Haller, it seems, had said that
women are especially liable to suffer from privation
of sexual intercourse to which they have been
accustomed, and referred to chlorosis, hysteria,
nymphomania, and simple mania curable by intercourse.
Hegar considers that in women an injurious result
follows the nonsatisfaction of the sexual impulse
and of the “ideal feelings,” and that
symptoms thus arise (pallor, loss of flesh, cardialgia,
malaise, sleeplessness, disturbances of menstruation)
which are diagnosed as “chlorosis.”
(Hegar, Zusammenhang der Geschlechtskrankheiten
mit nervoesen Leiden, 1885, .) Freud, as
well as Gattel, has found that states of anxiety (Angstzustaende)
are caused by sexual abstinence. Loewenfeld, on
careful examination of his own cases, is able to
confirm this connection in both sexes. He
has specially noticed it in young women who marry
elderly husbands. Loewenfeld believes, however,
that, on the whole, healthy unmarried women bear
sexual abstinence better than men. If, however,
they are of at all neuropathic disposition, ungratified
sexual emotions may easily lead to various morbid
conditions, especially of a hysteroneurasthenic
character. (Loewenfeld, Sexualleben und Nervenleiden,
second edition, 1899, pp. 44, 47, 54-60.)
Balls-Headley considers that unsatisfied sexual
desires in women may lead to the following conditions:
general atrophy, anemia, neuralgia and hysteria,
irregular menstruation, leucorrhea, atrophy of
sexual organs. He also refers to the frequency
of myoma of the uterus among those who have not
become pregnant or who have long ceased to bear
children. (Balls-Headley, art. “Etiology
of Diseases of Female Genital Organs,” Allbutt
and Playfair, System of Gynaecology, 1896,
.) It cannot, however, be said that he brings
forward substantial evidence in favor of these
beliefs. It may be added that in America, during
recent years, leading gynecologists have recorded
a number of cases in which widows on remarriage
have shown marked improvement in uterine and pelvic
conditions.
The question as to whether men or women
suffer most from sexual abstinence, as well as
the question whether definite morbid conditions
are produced by such abstinence, remains, however,
an obscure and debated problem. The available
data do not enable us to answer it decisively.
It is one of those subtle and complex questions
which can only be investigated properly by a gynecologist
who is also a psychologist. Incidentally, however,
we have met and shall have occasion to meet with
evidence bearing on this question. It is
sufficient to say here, briefly, that it is impossible
to believe, even if no evidence were forthcoming,
that the exercise or non-exercise of so vastly
important a function can make no difference to
the organism generally. So far as the evidence
goes, it may be said to indicate that the results
of the abeyance of the sexual functions in healthy
women in whom the sexual emotions have never been
definitely aroused tend to be diffused and unconscious,
as the sexual impulse itself often is, but that,
in women in whom the sexual emotions have been
definitely aroused and gratified, the results of sexual
abstinence tend to be acute and conscious.
These acute results are at the present
day very often due to premature ejaculation by
nervous or neurasthenic husbands, the rapidity
with which detumescence is reached in the husband
allowing insufficient time for tumescence in the
wife, who consequently fails to reach the orgasm.
This has of late been frequently pointed out.
Thus Kafemann (Sexual-Problème, March, 1910,
et seq.) emphasizes the prevalence of sexual
incompetence in men. Ferenczi, of Budapest
(Zentralblatt fuer Psychoanalyse, 1910,
h and 2, , believes that the combination
of neurasthenic husbands with resultantly nervous
wives is extraordinarily common; even putting aside
the neurasthenic, he considers it may be said
that the whole male sex in relation to women suffer
from precocious ejaculation. He adds that
it is often difficult to say whether the lack of harmony
may not be due to retarded orgasm in the woman.
He regards the influence of masturbation in early
life as tending to quicken orgasm in man, while
when practised by the other sex it tends to slow
orgasm, and thus increases the disharmony. He
holds, however, that the chief cause lies in the
education of women with its emphasis on sexual
repression; this works too well and the result
is that when the external impediments to the sexual
impulse are removed the impulse has become incapable
of normal action. Porosz (British Medical
Journal, April 1, 1911) has brought forward
cases of serious nervous trouble in women which have
been dispersed when the sexual weakness and premature
ejaculation of the husband have been cured.
The true nature of the passivity of
the female is revealed by the ease with which it is
thrown off, more especially when the male refuses to
accept his cue. Or, if we prefer to accept the
analogy of a game, we may say that in the play of
courtship the first move belongs to the male, but
that, if he fails to play, it is then the female’s
turn to play.
Among many birds the males at mating
time fall into a state of sexual frenzy, but not
the females. “I cannot call to mind a single
case,” states an authority on birds (H.E.
Howard, Zooelogist, 1902, , “where
I have seen anything approaching frenzy in the
female of any species while mating.”
Another great authority on birds, a
very patient and skillful observer, Mr. Edmund
Selous, remarks, however, in describing the courting
habits of the ruffs and reeves (Machetes pugnax)
that, notwithstanding the passivity of the females
beforehand, their movements during and after coitus
show that they derive at least as much pleasure
as the males. (E. Selous, “Selection in
Birds,” Zooelogist, Feb. and May,
1907.)
The same observer, after speaking of
the great beauty of the male eider duck, continues:
“These glorified males-there were
a dozen of these, perhaps, to some six or seven
females-swam closely about the latter,
but more in attendance upon them than as actively
pursuing them, for the females seemed themselves almost
as active agents in the sport of being wooed as
were their lovers in wooing them. The male
bird first dipped down his head till his beak
just touched the water, then raised it again in a
constrained and tense manner,-the curious
rigid action so frequent in the nuptial antics
of birds,-at the same time uttering
his strange haunting note. The air became filled
with it; every moment one or other of the birds-sometimes
several together-with upturned bill
would softly laugh or exclaim, and while the males
did this, the females, turning excitedly, and with
little eager demonstrations from one to another of
them, kept lowering and extending forward the
head and neck in the direction of each in turn....
I noticed that a female would often approach a
male bird with her head and neck laid flat along the
water as though in a very ‘coming on’
disposition, and that the male bird declined her
advances. This, taken in conjunction with the
actions of the female when courted by the male, appears
to me to raise a doubt as to the universal application
of the law that throughout nature the male, in
courtship, is eager, and the female coy.
Here, to all appearances, courtship was proceeding,
and the birds had not yet mated. The female
eider ducks, however,-at any rate,
some of them,-appeared to be anything but
coy.” (Bird Watching, pp. 144-146.)
