The Influence of Tradition-The
Theological Conception of Lust-Tendency
of These Influences to Degrade Sexual Morality-Their
Result in Creating the Problem of Sexual Abstinence-The
Protests Against Sexual Abstinence-Sexual
Abstinence and Genius-Sexual Abstinence
in Women-The Advocates of Sexual Abstinence-Intermediate
Attitude-Unsatisfactory Nature of the Whole
Discussion-Criticism of the Conception of
Sexual Abstinence-Sexual Abstinence as
Compared to Abstinence from Food-No Complete
Analogy-The Morality of Sexual Abstinence
Entirely Negative-Is It the Physician’s
Duty to Advise Extra-Conjugal Sexual Intercourse?-Opinions
of Those Who Affirm or Deny This Duty-The
Conclusion Against Such Advice-The Physician
Bound by the Social and Moral Ideas of His Age-The
Physician as Reformer-Sexual Abstinence
and Sexual Hygiene-Alcohol-The
Influence of Physical and Mental Exercise-The
Inadequacy of Sexual Hygiene in This Field-The
Unreal Nature of the Conception of Sexual Abstinence-The
Necessity of Replacing It by a More Positive Ideal.
When we look at the matter from a
purely abstract or even purely biological point of
view, it might seem that in deciding that asceticism
and chastity are of high value for the personal life
we have said all that is necessary to say. That,
however, is very far from being the case. We
soon realize here, as at every point in the practical
application of sexual psychology, that it is not sufficient
to determine the abstractly right course along biological
lines. We have to harmonize our biological demands
with social demands. We are ruled not only by
natural instincts but by inherited traditions, that
in the far past were solidly based on intelligible
grounds, and that even still, by the mere fact of their
existence, exert a force which we cannot and ought
not to ignore.
In discussing the valuation of the
sexual impulse we found that we had good ground for
making a very high estimate of love. In discussing
chastity and asceticism we found that they also are
highly to be valued. And we found that, so far
from any contradiction being here involved, love and
chastity are intertwined in all their finest developments,
and that there is thus a perfect harmony in apparent
opposition. But when we come to consider the
matter in detail, in its particular personal applications,
we find that a new factor asserts itself. We find
that our inherited social and religious traditions
exert a pressure, all on one side, which makes it
impossible to place the relations of love and chastity
simply on the basis of biology and reason. We
are confronted at the outset by our traditions.
On the one side these traditions have weighted the
word “lust”-considered as expressing
all the manifestations of the sexual impulse which
are outside marriage or which fail to have marriage
as their direct and ostentatious end-with
deprecatory and sinister meanings. And on the
other side these traditions have created the problem
of “sexual abstinence,” which has nothing
to do with either asceticism or chastity as these
have been defined in the previous chapter, but merely
with the purely negative pressure on the sexual impulse,
exerted, independently of the individual’s wishes,
by his religious and social environment.
The theological conception of “lust,”
or “libido,” as sin, followed logically
the early Christian conception of “the flesh,”
and became inevitable as soon as that conception was
firmly established. Not only, indeed, had early
Christian ideals a degrading influence on the estimation
of sexual desire per se, but they tended to
depreciate generally the dignity of the sexual relationship.
If a man made sexual advances to a woman outside marriage,
and thus brought her within the despised circle of
“lust,” he was injuring her because he
was impairing her religious and moral value. The
only way he could repair the damage done was by paying
her money or by entering into a forced and therefore
probably unfortunate marriage with her. That
is to say that sexual relationships were, by the ecclesiastical
traditions, placed on a pecuniary basis, on the same
level as prostitution. By its well-meant intentions
to support the theological morality which had developed
on an ascetic basis, the Church was thus really undermining
even that form of sexual relationship which it sanctified.
Gregory the Great ordered that the seducer
of a virgin shall marry her, or, in case of refusal,
be severely punished corporally and shut up in
a monastery to perform penance. According
to other ecclesiastical rules, the seducer of a virgin,
though held to no responsibility by the civil forum,
was required to marry her, or to find a husband
and furnish a dowry for her. Such rules had
their good side, and were especially equitable when
seduction had been accomplished by deceit. But
they largely tended in practice to subordinate
all questions of sexual morality to a money question.
