The home life of a people is one of
the most decisive tests of its character and its state
of civilization.
In this chapter I shall attempt only
to describe the home life of Hindus. And even
within this limitation I can only refer to the general
characteristics which obtain among nearly all
Hindus, and shall pass by the details, which differ
so largely in different parts of the country and among
different castes.
It is in the home that the natural
religious bent of the Hindu finds its full scope and
most touching manifestations. Generally speaking,
one may say that the house of a Hindu is his sanctuary,
where the tutelar god has its niche or shrine to which
daily worship is rendered. There is hardly any
event connected with home life which is not religiously
viewed and made the occasion of definite family worship.
Of the sixteen events in the life of a man, from birth
to death, there is not one which is not viewed from
a religious aspect, and is not accompanied by an elaborate
ritual.
There is hardly a respectable Hindu
household in which there is not a shrine containing
an idol of stone or of some metal which corresponds
in value to the measure of the family’s wealth.
“Every morning and evening it is worshipped
by the hereditary purohit, or priest, who visits
the house for the purpose twice a day, and who, as
the name implies, is the first in all ceremonies,
second to none but the Guru, or spiritual guide.
The offerings of rice, fruits, sweetmeats, and milk,
made to the god, he carries home after the close of
the service. A conch is blown, a bell is rung,
and a gong beaten at the time of worship, when the
religiously disposed portion of the inmates, male
and female, in a quasi-penitent attitude, make their
obeisance to the god and receive in return the hollow
benediction of the priest."
Even the building of the house is
a matter which must be done according to the rules
of faith. The selection of a site, the correct
orientation of the building, the number and location
of the rooms, the proper material for the structure, all
of these must be determined by the Vastu Sastri,
or the architects, who do their business not so much
on scientific lines as upon religious. They have
their Shastras, or books of instruction, in
architecture, whose basis is largely a consideration
of the supposed sentiments of the gods and a proper
harmonizing in the building of various religious conceits,
crude superstitions, and immemorial customs.
Even the day and hour of entering
and dedicating the house must be fixed by rules of
faith, which are as exacting as they are multitudinous.
To enter and consecrate a house at the wrong astrological
moment would bring in its train a number of domestic
disasters. The house may be anything, from a most
primitive hut to a many-aisled palace; but in every
case the astrologer must be consulted as to the time;
the spiritual architect must give his rules as to the
structure; and the family priest must make the house
habitable by an elaborate ceremonial and offerings
to the god or gods of the family.
It is only after all these have been
accomplished that a householder may, with a clean
conscience, enter his new home and expect a blessing
upon his family therein.
To a stranger who passes through the
streets of a town or village it may seem strange that
no two adjoining houses have exactly the same orientation.
He may think it an evidence of carelessness, or a want
of taste. But to the Hindu it is the result of
pious conformity to the rules of his faith. To
a non-Hindu it may seem peculiar that Hindus generally
enter their new homes in the first half of the year.
But to the Hindu it is the only half when the gods
are awake; it would be unpropitious and almost sacrilegious
to dedicate a house in that part of the year when
the gods are supposed to be asleep!
The Hindu home would not be, to a
westerner, either pleasant or convenient. It
looks dingy and dark, doors are small and massive,
windows are few and generally closed. This is
partly because they are intended to keep out the tropical
glare, and partly because the people seem averse to
occupying an airy room. A westerner would suffocate
in a room in which Hindus would delight to spend a
night. It has always been a wonder to the writer
that they thrive on so little fresh air in their homes.
Hindus, in the main, care very little
for elaborate household furniture. Even in homes
of wealth, articles of household furniture are few
and are chosen merely for utility’s sake, save
in homes where western ideas are finding their way
and a growing desire to ape western manners takes
possession of a family. Some years ago, a wealthy
Hindu gentleman welcomed the writer into his fine new
three-storied bungalow, whose front door was elaborately
carved and had cost R. It was furnished
with fantastic articles of European furniture.
Mechanical toys and speaking dolls had places of prominence;
and among the pictures which adorned the walls the
place of honour was given to a framed tailor’s
pattern-plate! A full-sized painting of the late
British queen was specially honoured by being kept
in a dark closet! The family did not live in this
house, but occupied a comfortable one-storied building
in the back yard. It was adequate to their needs
and in harmony with their tastes.
