FRATERNAL CHARITY
BY
REV. FATHER VALUY, S.J.
I: CHARITY THE PECULIAR VIRTUE OF CHRIST
Our Divine Saviour shows both
by precept and example that His favourite virtue,
His own and, in a certain sense, characteristic virtue,
was charity. Whether He treated with His ignorant
and rude Apostles, with the sick and poor, or with
His enemies and sinners, He is always benign, condescending,
merciful, affable, patient; in a word, His charity
appeared in all its most amiable forms. Oh, how
well these titles suit Him! a King full
of clemency, a Lamb full of mildness. How justly
could He say, “Learn of Me, that I am meek and
humble of heart”! His yoke was sweet, His
burden light, His conversation without sadness or
bitterness. He lightened the burdens of those
heavily laden; He consoled those in sorrow; He quenched
not the dying spark nor broke the bruised reed.
He calls us His friends, His brothers,
His little flock; and as the greatest sign of friendship
is to die for those we love, He gave to each of us
the right to say with St. Paul: “He loved
me, and delivered Himself up for me.” Let
us, then, say: “My good Master, I love
Thee, and deliver myself up for Thee.”
Religious, called to reproduce the
three great virtues of Jesus Christ poverty,
chastity, and obedience have still another
to practise not less noble or distinctive viz.,
fraternal charity. By this virtue they are not
called to rise above earthly or sensual pleasures,
nor above their judgment and self-will, but above
egotism and self-love, which shoot their roots deepest
in the soul. They must consider attentively the
fundamental truths on which charity is based and its
effects, as also the principal obstacles to its attainment,
and the means to overcome them.
II: FIRST FUNDAMENTAL TRUTH
We are all members of the great Christian family
Charity towards our neighbour
is charity towards God in our neighbour, because,
faith assuring us that God is our Father, Jesus Christ
our Head, the Holy Ghost our sanctifier, it follows
that to love our neighbour inasmuch as he
is the well-beloved child of God, the member of Jesus
Christ, and the sanctuary of the Holy Ghost is
to love in a special manner our heavenly Father, His
only-begotten Son, together with the Holy Spirit.
And because it is scarcely possible for religious
to behold their brethren in this light without wishing
them what the Most Holy Trinity so lovingly desires
to bestow on them, acts of fraternal charity include almost
necessarily at least implicit acts of faith
and hope; and the exercise of the noblest of the theological
virtues thus often becomes an exercise of the other
two.
Thus it is that charity poured into
our hearts by the Holy Spirit, uniting Christians
among themselves and with the adorable Trinity whose
images they are, is the vivid and perfect imitation
of the love of the Father for the Son, and of the
Son for the Father a substantial love which
is no other than the Holy Ghost, and makes us all
one in God by grace, as the Father and Son are only
one God with the Holy Ghost by nature, according to
the words of our Lord: “That they all may
be one; as Thou, Father, in Me, and I in Thee:
that they also may be one in Us.”
Such is the chain that unites and
binds us a chain of gold a thousand times
stronger than those of flesh and blood, interest or
friendship, because these permit the defects of body
and the vices of the soul to be seen, whilst charity
covers all, hides all, to offer exclusively to admiration
and love the work of the hands of God, the price of
the blood of Jesus Christ and the masterpiece of the
Holy Spirit.
III: SECOND FUNDAMENTAL TRUTH
We are members of the same religious family
To love our brethren as ourselves
in relation to God, it suffices without doubt to have
with them the same faith, the same Sacraments, the
same head, the same life, the same immortal hopes,
etc. But, besides these, there exist other
considerations which lead friendship and fraternity
to a higher degree among the members of the same religious
Order. All in the novitiate have been cast in
the same mould, or, rather, have imbibed the milk of
knowledge and piety from the breasts of the same mother.
All follow the same rules; all tend to the same end
by the same means; all from morning to night, and
during their whole lives, perform the same exercises,
live under the same roof, work, sanctify themselves,
suffer and rejoice together. Like fellow-citizens,
they have the same interests; like soldiers, the same
combats; like children of a family, the same ancestors
and heirlooms; and, like friends, a communication
of ideas and interchange of sentiments.
If our Lord said to Christians in
general, “This is My commandment, that you love
one another as I have loved you. By this shall
all men know that you are My disciples, if you have
love for one another”, can He not
say to the members of the same religious Order:
“This is My own and special recommendation:
Before all and above all preserve amongst you a mutual
charity. Have but one soul in several different
bodies. You will be recognized as religious and
brethren, not by the same habit, vows, and virtues,
nor by the particular work entrusted to you by the
Church, but by the love you have one for the other.
Ah! who will love you if you do not love one another?
Love one another fraternally, because as human beings
you have only one heavenly Father. Love one another
holily, because as Christians you have only one Head.
Love one another tenderly, because as religious you
have only one mother your Order”?
It is impossible for religious to
love their brethren with a true, sincere, pure, and
constant love if they do not look at them in this
light.
IV: THE FAMILY SPIRIT
Based on the foregoing principles,
fraternal charity begets the family spirit that
spirit which forgets itself in thinking only of the
common good; which makes particular give way to general
interests; which forces oneself to live with all without
exception, to live as all without singularity, and
to live for all without self-seeking; that spirit
which, binding like a Divine cement all parts of the
mysterious edifice of religion, uniting all hearts
in one and all wills in one, permits the community
to proceed firmly and securely, and its members to
work out efficaciously and peacefully their personal
sanctification and perfection; in fine, that spirit
which gives to all religious not only an inexpressible
family happiness, but a delicious foretaste of heaven,
which renders them invincible to their enemies, and
causes to be said of them with admiration: “See
how they love one another!”
Writing on these words of the Psalmist,
“Behold how good and pleasant it is for brethren
to live together in union,” St. Augustine cries
out: “Behold the words which make monasteries
spring up! Sweet, delightful, and delicious words
which fill the soul and ear with jubilation.”
Yes, certainly the happiness of community
life is great and its advantages inappreciable; but
without the family spirit there is no community, as
there would be no beauty in the human body without
harmony in its members. Oh, never forget this
comparison, you who wish to live happy in religion,
and who wish to make others happy.
A community is a body. Now, as
the members of a body, each in its proper place and
functions, live in perfect harmony, mutually comfort,
defend, and love each other, without being jealous
or vengeful, and have only in view the well-being
of that body of which they are parts, so in the community
of which you are members and in the employment assigned
to you. Remember you are parts of a whole, and
that it is necessary to refer to this whole your time,
labour, and strength; to have the same thoughts, sentiments,
designs, and language, without which there would no
longer exist either body, members, parts, or whole.
If you wish, then, to obtain and practise the family
spirit, study what passes within you. Your actions
bespeak your sentiments.
V: EGOTISM, OR SELF-SEEKING
Egotism, taking for its motto
“Every one for himself,” is very much
opposed to fraternal charity and the family spirit.
It never hesitates, when occasion offers, to sacrifice
the common good to its own. It isolates the individuals,
makes them concentrated in self, places them in the
community, but not of it, makes them strangers amongst
their brethren, and tends to justify the words of
an impious writer, who calls monasteries “reunions
of persons who know not each other, who live without
love, and die without being regretted.”
