Club life in America is a growth of
recent years. It is now so firmly established,
and it is so popular that there is not a village or
even a settlement in the United States which has not
at least its casino, or its little coterie organized
for golf, tennis, athletic, or merely social enjoyment.
All of these, from the great metropolitan clubs of
the cities down to the very humblest in the “wilds,”
are governed by club laws and are regulated by club
etiquette. In New York, now a city of clubs,
this etiquette differs much from that observed in London,
Paris, or any of the large continental centers.
In London, a man is identified with his club.
He rarely belongs to more than one, and his membership
there denotes his social standing, his pursuits in
life, and, above all, his politics. English clubs
are also very jealous of admittance of strangers,
and are not in the least hospitable to the foreigner.
There are exceptions to this among the literary, theatrical,
and Bohemian organizations, but the Pall Mall clubs
are “closed.” In New York, Boston,
Chicago, and other American cities there are organizations
which insist upon certain qualifications, such as
being a university man, a lawyer, an author, a physician,
or a member of a college fraternity, for admittance;
but then the members also belong to other clubs, where
their social standing, or perhaps the extent of their
bank account, is their passport.
If a man wishes to get on socially,
he should belong to at least one good club. It
gives him his standing in the community, and places
him. He is no longer on the list of the unidentified.
When a choice is made of a club which
you desire to join, the next step would be to have
two members in good standing to act as your sponsors one
proposes your name and the other seconds. A good
sponsor is necessary, and you should choose one who
has many friends in the organization of which you
desire to become a member. The president, officers,
and the governing committee are debarred from either
proposing or seconding a name for membership.
The term of a man’s novitiate depends upon the
state of the waiting list. Your proposer will
notify you when your name will be reached, as he himself
will be notified in writing by the committee on membership.
The rules of candidacy differ in various clubs.
In some, the name of the candidate with those of the
two members proposing him is exposed in a conspicuous
place where the entire club can see it. There
is also a book in which other members sign the application,
and the number of signatures, of course, has weight
with the governors.
Again, the name is inscribed in a
book kept for the purpose in the steward’s office,
and it is not necessary that any other indorsement
except that of your sponsors be made.
Any member objecting to the name of
a candidate has two methods by which he can make known
his objection. One is to write directly to the
governors, or to the committee on admissions and membership,
whichever, according to the laws of the club, has
the matter in hand. Usually it is the governing
committee or board of governors. This communication
is treated, as are all club matters, with the secrecy
of the confessional. Your sponsors are written
to and the objections stated, but the name of the
person objecting is withheld. The other method
is, if any one has an objection to your admission,
that he should go at once in a manly way to one of
your sponsors and state it. It is a rare occurrence
in a New York club that any candidate is black-balled.
The warning from the governing committee, or from
another member to the sponsors, is a word to the wise,
and the men who propose you should immediately withdraw
your name to avoid a disaster. Otherwise a very
great risk is run, as objections which have any foundation
have great weight with the governing committee.
In the clubs where the names of the
candidates are kept only in a small book, while on
the waiting list they are posted ten days before the
election in a conspicuous part of the clubhouse.
No candidate can be elected to a club who is not personally
known to two or more members of the governing committee.
A short time before election, if the candidate has
not this acquaintance, it is the duty of his sponsors
to take him around and introduce him, or to arrange
that he will meet these gentlemen in some way; otherwise
his name will go over; and after two setbacks of this
kind, it will be rejected.
On the election of a candidate the
balloting being done by the governing committee the
sponsors are notified, sometimes by posting and otherwise
simply by letter. The secretary of the club will
let the new member know immediately of his election,
and the letter, which is usually a form, will also
notify him that his admission fee and yearly dues
are payable. The admission or entrance fee to
a club is from one hundred to two hundred dollars
in the well-known New York organizations, and the
yearly dues are from seventy-five to one hundred dollars.
These must be paid at once by check. The rules
of most clubs allow a thirty-day limit. If you
are so fortunate as to be admitted after the date
of the yearly meeting, you will only be liable for
one half the current yearly dues; otherwise you pay
the entire amount.
It is now the duty of the sponsors
to introduce their newly elected candidate to the
club. This is an easy matter. One of them
will go with you, sit in the general smoking or lounging
room, and make you acquainted with one or two of his
friends. The responsibility is then over.
Club etiquette is very simple.
