In France the young girls have a dull
time of it till they are married, when ‘Vive
la liberté!’ becomes their motto.
In America, as everyone knows, girls early sign the
declaration of independence, and enjoy their freedom
with republican zest, but the young matrons usually
abdicate with the first heir to the throne and go into
a seclusion almost as close as a French nunnery, though
by no means as quiet. Whether they like it or
not, they are virtually put upon the shelf as soon
as the wedding excitement is over, and most of them
might exclaim, as did a very pretty woman the other
day, “I’m as handsome as ever, but no
one takes any notice of me because I’m married.”
Not being a belle or even a fashionable
lady, Meg did not experience this affliction till
her babies were a year old, for in her little world
primitive customs prevailed, and she found herself
more admired and beloved than ever.
As she was a womanly little woman,
the maternal instinct was very strong, and she was
entirely absorbed in her children, to the utter exclusion
of everything and everybody else. Day and night
she brooded over them with tireless devotion and anxiety,
leaving John to the tender mercies of the help, for
an Irish lady now presided over the kitchen department.
Being a domestic man, John decidedly missed the wifely
attentions he had been accustomed to receive, but as
he adored his babies, he cheerfully relinquished his
comfort for a time, supposing with masculine ignorance
that peace would soon be restored. But three
months passed, and there was no return of repose.
Meg looked worn and nervous, the babies absorbed
every minute of her time, the house was neglected,
and Kitty, the cook, who took life ‘aisy’,
kept him on short commons. When he went out
in the morning he was bewildered by small commissions
for the captive mamma, if he came gaily in at night,
eager to embrace his family, he was quenched by a “Hush!
They are just asleep after worrying all day.”
If he proposed a little amusement at home, “No,
it would disturb the babies.” If he hinted
at a lecture or a concert, he was answered with a
reproachful look, and a decided “Leave
my children for pleasure, never!” His sleep
was broken by infant wails and visions of a phantom
figure pacing noiselessly to and fro in the watches
of the night. His meals were interrupted by the
frequent flight of the presiding genius, who deserted
him, half-helped, if a muffled chirp sounded from
the nest above. And when he read his paper of
an evening, Demi’s colic got into the shipping
list and Daisy’s fall affected the price of
stocks, for Mrs. Brooke was only interested in domestic
news.
The poor man was very uncomfortable,
for the children had bereft him of his wife, home
was merely a nursery and the perpetual ‘hushing’
made him feel like a brutal intruder whenever he entered
the sacred precincts of Babyland. He bore it
very patiently for six months, and when no signs of
amendment appeared, he did what other paternal exiles
do tried to get a little comfort elsewhere.
Scott had married and gone to housekeeping not far
off, and John fell into the way of running over for
an hour or two of an evening, when his own parlor was
empty, and his own wife singing lullabies that seemed
to have no end. Mrs. Scott was a lively, pretty
girl, with nothing to do but be agreeable, and she
performed her mission most successfully. The
parlor was always bright and attractive, the chessboard
ready, the piano in tune, plenty of gay gossip, and
a nice little supper set forth in tempting style.
John would have preferred his own
fireside if it had not been so lonely, but as it was
he gratefully took the next best thing and enjoyed
his neighbor’s society.
Meg rather approved of the new arrangement
at first, and found it a relief to know that John
was having a good time instead of dozing in the parlor,
or tramping about the house and waking the children.
But by-and-by, when the teething worry was over and
the idols went to sleep at proper hours, leaving Mamma
time to rest, she began to miss John, and find her
workbasket dull company, when he was not sitting opposite
in his old dressing gown, comfortably scorching his
slippers on the fender. She would not ask him
to stay at home, but felt injured because he did not
know that she wanted him without being told, entirely
forgetting the many evenings he had waited for her
in vain. She was nervous and worn out with watching
and worry, and in that unreasonable frame of mind
which the best of mothers occasionally experience
when domestic cares oppress them. Want of exercise
robs them of cheerfulness, and too much devotion to
that idol of American women, the teapot, makes them
feel as if they were all nerve and no muscle.