The reparation to the woman, also, largely became
necessary because the ecclesiastical conception of
lust caused her value to be depreciated by contact
with lust, and the reparation might be said to
constitute a part of penance. Aquinas held
that lust, in however slight a degree, is a mortal
sin, and most of the more influential theologians
took a view nearly or quite as rigid. Some,
however, held that a certain degree of delectation
is possible in these matters without mortal sin,
or asserted, for instance, that to feel the touch of
a soft and warm hand is not mortal sin so long
as no sexual feeling is thereby aroused.
Others, however, held that such distinctions are impossible,
and that all pleasures of this kind are sinful.
Tomas Sanchez endeavored at much length to establish
rules for the complicated problems of delectation
that thus arose, but he was constrained to admit
that no rules are really possible, and that such
matters must be left to the judgment of a prudent man.
At that point casuistry dissolves and the modern
point of view emerges (see, e.g., Lea, History
of Auricular Confession, vol. ii, pp.
57, 115, 246, etc.).
Even to-day the influence of the old
traditions of the Church still unconsciously survives
among us. That is inevitable as regards religious
teachers, but it is found also in men of science, even
in Protestant countries. The result is that quite
contradictory dogmas are found side by side, even
in the same writer. On the one hand, the manifestations
of the sexual impulse are emphatically condemned as
both unnecessary and evil; on the other hand, marriage,
which is fundamentally (whatever else it may also
be) a manifestation of the sexual impulse, receives
equally emphatic approval as the only proper and moral
form of living. There can be no reasonable doubt
whatever that it is to the surviving and pervading
influence of the ancient traditional theological conception
of libido that we must largely attribute the
sharp difference of opinions among physicians on the
question of sexual abstinence and the otherwise unnecessary
acrimony with which these opinions have sometimes been
stated.
On the one side, we find the emphatic
statement that sexual intercourse is necessary and
that health cannot be maintained unless the sexual
activities are regularly exercised.
“All parts of the body which
are developed for a definite use are kept in health,
and in the enjoyment of fair growth and of long youth,
by the fulfilment of that use, and by their appropriate
exercise in the employment to which they are accustomed.”
In that statement, which occurs in the great Hippocratic
treatise “On the Joints,” we have the classic
expression of the doctrine which in ever varying forms
has been taught by all those who have protested against
sexual abstinence. When we come down to the sixteenth
century outbreak of Protestantism we find that Luther’s
revolt against Catholicism was in part a protest against
the teaching of sexual abstinence. “He
to whom the gift of continence is not given,”
he said in his Table Talk, “will not
become chaste by fasting and vigils. For my own
part I was not excessively tormented [though elsewhere
he speaks of the great fires of lust by which he had
been troubled], but all the same the more I macerated
myself the more I burnt.” And three hundred
years later, Bebel, the would-be nineteenth century
Luther of a different Protestantism, took the same
attitude towards sexual abstinence, while Hinton the
physician and philosopher, living in a land of rigid
sexual conventionalism and prudery, and moved by keen
sympathy for the sufferings he saw around him, would
break into passionate sarcasm when confronted by the
doctrine of sexual abstinence. “There are
innumerable ills-terrible destructions,
madness even, the ruin of lives-for which
the embrace of man and woman would be a remedy.
No one thinks of questioning it. Terrible evils
and a remedy in a delight and joy! And man has
chosen so to muddle his life that he must say:
’There, that would be a remedy, but I cannot
use it. I must be virtuous!’”
If we confine ourselves to modern times
and to fairly precise medical statements, we find
in Schurig’s Spermatologia (1720, pp.
274 et seq.), not only a discussion of the advantages
of moderate sexual intercourse in a number of
disorders, as witnessed by famous authorities,
but also a list of results-including
anorexia, insanity, impotence, epilepsy, even death-which
were believed to have been due to sexual abstinence.
This extreme view of the possible evils of sexual
abstinence seems to have been part of the Renaissance
traditions of medicine stiffened by a certain
opposition between religion and science. It
was still rigorously stated by Lallemand early in the
nineteenth century. Subsequently, the medical
statements of the evil results of sexual abstinence
became more temperate and measured, though still
often pronounced. Thus Gyurkovechky believes
that these results may be as serious as those of sexual
excess. Krafft-Ebing showed that sexual abstinence
could produce a state of general nervous excitement
(Jahrbuch fuer Psychiatrie, Bd. viii,
Heft 1 and 2). Schrenck-Notzing regards sexual
abstinence as a cause of extreme sexual hyperaesthesia
and of various perversions (in a chapter on sexual
abstinence in his Kriminalpsychologische und
Psychopathologische Studien, 1902, pp.