Hindus generally sleep on the floor.
They spread a mat under them, and this suffices for
the ordinary man. Many add to this a dirty pillow,
which is a mark of extravagance and an evidence of
degeneracy. The men of the house may sleep anywhere
within, or in the verandah without, according to the
season of the year. Recently, western ideas have
encroached upon this primitive, sanitary custom, and
cots are finding an ever increasing place in the household
economy.
The Hindu family system is widely
different from that of the West. Among them the
Joint Family System prevails universally. It is
built on the old patriarchal idea, according to which
three generations generally live under the same roof
and enjoy a community of life and of interest.
When a man and wife have reared a family, the sons
bring to the paternal home their wives and live together
and raise their families in the common home of their
father. The supreme authority, in the direction
of all their affairs, rests with the father. And
the mother generally takes charge of the household
commissariat. The whole income of all the members
of the family is brought into the common treasury,
out of which all expenses are met. There is no
individual property, and no rights and privileges
which any one can claim apart from another’s
in that home. In large Hindu families there is
often found a small colony thus living together and
dependent for guidance and instruction upon the father.
This system entails a great deal of responsibility
upon the head, whose authority is supreme. And
so loyal is every Hindu to paternal authority that
there is never any question raised by any one as to
obedience to his commands.
This system has its advantages.
In early times, it brought strength and security to
households thus consolidated. It is doubtless
favourable to general economy. And it has the
peculiar merit of developing a strong sense of responsibility
in the whole family for its every member, however
incapacitated she or he may be for self-support.
The weak and the sick and the feeble-minded have the
same claim upon the resources of the family as have
the others, and the claim is universally recognized.
For this reason, poor-houses are not needed in India.
On the other hand, Hindus themselves
are coming to regard this system as being out of joint
with modern life, under the aegis of a progressive,
civilized government. One of its chief defects
is its encouragement of laziness in members of families.
No one feels that he is responsible for his own maintenance.
And no matter how industrious a member may be, the
product of his labour is not his own it
belongs to the family. Such a system saps the
foundation of industry and enterprise. It furnishes
constant temptation to slothfulness and inactivity.
In former times, this may not have been so manifest;
but at present, when opportunities open wide their
inviting doors, and means of accumulating wealth and
influence multiply, the system has become a source
of discontent and of serious difficulty in the community.
A few years ago the educated Hindus
of South India were so exercised over the injustice
of the situation that they urged upon the Madras Legislature
a new act, called “the Gains Learning Bill,”
whereby every man might claim the financial results
of his own labours and accumulate wealth apart from
the property of the family. The matter was fully
argued in the Legislature, and the injustice of the
Joint Family System was so clearly revealed in this
matter, that the bill was carried through. Thereupon,
orthodox Hindus raised such a storm of opposition
to the bill and decried it so vehemently, as a subversion
of their faith and an overthrow of their most ancient
and cherished institution, that the governor never
signed the bill; and it has therefore never become
law.
Nevertheless, the agitation against
the system is increasing, and the incongruity of the
Joint Family System with modern social conditions
is becoming so marked that the day of its overthrow
is approaching.
A well-known Hindu writer describes
the injustice of this system as follows: “As
one of the usual consequences of a patriarchal system,
a respectable Hindu is often obliged to support a
number of hangers-on, more or less related to him
by kinship. A brother, an uncle, a nephew, a
brother-in-law, etc., with their families, are
not infrequently placed in this dependent position,
notwithstanding the trite apothegm, which says, ’it
is better to be dependent on another for food
than to live in his house.’”
Moreover, this system fosters family
dissension. It requires an ideal family, under
the strong guidance of an ideal head, to live in peace
and harmony under this system. The writer above
quoted, himself a Hindu who had long lived under the
system, expressed himself strongly upon the subject:
“The millennium is not yet come. Seven brothers
living together with their wives and children, under
one and the same paternal roof, cannot reasonably
be expected to abide in a state of perfect harmony,
so long as selfishness and incongruous tastes and
interests are continually working to sap the very foundation
of friendliness and good-fellowship. Union is
strength, but harmonious union, under the peculiar
regime indicated above, is already a remarkable exception
in the present state of Hindu society. On careful
inquiry it will be found that women are at the bottom
of that mischievous discord which eats into the very
vitals of domestic felicity. Separation, therefore,
is the only means that promises to afford relief from
this social incubus; and to separation many families
have now resorted, much after the fashion of the dominant
race, with a view to the uninterrupted enjoyment of
domestic happiness.”