“Yes,” she would say,
looking in the glass, “I’m getting old
and ugly. John doesn’t find me interesting
any longer, so he leaves his faded wife and goes to
see his pretty neighbor, who has no incumbrances.
Well, the babies love me, they don’t care if
I am thin and pale and haven’t time to crimp
my hair, they are my comfort, and some day John will
see what I’ve gladly sacrificed for them, won’t
he, my precious?”
To which pathetic appeal Daisy would
answer with a coo, or Demi with a crow, and Meg would
put by her lamentations for a maternal revel, which
soothed her solitude for the time being. But the
pain increased as politics absorbed John, who was
always running over to discuss interesting points
with Scott, quite unconscious that Meg missed him.
Not a word did she say, however, till her mother found
her in tears one day, and insisted on knowing what
the matter was, for Meg’s drooping spirits had
not escaped her observation.
“I wouldn’t tell anyone
except you, Mother, but I really do need advice, for
if John goes on much longer I might as well be widowed,”
replied Mrs. Brooke, drying her tears on Daisy’s
bib with an injured air.
“Goes on how, my dear?” asked her mother
anxiously.
“He’s away all day, and
at night when I want to see him, he is continually
going over to the Scotts’. It isn’t
fair that I should have the hardest work, and never
any amusement. Men are very selfish, even the
best of them.”
“So are women. Don’t
blame John till you see where you are wrong yourself.”
“But it can’t be right for him to neglect
me.”
“Don’t you neglect him?”
“Why, Mother, I thought you’d take my
part!”
“So I do, as far as sympathizing
goes, but I think the fault is yours, Meg.”
“I don’t see how.”
“Let me show you. Did
John ever neglect you, as you call it, while you made
it a point to give him your society of an evening,
his only leisure time?”
“No, but I can’t do it now, with two babies
to tend.”
“I think you could, dear, and
I think you ought. May I speak quite freely,
and will you remember that it’s Mother who blames
as well as Mother who sympathizes?”
“Indeed I will! Speak
to me as if I were little Meg again. I often
feel as if I needed teaching more than ever since these
babies look to me for everything.”
Meg drew her low chair beside her
mother’s, and with a little interruption in
either lap, the two women rocked and talked lovingly
together, feeling that the tie of motherhood made them
more one than ever.
“You have only made the mistake
that most young wives make forgotten your
duty to your husband in your love for your children.
A very natural and forgivable mistake, Meg, but one
that had better be remedied before you take to different
ways, for children should draw you nearer than ever,
not separate you, as if they were all yours, and John
had nothing to do but support them. I’ve
seen it for some weeks, but have not spoken, feeling
sure it would come right in time.”
“I’m afraid it won’t.
If I ask him to stay, he’ll think I’m
jealous, and I wouldn’t insult him by such an
idea. He doesn’t see that I want him,
and I don’t know how to tell him without words.”
“Make it so pleasant he won’t
want to go away. My dear, he’s longing
for his little home, but it isn’t home without
you, and you are always in the nursery.”
“Oughtn’t I to be there?”
“Not all the time, too much
confinement makes you nervous, and then you are unfitted
for everything. Besides, you owe something to
John as well as to the babies. Don’t neglect
husband for children, don’t shut him out of
the nursery, but teach him how to help in it.
His place is there as well as yours, and the children
need him. Let him feel that he has a part to
do, and he will do it gladly and faithfully, and it
will be better for you all.”
“You really think so, Mother?”
“I know it, Meg, for I’ve
tried it, and I seldom give advice unless I’ve
proved its practicability. When you and Jo were
little, I went on just as you are, feeling as if I
didn’t do my duty unless I devoted myself wholly
to you. Poor Father took to his books, after
I had refused all offers of help, and left me to try
my experiment alone. I struggled along as well
as I could, but Jo was too much for me. I nearly
spoiled her by indulgence. You were poorly, and
I worried about you till I fell sick myself.