174-178). He records in illustration the case
of a man of thirty-six who had masturbated in
moderation as a boy, but abandoned the practice
entirely, on moral grounds, twenty years ago,
and has never had sexual intercourse, feeling proud
to enter marriage a chaste man, but now for years
has suffered greatly from extreme sexual hyperaesthesia
and concentration of thought on sexual subjects,
notwithstanding a strong will and the resolve not
to masturbate or indulge in illicit intercourse.
In another case a vigorous and healthy man, not
inverted, and with strong sexual desires, who
remained abstinent up to marriage, suffers from
psychic impotence, and his wife remains a virgin notwithstanding
all her affection and caresses. Ord considered
that sexual abstinence might produce many minor
evils. “Most of us,” he wrote
(British Medical Journal, Au, 1884) “have,
no doubt, been consulted by men, chaste in act,
who are tormented by sexual excitement. They
tell one stories of long-continued local excitement,
followed by intense muscular weariness, or by severe
aching pain in the back and legs. In some
I have had complaints of swelling and stiffness
in the legs, and of pains in the joints, particularly
in the knees;” he gives the case of a man who
suffered after prolonged chastity from inflammatory
conditions of knees and was only cured by marriage.
Pearce Gould, it may be added, finds that “excessive
ungratified sexual desire” is one of the
causes of acute orchitis. Remondino ("Some Observations
on Continence as a Factor in Health and Disease,”
Pacific Medical Journal, Jan., 1900) records
the case of a gentleman of nearly seventy who,
during the prolonged illness of his wife, suffered
from frequent and extreme priapism, causing insomnia.
He was very certain that his troubles were not due
to his continence, but all treatment failed and
there were no spontaneous emissions. At last
Remondino advised him to, as he expresses it,
“imitate Solomon.” He did so, and
all the symptoms at once disappeared. This
case is of special interest, because the symptoms
were not accompanied by any conscious sexual desire.
It is no longer generally believed that sexual
abstinence tends to produce insanity, and the
occasional cases in which prolonged and intense
sexual desire in young women is followed by insanity
will usually be found to occur on a basis of hereditary
degeneration. It is held by many authorities,
however, that minor mental troubles, of a more
or less vague character, as well as neurasthenia
and hysteria, are by no means infrequently due to
sexual abstinence. Thus Freud, who has carefully
studied angstneurosis, the obsession of anxiety,
finds that it is a result of sexual abstinence,
and may indeed be considered as a vicarious form
of such abstinence (Freud, Sammlung Kleiner Schriften
zur Neurosenlehre, 1906, pp. 76 et seq.).
The whole subject of sexual abstinence
has been discussed at length by Nystroem, of Stockholm,
in Das Geschlechtsleben und seine Gesetze,
Ch. III. He concludes that it is desirable
that continence should be preserved as long as
possible in order to strengthen the physical health
and to develop the intelligence and character.
The doctrine of permanent sexual abstinence, however,
he regards as entirely false, except in the case of
a small number of religious or philosophic persons.
“Complete abstinence during a long period
of years cannot be borne without producing serious
results both on the body and the mind.... Certainly,
a young man should repress his sexual impulses as long
as possible and avoid everything that may artificially
act as a sexual stimulant. If, however, he
has done so, and still suffers from unsatisfied
normal sexual desires, and if he sees no possibility
of marriage within a reasonable time, no one should
dare to say that he is committing a sin if, with
mutual understanding, he enters into sexual relations
with a woman friend, or forms temporary sexual
relationships, provided, that is, that he takes
the honorable precaution of begetting no children,
unless his partner is entirely willing to become a
mother, and he is prepared to accept all the responsibilities
of fatherhood.” In an article of later
date ("Die Einwirkung der Sexuellen
Abstinenz auf die Gesundheit,”
Sexual-Problème, July, 1908) Nystroem vigorously
sums up his views. He includes among the results
of sexual abstinence orchitis, frequent involuntary
seminal emissions, impotence, neurasthenia, depression,
and a great variety of nervous disturbances of
vaguer character, involving diminished power of
work, limited enjoyment of life, sleeplessness,
nervousness, and pre-occupation with sexual desires
and imaginations. More especially there is heightened
sexual irritability with erections, or even seminal
emissions on the slightest occasion, as on gazing
at an attractive woman or in social intercourse
with her, or in the presence of works of art representing
naked figures. Nystroem has had the opportunity
of investigating and recording ninety cases of
persons who have presented these and similar symptoms
as the result, he believes, of sexual abstinence.