Among moor-hens and great-crested grèbes
sometimes what Selous terms “functional
hermaphroditism” occurs and the females play
the part of the male toward their male companions,
and then repeat the sexual act with a reversion
to the normal order, the whole to the satisfaction
of both parties. (E. Selous, Zooelogist,
1902, .)
It is not only among birds that the
female sometimes takes the active part, but also
among mammals. Among white rats, for instance,
the males are exceptionally eager. Steinach, who
has made many valuable experiments on these animals
(Archiv fuer die Gesammte Physiologie,
Bd. lvi, 1894, , tells us that, when
a female white rat is introduced into the cage of a
male, he at once leaves off eating, or whatever
else he may be doing, becomes indifferent to noises
or any other source of distraction, and devotes
himself entirely to her. If, however, he is
introduced into her cage the new environment renders
him nervous and suspicious, and then it is she
who takes the active part, trying to attract him
in every way. The impetuosity during heat
of female animals of various species, when at length
admitted to the male, is indeed well known to all
who are familiar with animals.
I have referred to the frequency with
which, in the human species,-and very
markedly in early adolescence, when the sexual impulse
is in a high degree unconscious and unrestrainedly
instinctive,-similar manifestations
may often be noted. We have to recognize
that they are not necessarily abnormal and still less
pathological. They merely represent the unseasonable
apparition of a tendency which in due subordination
is implied in the phases of courtship throughout
the animal world. Among some peoples and
in some stages of culture, tending to withdraw the
men from women and the thought of women, this phase
of courtship and this attitude assume a prominence
which is absolutely normal. The literature
of the Middle Ages presents a state of society in
which men were devoted to war and to warlike sports,
while the women took the more active part in love-making.
The medieval poets represent women as actively
encouraging backward lovers, and as delighting
to offer to great heroes the chastity they had preserved,
sometimes entering their bed-chambers at night.
Schultz (Das Hoefische Leben, Bd. i,
pp. 594-598) considers that these representations
are not exaggerated. Cf. Krabbes, Die
Frau im Altfranzoesischen Karls-Epos, 1884,
et seq.; and M.A. Potter, Sohrab
and Rustem, 1902, pp. 152-163.
Among savages and barbarous races in
various parts of the world it is the recognized
custom, reversing the more usual method, for the
girl to take the initiative in courtship. This
is especially so in New Guinea. Here the
girls almost invariably take the initiative, and
in consequence hold a very independent position.
Women are always regarded as the seducers:
“Women steal men.” A youth who
proposed to a girl would be making himself ridiculous,
would be called a woman, and be laughed at by the
girls. The usual method by which a girl proposes
is to send a present to the youth by a third party,
following this up by repeated gifts of food; the
young man sometimes waits a month or two, receiving
presents all the time, in order to assure himself
of the girl’s constancy before decisively
accepting her advances. (A.C. Haddon, Cambridge
Expedition to Torres Straits, vol. v, ch.
viii; id., “Western Tribes of Torres Straits,”
Journal of the Anthropological Institute,
vol. xix, February, 1890, pp. 314, 356,
394, 395, 411, 413; id., Head Hunters, pp.
158-164; R.E. Guise, “Tribes of the
Wanigela River,” Journal of the Anthropological
Institute, new series, vol. i, February-May,
1899, .) Westermarck gives instances of races
among whom the women take the initiative in courtship.
(History of Marriage, ; so also Finck,
Primitive Love and Love-stories, 1899,
et seq.; and as regards Celtic women, see
Rhys and Brynmor Jones, The Welsh People.)
There is another characteristic of
great significance by which the sexual impulse in
women differs from that in men: the widely unlike
character of the physical mechanism involved in the
process of coitus. Considering how obvious this
difference is, it is strange that its fundamental importance
should so often be underrated. In man the process
of tumescence and detumescence is simple. In
women it is complex. In man we have the more or
less spontaneously erectile penis, which needs but
very simple conditions to secure the ejaculation which
brings relief. In women we have in the clitoris
a corresponding apparatus on a small scale, but behind
this has developed a much more extensive mechanism,
which also demands satisfaction, and requires for
that satisfaction the presence of various conditions
that are almost antagonistic. Naturally the more
complex mechanism is the more easily disturbed.
It is the difference, roughly speaking, between a
lock and a key. This analogy is far from indicating
all the difficulties involved. We have to imagine
a lock that not only requires a key to fit it, but
should only be entered at the right moment, and, under
the best conditions, may only become adjusted to the
key by considerable use. The fact that the man
takes the more active part in coitus has increased
these difficulties; the woman is too often taught to
believe that the whole function is low and impure,
only to be submitted to at her husband’s will
and for his sake, and the man has no proper knowledge
of the mechanism involved and the best way of dealing
with it. The grossest brutality thus may be,
and not infrequently is, exercised in all innocence
by an ignorant husband who simply believes that he
is performing his “marital duties.”
For a woman to exercise this physical brutality on
a man is with difficulty possible; a man’s pleasurable
excitement is usually the necessary condition of the
woman’s sexual gratification. But the reverse
is not the case, and, if the man is sufficiently ignorant
or sufficiently coarse-grained to be satisfied with
the woman’s submission, he may easily become
to her, in all innocence, a cause of torture.
To the man coitus must be in some
slight degree pleasurable or it cannot take place
at all. To the woman the same act which, under
some circumstances, in the desire it arouses and the
satisfaction it imparts, will cause the whole universe
to shrivel into nothingness, under other circumstances
will be a source of anguish, physical and mental.
This is so to some extent even in the presence of
the right and fit man. There can be no doubt
whatever that the mucus which is so profusely poured
out over the external sexual organs in woman during
the excitement of sexual desire has for its end the
lubrication of the parts and the facilitation of the
passage of the intromittent organ. The most casual
inspection of the cold, contracted, dry vulva in its
usual aspect and the same when distended, hot, and
moist suffices to show which condition is and which
is not that ready for intercourse, and until the proper
condition is reached it is certain that coitus should
not be attempted.
The varying sensitiveness of the female
parts again offers difficulties. Sexual relations
in women are, at the onset, almost inevitably painful;
and to some extent the same experience may be repeated
at every act of coitus. Ordinary tactile sensibility
in the female genitourinary region is notably obtuse,
but at the beginning of the sexual act there is normally
a hyperesthesia which may be painful or pleasurable
as excitement culminates, passing into a seeming anesthesia,
which even craves for rough contact; so that in sexual
excitement a woman normally displays in quick succession
that same quality of sensibility to superficial pressure
and insensibility to deep pressure which the hysterical
woman exhibits simultaneously.