Egotism breeds distrust, jealousy,
parties, aversions. It destroys abnegation, humility,
patience, and all other virtues. It introduces
a universal disgust and discontent, makes religious
lose their first fervour, presents an image of hell
where one expected to find a heaven on earth, saps
the very foundation of community life, and leads sooner
or later to inevitable ruin.
As the family spirit causes the growth
and prosperity of an order, however feeble its beginning,
so, on the other hand, egotism dries the sap and renders
it powerless, no matter what other advantages it may
enjoy. If the one, by uniting hearts, is a principle
of strength and duration, the other, by dividing,
is a principle of dissolution and decay. Sallust
says that “the weakest things become powerful
by concord, and the greatest perish through discord.”
Whilst the descendants of Noah spoke the same language
the building of the tower of Babel proceeded with rapidity.
From the moment they ceased to understand one another
its destruction commenced, and the monument which
was to have immortalized their name was left in ruin
to tell their shame and pride.
On each of the four corners of the
monastery religion or charity personified ought to
be placed, bearing on shields in large characters
the following words: (1) “Love one another”;
(2) “He who is not with Me is against Me, and
he who gathers not with Me scatters”; (3) “Every
kingdom divided will become desolate”; (4) “They
had all but one heart and one soul.”
VI: FIRST CHARACTERISTIC OF FRATERNAL CHARITY
To esteem our brethren interiorly
“Charity, the sister of
humility,” says St. Paul, “is not puffed
up.” She cannot live with pride, the disease
of a soul full of itself. It willingly prefers
others by considering their good qualities and one’s
own defects, and shows this exteriorly when occasion
offers by many sincere proofs. It always looks
on others from the most favourable point. Instead
of closing the eyes on fifty virtues to find out one
fault, without any other profit than to satisfy a
natural perverseness and to excuse one’s own
failings, it closes the eyes on fifty faults to open
them on one virtue, with the double advantage of being
edified and of blessing God, the Author of all good.
Since an unfavourable thought, or the sight of an
action apparently reprehensible, tends to cloud the
reputation of a religious, charity hastens before the
cloud thickens to drive it away, saying, “What
am I doing? Should I blacken in my mind the image
of God, and seek deformities in the member of Jesus
Christ? Besides, cannot my brethren be eminently
holy and be subject to many faults, which God permits
them to fall into in order to keep them humble, to
teach them to help others, and to exercise their patience?”
VII: SECOND CHARACTERISTIC
To treat brethren with respect,
openness, and cordiality
Exterior honour being the effect
and sign of interior esteem, charity honours all those
whom it esteems superiors, equals, the young and the
old. It carefully observes all propriety, and
takes into consideration the different circumstances
of age, employment, merit, character, birth, and education
to make itself all to all. Convinced that God
is not unworthy to have well-bred persons in His service,
and that religious ought not to respect themselves
less than people in the world, it conforms to all the
requirements of politeness as far as religious simplicity
will permit; not that politeness which is feigned
and hypocritical, and which is merely a sham expression
of deceitful respect, but that politeness, the flower
of charity, which, manifesting exteriorly the sentiments
of a sincere affection and a true devotion, is accompanied
with a graceful countenance, benign and affable regards,
sweetness in words, foresight, urbanity, and delicacy
in business. In fine, that politeness which is
the fruit of self-denial and humility no less than
of charity and friendship; which is the art of self-restraint
and self-conquest, without restraining others; which
is the care of avoiding everything that might displease,
and doing all that can please, in order to make others
content with us and with themselves. In a word,
a mixture of discretion and complaisance, cordiality
and respect, together with words and manners full
of mildness and benignity.
VIII: THIRD CHARACTERISTIC
To work harmoniously with those
in the same employment, and not to cause any inconvenience
to them
Why should we cling so obstinately
to our own way of seeing and doing? Do not many
ways and means serve the same ends provided they be
employed wisely and perseveringly? Some have succeeded
by their methods, and I by mine a proof
that success is reached through many ways, and that
it is not by disputing it is obtained, nor by giving
scandal to those we should edify, nor, perhaps, by
compromising the good work in which we are employed.
The four animals mentioned by Ezekiel joined their
wings, were moved by the same spirit and animated
by the same ardour, and so drew the heavenly chariot
with majesty and rapidity, giving us religious an
example of perfect union of efforts and thoughts.
Charity avoids haughty and contemptuous
looks, forewarns itself against fads and manias,
and in the midst of most pressing occupations carefully
guards against rudeness and impatience. Careful
of wounding the susceptibility of others, it neither
blames nor despises those who act in an opposite way.
Religious animated by fraternal charity are not ticklish
spirits who are disturbed for nothing at all, and
who do not know how to pass unnoticed a little want
of respect, etc.; nor punctilious spirits, who
find pleasure in contradicting and making irritating
remarks; nor self-opinionated spirits, who pose themselves
as supreme judges of talent and virtue as well as
infallible dispensers of praise and blame. Neither
are they suspicious characters who are constantly
ruminating in their hearts, and who consider every
little insult as levelled at themselves; nor discontented
beings, who find fault with the places whither obedience
sends them and the persons with whom they live, and
who could travel the entire world without finding
a single place or a single person to suit them.
Charitable religious are not those
imperious minds who endeavour to impose their opinions
on all and refuse to accept those of others, however
just they may be, simply because they did not emanate
from themselves, nor are they those ridiculing, hard-to-be-pleased
sort of people who do not spare even grey hairs.
Finally, they are not those great spouters who, instead
of accommodating themselves to circumstances as charity
and politeness require, monopolize the conversation,
and thereby shut up the mouths of others and make
them feel weary when they should be joyful and free.
IX: FOURTH CHARACTERISTIC
To accommodate oneself to persons
of different humour
They who are animated by charity
support patiently and in silence, in sentiments of
humility and sweetness, as if they had neither eyes
nor ears, the difficult, odd, and most inconstant humours
of others, although they may find it very difficult
at times to do so.
No matter how regular and perfect
we may be, we have always need of compassion and indulgence
for others. To be borne with, we must bear with
others; to be loved, we must love; to be helped, we
must help; to be joyful ourselves, we must make others
so. Surrounded as we are by so many different
minds, characters, and interests, how can we live
in peace for a single day if we are not condescending,
accommodating, yielding, self-denying, ready to renounce
even a good project, and to take no notice of those
faults and shortcomings which are beyond our power
or duty to correct?
Charity patiently listens to a bore,
answers a useless question, renders service even when
the need is only imaginary, without ever betraying
the least signs of annoyance. It never asks for
exceptions or privileges for fear of exciting jealousy.
It does not multiply nor prolong conversations which
in any way annoy others. It fights antipathy
and natural aversions so that they may never appear,
and seeks even the company of those who might be the
object of them. It does not assume the office
of reprehending or warning through a motive of bitter
zeal. It seeks to find in oneself the faults
it notices in others, and perhaps greater ones, and
tries to correct them. “If thou canst not
make thyself such a one as thou wouldst, how canst
thou expect to have another according to thy liking?