He has published some of these cases (Zeitschrift
fuer Sexualwissenschaft, Oct., 1908), but it may
be added that Rohleder ("Die Abstinentia
Sexualis,” ib., Nov., 1908) has criticized
these cases, and doubts whether any of them are conclusive.
Rohleder believes that the bad results of sexual abstinence
are never permanent, and also that no anatomically
pathological states (such as orchitis) can be thereby
produced. But he considers, nevertheless,
that even incomplete and temporary sexual abstinence
may produce fairly serious results, and especially
neurasthenic disturbances of various kinds, such as
nervous irritability, anxiety, depression, disinclination
for work; also diurnal emissions, premature ejaculations,
and even a state approaching satyriasis; and in
women hysteria, hystero-epilepsy, and nymphomaniacal
manifestations; all these symptoms may, however,
he believes, be cured when the abstinence ceases.
Many advocates of sexual abstinence
have attached importance to the fact that men
of great genius have apparently been completely continent
throughout life. This is certainly true (see ante,
. But this fact can scarcely be invoked
as an argument in favor of the advantages of sexual
abstinence among the ordinary population.
J.F. Scott selects Jesus, Newton, Beethoven, and
Kant as “men of vigor and mental acumen
who have lived chastely as bachelors.”
It cannot, however, be said that Dr. Scott has been
happy in the four figures whom he has been able
to select from the whole history of human genius
as examples of life-long sexual abstinence.
We know little with absolute certainty of Jesus, and
even if we reject the diagnosis which Professor
Binet-Sangle (in his Folie de Jesus)
has built up from a minute study of the Gospels,
there are many reasons why we should refrain from
emphasizing the example of his sexual abstinence;
Newton, apart from his stupendous genius in a
special field, was an incomplete and unsatisfactory
human being who ultimately reached a condition very
like insanity; Beethoven was a thoroughly morbid and
diseased man, who led an intensely unhappy existence;
Kant, from first to last, was a feeble valetudinarian.
It would probably be difficult to find a healthy
normal man who would voluntarily accept the life
led by any of these four, even as the price of their
fame. J.A. Godfrey (Science of Sex,
pp. 139-147) discusses at length the question
whether sexual abstinence is favorable to ordinary
intellectual vigor, deciding that it is not, and
that we cannot argue from the occasional sexual abstinence
of men of genius, who are often abnormally constituted,
and physically below the average, to the normally
developed man. Sexual abstinence, it may be
added, is by no means always a favorable sign,
even in men who stand intellectually above the
average. “I have not obtained the impression,”
remarks Freud (Sexual-Problème, March,
1908), “that sexual abstinence is helpful
to energetic and independent men of action or original
thinkers, to courageous liberators or reformers.
The sexual conduct of a man is often symbolic
of his whole method of reaction in the world.
The man who energetically grasps the object of
his sexual desire may be trusted to show a similarly
relentless energy in the pursuit of other aims.”
Many, though not all, who deny that
prolonged sexual abstinence is harmless, include women
in this statement. There are some authorities
indeed who believe that, whether or not any conscious
sexual desire is present, sexual abstinence is less
easily tolerated by women than by men.