Outside of the family itself, perhaps
the two most important functionaries are the family
priest and the astrologer. And of these two the
latter is doubtless the more influential. It is
well known, as I have written on another page, that
Hindus are not only firm believers in astrology, but
also the abject slaves of this science, falsely so-called,
in all the affairs of life. It is wonderful how
many events in the life of a family come within the
realm of astrological guidance and control. From
birth to death, most of the important transactions
of life are controlled by astrological considerations.
And with the astrologer we naturally
join the sooth-sayer, who is frequently in demand
to pronounce his incantations and utter his mantras,
to remove all kinds of maladies and misfortune that
may overtake members of the family. It is impossible
for a Westerner to realize how much of the life of
the Hindu, in the home and in society, is circumscribed
by superstitions and directed by omens only. In
the case of a man setting out upon a journey forty-three
different things may happen which prognosticate good,
and thirty-four which forebode evil. In household
matters, the eye of the Hindu man, and very specially
of the Hindu woman, is ever open to any one of a thousand
indications that may reveal the will of the god or
the demon as to conduct on the occasion.
The position of women in the Hindu
home is fundamental, and much misunderstood by the
people of the West.
It is sadly true that woman in Hinduism
has suffered, throughout the centuries, gross injustice,
and has laboured under a thousand disabilities.
But it does not follow from this, as those not familiar
with Hindu lives are too apt to conclude, that woman
is therefore a nonentity and a mere helpless drudge
in the family.
It is true that the great lawgiver,
Manu, said, “No sacrifice is allowed to women
apart from their husbands, no religious rite, no fasting;
as far only as a wife honours her lord, so far is she
exalted to heaven.” In accordance with
this, Hinduism has always consistently maintained
that woman’s well-being is entirely derived from
her relationship to man. Her salvation is to
be acquired through him. Her glory upon earth
and her bliss in heaven and final emancipation depend
upon her attitude to him, specially her obedience and
devotion.
It is also true, that in no stage
of her existence can she be regarded as independent.
She is dependent upon her father in childhood, the
slave of her husband so long as he lives, and subject
to her son during the days of her widowhood.
Hinduism leaves her no opportunity, in this human
existence, for liberty and independence.
Hindu ideas of womanhood have always
been low and unworthy. Rather than being considered
a help-mate to man, she has ever been regarded as
his tempter and seducer. The proverbs of India
are full of these base insinuations concerning womanhood.
“What is the chief gate to hell? Woman.”
This is only one of a host of common sayings which
brand the womanhood of India with shame.
It is for this same reason that woman
has always been held unworthy of education. To
educate a woman is compared to placing a knife in the
hands of a monkey. The ignorance of the women
of India to-day is not a matter of careless neglect,
but rather of studied purpose to deny to them that
which might change their relationship of subjection
to man.
One might suppose that in matters
of religion, which is the peculiar consolation of
the woman of India, a wide door of opportunity might
be given to her. But here again Manu says, “Woman
has no business with the texts of the Védas;
thus is the law fully settled. Having therefore
no evidence of law, and no knowledge of expiatory texts,
sinful woman must be as foul as falsehood itself; and
this is a fixed rule.”
There are texts which command kindness
and respect to womanhood. But the above quotations
represent the tenor of Hindu literature.
All of these represent the attitude
of man toward woman in the home. In society,
she has had no recognized place whatever, until the
present, when, under the influence of western civilization,
she is beginning to find a very limited scope for
her legitimate activities.
Nevertheless, in the seclusion of
her own home, and inheriting the burden of this deep
reproach heaped upon her from time immemorial by men,
woman has created for herself a place of power in the
Hindu home. Within this sanctuary she has erected
her throne and reigns a queen. Has man kept her
in ignorance? She will therefore apply herself
the more assiduously to works of faith and piety.