It is only the application of the usual rules of courtesy
observed in private life. The club is your home.
You should behave there as you would in your own house
as host, and consequently your conduct toward your
fellow-members should be characterized by the utmost
consideration.
The average clubhouse has a large
room on the ground or first floor which is used for
smoking, reading, the newspapers, and “living”
generally. On the floors above there are the dining
rooms, the library, and reading and card rooms.
The billiard room occupies a special quarter, according
to the plan of the house.
A clever man said that there was but
one rule of clubhouse etiquette different from the
general laws of manners, and that was to keep your
hat on. This is true, but then there are many
others. Men do not take off their hats on entering
a club, and do not remove them in any room except
that in which they dine. All social clubs are
more or less “closed.” Visitors are
only allowed under certain restrictions. The
general rule is that a member may invite to the use
of the club for a period of ten consecutive days any
one not a resident of the city, but can have no more
than one guest at a time. No stranger shall be
introduced a second time unless he shall have been
absent from the city three months. In some clubs
a member may introduce as a visitor a resident of
the city, but he can have no more than one such guest
at a time. No person shall be introduced more
than once in twelve months. Other clubs are open
to the admission of visitors at certain periods, and
others again have ladies’ days, at which a reception
to the fair friends of the members is given.
All this depends on the rules of the club. As
soon as you are made a member you are given a little
book in which these are contained, and you should
study them carefully. The name of a guest should
be entered on the visitors’ book with that of
his host. If the visitor is put up for a certain
period a card to the club is sent him, and during
his stay he has all the privileges of a member.
He can run up an account, but he should certainly settle
it before his term expires, otherwise his host will
be held responsible.
A clubman never pays an attendant
for refreshment or food served. Gratuities of
any kind to servants are forbidden. When refreshment
is required, you press the electric bell, of which
there are a number in all the rooms, and the attendant
comes to you for your order. When he brings it
he has with it a check which you sign. These checks
are, of course, debited to you, and you receive your
bill once a month, or you can make arrangements to
pay at the steward’s or cashier’s desk
daily.
You order your meals in the same manner,
and when they are ready, the servant will notify you.
At most of the clubs smoking is not
permitted in the dining rooms until after nine, nor
are refreshments allowed to be served in the visitors’
room or library at any time. Books and magazines
are not to be removed from the reading room or library,
nor any publication belonging to the club from the
clubhouse.
There is still a prejudice against
pipe smoking in many of the clubs, and you must consult
the rules before you attempt this practice. A
man does not remove his coat or sit in his shirtsleeves
in any of the public rooms. An allowance, however,
is made in the billiard room.
The loud-voiced man is one of the
nuisances of a club. Loud talking may be endured
in the smoking or general room, but certainly not in
the library or the reading rooms.
The “kicker” is another
objectionable person. He should remember that
the best way of rectifying abuses is to send to the
house committee all complaints of any deficiency in
the service of the club, of overcharges, mistakes,
or defects. The club is not a place to conduct
one’s commercial interests. Invitations
and special correspondence can be conducted on club
paper, but certainly it is a breach of club etiquette
to use it for business purposes.
The man who bows to a woman from a
club window is not a gentleman. By this action
he fastens upon her the most disgraceful odium one
of her sex can bear.
The name of a woman should never be
whispered in a club unless it is to say something
complimentary of her. Even this is not in good
taste.
It is not club etiquette to “treat.”
You can do so if you desire, but you are not obliged
to follow this inane custom, which is born of bar-room
ethics.
All the affairs of a club must be
regarded in strict confidence. Under no consideration
should that which has occurred within these sacred
portals be divulged to outsiders.
Once a year usually at
Christmas a subscription is taken up for
the employees and servants. From five to ten
dollars is the proper amount to give.
A few clubs have a ladies’ restaurant
attached, where members may take their families or
give dinners, or where the wives of members have the
privilege of giving luncheons or other entertainments.
Otherwise ladies are not admitted to the privileges
of the clubhouse, except on ladies’ days, and
where there is an “annex” they can only
avail themselves of that part set aside for their
convenience upon the authority of a member.
These rules pertaining to the general
government of clubs have been compiled from the constitution
and by-laws of the Union, Metropolitan, Knickerbocker,
Calumet, and Manhattan Clubs of New York. The
constitutions of the Philadelphia, Boston, Washington,
Chicago, San Francisco, and other clubs are almost
identical.