Then Father came to the rescue, quietly managed everything,
and made himself so helpful that I saw my mistake,
and never have been able to get on without him since.
That is the secret of our home happiness. He
does not let business wean him from the little cares
and duties that affect us all, and I try not to let
domestic worries destroy my interest in his pursuits.
Each do our part alone in many things, but at home
we work together, always.”
“It is so, Mother, and my great
wish is to be to my husband and children what you
have been to yours. Show me how, I’ll do
anything you say.”
“You always were my docile daughter.
Well, dear, if I were you, I’d let John have
more to do with the management of Demi, for the boy
needs training, and it’s none too soon to begin.
Then I’d do what I have often proposed, let
Hannah come and help you. She is a capital nurse,
and you may trust the precious babies to her while
you do more housework. You need the exercise,
Hannah would enjoy the rest, and John would find his
wife again. Go out more, keep cheerful as well
as busy, for you are the sunshine-maker of the family,
and if you get dismal there is no fair weather.
Then I’d try to take an interest in whatever
John likes talk with him, let him read to
you, exchange ideas, and help each other in that way.
Don’t shut yourself up in a bandbox because
you are a woman, but understand what is going on, and
educate yourself to take your part in the world’s
work, for it all affects you and yours.”
“John is so sensible, I’m
afraid he will think I’m stupid if I ask questions
about politics and things.”
“I don’t believe he would.
Love covers a multitude of sins, and of whom could
you ask more freely than of him? Try it, and
see if he doesn’t find your society far more
agreeable than Mrs. Scott’s suppers.”
“I will. Poor John!
I’m afraid I have neglected him sadly, but I
thought I was right, and he never said anything.”
“He tried not to be selfish,
but he has felt rather forlorn, I fancy. This
is just the time, Meg, when young married people are
apt to grow apart, and the very time when they ought
to be most together, for the first tenderness soon
wears off, unless care is taken to preserve it.
And no time is so beautiful and precious to parents
as the first years of the little lives given to them
to train. Don’t let John be a stranger
to the babies, for they will do more to keep him safe
and happy in this world of trial and temptation than
anything else, and through them you will learn to
know and love one another as you should. Now,
dear, good-by. Think over Mother’s preachment,
act upon it if it seems good, and God bless you all.”
Meg did think it over, found it good,
and acted upon it, though the first attempt was not
made exactly as she planned to have it. Of course
the children tyrannized over her, and ruled the house
as soon as they found out that kicking and squalling
brought them whatever they wanted. Mamma was
an abject slave to their caprices, but Papa was
not so easily subjugated, and occasionally afflicted
his tender spouse by an attempt at paternal discipline
with his obstreperous son. For Demi inherited
a trifle of his sire’s firmness of character,
we won’t call it obstinacy, and when he made
up his little mind to have or to do anything, all
the king’s horses and all the king’s men
could not change that pertinacious little mind.
Mamma thought the dear too young to be taught to
conquer his prejudices, but Papa believed that it never
was too soon to learn obedience. So Master Demi
early discovered that when he undertook to ‘wrastle’
with ‘Parpar’, he always got the worst
of it, yet like the Englishman, baby respected the
man who conquered him, and loved the father whose
grave “No, no,” was more impressive than
all Mamma’s love pats.
A few days after the talk with her
mother, Meg resolved to try a social evening with
John, so she ordered a nice supper, set the parlor
in order, dressed herself prettily, and put the children
to bed early, that nothing should interfere with her
experiment. But unfortunately Demi’s most
unconquerable prejudice was against going to bed, and
that night he decided to go on a rampage. So
poor Meg sang and rocked, told stories and tried every
sleep-prevoking wile she could devise, but all in
vain, the big eyes wouldn’t shut, and long after
Daisy had gone to byelow, like the chubby little bunch
of good nature she was, naughty Demi lay staring at
the light, with the most discouragingly wide-awake
expression of countenance.