Has he heaped upon her abuse and called her “donkey”
and “buffalo”? She has repaid the
insult by a loving devotion to her lord, such as has
conquered his pride. Whether it be as wife or
mother, the women of no other land wield greater power
than the much-abused women of India. There is
no woman on earth who reveals, at this present time,
more devotion and attachment to her husband than does
the Hindu wife. The old system of Sati,
whereby a woman immolated herself on the funeral pyre
of her dead husband, what was it? It was, indeed,
a custom instituted by man, enforced by religious
rewards and penalties, with a view to reveal the woman
as the abject subject of her husband. And yet
she glorified that custom and often transmuted it
into the most sublime exhibition of wifely devotion.
Hear the description of a Sati, given by a Hindu,
the subject of which was his own aunt. “My
aunt,” writes he, “was dressed in a red
silk sari, with all the ornaments on her person;
her forehead daubed with a very thick coat of sindur,
or vermilion; her feet painted red with alta;
she was chewing a mouthful of betel; and a bright
lamp was burning before her. She was evidently
wrapped in an ecstasy of devotion, earnest in all
she did, quite calm and composed as if nothing important
was to happen. In short, she was then at her
matins, anxiously awaiting the hour when this
mortal coil should be put off. My uncle was lying
a corpse in the adjoining room. It appeared to
me that all the women assembled were admiring the
virtue and fortitude of my aunt. Some were licking
the betel out of her mouth, some touching her forehead,
in order to have a little of the sindur, or
vermilion; while not a few, falling before her feet,
expressed a fond hope that they might possess a small
particle of her virtue.... In truth, she was
evidently longing for the hour when her spirit and
that of her husband should meet together and dwell
in heaven. She had a tulsi mala (string
of basil beads) in her right hand, which she was telling,
and she seemed to enjoy the shouts of ‘Hari,
Hari-bole,’ with perfect serenity of mind.
We reached Nimtalla Ghat about twelve; after staying
there for about ten to fifteen minutes, sprinkling
the holy water on the dead body, all proceeded slowly
to the Kultalla Ghat, about three miles north of Nimtalla.
The dead body, wrapped in new clothes, being placed
on the pyre, my aunt was desired to walk seven times
round it, which she did while strewing flowers, cowries
(shells), and parched rice on the ground. It struck
me at the time that, at every successive circumambulation,
her strength and presence of mind failed; whereupon
the Darogah (government representative) stepped forward
once more and endeavoured, even at the last moment,
to deter her from her fatal determination. But
she, at the very threshold of ghastly death, in the
last hour of expiring life, the fatal torch of Yama
(Pluto) before her, calmly ascended the funeral pile
and, lying down by the side of her husband with one
hand under his head, and another on his breast, was
heard to call in a half-suppressed voice, ’Hari,
Hari,’ a sign of her firm belief
in the reality of eternal beatitude. When she
had thus laid herself on the funeral pyre, she was
instantly covered, or rather choked, with dried wood,
while some stout men with bamboos held and pressed
down the pyre, which was by this time burning fiercely
on all sides. A great shout of exultation then
arose from the surrounding spectators, till both the
dead and living bodies were converted into a handful
of dust and ashes."
The custom of Sati has been outlawed;
but the spirit of Sati still dominates the womanly
heart of the Hindu wife.
It is this beautiful blending of piety
and wifely devotion which has been the song of Hindu
poets, and the admiration of the Hindu community,
from time immemorial. It is true that a wife dare
not utter the name of her husband. The name of
the husband of a Hindu woman was Faith. When
she came to read the Bible, she skipped this word every
time it occurred in her reading. Why should she
demean her lord by pronouncing publicly his sacred
name?
And yet, when it comes to matters
of religion, her stern piety and her religious devotion
in the home are the most potent factor of the household;
and husband and father will bow to her supremacy in
this realm. All public life and social functions
have been proscribed to her; therefore, does she see
to it that in her narrow home sphere, both religiously
and in the training of her children, her influence
shall be supreme. And it is.
It is here that the progress of Christianity
is much impeded in India. A man is often found
ready to change his faith, and to abide the consequence
of the same. It is much more difficult for a woman
to transfer her affection. But the conversion
of the husband will not abide in permanence so long
as the wife persists in her devotion to the ancestral
faith. The writer has often seen illustrations
of this supremacy of the influence of the woman.
