CHAPTER VII: More Time for Other Things
And there is this great advantage:
Your resources for the entertainment of yourself are
vastly developed when you do not drink. When you
do drink, about all you do is drink that
is, the usual formula, day by day, is to get through
work and then go somewhere where there are fellows
of your kind and have a few. Now when you do not
drink you find there are other things that occur to
you as worth while. It is not necessary to hurry
to the club or elsewhere to meet the crowd and listen
to the newest story, or hear the comment on the day’s
doings, punctuated by the regular tapping of the bell
for the waiter and the pleasing: “What’ll
it be, boys?” You do that now and then, but you
do not do it every day.
After mature consideration of the
subject I have concluded that the greatest, the most
satisfactory, the finest attribute of a non-alcoholic
life is the time it gives you to do non-alcoholic things.
Time! That is the largest benefit time
to read, to think, to get out-of-doors, to see pictures,
to go to plays, to meet and mingle with new people,
to do your own work in. A man who has the convivial-drinking
habit is put to it on occasions to find time for anything
but conviviality aside from his regular occupation.
It seems imperative to him that he shall get where
the crowd is, and stay there. He might miss something a
drink maybe, or two, or a laugh, or a yarn, or the
pleasures of association with folks he likes.
These are important when visualized alcoholically.
They make up the most of that kind of a life.
Do not understand that I am deprecating
these pleasures. I am not. I have already
explained how strenuously I worked out a program that
enables me to enjoy them now and then; but the fact
that I have quit drinking makes them incidental to
the general scheme instead of the whole scheme.
It gives me an opportunity to pick and choose a bit.
It relieves me of the necessity of being at the same
places at the same time every afternoon or evening.
Whereas I used to be the boss and John Barleycorn
the foreman, I have now discharged John and am both
boss and foreman; and I run the game to suit myself
and have time for other things.
Let me impress that on you the
glory and gladness of time! It requires rather
persistent application to be a good fellow. One
cannot do much else. However, when a man has
arrived at that stage where he can retain at least
a portion of his good fellowship and also can be two
or three of the other kinds of a worth-while fellow to
himself, at least he has gained on the
old gang by about a hundred per cent.
As it is now, no chums come shouting
in to urge me to go and have one; nobody drops round
at five o’clock in the afternoon to hurry me
along to the favorite table at the club; nobody suggests
about seven o’clock that we all ’phone
home and stay down and have dinner together; the old
plan of having a luncheon that lasts an hour and a
half or two hours in the best part of the day is rarely
broached. There are few telephone calls after
dinner urging an immediate descent on a gathering where
there is something coming off all these
things are left to my choice and are not taken as
a matter of usual procedure, predicated on the circumstances
of the plan of living.
A non-drinking man is the master of
his own time. If he wants sociability he can
go and get it, up to such limits as he personally can
attain for himself in his water-consuming capacity.
A drinking man is not master of his time. He
may think he is, but he is not. He is the creature
of a habit that may be harmless, but which surely is
insistent; and the habit dictates what he shall do
with his leisure.
Time! Why, such new vistas of
what can be done with time that was wasted in former
years have opened before me that time seems to me the
greatest luxury in the world time that
was formerly wasted and now is used! I hope that
does not sound priggish. I have tried to show
that I value highly the privilege of associating with
my fellows, and that I like their ways and their talk
and their company. What I mean by this pæan to
time is that I can have company in a modified measure,
if I choose; and that I can and do have other things
that no man who has a daily drinking habit can or
does have.