“Will Demi lie still like a
good boy, while Mamma runs down and gives poor Papa
his tea?” asked Meg, as the hall door softly
closed, and the well-known step went tip-toeing into
the dining room.
“Me has tea!” said Demi, preparing to
join in the revel.
“No, but I’ll save you
some little cakies for breakfast, if you’ll go
bye-bye like Daisy. Will you, lovey?”
“Iss!” and Demi shut his
eyes tight, as if to catch sleep and hurry the desired
day.
Taking advantage of the propitious
moment, Meg slipped away and ran down to greet her
husband with a smiling face and the little blue bow
in her hair which was his especial admiration.
He saw it at once and said with pleased surprise,
“Why, little mother, how gay we are tonight.
Do you expect company?”
“Only you, dear.”
“Is it a birthday, anniversary, or anything?”
“No, I’m tired of being
dowdy, so I dressed up as a change. You always
make yourself nice for table, no matter how tired you
are, so why shouldn’t I when I have the time?”
“I do it out of respect for you, my dear,”
said old-fashioned John.
“Ditto, ditto, Mr. Brooke,”
laughed Meg, looking young and pretty again, as she
nodded to him over the teapot.
“Well, it’s altogether
delightful, and like old times. This tastes
right. I drink your health, dear.” and
John sipped his tea with an air of reposeful rapture,
which was of very short duration however, for as he
put down his cup, the door handle rattled mysteriously,
and a little voice was heard, saying impatiently...
“Opy doy. Me’s tummin!”
“It’s that naughty boy.
I told him to go to sleep alone, and here he is,
downstairs, getting his death a-cold pattering over
that canvas,” said Meg, answering the call.
“Mornin’ now,” announced
Demi in joyful tone as he entered, with his long nightgown
gracefully festooned over his arm and every curl bobbing
gayly as he pranced about the table, eyeing the ‘cakies’
with loving glances.
“No, it isn’t morning
yet. You must go to bed, and not trouble poor
Mamma. Then you can have the little cake with
sugar on it.”
“Me loves Parpar,” said
the artful one, preparing to climb the paternal knee
and revel in forbidden joys. But John shook his
head, and said to Meg...
“If you told him to stay up
there, and go to sleep alone, make him do it, or he
will never learn to mind you.”
“Yes, of course. Come,
Demi,” and Meg led her son away, feeling a
strong desire to spank the little marplot who hopped
beside her, laboring under the delusion that the bribe
was to be administered as soon as they reached the
nursery.
Nor was he disappointed, for that
shortsighted woman actually gave him a lump of sugar,
tucked him into his bed, and forbade any more promenades
till morning.
“Iss!” said Demi the perjured,
blissfully sucking his sugar, and regarding his first
attempt as eminently successful.
Meg returned to her place, and supper
was progressing pleasantly, when the little ghost
walked again, and exposed the maternal delinquencies
by boldly demanding, “More sudar, Marmar.”
“Now this won’t do,”
said John, hardening his heart against the engaging
little sinner. “We shall never know any
peace till that child learns to go to bed properly.
You have made a slave of yourself long enough.
Give him one lesson, and then there will be an end
of it. Put him in his bed and leave him, Meg.”
“He won’t stay there,
he never does unless I sit by him.”
“I’ll manage him.
Demi, go upstairs, and get into your bed, as Mamma
bids you.”
“S’ant!” replied
the young rebel, helping himself to the coveted ‘cakie’,
and beginning to eat the same with calm audacity.
“You must never say that to
Papa. I shall carry you if you don’t go
yourself.”
“Go ’way, me don’t
love Parpar.” and Demi retired to his mother’s
skirts for protection.
