THE MARRIAGE OF THE BROWNINGS
When Wordsworth heard of the marriage
of Robert Browning to Elizabeth Barrett, he is reported
to have said, “So Robert Browning and Miss Barrett
have gone off together. I hope they understand
each other nobody else would.”
When Wordsworth said this he was an old man and like
most old men unable to appreciate the new. Compared
with the simplicity of much of Wordsworth’s
poetry a poem like A Death in the Desert might
seem unintelligible; but surely the same objection
cannot be urged against the poetry of Mrs. Browning.
The marriage of Robert Browning to
Miss Barrett is the one dramatic event in his quiet
life. To one who has read his passionate and at
times fiery, unconventional poetry, the runaway, unconventional
marriage is not unaccountable, but altogether consistent.
The manner of it was thus:
In her youth Miss Barrett became an
invalid through an injury to her spine, an accident
occurring while she was fixing the saddle of her riding
horse. As she grew older she was confined to her
room. To move from a bed to a sofa seemed a perilous
adventure requiring a family discussion. Her
father was a strange unaccountable man, selfish and
obstinate, and passionately jealous of the affection
of his children. In the meantime Miss Barrett
had written poetry that attracted the attention of
a kindred spirit. Robert Browning in 1845 wrote
to her saying that he had once nearly met her and
that his sensations then were those of one who had
come to the outside of a chapel of marvelous illumination
and found the door barred against him. A little
later he suggested that he would like to call on her.
This commonplace and altogether natural suggestion
threw the invalid into a state of tremulous disapproval.
With robust insistence Robert replied, “If my
truest heart’s wishes avail, you shall laugh
at east winds yet as I do.” Miss Barrett
replied, “There is nothing to see in me nor to
hear in me. I never learned to talk as you do
in London, although I can admire that brightness of
carved speech in Mr. Kenyon and others. If my
poetry is worth anything to any eye, it is the flower
of me. I have lived most and been most happy
in it, and so it has all my colors. The rest
of me is nothing but a root fit for the ground and
dark.” A reply such as this would be construed
by any gentleman as a challenge. The substance
of Browning’s reply was, “I will call at
two on Tuesday.”
On May 20, 1845, they met. In
September, 1846, Miss Barrett walked quietly out of
her father’s house, was married in a church,
and afterwards returned to her father’s house
as though nothing had happened. Between the marriage
and the elopement Robert Browning did not call at
the Barrett house on Wimpole Street. One of his
biographers says that this absence was due to an inability
of Browning to ask the maid at the door for Miss Barrett
when there no longer was a Miss Barrett whom he wished
to see.
In passing judgment upon the elopement
of this remarkable couple one must remember that they
were no longer giddy and rash youth. Browning
was thirty-four and the romantic Juliet was three years
older. Again it must be remembered that the objecting
father was a most unreasonable and selfish man.
The climax of his selfishness was reached when in
opposition to the advice of the physicians Mr. Barrett
refused to allow his daughter to go to Italy.
“In the summer of 1846,” writes Mr. Chesterton,
“Elizabeth Barrett was still living under the
great family convention which provided her with nothing
but an elegant deathbed, forbidden to move, forbidden
to see proper daylight, forbidden to see a friend
lest the shock should destroy her suddenly. A
year or two later, in Italy, as Mrs. Browning, she
was being dragged up hill in a wine hamper, toiling
up the crests of mountains at four o’clock in
the morning, riding for five miles on to what she calls
’an inaccessible volcanic ground not far from
the stars.’”
Miss Mitford, the literary gossip
of the period, writes a letter to Charles Bonar, in
which she gives expression to an opinion concerning
Browning’s poetry which is not dissimilar to
the one we quoted from Wordsworth. Miss Mitford
was an intimate friend of Elizabeth Barrett:
“The great news of the season
is the marriage of my beloved friend Elizabeth Barrett
to Robert Browning. I have seen him once only,
many years ago. He is, I hear from all quarters,
a man of immense attainment and great conversational
power. As a poet I think him overrated....
Those things on which his reputation rests, Paracelsus
and Bells and Pomegranates, are to me as so
many riddles.”
In a later letter she writes to the
same correspondent: “I at Miss Barrett’s
wedding! Ah, dearest Mr. Bonar, it was a runaway
match. Never was I so much astonished. He
prevailed on her to meet him at church with only the
two necessary witnesses. They went to Paris.
There they stayed a week. Happening to meet with
Mrs. Jameson, she joined them in their journey to
Pisa; and accordingly they traveled by diligence,
by Rhone boat, anyhow, to Marseilles,
thence took shipping to Leghorn, and then settled
themselves at Pisa for six months. She says she
is very happy. God grant it continue! I felt
just exactly as if I had heard that Dr. Chambers had
given her over when I got the letter announcing her
marriage, and found that she was about to cross to
France. I never had an idea of her reaching Pisa
alive. She took her own maid and her (dog) Flush.
I saw Mr. Browning once. Many of his friends
and mine, William Harness, John Kenyon, and Henry
Chorley, speak very highly of him. I suppose he
is an accomplished man, and if he makes his angelic
wife happy, I shall of course learn to like him.”
The runaway match proved to be a most
happy one. This is in disproof of the common
thought that a poet is of so sensitive and irritable
a disposition that no woman should expect a calm life
with a poet. But in this case we have two distinguished
poets joining hands. They lived in great happiness,
nor was this peace and harmony purchased at the price
of servitude and humility of the one. Each respected
the other. Their romantic passion was based on
a spiritual affinity. The love letters of the
Brownings may have some degree of obscurity, but it
should be said that the obscurity is one of expression,
not the obscurity of misunderstanding in the sense
in which some of the Carlyle letters are obscure.
The list of literary men whose marriages have proved
unhappy is not so long and distinguished as is commonly
supposed. Milton, Landor, Coleridge, Shelley,
Byron, and Ruskin are conspicuous examples of men
who made shipwreck of marriage, but in contrast shine
forth the names of Browning, Tennyson, Wordsworth,
and Shakspere, for there is no evidence against the
belief that Shakspere’s marriage was a happy
one; then add to these the American names, Longfellow,
Lowell, Emerson, Hawthorne, and Holmes, and the list
is still incomplete.
In verse Mrs. Browning has most exquisitely
expressed the power of love to transform the gloom
of her sick-room into the wholesome sunshine of life,
I saw in gradual vision through
my tears,
The sweet, sad years, the
melancholy years,
Those of my own life, who
by turn had flung
A shadow across me. Straightway
I was ’ware,
So weeping, how a mystic shape
did move
Behind me, and drew me backward
by the hair;
And a voice said in mastery,
while I strove,
“Guess now who holds
thee?” “Death!” I said.
But, there,
The silver answer rang.
“Not Death, but Love.”