Thus we see that a highly important
practical result follows from the greater complexity
of the sexual apparatus in women and the greater difficulty
with which it is aroused. In coitus the orgasm
tends to occur more slowly in women than in men.
It may easily happen that the whole process of detumescence
is completed in the man before it has begun in his
partner, who is left either cold or unsatisfied.
This is one of the respects in which women remain
nearer than men to the primitive stage of humanity.
In the Hippocratic treatise, Of Generation,
it is stated that, while woman has less pleasure
in coitus than man, her pleasure lasts longer.
(Oeuvres d’Hippocrate, edition Littre,
vol. vii, .)
Beaunis considers that the slower development
of the orgasm in women is the only essential difference
in the sexual process in men and women. (Beaunis,
Les Sensations Internes, 1889, .)
This characteristic of the sexual impulse in women,
though recognized for so long a period, is still
far too often ignored or unknown. There is
even a superstition that injurious results may
follow if the male orgasm is not effected as rapidly
as possible. That this is not so is shown
by the experiences of the Oneida community in
America, who in their system of sexual relationship
carried prolonged intercourse without ejaculation to
an extreme degree. There can be no doubt whatever
that very prolonged intercourse gives the maximum
amount of pleasure and relief to the woman.
Not only is this the very decided opinion of women
who have experienced it, but it is also indicated by
the well-recognized fact that a woman who repeats
the sexual act several times in succession often
experiences more intense orgasm and pleasure with
each repetition.
This point is much better understood
in the East than in the West. The prolongation
of the man’s excitement, in order to give the
woman time for orgasm, is, remarks Sir Richard Burton
(Arabian Nights, vol. v, , much
studied by Moslems, as also by Hindoos, who, on
this account, during the orgasm seek to avoid
overtension of muscles and to preoccupy the brain.
During coitus they will drink sherbet, chew betel-nut,
and even smoke. Europeans devote no care
to this matter, and Hindoo women, who require
about twenty minutes to complete the act, contemptuously
call them “village cocks.” I have
received confirmation of Burton’s statements
on this point from medical correspondents in India.
While the European desires to perform
as many acts of coitus in one night as possible,
Breitenstein remarks, the Malay, as still more
the Javanese, wishes, not to repeat the act many times,
but to prolong it. His aim is to remain in
the vagina for about a quarter of an hour.
Unlike the European, also, he boasts of the pleasure
he has given his partner far more than of his own
pleasure. (Breitenstein, 21 Jahre in India,
theil i, “Bornéo,” .)
Jaeger (Entdeckung der Seele,
second edition, vol. i, 1884, , as
quoted by Moll, explains the preference of some women
for castrated men as due, not merely to the absence
of risk of impregnation, but to the prolonged
erections that take place in the castrated.
Aly-Belfadel remarks (Archivio di Psichiatria,
1903, that he knows women who prefer old
men in coitus simply because of their delay in
ejaculation which allows more time to the women
to become excited.
A Russian correspondent living in Italy
informs me that a Neapolitan girl of 17, who had
only recently ceased to be a virgin, explained
to him that she preferred coitus in ore vulvae
to real intercourse because the latter was over
before she had time to obtain the orgasm (or,
as she put it, “the big bird has fled from
the cage and I am left in the lurch"), while in the
other way she was able to experience the orgasm
twice before her partner reached the climax.
“This reminds me,” my correspondent continues,
“that a Milanese cocotte once told me that she
much liked intercourse with Jews because, on account
of the circumcised penis being less sensitive
to contact, they ejaculate more slowly then Christians.
‘With Christians,’ she said, ’it
constantly happens that I am left unsatisfied because
they ejaculate before me, while in coitus with
Jews I sometimes ejaculate twice before the orgasm
occurs in my partner, or, rather, I hold back
the second orgasm until he is ready.’ This
is confirmed,” my correspondent continues,
“by what I was told by a Russian Jew, a
student at the Zuerich Polytechnic, who had a Russian
comrade living with a mistress, also a Russian student,
or pseudostudent. One day the Jew, going early
to see his friend, was told to enter by a woman’s
voice and found his friend’s mistress alone
and in her chemise beside the bed. He was about
to retire, but the young woman bade him stay and
in a few minutes he was in bed with her.
She told him that her lover had just gone away
and that she never had sexual relief with him because
he always ejaculated too soon. That morning
he had left her so excited and so unrelieved that
she was just about to masturbate-which
she rarely did because it gave her headache-when
she heard the Jew’s voice, and, knowing that
Jews are slower in coitus than Christians, she
had suddenly resolved to give herself to him.”
I am informed that the sexual power
of negroes and slower ejaculation (see Appendix
A) are the cause of the favor with which they
are viewed by some white women of strong sexual passions
in America, and by many prostitutes. At one time
there was a special house in New York City to
which white women resorted for these “buck
lovers”; the women came heavily veiled and
would inspect the penises of the men before making
their selection.
It is thus a result of the complexity
of the sexual mechanism in women that the whole attitude
of a woman toward the sexual relationship is liable
to be affected disastrously by the husband’s
lack of skill or consideration in initiating her into
this intimate mystery. Normally the stage of
apparent repulsion and passivity, often associated
with great sensitiveness, physical and moral, passes
into one of active participation and aid in the consummation
of the sexual act. But if, from whatever cause,
there is partial arrest on the woman’s side of
this evolution in the process of courtship, if her
submission is merely a mental and deliberate act of
will, and not an instinctive and impulsive participation,
there is a necessary failure of sexual relief and
gratification. When we find that a woman displays
a certain degree of indifference in sexual relationships,
and a failure of complete gratification, we have to
recognize that the fault may possibly lie, not in
her, but in the defective skill of a lover who has
not known how to play successfully the complex and
subtle game of courtship. Sexual coldness due
to the shock and suffering of the wedding-night is
a phenomenon that is far too frequent. Hence
it is that many women may never experience sexual
gratification and relief, through no defect on their
part, but through the failure of the husband to understand
the lover’s part. We make a false analogy
when we compare the courtship of animals exclusively
with our own courtships before marriage. Courtship,
properly understood, is the process whereby both the
male and the female are brought into that state of
sexual tumescence which is a more or less necessary
condition for sexual intercourse. The play of
courtship cannot, therefore, be considered to be definitely
brought to an end by the ceremony of marriage; it
may more properly be regarded as the natural preliminary
to every act of coitus.
Tumescence is not merely a more or less
essential condition for proper sexual intercourse.