We would willingly have others perfect, and yet we
mend not our own defects. We would have others
strictly corrected, but are not fond of being corrected
ourselves. The large liberty of others displeases
us, and yet we do not wish to be denied anything we
ask for. We are willing that others be bound
up by laws, and we suffer not ourselves to be restrained
by any means. Thus it is evident how seldom we
weigh our neighbour in the same balance with ourselves.
X: FIFTH CHARACTERISTIC
To refuse no reasonable service,
and to accept or refuse in an affable manner
CHARITY is generous; it does everything
it can. When even it can do little, it wishes
to be able to do more. It never lets slip an
opportunity of comforting, helping, and taking the
most painful part, after the example of its Divine
Model, Who came to serve, not to be served. One
religious, seemingly in pain, seeks comfort; another
desires some book, instrument, etc.; a third bends
under a burden; while a fourth is afflicted.
In all these cases charity comes to the aid by consoling
the one, procuring little gratifications for the other,
and helping another. Without complaining of the
increased labour or the carelessness of others, it
finishes the work left undone by them, too happy to
diminish their trouble, while augmenting its own reward.
“Does the hunter,” says St. John Chrysostom,
“who finds splendid game blame those who beat
the brushwood before him? Or does the traveller
who finds a purse of gold on the road neglect to pick
it up because others who preceded him took no notice
of it?” It would be a strange thing to find
religious uselessly giving themselves to ardent desires
of works of charity abroad, such as nursing in a hospital
or carrying the Gospel into uncivilized lands, and
at the same time in their own house and among their
own brethren showing coldness, indifference, and want
of condescension.
There is an art of giving as well
as of refusing. Several offend in giving because
they do so with a bad grace; others in refusing do
not offend because they know how to temper their refusal
by sweetness of manner. Charity possesses this
art in a high degree, and, besides, raises a mere
worldly art into a virtue and fruit of the Holy Ghost.
XI: SIXTH CHARACTERISTIC
To share the joys and griefs of our brethren
AS the soul in the human body establishes
all its members as sharers equally in joys and griefs,
so charity in the religious community places everything
in common content, affliction, material goods driving
out of existence the words mine and thine. It
lavishes kind words and consolations on all who suffer
in any way through ill-humour, sickness, want of success,
etc.; it rejoices when they are successful, honoured,
and trusted, or endowed with gifts of nature or grace,
felicitates them on their good fortune, and thanks
God for them. If, on the one hand, compassion
sweetens pains to the sufferer by sharing them, on
the other hand participation in a friend’s joys
doubles them by making them personal to ourselves.
Would to God that this touching and edifying charity
replaced the low and rampant vice of jealousy!
When David returned after he slew
the Philistines, the women came out of all the cities
of Israel singing and dancing to meet King Saul.
And the women sang as they played, “Saul slew
his thousands and David his ten thousands.”
Saul was exceedingly angry, and this word was displeasing
in his eyes, and he said: “They have given
David ten thousand, and to me they have given but a
thousand. . . . And Saul did not look on David with
a good eye from that day forward. . . . And Saul
held a spear in his hand and threw it, thinking to
nail David to the wall” (1 Kings). Thus
it is that the jealous complain of their brethren
who are more successful, learned, or praised; thus
it is that they lance darts of calumny, denunciation,
and revenge.
XII: SEVENTH CHARACTERISTIC
Not to be irritated when others wrong us
WE must pardon and do good for evil,
as God has pardoned us and rendered good for evil
in Jesus Christ. It is vain to trample the violet,
as it never resists, and he who crushes it only becomes
aware of the fact by the sweetness of its perfume.
This is the image of charity. It always strives
to throw its mantle over the evil doings of others,
persuading itself that they were the effects of surprise,
inadvertence, or at most very slight malice.
If an explanation is necessary, it is the first to
accuse itself. Never does it permit the keeping
of a painful thought against any of the brethren,
and does all in its power to hinder them from the
same; and, moreover, excuses all signs of contempt,
ingratitude, rudeness, peculiarities, etc.
Cassian makes mention of a religious
who, having received a box on the ear from his abbot
in presence of more than two hundred brethren, made
no complaint, nor even changed colour. St. Gregory
praises another religious, who, having been struck
several times with a stool by his abbot, attributed
it not to the passion of the abbot, but to his own
fault. He adds that the humility and patience
of the disciple was a lesson for the master. This
charity will have no small weight in the balance of
Him Who weighs merit so exactly.
Charity gives no occasion to others
to suffer, but suffers all patiently, not once, but
all through life, every day and almost every hour.
It is most necessary for religious, as, not being able
to seek comfort abroad, they are obliged to live in
the same house, often in the same employment with
characters less sympathetic than their own. These
little acts of charity count for little here below,
and they are rather exacted than admired. Hence
there is less danger of vainglory, and all their merit
is preserved in the sight of God.
XIII: EIGHTH CHARACTERISTIC
To practise moderation and consideration
TELL-TALES, nasty names, cold answers,
lies, mockery, harsh words, etc., are all contrary
to charity. St. John Chrysostom says: “When
anyone loads you with injuries, close your mouth, because
if you open it you will only cause a tempest.
When in a room between two open doors through which
a violent wind rushes and throws things in disorder,
if you close one door the violence of the wind is
checked and order is restored. So it is when you
are attacked by anyone with a bad tongue. Your
mouth and his are open doors. Close yours, and
the storm ceases. If, unfortunately, you open
yours, the storm will become furious, and no one can
tell what the damage may be.” If we have
been guilty in this respect, let us humble ourselves
before God.
“The tongue,” says St.
Gertrude, “is privileged above the other members
of the body, as on it reposes the sacred body and precious
blood of Jesus Christ. Those, then, who receive
the Holy of Holies without doing penance for the sins
of the tongue are like those who would keep a heap
of stones at their doors to stone a friend on arrival.”
In order to keep ourselves and others
in a state of moderation, we must remember that all
persons have some fad, mania, or fixed ideas which
they permit no one to gainsay. If we touch them
on these points, it will be like playing an accompaniment
to an instrument with one string out of tune.
XIV: NINTH CHARACTERISTIC
Care of the sick and infirm
CHARITY lavishes care on the sick
and infirm, on the old, on guests and new-comers.
It requires that we visit those who are ill, to cheer
and console them, to foresee their wants, and thereby
to spare them the pain or humiliation of asking for
anything.
Bossuet says: “Esteem the
sick, love them, respect and honour them, as being
consecrated by the unction of the Cross and marked
with the character of a suffering Jesus.”
Charity pays honour to the aged in
every respect, coincides with their sentiments, consults
them, forestalls their desires, and attempts not to
reform in them what cannot be reformed. Charity
receives fraternally all guests and new-comers, and
makes us treat them as we would wish to be treated
under similar circumstances. It also causes us
to lavish testimonies of affection on those who are
setting out, and warns us to be very careful of saying
or doing anything that may in the least degree offend
even the most susceptible.
Religious must ever feel that they
can bless, love, and thank religion as a good mother.
But religion is not an abstract matter; it is made
up of individuals reciprocally bound together in and
for each other.