Cabanis, in his famous and pioneering
work, Rapports du Physique et du Moral,
said in 1802, that women not only bear sexual excess
more easily than men, but sexual privations with more
difficulty, and a cautious and experienced observer
of to-day, Loewenfeld (Sexualleben und Nervenleiden,
1899, , while not considering that normal
women bear sexual abstinence less easily than
men, adds that this is not the case with women of
neuropathic disposition, who suffer much more from
this cause, and either masturbate when sexual
intercourse is impossible or fall into hystero-neurasthenic
states. Busch stated (Das Geschlechtsleben
des Weibes, 1839, vol. i, pp. 69, 71)
that not only is the working of the sexual functions
in the organism stronger in women than in men,
but that the bad results of sexual abstinence
are more marked in women. Sir Benjamin Brodie
said long ago that the evils of continence to
women are perhaps greater than those of incontinence,
and to-day Hammer (Die Gesundheitlichen Gefahren
der Geschlechtlichen Enthaltsamkeit, 1904)
states that, so far as reasons of health are concerned,
sexual abstinence is no more to be recommended
to women than to men. Nystroem is of the
same opinion, though he thinks that women bear
sexual abstinence better than men, and has discussed
this special question at length in a section of
his Geschlechtsleben und seine Gesetze.
He agrees with the experienced Erb that a large
number of completely chaste women of high character,
and possessing distinguished qualities of mind
and heart, are more or less disordered through
their sexual abstinence; this is specially often
the case with women married to impotent men, though
it is frequently not until they approach the age of
thirty, Nystroem remarks, that women definitely
realize their sexual needs.
A great many women who are healthy,
chaste, and modest, feel at times such powerful
sexual desire that they can scarcely resist the
temptation to go into the street and solicit the first
man they meet. Not a few such women, often
of good breeding, do actually offer themselves
to men with whom they may have perhaps only the
slightest acquaintance. Routh records such cases
(British Gynaecological Journal, Feb., 1887),
and most men have met with them at some time.
When a woman of high moral character and strong
passions is subjected for a very long period to the
perpetual strain of such sexual craving, especially
if combined with love for a definite individual,
a chain of evil results, physical and moral, may
be set up, and numerous distinguished physicians
have recorded such cases, which terminated at once
in complete recovery as soon as the passion was
gratified. Lauvergne long since described
a case. A fairly typical case of this kind was
reported in detail by Brachet (De l’Hypochondrie,
and embodied by Griesinger in his classic
work on “Mental Pathology.” It
concerned a healthy married lady, twenty-six years
old, having three children. A visiting acquaintance
completely gained her affections, but she strenuously
resisted the seducing influence, and concealed
the violent passion that he had aroused in her.
Various serious symptoms, physical and mental, slowly
began to appear, and she developed what seemed
to be signs of consumption. Six months’
stay in the south of France produced no improvement,
either in the bodily or mental symptoms. On returning
home she became still worse. Then she again met
the object of her passion, succumbed, abandoned
her husband and children, and fled with him.
Six months later she was scarcely recognizable;
beauty, freshness and plumpness had taken the place
of emaciation; while the symptoms of consumption
and all other troubles had entirely disappeared.
A somewhat similar case is recorded by Camill
Lederer, of Vienna (Monatsschrift fuer Harnkrankheiten
und Sexuelle Hygiene, 1906, Heft 3). A widow,
a few months after her husband’s death,
began to cough, with symptoms of bronchial catarrh,
but no definite signs of lung disease. Treatment
and change of climate proved entirely unavailing
to effect a cure. Two years later, as no signs
of disease had appeared in the lungs, though the
symptoms continued, she married again. Within
a very few weeks all symptoms had disappeared,
and she was entirely fresh and well.
Numerous distinguished gynaecologists
have recorded their belief that sexual excitement
is a remedy for various disorders of the sexual
system in women, and that abstinence is a cause of
such disorders. Matthews Duncan said that
sexual excitement is the only remedy for amenorrhoea;
“the only emmenagogue medicine that I know
of,” he wrote (Medical Times, Fe,
1884), “is not to be found in the Pharmacopoeia:
it is erotic excitement. Of the value of
erotic excitement there is no doubt.” Anstie,
in his work on Neuralgia, refers to the
beneficial effect of sexual intercourse on dysmenorrhoea,
remarking that the necessity of the full natural
exercise of the sexual function is shown by the great
improvement in such cases after marriage, and especially
after childbirth. (It may be remarked that not
all authorities find dysmenorrhoea benefited by
marriage, and some consider that the disease is
often thereby aggravated; see, e.g., Wythe Cook,
American Journal Obstetrics, Dec., 1893.)