But even that refuge proved unavailing,
for he was delivered over to the enemy, with a “Be
gentle with him, John,” which struck the culprit
with dismay, for when Mamma deserted him, then the
judgment day was at hand. Bereft of his cake,
defrauded of his frolic, and borne away by a strong
hand to that detested bed, poor Demi could not restrain
his wrath, but openly defied Papa, and kicked and
screamed lustily all the way upstairs. The minute
he was put into bed on one side, he rolled out on
the other, and made for the door, only to be ignominiously
caught up by the tail of his little toga and put back
again, which lively performance was kept up till the
young man’s strength gave out, when he devoted
himself to roaring at the top of his voice. This
vocal exercise usually conquered Meg, but John sat
as unmoved as the post which is popularly believed
to be deaf. No coaxing, no sugar, no lullaby,
no story, even the light was put out and only the red
glow of the fire enlivened the ‘big dark’
which Demi regarded with curiosity rather than fear.
This new order of things disgusted him, and he howled
dismally for ‘Marmar’, as his angry passions
subsided, and recollections of his tender bondwoman
returned to the captive autocrat. The plaintive
wail which succeeded the passionate roar went to Meg’s
heart, and she ran up to say beseechingly...
“Let me stay with him, he’ll be good now,
John.”
“No, my dear. I’ve
told him he must go to sleep, as you bid him, and
he must, if I stay here all night.”
“But he’ll cry himself
sick,” pleaded Meg, reproaching herself for
deserting her boy.
“No, he won’t, he’s
so tired he will soon drop off and then the matter
is settled, for he will understand that he has got
to mind. Don’t interfere, I’ll manage
him.”
“He’s my child, and I
can’t have his spirit broken by harshness.”
“He’s my child, and I
won’t have his temper spoiled by indulgence.
Go down, my dear, and leave the boy to me.”
When John spoke in that masterful
tone, Meg always obeyed, and never regretted her docility.
“Please let me kiss him once, John?”
“Certainly. Demi, say
good night to Mamma, and let her go and rest, for
she is very tired with taking care of you all day.”
Meg always insisted upon it that the
kiss won the victory, for after it was given, Demi
sobbed more quietly, and lay quite still at the bottom
of the bed, whither he had wriggled in his anguish
of mind.
“Poor little man, he’s
worn out with sleep and crying. I’ll cover
him up, and then go and set Meg’s heart at rest,”
thought John, creeping to the bedside, hoping to find
his rebellious heir asleep.
But he wasn’t, for the moment
his father peeped at him, Demi’s eyes opened,
his little chin began to quiver, and he put up his
arms, saying with a penitent hiccough, “Me’s
dood, now.”
Sitting on the stairs outside Meg
wondered at the long silence which followed the uproar,
and after imagining all sorts of impossible accidents,
she slipped into the room to set her fears at rest.
Demi lay fast asleep, not in his usual spreadeagle
attitude, but in a subdued bunch, cuddled close in
the circle of his father’s arm and holding his
father’s finger, as if he felt that justice was
tempered with mercy, and had gone to sleep a sadder
and wiser baby. So held, John had waited with
a womanly patience till the little hand relaxed its
hold, and while waiting had fallen asleep, more tired
by that tussle with his son than with his whole day’s
work.
As Meg stood watching the two faces
on the pillow, she smiled to herself, and then slipped
away again, saying in a satisfied tone, “I never
need fear that John will be too harsh with my babies.
He does know how to manage them, and will be a great
help, for Demi is getting too much for me.”
When John came down at last, expecting
to find a pensive or reproachful wife, he was agreeably
surprised to find Meg placidly trimming a bonnet,
and to be greeted with the request to read something
about the election, if he was not too tired.