It is probably of more fundamental significance
as one of the favoring conditions of impregnation.
This has, indeed, been long recognized. Van
Swieten, when consulted by the childless Maria
Theresa, gave the opinion “Ego vero
censeo, vulvam Sacratissimae Majestatis ante coitum
diutius esse titillandam,” and
thereafter she had many children. “I think
it very nearly certain,” Matthews Duncan
wrote (Goulstonian Lectures on Sterility in
Woman, 1884, , “that desire and pleasure
in due or moderate degree are very important aids to,
or predisposing causes of, fecundity,” as
bringing into action the complicated processes
of fecundation. Hirst (Text-book of Obstetrics,
1899, mentions the case of a childless married
woman who for six years had had no orgasm during intercourse;
then it occurred at the same time as coitus, and pregnancy
resulted.
Kisch is very decidedly of the same
opinion, and considers that the popular belief
on this point is fully justified. It is a fact,
he states, that an unfaithful wife is more likely to
conceive with her lover than with her husband,
and he concludes that, whatever the precise mechanism
may be, “sexual excitement on the woman’s
part is a necessary link in the chain of conditions
producing impregnation.” (E.H. Kisch, Die
Sterilitaet des Weibes, 1886, .) Kisch
believes that in the majority of women
sexual pleasure only appears gradually, after the
first cohabitation, and then develops progressively,
and that the first conception usually coincides
with its complete awakening. In 556 cases
of his own the most frequent epoch of first impregnation
was found to be between ten and fifteen months after
marriage.
The removal of sexual frigidity thus
becomes a matter of some importance. This
removal may in some cases be effected by treatment
through the husband, but that course is not always
practicable. Dr. Douglas Bryan, of Leicester,
informs me that in several cases he has succeeded
in removing sexual coldness and physical aversion
in the wife by hypnotic suggestion. The suggestions
given to the patient are “that all her womanly
natural feelings would be quickly and satisfactorily
developed during coitus; that she would experience
no feeling of disgust and nausea, would have no
fear of the orgasm not developing; that there
would be no involuntary resistance on her part.”
The fact that such suggestions can be permanently
effective tends to show how superficial the sexual
“anesthesia” of women usually is.
Not only, therefore, is the apparatus
of sexual excitement in women more complex than in
men, but-in part, possibly as a result of
this greater complexity-it much more frequently
requires to be actively aroused. In men tumescence
tends to occur almost spontaneously, or under the simple
influence of accumulated semen. In women, also,
especially in those who live a natural and healthy
life, sexual excitement also tends to occur spontaneously,
but by no means so frequently as in men. The comparative
rarity of sexual dreams in women who have not had sexual
relationships alone serves to indicate this sexual
difference. In a very large number of women the
sexual impulse remains latent until aroused by a lover’s
caresses. The youth spontaneously becomes a man;
but the maiden-as it has been said-“must
be kissed into a woman.”
One result of this characteristic
is that, more especially when love is unduly delayed
beyond the first youth, this complex apparatus has
difficulty in responding to the unfamiliar demands
of sexual excitement. Moreover, delayed normal
sexual relations, when the sexual impulse is not absolutely
latent, tend to induce all degrees of perverted or
abnormal sexual gratification, and the physical mechanism
when trained to respond in other ways often fails
to respond normally when, at last, the normal conditions
of response are presented. In all these ways passivity
and even aversion may be produced in the conjugal
relationship. The fact that it is almost normally
the function of the male to arouse the female, and
that the greater complexity of the sexual mechanism
in women leads to more frequent disturbance of that
mechanism, produces a simulation of organic sexual
coldness which has deceived many.
An instructive study of cases in which
the sexual impulse has been thus perverted has
been presented by Smith Baker ("The Neuropsychical
Element in Conjugal Aversion,” Journal of
Nervous and Mental Disease, vol. xvii,
September, 1892). Raymond and Janet, who
believes that sexual coldness is extremely frequent
in marriage, and that it plays an important part
in the causation of physical and moral troubles,
find that it is most often due to masturbation.
(Les Obsessions, vol. ii, .) Adler,
after discussing the complexity of the feminine
sexual mechanism, and the difficulty which women
find in obtaining sexual gratification in normal
coitus, concludes that “masturbation is a frequent,
perhaps the most frequent, cause of defective sexual
sensibility in women.” (Op. cit.,
.) He remarks that in women masturbation
usually has less resemblance to normal coitus than
in men and involves very frequently the special
excitation of parts which are not the chief focus
of excitement in coitus, so that coitus fails
to supply the excitation which has become habitual
(pp. 113-116). In the discussion of “Auto-erotism”
in the first volume of these Studies, I
had already referred to the divorce between the
physical and the ideal sides of love which may,
especially in women, be induced by masturbation.
Another cause of inhibited sexual feeling
has been brought forward. A married lady
with normal sexual impulse states (Sexual-Problème,
April, 1912, that she cannot experience
orgasm and sexual satisfaction when the intercourse
is not for conception. This is a psychic
inhibition independent of any disturbance due
to the process of prevention. She knows other
women who are similarly affected. Such an
inhibition must be regarded as artificial and
abnormal, since the final result of sexual intercourse,
under natural and normal conditions, forms no essential
constituent of the psychic process of intercourse.
As a result of the fact that in women
the sexual emotions tend not to develop great intensity
until submitted to powerful stimulation, we find that
the maximum climax of sexual emotion tends to fall
somewhat later in a woman’s life than in a man’s.
Among animals generally there appears to be frequently
traceable a tendency for the sexual activities of the
male to develop at a somewhat earlier age than those
of the female. In the human, species we may certainly
trace the same tendency. As the great physiologist,
Burdach, pointed out, throughout nature, with the
accomplishment of the sexual act the part of the male
in the work of generation comes to an end; but that
act represents only the beginning of a woman’s
generative activity.
A youth of 20 may often display a
passionate ardor in love which is very seldom indeed
found in women who are under 25. It is rare for
a woman, even though her sexual emotions may awaken
at puberty or earlier, to experience the great passion
of her life until after the age of 25 has been passed.
In confirmation of this statement, which is supported
by daily observation, it may be pointed out that nearly
all the most passionate love-letters of women, as
well as their most passionate devotions, have come
from women who had passed, sometimes long passed,
their first youth. When Heloise wrote to Abelard
the first of the letters which have come down to us
she was at least 32. Mademoiselle Aisse’s
relation with the Chevalier began when she was 32,
and when she died, six years later, the passion of
each was at its height. Mary Wollstonecraft was
34 when her love-letters to Imlay began, and her child
was born in the following year. Mademoiselle
de Lespinasse was 43 when she began to write her letters
to M. de Guibert. In some cases the sexual impulse
may not even appear until after the period of the
menopause has been passed.