The distinguished gynaecologist, Tilt, at a somewhat
earlier date (On Uterine and Ovarian Inflammation,
1862, , insisted on the evil results of
sexual abstinence in producing ovarian irritation,
and perhaps subacute ovaritis, remarking that
this was specially pronounced in young widows,
and in prostitutes placed in penitentiaries.
Intense desire, he pointed out, determines organic
movements resembling those required for the gratification
of the desire. These burning desires, which
can only be quenched by their legitimate satisfaction,
are still further heightened by the erotic influence
of thoughts, books, pictures, music, which are
often even more sexually stimulating than social intercourse
with men, but the excitement thus produced is not
relieved by that natural collapse which should
follow a state of vital turgescence. After
referring to the biological facts which show the
effect of psychic influences on the formative powers
of the ovario-uterine organs in animals,
Tilt continues: “I may fairly infer
that similar incitements on the mind of females may
have a stimulating effect on the organs of ovulation.
I have frequently known menstruation to be irregular,
profuse, or abnormal in type during courtship
in women in whom nothing similar had previously occurred,
and that this protracted the treatment of chronic
ovaritis and of uterine inflammation.”
Bonnifield, of Cincinnati (Medical Standard,
Dec., 1896), considers that unsatisfied sexual
desire is an important cause of catarrhal endometritis.
It is well known that uterine fibroids bear a
definite relation to organic sexual activity,
and that sexual abstinence, more especially the
long-continued deprivation of pregnancy, is a very
important cause of the disease. This is well
shown by an analysis by A.E. Giles (Lancet,
March 2, 1907) of one hundred and fifty cases.
As many as fifty-six of these cases, more than a third,
were unmarried women, though nearly all were over
thirty years of age. Of the ninety-four married
women, thirty-four had never been pregnant; of
those who had been pregnant, thirty-six had not been
so for at least ten years. Thus eighty-four
per cent, had either not been pregnant at all,
or had had no pregnancy for at least ten years.
It is, therefore, evident that deprivation of sexual
function, whether or not involving abstinence from
sexual intercourse, is an important cause of uterine
fibroid tumors. Balls-Headley, of Victoria
(Evolution of the Diseases of Women, 1894,
and “Etiology of Diseases of Female Genital Organs,”
Allbutt and Playfair, System of Gynaecology,)
believes that unsatisfied sexual desire is a factor
in very many disorders of the sexual organs in
women. “My views,” he writes in a
private letter, “are founded on a really
special gynaecological practice of twenty years,
during which I have myself taken about seven thousand
most careful records. The normal woman is sexually
well-formed and her sexual feelings require satisfaction
in the direction of the production of the next
generation, but under the restrictive and now
especially abnormal conditions of civilization
some women undergo hereditary atrophy, and the uterus
and sexual feelings are feeble; in others of good average
local development the feeling is in restraint;
in others the feelings, as well as the organs,
are strong, and if normal use be withheld evils
ensue. Bearing in mind these varieties of congenital
development in relation to the respective condition
of virginity, or sterile or parous married life,
the mode of occurrence and of progress of disease
grows on the physician’s mind, and there
is no more occasion for bewilderment than to the mathematician
studying conic sections, when his knowledge has grown
from the basis of the science. The problem is
suggested: Has a crowd of unassociated diseases
fallen as through a sieve on woman, or have these
affections almost necessarily ensued from the
circumstances of her unnatural environment?”
It may be added that Kisch (Sexual Life of
Woman), while protesting against any exaggerated
estimate of the effects of sexual abstinence, considers
that in women it may result, not only in numerous local
disorders, but also in nervous disturbance, hysteria,
and even insanity, while in neurasthenic women
“regulated sexual intercourse has an actively
beneficial effect which is often striking.”