John saw in a minute that a revolution of some kind
was going on, but wisely asked no questions, knowing
that Meg was such a transparent little person, she
couldn’t keep a secret to save her life, and
therefore the clue would soon appear. He read
a long debate with the most amiable readiness and then
explained it in his most lucid manner, while Meg tried
to look deeply interested, to ask intelligent questions,
and keep her thoughts from wandering from the state
of the nation to the state of her bonnet. In
her secret soul, however, she decided that politics
were as bad as mathematics, and that the mission of
politicians seemed to be calling each other names,
but she kept these feminine ideas to herself, and
when John paused, shook her head and said with what
she thought diplomatic ambiguity, “Well, I really
don’t see what we are coming to.”
John laughed, and watched her for
a minute, as she poised a pretty little preparation
of lace and flowers on her hand, and regarded it with
the genuine interest which his harangue had failed
to waken.
“She is trying to like politics
for my sake, so I’ll try and like millinery
for hers, that’s only fair,” thought John
the Just, adding aloud, “That’s very pretty.
Is it what you call a breakfast cap?”
“My dear man, it’s a bonnet!
My very best go-to-concert-and-theater bonnet.”
“I beg your pardon, it was so
small, I naturally mistook it for one of the flyaway
things you sometimes wear. How do you keep it
on?”
“These bits of lace are fastened
under the chin with a rosebud, so,” and Meg
illustrated by putting on the bonnet and regarding
him with an air of calm satisfaction that was irresistible.
“It’s a love of a bonnet,
but I prefer the face inside, for it looks young and
happy again,” and John kissed the smiling face,
to the great detriment of the rosebud under the chin.
“I’m glad you like it,
for I want you to take me to one of the new concerts
some night. I really need some music to put me
in tune. Will you, please?”
“Of course I will, with all
my heart, or anywhere else you like. You have
been shut up so long, it will do you no end of good,
and I shall enjoy it, of all things. What put
it into your head, little mother?”
“Well, I had a talk with Marmee
the other day, and told her how nervous and cross
and out of sorts I felt, and she said I needed change
and less care, so Hannah is to help me with the children,
and I’m to see to things about the house more,
and now and then have a little fun, just to keep me
from getting to be a fidgety, broken-down old woman
before my time. It’s only an experiment,
John, and I want to try it for your sake as much as
for mine, because I’ve neglected you shamefully
lately, and I’m going to make home what it used
to be, if I can. You don’t object, I hope?”
Never mind what John said, or what
a very narrow escape the little bonnet had from utter
ruin. All that we have any business to know is
that John did not appear to object, judging from the
changes which gradually took place in the house and
its inmates. It was not all Paradise by any
means, but everyone was better for the division of
labor system. The children throve under the paternal
rule, for accurate, steadfast John brought order and
obedience into Babydom, while Meg recovered her spirits
and composed her nerves by plenty of wholesome exercise,
a little pleasure, and much confidential conversation
with her sensible husband. Home grew homelike
again, and John had no wish to leave it, unless he
took Meg with him. The Scotts came to the Brookes’
now, and everyone found the little house a cheerful
place, full of happiness, content, and family love.
Even Sallie Moffatt liked to go there. “It
is always so quiet and pleasant here, it does me good,
Meg,” she used to say, looking about her with
wistful eyes, as if trying to discover the charm, that
she might use it in her great house, full of splendid
loneliness, for there were no riotous, sunny-faced
babies there, and Ned lived in a world of his own,
where there was no place for her.
This household happiness did not come
all at once, but John and Meg had found the key to
it, and each year of married life taught them how to
use it, unlocking the treasuries of real home love
and mutual helpfulness, which the poorest may possess,
and the richest cannot buy. This is the sort
of shelf on which young wives and mothers may consent
to be laid, safe from the restless fret and fever of
the world, finding loyal lovers in the little sons
and daughters who cling to them, undaunted by sorrow,
poverty, or age, walking side by side, through fair
and stormy weather, with a faithful friend, who is,
in the true sense of the good old Saxon word, the
‘house-band’, and learning, as Meg learned,
that a woman’s happiest kingdom is home, her
highest honor the art of ruling it not as a queen,
but as a wise wife and mother.