In Roman times Ovid remarked (Ars
Amatoria, lib. ii) that a woman fails to understand
the art of love until she has reached the age
of 35. “A girl of 18,” said Stendhal
(De l’Amour, ch. viii), “has
not the power to crystallize her emotions; she forms
desires that are too limited by her lack of experience
in the things of life, to be able to love with
such passion as a woman of 28.” “Sexual
needs,” said Restif de la Bretonne (Monsieur
Nicolas, vol. xi, , “often
only appears in young women when they are between
26 and 27 years of age; at least, that is what
I have observed.”
Erb states that it is about the middle
of the twenties that women begin to suffer physically,
morally, and intellectually from their sexual
needs. Nystroem (Das Geschlechtsleben,
considers that it is about the age of
30 that a woman first begins to feel conscious
of sex needs. In a case of Adler’s (op.
cit., , sexual feelings first appeared
after the birth of the third child, at the age
of 30. Forel (Die Sexuelle Frage, 1906,
considers that sexual desire in woman is often
strongest between the ages of 30 and 40. Leith
Napier (Menopause, remarks that
from 28 to 30 is often an important age in woman
who have retained their virginity, erotism then
appearing with the full maturity of the nervous system.
Yellowlees (art. “Masturbation,”
Dictionary of Psychological Medicine),
again, states that at about the age of 33 some women
experience great sexual irritability, often resulting
in masturbation. Audiffrent (Archives
d’Anthropologie Criminelle, Ja,
1902, considers that it is toward the age of
30 that a woman reaches her full moral and physical
development, and that at this period her emotional
and idealizing impulses reach a degree of intensity
which is sometimes irresistible. It has already
been mentioned that Matthews Duncan’s careful
inquiries showed that it is between the ages of
30 and 34 that the largest proportion of women
experience sexual desire and sexual pleasure.
It may be remarked, also, that while the typical
English novelists, who have generally sought to
avoid touching the deeper and more complex aspects
of passion, often choose very youthful heroines,
French novelists, who have frequently had a predilection
for the problems of passion, often choose heroines
who are approaching the age of 30.
Hirschfeld (Von Wesen der Liebe,
was consulted by a lady who, being without
any sexual desires or feelings, married an inverted
man in order to live with him a life of simple comradeship.
Within six months, however, she fell violently in
love with her husband, with the full manifestation
of sexual feelings and accompanying emotions of
jealousy. Under all the circumstances, however,
she would not enter into sexual relationship with
her husband, and the torture she endured became so
acute that she desired to be castrated. In this
connection, also, I may mention a case, which
has been communicated to me from Glasgow, of a
girl-strong and healthy and menstruating
regularly since the age of 17-who was
seduced at the age of 20 without any sexual desire
on her part, giving birth to a child nine months
later. Subsequently she became a prostitute for
three years, and during this period had not the
slightest sexual desire or any pleasure in sexual
connection. Thereafter she met a poor lad
with whom she has full sexual desire and sexual pleasure,
the result being that she refuses to go with any
other man, and consequently is almost without
food for several days every week.
The late appearance of the great climax
of sexual emotion in women is indicated by a tendency
to nervous and psychic disturbances between the
ages of 25 and about 33, which has been independently
noted by various alienists (though it may be noted
that 25 to 30 is not an unusual age for first attacks
of insanity in men also). Thus, Krafft-Ebing
states that adult unmarried women between the
ages of 25 and 30 often show nervous symptoms and
peculiarities. (Krafft-Ebing, “Ueber Neurosen
und Psychosen durch Sexuelle Abstinenz,”
Jahrbuecher fuer Psychiatrie, Bd. viii,
h-4, 1888.) Pitres and Regis find also (Comptes-rendus
XIIe Congrès International de Médecine, Moscow,
1897, vol. iv, that obsessions, which
are commoner in women than in men and are commonly
connected in their causation with strong moral emotion,
occur in women chiefly between the ages of 26 and 30,
though in men much earlier. The average age
at which in England women inebriates begin drinking
in excess is 26. (British Medical Journal,
Sep, 1911, .)
A case recorded by Serieux is instructive
as regards the development of the sexual impulse,
although it comes within the sphere of mental
disorder. A woman of 32 with bad heredity had
in childhood had weak health and become shy, silent,
and fond of solitude, teased by her companions
and finding consolation in hard work. Though
very emotional, she never, even in the vaguest form,
experienced any of those feelings and aspirations which
reveal the presence of the sexual impulse.
She had no love of dancing and was indifferent
to any embraces she might chance to receive from
young men. She never masturbated or showed inverted
feelings. At the age of 23 she married.
She still, however, experienced no sexual feelings;
twice only she felt a faint sensation of pleasure.
A child was born, but her home was unhappy on
account of her husband’s drunken habits.
He died and she worked hard for her own living
and the support of her mother. Then at the
age of 31 a new phase occurs in her life: she
falls in love with the master of her workshop.
It was at first a purely psychic affection, without
any mixture of physical elements; it was enough
to see him, and she trembled when she touched anything
that belonged to him. She was constantly thinking
about him; she loved him for his eyes, which seemed
to her those of her own child, and especially
for his intelligence. Gradually, however, the
lower nervous centers began to take part in these emotions;
one day in passing her the master chanced to touch
her shoulder; this contact was sufficient to produce
sexual turgescence. She began to masturbate
daily, thinking of her master, and for the first
time in her life she desired coitus. She evoked
the image of her master so constantly and vividly
that at last hallucinations of sight, touch, and
hearing appeared, and it seemed to her that he
was present. These hallucinations were only with
difficulty dissipated. (P. Serieux, Les Anomalies
de L’Instinct Sexuel, 1888, .)
This case presents in an insane form a phenomenon
which is certainly by no means uncommon and is very
significant. Up to the age of 31 we should certainly
have been forced to conclude that this woman was
sexually anesthetic to an almost absolute degree.
In reality, we see this was by no means the case.
Weak health, hard work, and a brutal husband had prolonged
the latency of the sexual emotions; but they were
there, ready to explode with even insane intensity
(this being due to the unsound heredity) in the
presence of a man who appealed to these emotions.
In connection with the late evolution
of the sexual emotions in women reference may
be made to what is usually termed “old maid’s
insanity,” a condition not met with in men.