But it is not always so. In 1823, a Brahman child
was born in Calcutta. When six years old, he
lighted, by torch, the funeral pyre of his dead father
and living mother. When he attained manhood and
had received a University education, he became a Christian.
He was then not only renounced by his family, but
his young wife also spurned and denied him. In
accordance with her faith, she regarded and treated
him as dead, performed his funeral rites, and, with
shaven head, unjewelled body, and the widow’s
white cloth, mourned his decease as if he had actually
died. For Christ’s sake he had been an outcast
from his people and was twice dead to his beloved.
This experience has been repeated a thousand times
in India in the case of Christian converts. But,
in this particular instance, there was a remarkable
denouement. The young man, deserted, divorced,
and ceremonially buried by his wife, married a Christian
woman, with whom he lived happily for many years.
But after her death he returned to his first love
and remarried the widow of his youth, who,
in the meanwhile, had relented and become a Christian.
This was the experience of Professor Chuckerbuthy,
of the General Assembly College, in Calcutta, who
died in 1901.
Marriage among Hindus differs in many
respects from the same compact among western people.
It is in no instance dependent upon the initiative
of the contracting parties, if such the bride and the
bridegroom may be called in India. Neither of
them is a direct participant in the arranging of the
contract. It is all done by the parents or the
guardians of the boy and girl. It is entirely
a business, and not a sentimental, affair. No
other system would be possible under past and present
conditions in India. In the case of infant marriages,
the children concerned have, of course, neither knowledge
of, nor special interest in, the matter. Even
in cases where the future bride and bridegroom have
attained puberty, no sentiment is ever allowed to
enter, as a consideration, into the matter. The
first question asked is whether the parties belong
to the same caste and are connected by family ties.
If so, the marriage may be a suitable one. It
is strange that the children of brothers and sisters
furnish the most suitable marriage relationships.
But the children of brothers, or those of sisters,
furnish a prohibited relationship! It is regarded
as improper for a boy to marry the daughter of his
mother’s sister, or of his father’s brother,
as it would be to marry his own sister. The marriage
of those remotely connected by blood is rarely considered;
the marriage of those not at all connected by blood
relationship, never.
The next matter of paramount importance
is a consideration of the horoscope of the parties.
Were the boy and girl born under astrological conditions
which harmonize; or does her horoscope so conflict
with his that their dissonance would bring evil and
misery to the family? In the latter case, a marriage
will be impossible, even though all other conditions
are most inviting.
Then follows the question of dowry;
and here comes the great struggle. The girl’s
parents have to furnish, with the bride, a considerable
dowry, whose size is directly related to the affluence
of the boy’s family, or to his education and
prospects in life. The bickerings which take
place in this matter are most unseemly; and the marriage
compact is degraded into a sordid, mercenary transaction.
Fathers of girls involve themselves in debts which
they can never clear, in order to marry their darlings
to sons of high families of good connection.
It is this difficulty of marrying daughters, save at
an intolerable expense to the family, which largely
accounts for the universal and keen disappointment
of Hindu families when they discover, at childbirth,
that a daughter, and not a son, has been born.
The contract having been sealed by
definite religious ceremony, the children wait until
the girl attains puberty, which may take place at
any time, from the age of ten to fourteen. Then
the rites of consummation are performed, and they
live together as man and wife. Until the marriage
is consummated, it is the height of propriety that
the parties shall be apart and strangers to each other.
It is very often the case that there
is much disparity between the age of man and wife.
A married woman is supposed to belong to her lord for
time and eternity. A widow is therefore ineligible
for remarriage, even though her husband may have died
when she was an infant. The man, on the other
hand, may contract any number of marriages. The
rapidity and the businesslike way with which he proceeds
to arrange new nuptials after the death of his wife
seems appalling to a Westerner! It matters not
how many wives he may have had, nor how old he has
become, none but the very young is eligible to become
his spouse. The consequence is that many men
of matured, and even of old, age are wedded to mere
girls.
This is partly owing to the fact that
the Hindu has not yet realized the need, or importance,
of companionship between man and wife. This is
very marked among the educated men of the Hindu community.
Not only by age, but also by educational and other
qualifications, a wife is in no condition to be a
sympathetic companion to her spouse. So that the
relationship has, to them, little of mutuality in it.