It is important to remark that the evil
results of sexual abstinence in women, in the
opinion of many of those who insist upon their
importance, are by no means merely due to unsatisfied
sexual desire. They may be pronounced even
when the woman herself has not the slightest consciousness
of sexual needs. This was clearly pointed
out forty years ago by the sagacious Anstie (op.
cit.) In women, especially, he remarks, “a
certain restless hyperactivity of mind, and perhaps
of body also, seems to be the expression of Nature’s
unconscious resentment of the neglect of sexual
functions.” Such women, he adds, have
kept themselves free from masturbation “at
the expense of a perpetual and almost fierce activity
of mind and muscle.” Anstie had found that
some of the worst cases of the form of nervosity
and neurasthenia which he termed “spinal
irritation,” often accompanied by irritable
stomach and anæmia, get well on marriage. “There
can be no question,” he continues, “that
a very large proportion of these cases in single
women (who form by far the greater number of subjects
of spinal irritation) are due to this conscious or
unconscious irritation kept up by an unsatisfied
sexual want. It is certain that very many
young persons (women more especially) are tormented
by the irritability of the sexual organs without having
the least consciousness of sexual desire, and present
the sad spectacle of a vie manquee without
ever knowing the true source of the misery which
incapacitates them for all the active duties of
life. It is a singular fact that in occasional
instances one may even see two sisters, inheriting
the same kind of nervous organization, both tormented
with the symptoms of spinal irritation and both
probably suffering from repressed sexual functions,
but of whom one shall be pure-minded and entirely
unconscious of the real source of her troubles, while
the other is a victim to conscious and fruitless
sexual irritation.” In this matter
Anstie may be regarded as a forerunner of Freud,
who has developed with great subtlety and analytic
power the doctrine of the transformation of repressed
sexual instinct in women into morbid forms.
He considers that the nervosity of to-day is largely
due to the injurious action on the sexual life
of that repression of natural instincts on which our
civilization is built up. (Perhaps the clearest
brief statement of Freud’s views on the
matter is to be found in a very suggestive article,
“Die ‘Kulturelle’ Sexualmoral und
die Moderne Nervositaet,” in Sexual-Problème,
March, 1908, reprinted in the second series of
Freud’s Sammlung Kleiner Schriften zur Neurosenlehre,
1909). We possess the aptitude, he says, of sublimating
and transforming our sexual activities into other
activities of a psychically related character,
but non-sexual. This process cannot, however,
be carried out to an unlimited extent any more
than can the conversion of heat into mechanical work
in our machines. A certain amount of direct sexual
satisfaction is for most organizations indispensable,
and the renunciation of this individually varying
amount is punished by manifestations which we
are compelled to regard as morbid. The process
of sublimation, under the influence of civilization,
leads both to sexual perversions and to psycho-neuroses.
These two conditions are closely related, as Freud
views the process of their development; they stand
to each other as positive and negative, sexual
perversions being the positive pole and psycho-neuroses
the negative. It often happens, he remarks, that
a brother may be sexually perverse, while his sister,
with a weaker sexual temperament, is a neurotic
whose symptoms are a transformation of her brother’s
perversion; while in many families the men are
immoral, the women pure and refined but highly
nervous. In the case of women who have no defect
of sexual impulse there is yet the same pressure
of civilized morality pushing them into neurotic
states. It is a terribly serious injustice,
Freud remarks, that the civilized standard of sexual
life is the same for all persons, because though
some, by their organization, may easily accept
it, for others it involves the most difficult
psychic sacrifices. The unmarried girl, who has
become nervously weak, cannot be advised to seek
relief in marriage, for she must be strong in
order to “bear” marriage, while we
urge a man on no account to marry a girl who is not
strong. The married woman who has experienced
the deceptions of marriage has usually no way
of relief left but by abandoning her virtue.
“The more strenuously she has been educated,
and the more completely she has been subjected
to the demands of civilization, the more she fears
this way of escape, and in the conflict between
her desires and her sense of duty, she also seeks
refuge-in neurosis. Nothing protects
her virtue so surely as disease.” Taking
a still wider view of the influence of the narrow
“civilized” conception of sexual morality
on women, Freud finds that it is not limited to
the production of neurotic conditions; it affects
the whole intellectual aptitude of women. Their
education denies them any occupation with sexual problems,
although such problems are so full of interest
to them, for it inculcates the ancient prejudice
that any curiosity in such matters is unwomanly
and a proof of wicked inclinations. They are
thus terrified from thinking, and knowledge is
deprived of worth. The prohibition to think
extends, automatically and inevitably, far beyond
the sexual sphere. “I do not believe,”
Freud concludes, “that there is any opposition
between intellectual work and sexual activity
such as was supposed by Moebius. I am of opinion
that the unquestionable fact of the intellectual inferiority
of so many women is due to the inhibition of thought
imposed upon them for the purpose of sexual repression.”