In these cases, which are not, indeed, common,
single women who have led severely strict and
virtuous lives, devoting themselves to religious or
intellectual work, and carefully repressing the
animal side of their natures, at last, just before
the climacteric, experience an awakening of the
erotic impulse; they fall in love with some unfortunate
man, often a clergyman, persecute him with their attentions,
and frequently suffer from the delusion that he reciprocates
their affections.
When once duly aroused, there cannot
usually be any doubt concerning the strength of the
sexual impulse in normal and healthy women. There
would, however, appear to be a distinct difference
between the sexes at this point also. Before
sexual union the male tends to be more ardent; after
sexual union it is the female who tends to be more
ardent. The sexual energy of women, under these
circumstances, would seem to be the greater on account
of the long period during which it has been dormant.
Sinibaldus in the seventeenth century,
in his Geneanthropeia, argued that, though
women are cold at first, and aroused with more
difficulty and greater slowness than men, the flame
of passion spreads in them the more afterward,
just as iron is by nature cold, but when heated
gives a great degree of heat. Similarly Mandeville
said of women that “their passions are not so
easily raised nor so suddenly fixed upon any particular
object; but when this passion is once rooted in
women it is much stronger and more durable than
in men, and rather increases than diminishes by
enjoying the person of the beloved.” (A Modest
Defence of Public Stews, 1724, .) Burdach
considered that women only acquire the full enjoyment
of their general strength after marriage and pregnancy,
while it is before marriage that men have most
vigor. Schopenhauer also said that a man’s
love decreases with enjoyment, and a woman’s
increases. And Ellen Key has remarked (Love
and Marriage) that “where there is no mixture
of Southern blood it is a long time, sometimes indeed
not till years after marriage, that the senses
of the Northern women awake to consciousness.”
Even among animals this tendency seems
to be manifested. Edmund Selous (Bird
Watching, remarks, concerning sea-gulls:
“Always, or almost always, one of the birds-and
this I take to be the female-is more
eager, has a more soliciting manner and tender
begging look than the other. It is she who, as
a rule, draws the male bird on. She looks
fondly up at him, and, raising her bill to his,
as though beseeching a kiss, just touches with it,
in raising, the feathers of the throat-an
action light, but full of endearment. And
in every way she shows herself the most desirous,
and, in fact, so worries and pesters the poor male
gull that often, to avoid her importunities, he
flies away. This may seem odd, but I have
seen other instances of it. No doubt, in actual
courting, before the sexes are paired, the male bird
is usually the most eager, but after marriage
the female often becomes the wooer. Of this
I have seen some marked instances.” Selous
mentions especially the plover, kestrel hawk, and rook.
In association with the fact that
women tend to show an increase of sexual ardor after
sexual relationships have been set up may be noted
the probably related fact that sexual intercourse
is undoubtedly less injurious to women than to men.
Other things being equal, that is to say, the threshold
of excess is passed very much sooner by the man than
by the woman. This was long ago pointed out by
Montaigne. The ancient saying, “Omne
animal post coitum triste,” is of limited
application at the best, but certainly has little
reference to women. Alacrity, rather than languor,
as Robin has truly observed, marks a woman after
coitus, or, as a medical friend of my own has said,
a woman then goes about the house singing. It
is, indeed, only after intercourse with a woman for
whom, in reality, he feels contempt that a man experiences
that revulsion of feeling described by Shakespeare
(sonnet cxxix). Such a passage should not be
quoted, as it sometimes has been quoted, as the representation
of a normal phenomenon. But, with equal gratification
on both sides, it remains true that, while after a
single coitus the man may experience a not unpleasant
lassitude and readiness for sleep, this is rarely the
case with his partner, for whom a single coitus is
often but a pleasant stimulus, the climax of satisfaction
not being reached until a second or subsequent act
of intercourse. “Excess in venery,”
which, rightly or wrongly, is set down as the cause
of so many evils in men, seldom, indeed, appears in
connection with women, although in every act of venery
the woman has taken part.
That women bear sexual excesses better
than men was noted by Cabanis and other early
writers. Alienists frequently refer to the
fact that women are less liable to be affected by insanity
following such excesses. (See, e.g., Maudsley,
“Relations between Body and Mind,”
Lancet, May 28, 1870; and G. Savage, art.
“Marriage and Insanity” in Dictionary
of Psychological Medicine.) Trousseau remarked
on the fact that women are not exhausted by repeated
acts of coitus within a short period, notwithstanding
that the nervous excitement in their case is as great,
if not greater, and he considered that this showed
that the loss of semen is a cause of exhaustion
in men. Loewenfeld (Sexualleben und Nervenleiden,
pp. 74, 153) states that there cannot be
question that the nervous system in women is less
influenced by the after-effects of coitus than
in men. Not only, he remarks, are prostitutes
very little liable to suffer from nervous overstimulation,
and neurasthenia and hysteria when occurring in
them be easily traceable to other causes, but “healthy
women who are not given to prostitution, when they
indulge in very frequent sexual intercourse, provided
it is practised normally, do not experience the
slightest injurious effect. I have seen many
young married couples where the husband had been
reduced to a pitiable condition of nervous prostration
and general discomfort by the zeal with which he
had exercised his marital duties, while the wife
had been benefited and was in the uninterrupted
enjoyment of the best health.” This experience
is by no means uncommon.
A correspondent writes: “It
is quite true that the threshold of excess is
less easily reached by women than by men. I have
found that women can reach the orgasm much more
frequently than men. Take an ordinary case.
I spend two hours with . I have
the orgasm 3 times, with difficulty; she has it
6 or 8, or even 10 or 12, times. Women can
also experience it a second or third time in succession,
with no interval between. Sometimes the mere fact
of realizing that the man is having the orgasm
causes the woman to have it also, though it is
true that a woman usually requires as many minutes
to develop the orgasm as a man does seconds.”
I may also refer to the case recorded in another
part of this volume in which a wife had the orgasm
26 times to her husband’s twice.
Hutchinson, under the name of post-marital
amblyopia (Archives of Surgery, vol.
iv, , has described a condition occurring
in men in good health who soon after marriage become
nearly blind, but recover as soon as the cause
is removed. He mentions no cases in women
due to coitus, but finds that in women some failure
of sight may occur after parturition.
Naecke states that, in his experience,
while masturbation is, apparently, commoner in
insane men than in insane women, masturbation
repeated several times a day is much commoner in the
women. (P. Naecke, “Die Sexuellen Perversitaeten
in der Irrenanstalt,” Psychiatrische
Bladen, 1899, N.)