Alas! how many times are the sick
and the old made to consider themselves as an inconvenient
burden, or like a useless piece of furniture!
In reality what are they doing? They pray and
do penance for the community, turn away the scourge
of God, draw down His graces and blessings, merit,
perhaps, the grace of perseverance for several whose
vocation is shaking, hand down to the younger members
the traditions and spirit of the institute, and finally
practise, and cause to be practised, a thousand acts
of virtue.
Did our Divine Lord work less efficaciously
for the Church when He hung on the Cross than when
He preached? We must, then, do for the sick and
the old who are now bearing their cross what we would
have wished to do for Jesus in His suffering.
XV: TENTH CHARACTERISTIC
Prayer for living and deceased brethren
“WE do not remember often enough
our dear dead, our departed brethren,” says
St. Francis de Sales, “and the proof of it is
that we speak so little of them. We try to change
the discourse as if it were hurtful. We let the
dead bury their dead. Their memory perishes with
us like the sound of the funeral knell, without thinking
that a friendship which perishes with death is not
true. It is a sign of piety to speak of their
virtues as it urges us to imitate them.”
In communities distinguished for fraternal
charity and the family spirit the conversation frequently
turns on the dead. One talks of their virtues,
another of their services, a third quotes some of
their sayings, while a fourth adds some other edifying
fact; and who is the religious that will not on such
occasions breathe a silent prayer to God and apply
some indulgence or other satisfactory work for the
happy repose of their souls?
Charity also prays for those who want
help most, and who are often known to God alone those
whose constancy is wavering, those who are led by
violent temptations to the edge of the precipice.
It expands pent-up souls by consolations or advice;
it dissipates prejudices which tend to weaken the
spirit of obedience; it is, in fine, a sort of instinct
which embraces all those things suggested by zeal
and devotion. Can there be anything more agreeable
to God, more useful to the Church, or more meritorious,
than to foster thus amongst the well-beloved children
of God peace, joy, love of vocation, together with
union amongst themselves and with their superiors?
It is one of the most substantial advantages we have
in religion to know that we are never forsaken in
life or death; to find always a heart that can compassionate
our pains, a hand which sustains us in danger and
lifts us when we fall.
XVI: ELEVENTH CHARACTERISTIC
To have a lively interest in the
whole Order, in its works, its success, and its failures
RELIGIOUS who have the family spirit
wish to know everything which concerns the well-being
of the different houses. They willingly take
their pens to contribute to the edification and satisfy
the lawful curiosity of their brethren. They
bless God when they hear good news, and grieve at
bad news, losses by death, and, above all, scandalous
losses of vocation.
Those who would concentrate all their
thoughts on their own work, as if all other work counted
for nothing or merited no attention, who would speak
feebly or perhaps jealously of it, as if they alone
wished to do good, or that others wished to deprive
them of some glory, would show that they only sought
themselves, and that to little love of the Church
they joined much indifference for their Order.
Charity, by uniting its good wishes
and interest to the deeds of others, becomes associated
at the same time in the merit. It shares in a
certain manner in the gifts and labours of others.
It is, at the same time, the eye, the hand, the tongue,
and the foot, since it rejoices at what is done by
the eye, the hand, the tongue, etc., or, rather,
it is as the soul which presides over all, and to
whom nothing is a stranger in the body over which it
presides.
XVII: TWELFTH CHARACTERISTIC
Mutual Edification
BE edified at the sight of your brethren’s
virtues, and edify them by your own. In other
words, be alternately disciple and master.
Profit by the labours of others, and
make them profit by your own. Receive from all,
in order to be able to give to all. Borrow humility
from one, obedience from another, union with God, and
the practice of mortification from others.
By charity we store up in ourselves
the gifts of grace enjoyed by every member of the
community, in order to dispense them to all by a happy
commerce and admirable exchange.
As the bee draws honey from the sweetest
juices contained in each flower; as the artist studies
the masterpieces to reproduce their marvellous tints
in pictures which, in their turn, become models; as
a mirror placed in a focus receives the rays of brilliancy
from a thousand others placed around it to re-invest
them with a dazzling brilliancy, so happy is the community
whose members multiply themselves, so to say, by mutually
esteeming, loving, admiring, and imitating each other
in what is good.
This spontaneity of virtues exercises
on all the members a constant and sublime ministry
of mutual edification and reciprocal sanctification.
XVIII: EXTENT AND DELICACY OF GOD’S CHARITY FOR MEN
IN order to excite ourselves to fraternal
charity, let us try and picture that of God for us.
After having had us present in His thoughts from all
eternity, He has called us from nothingness to life.
He Himself formed man’s body,
and, animating it with a breath, enclosed in it an
immortal soul, created to His own image. Scarcely
arrived on the threshold of life, we found an officer
from His court an angel deputed to protect, accompany,
and conduct us in triumph to our heavenly inheritance.
What a superb palace He has prepared
for us in this world, supplied with a prodigious variety
of flowers, fruits, and animals which He has placed
at our disposal!
We were a fallen race, and He sent
His Son to raise us and save us from hell, which we
merited. The Word was made flesh. He took
a body and soul like ours, thus ennobling and deifying,
so to speak, our human nature. Before ascending
to His heavenly Father, after having been immolated
for us on the Cross, for fear of leaving us orphans,
He wished to remain amongst us in the Holy Eucharist,
to nourish us with His flesh, and to infuse into our
hearts His Divine Spirit as the living promise and
the delicious foretaste of the felicity and glory
which He went to prepare for us in His kingdom.
Truly, O God, You treat us not only
with a paternal love, but with an infinite respect
and honour; and cannot I love and honour those whom
You have thus honoured and loved Yourself? Why
do not these thoughts inflame my charity in the fire
of your Divine love? My brethren and myself are
children of God and members of Jesus Christ.
My brethren have their angels, who are companions of
my angel. One day my brethren will be my companions
in glory, chanting eternally the Divine praises.
It is but a short time since, with them, I partook
of the heavenly banquet of the Most Holy Sacrament,
and to-morrow shall do so again.
XIX:
EXTENT AND DELICACY OF THE CHARITY
OF JESUS CHRIST DURING HIS MORTAL LIFE
LET us now admire the charity of our
Divine Saviour while on earth.
If wine was wanting at a feast; if
fishermen laboured in vain during the night; if a
vast crowd knew not where to procure food in the desert;
if unfortunate persons were possessed by devils or
deprived of the use of their limbs; if death deprived
a father of his daughter, or a widow of an only son,
Jesus was there to supply what was wanting, to give
back what was lost, or to sweeten all their griefs.
Sometimes He forestalled the petition by curing before
being asked, or by exciting the wavering faith.
He generally went beyond the demands of the petitioners.
He was always ready to interrupt His meal, to go to
a distance, or to quit His solitude. Nicodemus,
as yet trembling and timid, came to find Jesus during
the night, and He did not hesitate to sacrifice His
sleep by prolonging the conversation. The Samaritan
woman was not beneath His notice, although He was
fatigued after a long journey. He lavished with
prodigality His caresses on the children who pressed
around Him. When the crowd was so great that the
poor woman with the flow of blood could not come within
reach of His hand, He caused an all-powerful virtue
to set out from Him, and a simple touch of the hem
of His garment supplied instead.