The lot of the Hindu widow is, proverbially,
a hard one. She is despised and hated, even though
she be but a child, because her husband’s family
persist in believing that his death was caused by her
adverse horoscope. She suffers every obloquy in
her husband’s home, is deprived of her jewels,
has her head shaven, and is clothed only with a coarse
white cloth. Her fastings are long and severe,
and she is not allowed to attend any festivity; for
the presence of a widow would be deemed an evil omen
and a curse.
Moreover, she is the object of suspicion,
and is frequently the prey of men’s passions.
It is a strange comment upon the religious perversity
of a people of the tender domestic nature of Hindus,
that they should deal with so much cruelty and such
apparent indifference to the bereavement and suffering
of the unfortunate widow who bears so tender a relationship
to them. Religion has never wrought greater cruelty
and injustice to any one than to the Hindu widow, specially
to the child widow. And, notwithstanding the
fact that these suffering ones are a great host in
this land, there are few of their people who raise
their voice in their defence or strive for their relief.
The relationship of son-in-law and
mother-in-law is always a strained one. The wife’s
mother may live with her under very decided limitations.
It is not permitted to her to eat in the presence of
her son-in-law, or to enter a room where he happens
to be!
The situation is still worse between
the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law. The
vernaculars of India abound in proverbs which illumine
this relationship and reveal its strange character.
The husband’s mother apparently delights in
nothing more than in exercising a cruel restraint
over her son’s wife. Nothing that the young
woman can do will please her. And the husband
too often sides with the older against the younger
woman. When, however, the situation becomes intolerable
to the wife, she takes French leave, and goes home
to her parents. This soon brings her husband to
terms; and it is etiquette that he go and ask her
to return, apologizing for the troubles that she has
endured. And so the situation is improved, for
a while, until another visit to her parents becomes
imperative. It is natural enough that the mother-in-law
should thus deal harshly with her daughter-in-law;
for is it not her revenge for the similar treatment
which she received many years ago as daughter-in-law?
The real attitude of the Hindu toward his wife is
doubtless more cordial than it appears to a Westerner.
He seems to delight in revealing an indifference to
her feelings and a contempt for her position.
In the household, she is not permitted to eat with
him; she must wait upon his lordship and take the
leavings of his meal. Upon a journey, it would
be gross impropriety for her to walk by his side.
Etiquette demands that she walk behind him at a respectable
distance of, say, ten paces.
The love of jewellery is a marked
passion with the women of India. Millions of
money are expended every year in the manufacture of
female adornments. And in this work there are
more than four hundred thousand goldsmiths constantly
employed. The wealth of a family, especially
among the middle classes, is largely measured by the
amount of jewellery which the women of the household
possess. No one would grudge to these women a
certain amount of these personal ornaments; but when
it becomes a mad craze to convert all their wealth
into such vanity, and thus to render their wealth
entirely unremunerative, it becomes a serious matter.
The loading down of a woman or a girl with precious
stones, gold, silver, or cheaper metal, adds anything
but attractiveness to the person. It gives them
a gross conception of personal attractiveness as well
as a monetary value to beauty, which degrades the
ideals of the country. When a woman’s ears
and nose, the crown of her head, her neck, arms, hands,
waist, ankles, and toes are made to sparkle with the
wealth of the family, and to bear down the frail body
of the proud victim, they cease entirely to set off
the personal beauty of the woman herself, and become
rather a counter attraction; and she is admired not
for what she is, but for what she carries.
Moreover, it is well known that these
women are not satisfied, on public occasions, to wear
their own jewels only; they borrow also those of their
neighbours and shine with a borrowed light, which
reflects a great deal more their vanity than their
beauty. Many a time has the writer seen bright
little Brahman girls carrying upon their person the
combined glittering wealth of several families upon
festive occasions. Add to this again the fact
that there are thousands of women and children murdered
in India every year for the sake of these personal
ornaments which they flaunt before the public, and
with which they tempt criminals.
It is claimed that higher-class Hindus
are cleaner in their personal habits than almost any
other people on earth. This is probably true,
so far as a multiplicity of ablutions can make them.