Great excesses in masturbation seem
also to be commoner among women who may be said
to be sane than among men. Thus, Bloch (New
Orleans Medical Journal, 1896) records the case
of a young married woman of 25, of bad heredity,
who had suffered from almost life-long sexual
hyperesthesia, and would masturbate fourteen times
daily during the menstrual periods.
With regard to excesses in coitus the
case may be mentioned of a country girl of 17,
living in a rural district in North Carolina where
prostitution was unknown, who would cohabit with men
almost openly. On one Sunday she went to
a secluded school-house and let three or four
men wear themselves out cohabiting with her. On
another occasion, at night, in a field, she allowed
anyone who would to perform the sexual act, and
25 men and boys then had intercourse with her.
When seen she was much prostrated and with a tendency
to spasm, but quite rational. Subsequently she
married and attacks of this nature became rare.
Mr. Lawson made an “attested statement”
of what he had observed among the Marquesan women.
“He mentions one case in which he heard
a parcel of boys next morning count over and name
103 men who during the night had intercourse with
one woman.” (Medico-Chirurgical
Review, 1871, vol. ii, , apparently
quoting Chevers.) This statement seems open to
question, but, if reliable, would furnish a case
which must be unique.
There is a further important difference,
though intimately related to some of the differences
already mentioned, between the sexual impulse in women
and in men. In women it is at once larger and
more diffused. As Sinibaldus long ago said, the
sexual pleasure of men is intensive, of women extensive.
In men the sexual impulse is, as it were, focused to
a single point. This is necessarily so, for the
whole of the essentially necessary part of the male
in the process of human procreation is confined to
the ejaculation of semen into the vagina. But
in women, mainly owing to the fact that women are
the child-bearers, in place of one primary sexual
center and one primary erogenous region, there are
at least three such sexual centers and erogenous regions:
the clitoris (corresponding to the penis), the vaginal
passage up to the womb, and the nipple. In both
sexes there are other secondary and reflex centers,
but there is good reason for believing that these
are more numerous and more widespread in women than
in men. How numerous the secondary sexual centers
in women may be is indicated by the case of a woman
mentioned by Moraglia, who boasted that she knew fourteen
different ways of masturbating herself.
This great diffusion of the sexual
impulse and emotions in women is as visible on the
psychic as on the physical side. A woman can find
sexual satisfaction in a great number of ways that
do not include the sexual act proper, and in a great
number of ways that apparently are not physical at
all, simply because their physical basis is diffused
or is to be found in one of the outlying sexual zones.
It is, moreover, owing to the diffused
character of the sexual emotions in women that it
so often happens that emotion really having a sexual
origin is not recognized as such even by the woman
herself. It is possible that the great prevalence
in women of the religious emotional state of “storm
and stress,” noted by Professor Starbuck,
is largely due to unemployed sexual impulse.
In this and similar ways it happens that the magnitude
of the sexual sphere in woman is unrealized by the
careless observer.
A number of converging facts tend to
indicate that the sexual sphere is larger, and
more potent in its influence on the organism,
in women than in men. It would appear that among
the males and females of lower animals the same
difference may be found. It is stated that
in birds there is a greater flow of blood to the
ovaries than to the testes.
In women the system generally is more
affected by disturbances in the sexual sphere
than in men. This appears to be the case as regards
the eye. “The influence of the sexual system
upon the eye in man,” Power states, “is
far less potent, and the connection, in consequence,
far less easy to trace than in woman.” (H.
Power, “Relation of Ophthalmic Disease to
the Sexual Organs,” Lancet, November
26, 1887.)
The greater predominance of the sexual
system in women on the psychic side is clearly
brought out in insane conditions. It is well
known that, while satyriasis is rare, nymphomania is
comparatively common. These conditions are
probably often forms of mania, and in mania, while
sexual symptoms are common in men, they are often
stated to be the rule in women (see, e.g., Krafft-Ebing,
Psychopathia Sexualis, tenth edition, English
translation, . Bouchereau, in noting
this difference in the prevalence of sexual manifestations
during insanity, remarks that it is partly due
to the naturally greater dependence of women on
the organs of generation, and partly to the more active,
independent, and laborious lives of men; in his
opinion, satyriasis is specially apt to develop
in men who lead lives resembling those of women.
(Bouchereau, art. “Satyriasis,” Dictionnaire
Encyclopédique des Sciences Medicales.) Again,
postconnubial insanity is very much commoner in
women than in men, a fact which may indicate the
more predominant part played by the sexual sphere
in women. (Savage, art. “Marriage and Insanity,”
Dictionary of Psychological Medicine.)
Insanity tends to remove the artificial
inhibitory influences that rule in ordinary life,
and there is therefore significance in such a
fact as that the sexual appetite is often increased
in general paralysis and to a notable extent in
women. (Pactet and Colin, Les Alienes devant
la Justice, 1902, .)
Naecke, from his experiences among the
insane, makes an interesting and possibly sound
distinction regarding the character of the sexual
manifestations in the two sexes. Among men
he finds these manifestations to be more of a reflex
and purely spinal nature and chiefly manifested
in masturbation; in women he finds them to be
of a more cerebral character, and chiefly manifested
in erotic gestures, lascivious conversation, etc.
The sexual impulse would thus tend to involve to a
greater extent the higher psychic region in women
than in men.
Forel likewise (Die Sexuelle Frage,
1906, , remarking on the much greater prevalence
of erotic manifestations among insane women than
insane men (and pointing out that it is by no means
due merely to the presence of a male doctor, for
it remains the same when the doctor is a woman),
considers that it proves that in women the sexual
impulse resides more prominently in the higher
nervous centers and in men in the lower centers. (As
regards the great prevalence of erotic manifestations
among the female insane, I may also refer to Claye
Shaw’s interesting observations, “The
Sexes in Lunacy,” St. Bartholomew’s
Hospital Reports, vol. xxiv, 1888; also
quoted in Havelock Ellis, Man and Woman,
et seq.) Whether or not we may accept Naecke’s
and Forel’s interpretation of the facts,
which is at least doubtful, there can be little
doubt that the sexual impulse is more fundamental
in women. This is indicated by Naecke’s
observation that among idiots sexual manifestations
are commoner in females than in males. Of
16 idiot girls, of the age of 16 and under, 15
certainly masturbated, sometimes as often as fourteen
times a day, while the remaining girl probably
masturbated; but of 25 youthful male idiots only
1 played with his penis. (P. Naecke, “Die
Sexuellen Perversitaeten in der Irrenanstalt,”
Psychiatrische Bladen, 1899, N, pp.