With what charming grace His benefits
were accompanied! “Zacheus, come down quickly,
for I will abide this day in thy house.”
Who more than He excelled in the art of making agreeable
surprises? In His apparitions to Magdalen, to
the holy women, to the disciples at Emmaus, did He
not pay well for the ointment, the tears, and the
perfumes, and the hospitality He received from them?
Who is not moved with emotion when he sees his Lord
preparing a meal for the Apostles on the lake-shore,
or asking Peter thrice to give him an opportunity
of publicly repairing his triple denial, “Lovest
thou Me?”
Who would not be moved when he hears
what St. Clement relates having heard it from St.
Peter that our Lord was accustomed to watch like a
mother with her children near His disciples during
their sleep to render them any little service?
O Jesus! the sweetest, the most amiable,
the most charitable of the children of men, make me
a sharer in Your mildness, Your love, and Your charity.
XX: FIRST PRESERVATIVE
How to fortify ourselves against
uncharitable conversations, the principal danger to
fraternal charity
TO meditate on what the Holy Scripture
says of it: “Place, O Lord, a guard before
my mouth” (Ps. cxl.) a vigilant sentinel,
well armed, to watch, and, if necessary, to arrest
in the passing out any unbecoming word “and
a door before my lips,” which, being tightly
closed, will never let an un charitable dart escape.
“Shut in your ears with a hedge
of thorns,” to counteract the tongue, which
would pour into them the poison of uncharitableness,
“and refuse to listen to the wicked tongue.”
“Put before your mouth several
doors and on your ears several locks” i.e.,
put doors upon doors and locks upon locks, because
the tongue is capable, in its fury, to force open the
first door and break the first lock. “Melt
your gold and silver, and make for your words a balance” weighing
them all before uttering them “and
have for your mouth solid bridles which are tightly
held,” for fear that the tongue, getting the
better of your vigilance, will break loose and do
mischief in all directions.
Considering these many barriers and
formidable checks, must we not see the necessity of
burying in a well-fortified prison that most dangerous
monster, the tongue? “Ah! truly death and
life are in the power of the tongue” (Prov.
xviii.). “And although the sword has been
the instrument of innumerable murders, the tongue has
at all times beaten it in producing death” (Ecclus.
xxviii.). “It forms but a small part of
the body, and has done mighty evil: as the helm
badly directed causes the wreck of a fine ship, and
as a spark may enkindle a forest. . . . Unquiet
evil, inflamed firebrand, source of deadly poison,
world of iniquity” (St. James iii.).
XXI: SECOND PRESERVATIVE
To meditate on what the Saints say
ST. BONAVENTURE relates that St. Francis
of Assisi said to his religious one day: “Uncharitable
conversation is worse than the assassin, because it
kills souls and becomes intoxicated with their blood.
It is worse than the mad dog, because it tears out
and drags on all sides the living entrails of the neighbour.
It is worse than the unclean animal, because it wallows
in the filth of vices and makes its favourite pasture
there. It is worse than Cham, because it exposes
everywhere the nasty spots which soil the face of
religion its mother.”
St. Bernard goes further: “Do
not hesitate to regard the tongue of the backbiter
as more cruel than the iron of the lance which pierced
our Saviour’s side, because it not only pierces
His sacred side, but one of His living members also,
to whom by its wound it gives death. It is more
cruel than the thorns with which His venerable head
was crowned and torn, and even than the nails with
which the wicked Jews fastened His sacred hands and
feet to the Cross, because if our Divine Saviour did
not esteem more highly the member of His mystic body
(which is pierced by the foul tongue of the slanderer)
than His own natural body formed by the operation
of the Holy Ghost in the chaste womb of the Virgin
Mary, He would never have consented to deliver the
latter to ignominies and outrages to spare the
former.”
Now St. Francis and St. Bernard are
here speaking to religious. Is it possible, then,
for backbiting to glide into religious communities?
Yes, certainly. And it is by this snare that Satan
catches souls which have escaped all others.
St. Jerome says: “There
are few who avoid this fault. Amongst those even
who pride themselves on leading an irreproachable life,
you will scarcely find any who do not criticize their
brethren.”
Rarely, without doubt, but too often,
nevertheless, we calumniate at first secretly or with
one or two friends, afterwards openly and in public.
We speak of the mistakes, shortcomings, and defects,
great and small, and sometimes transmit them as a legacy.
Sometimes we use a moderate hypocrisy by purposely
letting ourselves be questioned, and sometimes brutally
attack our victim without shame.
“Have I, then,” may the
religious thus attacked say, “in making my vows
renounced my honour and delivered my character to pillage?
Has my position as religious, has the majesty of the
King of Kings, of whom I have become the intimate
friend, in place of ennobling me, degraded me?
You call yourselves my brethren, and yet there are
none who esteem me less! You would not steal my
money, and yet you make no scruple of stealing my character,
a thousand times more precious. You pay court
to your Saviour and persecute His child! The
same tongue on which reposes the Holy of Holies spreads
poison and death! Is this to be the result of
your study and practice of virtue? Has not Jesus
Christ, by so many Communions, placed a little
sweetness on your tongue and a little charity in your
heart? By eating the Lamb have you become wolves?
as St. John Chrysostom reproached the clergy of Antioch.
And you, who fly so carefully the gross vices of the
world, have you no care or anxiety about damning yourself
by slander?”
XXII: THIRD PRESERVATIVE
To guard the tongue
THIS must be done especially in five
circumstances: (1) At the change of Superiors.
Do not criticize the outgoing Superior nor flatter
the new one. (2) When you replace another religious.
Never by word or act cast any blame on him. Inexperience,
or a desire to introduce new customs, sometimes causes
this to be done. (3) When you are getting old.
Because then we are apt to think erroneously,
of course that the young members growing
up are incapable of fulfilling duties once accomplished
by ourselves. (4) When religious come from another
house do not ask questions which they ought not to
answer, and do not tell them anything which might
prejudice or disgust them with the house or anyone
in it. Lastly, in our interviews with our particular
friends we must be very cautious. There are some
who, when anything goes amiss with them, always seek
the company of their confidants. These should
seriously examine before God whether it is a necessary
comfort in affliction or a support in weakness, or
the too human satisfaction of justifying themselves,
giving vent to their feelings, or getting blame and
criticism for the Superior or some one else.
They should also examine whether on such occasions
they speak the exact truth, and whether they seek
a friend, who knows how to take the arrow sweetly
from the wound rather than to bury it deeper.
The way to find out the gravity of
the sin of detraction is (1) To consider
the position of him who speaks and the weight which
is attached to his words; (2) the position of him
who is spoken about, and the need he has of his reputation;
(3) the evil thing said; (4) the number of the hearers;
(5) the result of the detraction; and, lastly, the
intention of the speaker, and the passion which was
the cause of it.