The religious washings of the Brahman are so frequent
as to make him largely immune to epidemics of cholera
and other filth diseases. And yet the lower classes
of the people, in their homes and elsewhere, have little
to boast of in the line of cleanliness. They
all aspire to the weekly oil-bath, which is doubtless
a wholesome thing in the heat of these tropics, where,
through paucity of clothing, the skin is much exposed
to the sun’s rays. But oil has well-known
attractive powers for dust, filth, and vermin too!
It must also be remembered that the
Hindu is given much more to seeking ceremonial than
sanitary cleanliness. It matters not how filthy
the water may be, chemically; if it be ceremonially
clean, he uses it freely. If it be ceremonially
polluting, it is eschewed. As one sees a village
community make all possible uses of the village pond,
he wonders why the whole village has not been swept
away by disease. They are saved from their folly,
doubtless, by the piercing, cleansing rays of the
tropical sun.
Hindu clothing is both beautiful and
admirably suited to the tropical climate. The
one cloth of the Hindu woman, which she so deftly winds
around her body, and which is usually of bright colours,
is perhaps the most exquisitely beautiful garment
worn by any people. And this is altogether adequate
to her needs. Unfortunately, western habits are
now coming into vogue, and, in the case of men and
women alike, the clothing of the West is partially
supplanting that of the East. Nothing could be
more unfortunate, from the standpoint of health, beauty,
and economy.
The culinary arrangements and the
cuisine of the Hindu home are somewhat elaborate.
Well-to-do Hindus, notwithstanding many caste restrictions,
are somewhat epicurean in their tastes, and live well.
As we have seen in the chapter on Caste, there are
many limitations placed upon the selection of food,
the method of its preparation, and of eating.
Meat is entirely banned by the highest castes.
None will touch the meat of the bovine kind, save
the outcast Pariah. All are very particular in
seeking seclusion for their meals. This is perhaps
the reason why the Hindu home is, generally speaking,
so much more secluded than that of other people.
Hindus believe that fingers were made before knives,
forks, and spoons. Consequently they eat their
food entirely with their fingers. It seems offensive
enough to Westerners. It has often taken away
the writer’s appetite as he has feasted with
them, to have the cook dole out his rice to him with
his bare hands! They eat entirely with their
right hand, and never touch the food with the left,
reserving that hand for baser purposes.
In wealthy families, household duties
are performed by many servants. It is amusing
to see how many servants are required in India to
perform the ordinary functions of one able-bodied servant
in the West. The services which a Hindu will
demand from his menials are far greater than those
of a healthy Westerner. His languid nature and
general effeminacy make him entirely dependent upon
his servant for most of the activities and amenities
of life. Recently the writer heard a Hindu companion
in a railway car call his servant at night from an
adjoining car to come and turn the shade over the compartment
lamp that he might have a nap! A well-known writer,
in describing the life of a Babu, says: “The
Khansama of a Babu is his most favourite servant.
From the nature of his office he comes into closest
contact with his master; he rubs his body with oil
before bathing, and sometimes shampoos him, a
practice which gradually induces idle, effeminate
habits and eventually greatly incapacitates a man for
the duties of an active life. Indeed, to study
the nature of a ’big native swell’ is
to study the character of a consummate Oriental epicure,
immersed in a ceaseless round of pleasures, and hedged
in by a body of unconscionable fellows, distinguished
only for their flattery and servility.”
During times of sickness, the native
doctor is in requisition. This functionary is
not without his merits; for it is a hereditary profession,
and not a little medical wisdom and experience have
been transmitted from father to son down the centuries.
Nevertheless, as compared with modern science, the
ignorance of these men is woful, and the unnecessary
loss of life through that ignorance is lamentable.
Their pharmacy is as defective as many of their remedies
are absurd and disgusting. The present government,
by multiplying its hospitals and dispensaries, has
done much to arrest disease and remove suffering.
And yet the remedies do not reach one-tenth of the
population. And many of the one-tenth are so suspicious
of western science that in their extremity they will
pass the well-equipped government hospital and its
diplomaed attendants in order to consult the native
doctor and to partake of his concoctions. One
of the reasons for this prejudice is the largeness
of the dose which the Indian doctor invariably supplies.
How can the diminutive doses of the white man and
his establishment remove important difficulties and
heal serious diseases? The writer has known not
a few well-educated Indian Christians living under
the shadow of a well-equipped missionary hospital
which furnished its medicines free, sneak away a few
streets beyond to consult the man who is a compound
of a quack and an astrologer. And yet, doubtless,
the new pharmacy of the West brings healing in its
wings to millions of this people annually; and it is
one of the causes for the rapid increase of the population.