9, 12.) On the physical side Bourneville and Sollier
found (Progrès medical, 1888) that puberty
is much retarded in idiot and imbecile boys, while
J. Voisin (Annales d’Hygiene Publique,
June, 1894) found that in idiot and imbecile girls,
on the contrary, there is no lack of full sexual
development or retardation of puberty, while masturbation
is common. In women, it may be added, as Ball
pointed out (Folie érotique, , sexual
hallucinations are especially common, while under
the influence of anesthetics erotic manifestations
and feelings are frequent in women, but rare in
men. (Havelock Ellis, Man and Woman, .)
The fact that the first coitus has a
much more profound moral and psychic influence
on a woman than on a man would also seem to indicate
how much more fundamental the sexual region is in women.
The fact may be considered as undoubted. (It is
referred to by Marro, La Pubertà, .)
The mere physical fact that, while in men coitus
remains a merely exterior contact, in women it involves
penetration into the sensitive and virginal interior
of the body would alone indicate this difference.
We are told that in the East there
was once a woman named Moarbeda who was a philosopher
and considered to be the wisest woman of her time.
When Moarbeda was once asked: “In what
part of a woman’s body does her mind reside?”
she replied: “Between her thighs.”
To many women,-perhaps, indeed, we might
even say to most women,-to a certain extent
may be applied-and in no offensive sense-the
dictum of the wise woman of the East; in a certain
sense their brains are in their wombs. Their mental
activity may sometimes seem to be limited; they may
appear to be passing through life always in a rather
inert or dreamy state; but, when their sexual emotions
are touched, then at once they spring into life; they
become alert, resourceful, courageous, indefatigable.
“But when I am not in love I am nothing!”
exclaimed a woman when reproached by a French magistrate
for living with a thief. There are many women
who could truly make the same statement, not many
men. That emotion, which, one is tempted to say,
often unmans the man, makes the woman for the first
time truly herself.
“Women are more occupied with
love than men,” wrote De Senancour (De
l’Amour, vol. ii, ; “it
shows itself in all their movements, animates
their looks, gives to their gestures a grace that
is always new, to their smiles and voices an inexpressible
charm; they live for love, while many men in obeying
love feel that they are forgetting themselves.”
Restif de la Bretonne (Monsieur Nicolas,
vol. vi, quotes a young girl who
well describes the difference which love makes
to a woman: “Before I vegetated; now all
my actions have a motive, an end; they have become
important. When I wake my first thought is
‘Someone is occupied with me and desires me.’
I am no longer alone, as I was before; another
feels my existence and cherishes it,” etc.
“One is surprised to see in the
south,” remarks Bonstetten, in his suggestive
book, L’Homme du Midi et l’Homme du
Nord (1824),-and the remark by
no means applies only to the south,-“how
love imparts intelligence even to those who are most
deficient in ideas. An Italian woman in love
is inexhaustible in the variety of her feelings,
all subordinated to the supreme emotion which
dominates her. Her ideas follow one another with
prodigious rapidity, and produce a lambent play
which is fed by her heart alone. If she ceases
to love, her mind becomes merely the scoria of
the lava which yesterday had been so bright.”
Cabanis had already made some observations
to much the same effect. Referring to the
years of nubility following puberty, he remarks:
“I have very often seen the greatest fecundity
of ideas, the most brilliant imagination, a singular
aptitude for the arts, suddenly develop in girls
of this age, only to give place soon afterward
to the most absolute mental mediocrity.” (Cabanis,
“De l’Influence des Sexes,”
etc., Rapports du Physique et du Morale de
l’Homme.)
This phenomenon seems to be one of
the indications of the immense organic significance
of the sexual relations. Woman’s part in
the world is less obtrusively active than man’s,
but there is a moment when nature cannot dispense
with energy and mental vigor in women, and that is
during the reproductive period. The languidest
woman must needs be alive when her sexual emotions
are profoundly stirred. People often marvel at
the infatuation which men display for women who, in
the eyes of all the world, seem commonplace and dull.
This is not, as we usually suppose, always entirely
due to the proverbial blindness of love. For the
man whom she loves, such a woman is often alive and
transformed. He sees a woman who is hidden from
all the world. He experiences something of that
surprise and awe which Dostoieffsky felt when the
seemingly dull and brutish criminals of Siberia suddenly
exhibited gleams of exquisite sensibility.
In women, it must further be said,
the sexual impulse shows a much more marked tendency
to periodicity than in men; not only is it less apt
to appear spontaneously, but its spontaneous manifestations
are in a very pronounced manner correlated with menstruation.
A woman who may experience almost overmastering sexual
desire just before, during, or after the monthly period
may remain perfectly calm and self-possessed during
the rest of the month. In men such irregularities
of the sexual impulse are far less marked. Thus
it is that a woman may often appear capricious, unaccountable,
or cold, merely because her moments of strong emotion
have been physiologically confined within a limited
period. She may be one day capable of audacities
of which on another the very memory might seem to
have left her.
Not only is the intensity of the sexual
impulse in women, as compared to men, more liable
to vary from day to day, or from week to week, but
the same greater variability is marked when we compare
the whole cycle of life in women to that of men.
The stress of early womanhood, when the reproductive
functions are in fullest activity, and of late womanhood,
when they are ceasing, produces a profound organic
fermentation, psychic as much as physical, which is
not paralleled in the lives of men. This greater
variability in the cycle of a woman’s life as
compared with a man’s is indicated very delicately
and precisely by the varying incidence of insanity,
and is made clearly visible in a diagram prepared by
Marro showing the relative liability to mental diseases
in the two sexes according to age. At the age
of 20 the incidence of insanity in both sexes is equal;
from that age onward the curve in men proceeds in a
gradual and equable manner, with only the slightest
oscillation, on to old age. But in women the
curve is extremely irregular; it remains high during
all the years from 20 to 30, instead of falling like
the masculine curve; then it falls rapidly to considerably
below the masculine curve, rising again considerably
above the masculine level during the climacteric years
from 40 to 50, after which age the two sexes remain
fairly close together to the end of life. Thus,
as measured by the test of insanity, the curve of
woman’s life, in the sudden rise and sudden fall
of its sexual crisis, differs from the curve of man’s
life and closely resembles the minor curve of her
menstrual cycle.
The general tendency of this difference
in sexual life and impulse is to show a greater range
of variation in women than in men. Fairly uniform,
on the whole, in men generally and in the same man
throughout mature life, sexual impulse varies widely
between woman and woman, and even in the same woman
at different periods.