XXIII: FOURTH PRESERVATIVE
To be on our guard with certain persons
THERE are six sorts of religious who
wound fraternal charity more or less fatally, (1)
Those who say to you, “Such a one said so-and-so
about you.” These are the sowers of discord,
whom God Almighty declares He has in abomination.
Their tongues have three fangs more terrible than
a viper. “With one blow,” says St.
Bernard, “they kill three persons themselves,
the listeners, and the absent.” (2) Those who,
obscuring and perverting this amiable virtue, possess
the infernal secret of transforming it into vice.
Is not this to sin against the Holy Ghost? (3) Those
who skilfully turn the conversation on those brethren
of whom they are jealous, in order to have all put
in a bad word. They thus double the fault they
apparently wish to avoid. (4) Those who constantly
have their ears cocked to hear domestic news, who
are skilful in finding out secrets and picking up
stories, whose trade seems to be to take note of all
little bits of scandalous news going, and to take them
from ear to ear, or, worse, from house to house.
Oh, what an occupation! What a recreation for
a spouse of Christ! (5) Those who, under pretext of
enlivening the conversation, sacrifice their brethren
to the vain and cruel wantonness of witticism by relating
something funny in order to give a lash of their tongue
or to expose some weakness. Alas! they forget
that they ruin themselves in the esteem and opinion
of the hearers. (6) Critics of intellectual work.
On this point jealousy betrays itself very easily
on one side, and susceptibility is stirred on the other.
The heart is never insensible nor the mouth silent
when we are wounded in so delicate a part. It
is evident, besides, that in this case the blame supposes
a desire of praise, and that in proportion as we endeavour
to lower our brethren we try to raise ourselves.
All these religious ought to be regarded as pests in
the community.
If we call those who maintain fraternal
charity the children of God, should not those who
disturb it be called the children of Satan? Do
they not endeavour to turn the abode of peace into
a den of discord, and the sanctuary of prayer into
a porch of hell?
XXIV: FIFTH PRESERVATIVE
To be cautious in letter-writing and visiting
GREAT care must be taken never to
repeat anything at visits or in letters which might
compromise the honour of the community or any of its
members.
Never utter a word or write a syllable
which might in the least degree diminish the esteem
or lower the merit of anyone. Every well-reared
person knows that little family secrets must be kept
under lock and key.
St. Jane Frances de Chantal writes:
“To mention rashly outside the community without
great necessity the faults of religious would be great
impudence. Never relate outside, even to ecclesiastics,
frivolous complaints and lamentations without foundation,
which serve only to bring religion, and those who
govern therein, into disrepute. Certainly, we
ought to be jealous of the honour and good odour of
religious houses, which are the family of God.
Guard this as an essential point which requires restitution.”
XXV: SIXTH PRESERVATIVE
Caution in communication with superiors
IN communications made to Superiors
say the exact truth, and for a good purpose.
Do not speak into other ears that which, strictly
speaking, should only be told to the local Superior
or Superior-General. With the exception of extraordinary
cases, or when it refers to a bad habit or something
otherwise irremediable, there is generally little
charity and less prudence in telling the Superior-General
of something blameable which has occurred. Do
not reveal, even before a Superior, confidences which
conscience, probity, or friendship requires to be
guarded with an inviolable seal of friendship.
If we write a complaint about a personal offence,
lessen it rather than exaggerate, and endeavour to
praise the person for good qualities, because nothing
is easier than to blacken entirely another’s
reputation.
Pray and wait till your emotion be
calmed. When passion holds the pen, it is no
longer the ink that flows, but spleen, and the pen
is transformed into a sword.
Before speaking or writing to the
Superior it would be well to put this question to
ourselves: “Am I one of those proud spirits
who expose the faults of others in order to show off
their own pretended virtues? or jealous spirits who
are offended at the elevation of others? or vindictive
spirits who like to give tit for tat? or polite spirits
who wish to appear important? or ill-humoured, narrow-minded
spirits, scandalized at trifles? or credulous, inconsiderate
spirits who believe and repeat everything the
bad rather than the good? In fine, am I a hypocrite
who, clothing malice with the mantle of charity, and
hiding a cruel pleasure under the veil of compassion,
weep with the victim they intend to immolate, as though
profoundly touched by his misfortune, and seem to
yield only to the imperative demands of duty and zeal?”
XXVI: SEVENTH PRESERVATIVE
Caution in doubtful cases
ACT with the greatest reserve in doubtful
cases where grave suspicions, difficult to be cleared
up, rest on a religious superior or inferior, as the
case may be.
The ears of the Superior are sacred,
and it is unworthy profanation to pour into them false
or exaggerated reports. To infect the Superior’s
ears is a greater crime than to poison the drinking
fountain or to steal a treasure, because the only
treasure of religious is the esteem of their Superior,
and the pure water which refreshes their souls is
the encouraging and benevolent words of the same Superior.
Some, by imprudence or under the influence
of a highly coloured or impressionable imagination
which carries everything to extremes (we would not
say through malice), render themselves often guilty
of crying acts of injustice and ruin a religious.
What is uncertain they relate as certain, and what
is mere conjecture they take as the base of grave
suspicions. Several facts which, taken individually,
constitute scarcely a fault, they group together,
and so make a mountain out of a few grains of sand.
An act which, seen in its entirety, would be worthy
of praise, they mutilate in such a fashion as to show
it in an unfavourable light. Enemies of the positive
degree, they lavish with prodigality the words often,
very much, exceedingly, etc. When they
have only one or two witnesses, they make use of the
word everybody, thereby leaving you under the
impression that the rumour is scattered broadcast.
On such statements, how can a Superior pronounce judgment?
XXVII: EIGHTH PRESERVATIVE
To check uncharitable conversation in others
WHEN you see charity wounded by an equal call him
to order.
If to say or do anything scandalous
is the first sin forbidden by charity, not to stop,
when you can, him who speaks or acts badly ought to
be considered the second.
When the discourse degenerates, represent
Jesus Christ entering suddenly into the midst of the
company, and saying, as He did formerly to the disciples
of Emmaus: “What discourse hold you among
yourselves, and why are you sad?” Recall also
these words of the Psalmist: “You have
preferred to say evil rather than good, and to relate
vices rather than virtues. O deceitful, inconsiderate,
and rash tongue! Dost thou think thou wilt remain
unpunished? No; God will punish thee in everlasting
flames.” After having thus fortified ourselves
against uncharitable conversation, we ought to try
and put a stop to it.
St. John Climacus tells us to address
the following words to those who calumniate in our
presence: “For mercy’s sake cease
such conversation! How would you wish me to stone
my brethren me, whose faults are greater
and more numerous?”
A holy religious replied to an uncharitable
person: “We have to render infinite thanks
to God if we are not such as those of whom you speak.
Alas! what would become of us without Him?”
The philosopher Zeno, hearing a man
relate a number of misdeeds about Antisthenes, said
to him: “Ah! Has he never done anything
good? Has he never done anything for which he
merits praise?” “I don’t know,”
he replied. Then said Zeno, “How is that?
You have sufficient perception to remark, and sufficient
memory to remember, this long list of faults, and
you have had no eyes to see his many good qualities
and virtuous actions.”