At childbirth, the barber’s
wife is always called. She is the midwife of
India, and the poor Hindu wife who is about to become
a mother is the victim of the ignorance and stupidity
of this woman. It is no wonder that so many die
in childbirth or survive only to become invalids through
the remainder of their lives. To remove this serious
evil, government is putting forth strenuous efforts
to bring intelligent relief to the mothers of India.
The entrance of death into a Hindu
family brings, as elsewhere, inexpressible sorrow.
The women of the family resign themselves to their
grief, which is expressed by loud wailings, with beating
of their breast and tearing their dishevelled hair.
While professional wailers are rare, nevertheless
friends and relatives congregate and add volume to
the dirge of sorrow. The leading women mourners
will often express in weird chant and appropriate
words their praises of the virtues and the beauties
of the departed ones. The men of the household
mourn in silence, as it is not fitting that the man
should audibly express his sorrow in public.
Hindus make immediate arrangements
for burning or burial as soon as death has occurred;
so that, usually, the funeral services are over within
twelve or eighteen hours after death. This is
desirable, because of the Hindu custom of fasting
so long as a corpse remains in the house; and is also
necessary because of the speedy decomposition of the
body in the tropics. It is also made possible
by the fact that Hindus do not use coffins.
It is the custom of most of the higher-caste
Hindus to cremate their dead; while many of the lowest
castes and outcasts resort to burial. Cremation
would doubtless be the more sanitary method, if the
fire were not so inadequate in many instances.
The Hindu burning-ground is a place of ghastly and
disgusting interest.
Funeral ceremonies do not terminate
with the burning or with the burial of the body in
Hinduism. The ritual connected with the dead,
which is called Shradda, is, among the higher
classes, a most elaborate and complicated one, and
lasts, with intermissions, for a year. These
are conducted with much effort by, and at great expense
to, the oldest son of the family. And a great
significance is attached to their rigid performance.
It may be regarded as a part of the great ancestral
worship of the East.
The function of this ceremony is also
kindred to that of Roman Catholicism, which, through
prayer and offerings, seeks the release of souls from
Purgatory. By this ritual, which involves also
gifts to Brahmáns and priests, the son makes
more easy the pathway of the departed parent through
the shades into the realms beyond, and relieves the
departed soul of its encumbrances and facilitates its
progress toward bliss. By some it is claimed that
these ceremonies, when rightly performed, render unnecessary
his suffering in hell or his returning to this world
for rebirth. It is more likely that the purpose
is to reduce the suffering and to enhance the progress
of the soul between this birth and the next.
In any case, all orthodox Hindus regard the Shradda
ceremonies as possessing great virtue and high importance.
And this is one of the principal reasons why every
Hindu man and woman is so eager for the birth of a
son in their family. Without a son, who is there
to relieve their soul from destruction, and to bring
to them future peace and rest through the Shradda
ceremony? Thus parents ever pray for male offspring;
and the greatest disappointment in the life of a Hindu
woman is not to be able to present her lord a son
to solace him in this life and to assist him through
the valley of death. One of the questions asked
by the dutiful son, as he performs this laborious
ritual, is,
“O my father, my grandfather,
my great-grandfather!
Are you satisfied? Are
you satisfied? We are satisfied.”
If any son, by the dutiful performance
of offering and ritual here upon earth, can bring
help and peace to his dead ancestors, the Hindu son
may be expected to succeed.
The following, taken from an ancient
Sutra, is regarded as a Hindu burial hymn:
“Open thy arms, O earth!
receive the dead
With gentle pressure and with
loving welcome.
Enshroud him tenderly, even
as a mother
Folds her soft vestment round
the child she loves.
Soul of the dead, depart!
take thou the path
The ancient path by which
our ancestors
Have gone before thee; thou
shalt look upon
The two kings, mighty Varuna
and Yama,
Delighting in oblations; thou
shalt meet
The fathers and receive the
recompense
Of all thy stored-up offerings
above.
Leave thou thy sin and imperfection
here;
Return unto thy home once
more; assume
A glorious form.”