St. John Chrysostom says: “To
the calumniator I wish you to say the following:
If you can praise your neighbours, my ears are open
to receive your perfume. If you can only blacken
them, my ears are closed, as I do not wish them to
be the receptacle of your filthy words. What
matters it to me to hear that such a one is wicked,
and has done some detestable act? Friend, think
of the account that must be rendered to the Sovereign
Judge. What excuse can we give, and what mercy
will we deserve we who have been so keen-sighted
to the faults of others, and so blind to our own?
You would consider it very rude for a person to look
into your private room; but I say it is far worse
to pry into another’s private life and to expose
it.
The calumniator should remember that,
besides the fault he commits and the wrong he does
to his neighbours, he exposes himself, by a just punishment
of God, to be the victim of calumny himself.
XXVIII: NINTH PRESERVATIVE
How to check uncharitable conversation
in superiors, etc.
WHEN we see charity wounded by persons
worthy of respect, keep silent, in order to show your
regret, or relate something to the advantage of the
absent. If necessary, withdraw.
It is related in the life of Sister
Margaret, of the Blessed Sacrament of the Carmelite
Order, that when a discourse against charity took
place in the house she saw a smoke arise of such suffocating
odour that she nearly fainted, and fled immediately
to her Divine Master for pardon.
St. Jerome, writing to Nepotian on
this subject, says: “Some object that they
cannot warn the speaker of his fault without failing
in the respect due to him. This excuse is vain,
because their eagerness to listen increases his itch
for speaking. No one wishes to relate calumnies
and murmurs to ears closed with disgust. Is there
anyone so foolish as to shoot arrows against a stone
wall?” Let your strict silence be a significant
and salutary lesson for the detractor. “Have
no commerce with those who bite,” said Solomon,
because perdition is on the eve of overtaking them;
and who can tell the disaster and ruin with which the
rash detractor and equally blamable listener are threatened?
If it be true, according to the testimony
of a religious who was visitor of the houses of his
Order, that the virtue against which one can most
easily commit a grievous sin in religion is charity;
and, according to St. Francis de Sales, sins of the
tongue number three-fourths of all sins committed;
cannot it be said with equal truth that to refuse
to listen to detractors is with one blow to prevent
the sin and safeguard charity?
In many cases one can adroitly make
known the good qualities and virtues which more than
counterbalance the defects related by the defamer.
To act thus is to spread about the good odour of Christ.
XXIX: TENTH PRESERVATIVE
Be cautious after hearing uncharitable
conversation
AFTER having heard uncharitable words,
observe the following precautions given by the Saints:
1. Repeat nothing.
2. Believe all the good you hear,
but believe only the bad you see. Malice does
the contrary. It demands proofs for good reports,
but believes bad reports on the slightest grounds.
Out of every thousand reports one can scarcely be
found accurate in all its details. When, as a
rule of prudence, Superiors are told to believe only
half of what they hear, to consider the other half,
and still suspect the remaining part, what rule should
be prescribed for inferiors?
When the act is evidently blameworthy,
suppose a good intention, or at least one not so bad
as apparent, leaving to God what He reserves to Himself
the judgment of the heart; or consider it as the result
of surprise, inadvertence, human frailty, or the violence
of the temptation. Never come to hasty conclusions
e.g., “He is incorrigible; as he is, so
will he always be.” Expect everything from
grace, efforts, and time.
3. Efface as much as possible
the bad impression produced on the mind, because calumny
always produces such.
The recital of something bad about
a fellow-religious based on probabilities has sufficed
to tarnish a reputation which ample apologies cannot
fully repair. The detractor’s evil reports
are believed on account of the audacity with which
he relates them, but when he wants to relate something
good he will not be believed on oath. We know
by experience that evil reports spread with compound
interest, while good ones are retailed at discount.
XXX: ELEVENTH PRESERVATIVE
Not to judge or suspect rashly
EXPEL every doubt, every thought,
likely to diminish esteem. They amuse themselves
with a most dangerous game who always gather up vague
thoughts of the past, rumours without foundation,
conjectures in which passion has the greatest share,
and thus form in their minds characters of their brethren adding
always, never subtracting and by dint of
the high idea they have of their own ability conclude
that all their judgments are true, and thus become
fixed in their bad habit. St. Bernard, comparing
them to painters, warns them that it is the devil
who furnishes the materials, and even the evil conceptions,
necessary to depict such bad impressions of their
brethren. We read in the “Life of St. Francis”
that our Lord Himself called in a distinct voice a
certain young man to his Order. “O Lord,”
replied the young man, “when I am once entered,
what must I do to please You?” Pay particular
attention to our Lord’s answer: “Lead
thou a life in common with the rest. Avoid particular
friendships. Take no notice of the defects of
others, and form no unfavourable judgments about them.”
What matter for consideration in these admirable words!
Thomas a Kempis says: “Turn
thy eyes back upon thyself, and see thou judge not
the doing of others. In judging others a man
labours in vain, often errs, and easily sins; but in
judging and looking into himself he always labours
with fruit. We frequently judge of a thing according
to the inclination of our hearts, because self-love
easily alters in us a true judgment.”
Rodriguez tells us to turn on ourselves
the sinister questions, etc., we are tempted
to refer to others e.g.: “It is I
who am deceived. It is through jealousy that
I condemn my brethren. It is through malice that
I find so much to blame in them. Finally, the
fault is mine, not theirs.”
Even when reports more or less true
might depreciate in your eyes some of the community,
may they not have, besides their faults, some great
but hidden virtues, and by these be entitled to a more
merciful judgment? St. Augustine says beautifully:
“If you cast your eye over a field where the
corn has been trampled, you only perceive the straw,
not the grain. Lift up the straw, and you will
see plenty of golden sheaves full of grain.”
The simile is very applicable to a poor religious
beaten down by foul tongues. We blame the defects
of our brethren, and perhaps we have the same, or
others more shameful still. We usurp the right
of judgment, which God reserves to Himself, and forget
that He will punish us by leaving us to our own irregular
passions. Ah! is it not already a very great
misfortune to have these contemptuous, slanderous,
distrustful thoughts, and many other sins, the result
of malicious suspicions and rash judgments, rooted
in the soul?
XXXI: MEANS TO SUPPORT THE EVIL THOUGHTS AND TONGUES OF OTHERS
WHAT must be done in those painful
moments when, being the victim of a painful calumny,
the object of suspicion, the butt of domestic persecution,
we are tempted to believe that charity is banished
from the community, and so to banish it from our own
heart? Recall the words of St. John of the Cross.
“Imagine,” says he, “that your brethren
are so many sculptors armed with mallets and chisels,
and that you have been placed before them as a block
of marble destined in the mind of God to become a statue
representing the Man of Sorrows, Jesus crucified.”
Consider a hasty word said to you as a thorn in the
head; a mockery as a spit in the face; an unkind act
as a nail in the hand; a hatred which takes the place
of friendship as a lance in the side; all that which
hurts, contradicts, or humiliates us as the blows,
stripes, the gall and vinegar, the crown of thorns
and the cross. The work proceeds always, sometimes
slowly, sometimes quickly. Let us not complain.
We will one day thank these workmen, who, without
intending it, give to our soul the most beautiful,
the most glorious, and the noblest traits. We
ourselves are sculptors as well as statues, and we
will find that, on our part, we have materially helped
to form in them the same traits.
“If all were perfect,”
says the “Imitation,” “what, then,
should we have to suffer from others for God’s
sake?”
It is not forbidden us to seek consolation.
But from whom? Is it from those discontented
spirits whose ears are like public sewers, the receptacle
of every filth and dirt? They increase our pain
by pouring the poison of their own discontent instead
of the oil of the Good Samaritan. They will take
our disease and give us theirs, and, like Samson’s
foxes, spread destruction around by repeating what
we said to them. May God preserve us from this
misfortune! If we cannot carry our burden alone,
and if we find it no relief to lay our griefs in the
Sacred Heart of Jesus, let us go to him whom the rule
appoints to be our friend and consoler, our confidant
and director, and who, as St. Augustine relates of
St. Monica, after having listened to us with patience,
charity, and compassion, after having at first appeared
to share our sentiments, will sweeten and explain
all with prudence, will lift up and encourage our
oppressed heart, and by his counsel and prayers will
restore us to peace and charity.
XXXII: SECOND MEANS TO BEAR WITH OTHERS
RECALL the words of our Lord to Blessed
Margaret Mary: “With the intention of perfecting
thee by patience I will increase thy sensibility and
repugnance, so that thou wilt find occasions of humiliation
and suffering even in the smallest and most indifferent
things.”
What would be considered, when we
were in the world, as the prick of a needle, we look
upon in religion as the blow of a sword. What
we looked upon in our own house as light as a feather,
becomes in community life as heavy as a rock.
An insignificant word becomes an outrage, and a little
matter which formerly would escape our notice now
upsets us, and even deprives us of sleep and appetite.
Is not this increase of sensibility and repugnance
found in the religious state only to form in us the
image of our crucified Lord? If Christ alone
has suffered interiorly more than all the Saints and
Martyrs together, was it not because of this extreme
repugnance of His soul, which multiplied to infinity
for Him the bitterness of the affronts and the rigour
of His torments? Religious may expect for a certainty
that, like their Divine Master, there are reserved
for them moments of complete abandonment, those agonies
intended for the souls of the elect, in which Nature
seems on the point of succumbing. No consolation
from their families, which they have quitted; nor
from their companions, who are busy in their various
employments; nor from their Superiors, who do not
understand the excess of their grief, and whose words
by Divine permission produce no effect.
The solemn moment of agony with our
Divine Saviour was that in which, abandoned, betrayed,
and denied by His Apostles, and perceiving in His
Father only an irritated face, He exclaimed, “My
God! My God! why hast Thou forsaken Me?”
Such will be for religious the last touch which will
complete in them the resemblance of Jesus crucified,
provided they will render themselves worthy of it.
When will be the time of this complete
abandonment? How long will this agony be prolonged?
This is a secret known only to God.
XXXIII: CONCLUSION
POVERTY, chastity, obedience, and
charity such are the virtues suitable and
characteristic of the religious. In this little
treatise we have endeavoured to trace the features
of the last.
In every community we can distinguish
two sorts of religious those who mount
and those who descend those whose face is
towards the path of perfection, and those who have
turned their back to it. Perhaps amongst these
latter some have only one more step to abandon it
altogether. Now we mount or descend, proceed or
retrace our steps, in proportion as we practise these
four virtues or neglect them.
A religious Order is like a fire balloon,
which requires four conditions in order to rise into
the clouds amidst the applause of the spectators.
First, the rarefaction of the air by fire. This
represents the vow of poverty, which empties the heart
through the hands, and substitutes the desire of heavenly
goods for those of earth. Second, release from
the cords which bind it down. This represents
the effects of the vow of chastity, which, by breaking
human attachments, permits us to soar towards God with
freedom and rapidity. Third, a man who will feed
the fire and moderate the flight of the balloon upwards.
This represents the right which the vow of obedience
places in the hands of the Superior, to nourish the
sacred fire, and direct the sublime movement of the
soul and foresee dangers. Fourth, the union of
its component parts. This represents the operations
of charity, in causing all the members of a community
to have but one heart and one soul.
Possessing these four virtues, a religious
Order soars in the heights of perfection; but if one
of these be wanting it falls helplessly, and is no
longer an object of edification, but of scandal and
ridicule.
When it happens that some members,
losing the spirit of their state, abandon their holy
vocation, we may say with St. John: “They
went out from us; but they were not of us. For
if they had been of us, they would no doubt have continued
with us: but that they might be made manifest
that they are not all of us” .
They appeared to have the religious virtues, but in
reality one or all were wanting to them.
O God, do not permit that lukewarmness
or an uncontrolled passion will ever make me waver
in my vocation. During life and at death I wish
to remain a faithful religious, so that I may find
the salvation which Thou hast promised by procuring
Thy glory. As good grain improves by pulling
up the weeds, and the body becomes healthy when purged
of bad humours, pour into my soul the grace and unction
which others refuse, in order that, practising more
perfectly from day to day poverty, chastity, obedience,
and charity, and redoubling my ardour and zeal to
my last hour, I may obtain the priceless treasure
promised to those who have quitted all to follow Thee.
Amen.
APPENDIX
THE PRACTICE OF FRATERNAL CHARITY (FATHER FABER)
1. OFTEN reflect on some good
point in each of your brethren.
2. Reflect on the opposite faults in yourself.
3. Do this most in the case of
those whom we are most inclined to criticize.
4. Never claim rights or even
let ourselves feel that we have them, as this spirit
is most fatal both to obedience and charity.
5. Charitable thoughts are the
only security of charitable deeds and words.
They save us from surprises, especially from surprises
of temper.
6. Never have an aversion for
another, much less manifest it.
7. Avoid particular friendships.
8. Never judge another.
Always, if possible, excuse the faults we see, and
if we cannot excuse the action, excuse the intention.
We cannot all think alike, and we should, therefore,
avoid attributing bad motives to others.
CHARITABLE RELIGIOUS
They have a disregard of self and
a desire to accommodate others. They rejoice
with their companions in their joys and recreations,
and grieve with them in their afflictions.
They try to bring all the good they
can to the community and to avert all the evil.
They begin with themselves, by being as little trouble
as possible to others.
With great charity and affability
they bear with the faults and shortcomings of others,
careful to fulfil the law of Christ, which tells us
to bear one another’s burdens.
They dispense to others what they
have for their own advantage; more particularly do
they give spiritual assistance by prayer and the other
spiritual works of mercy.
They never contradict anyone.
They never speak against anyone. They are convinced
that charity, holy friendships, and concord form the
great solace of this life, and that no good ever came
from dissensions and disputes.
They consider that God is ever in
the midst of those who live united together by the
bonds of holy love.
We will do likewise if we consider
the image of God in the souls of our brethren.
As we form one body here and one spirit in the same
faith and charity, let us hope not to be separated
hereafter, but to belong for ever to that one body
in heaven when faith and hope shall disappear, but
where charity alone shall remain, and remain for ever.