It is only of recent years that this
problem has been realized and faced, though solitary
thinkers, like Hinton, have been keenly conscious
of its existence; for “sorrowing virtue,”
as Mrs. Ella Wheeler Wilcox puts it, “is
more ashamed of its woes than unhappy sin, because
the world has tears for the latter and only ridicule
for the former.” “It is an almost
cynical trait of our age,” Hellpach wrote
a few years ago, “that it is constantly discussing
the theme of prostitution, of police control, of the
age of consent, of the ‘white slavery,’
and passes over the moral struggle of woman’s
soul without an attempt to answer her burning questions.”
On the other hand we find medical
writers not only asserting with much moral fervor
that sexual intercourse outside marriage is always
and altogether unnecessary, but declaring, moreover,
the harmlessness or even the advantages of sexual
abstinence.
Ribbing, the Swedish professor, in his
Hygiene Sexuelle, advocates sexual abstinence
outside marriage, and asserts its harmlessness.
Gilles de la Tourette, Fere, and Augagneur in France
agree. In Germany Fuerbringer (Senator and Kaminer,
Health and Disease in Relation to Marriage,
vol. i, asserts that continence is
possible and necessary, though admitting that it
may, however, mean serious mischief in exceptional
cases. Eulenburg (Sexuale Neuropathie,
doubts whether anyone, who otherwise lived
a reasonable life, ever became ill, or more precisely
neurasthenic, through sexual abstinence. Hegar,
replying to the arguments of Bebel in his well-known
book on women, denies that sexual abstinence can
ever produce satyriasis or nymphomania. Naecke,
who has frequently discussed the problem of sexual
abstinence (e.g., Archiv fuer Kriminal-Anthropologie,
1903, Heft 1, and Sexual-Problème, June,
1908), maintains that sexual abstinence can, at
most, produce rare and slight unfavorable results,
and that it is no more likely to produce insanity,
even in predisposed individuals, than are the opposite
extremes of sexual excess and masturbation.
He adds that, so far as his own observations are
concerned, the patients in asylums suffer scarcely
at all from their compulsory sexual abstinence.
It is in England, however, that the
virtues of sexual abstinence have been most loudly
and emphatically proclaimed, sometimes indeed
with considerable lack of cautious qualification.
Acton, in his Reproductive Organs, sets
forth the traditional English view, as well as
Beale in his Morality and the Moral Question.
A more distinguished representative of the same
view was Paget, who, in his lecture on “Sexual
Hypochondriasis,” coupled sexual intercourse
with “theft or lying.” Sir William
Gowers (Syphilis and the Nervous System,
1892, also proclaims the advantages of
“unbroken chastity,” more especially as
a method of avoiding syphilis. He is not
hopeful, however, even as regards his own remedy,
for he adds: “We can trace small ground
for hope that the disease will thus be materially
reduced.” He would still, however,
preach chastity to the individual, and he does so
with all the ascetic ardor of a mediaeval monk.
“With all the force that any knowledge I
possess, and any authority I have, can give, I
assert that no man ever yet was in the slightest degree
or way the worse for continence or better for incontinence.
From the latter all are worse morally; a clear
majority are worse physically; and in no small
number the result is, and ever will be, utter
physical shipwreck on one of the many rocks, sharp,
jagged-edged, which beset the way, or on one of
the many beds of festering slime which no care
can possibly avoid.” In America the same
view widely prevails, and Dr. J.F. Scott, in his
Sexual-Instinct (second edition, 1908, Ch.
III), argues very vigorously and at great length
in favor of sexual abstinence. He will not
even admit that there are two sides to the question,
though if that were the case, the length and the
energy of his arguments would be unnecessary.
Among medical authorities who have discussed
the question of sexual abstinence at length it
is not, indeed, usually possible to find such
unqualified opinions in its favor as those I have
quoted. There can be no doubt, however, that
a large proportion of physicians, not excluding
prominent and distinguished authorities, when
casually confronted with the question whether sexual
abstinence is harmless, will at once adopt the obvious
path of least resistance and reply: Yes.
In only a few cases will they even make any qualification
of this affirmative answer. This tendency
is very well illustrated by an inquiry made by Dr.
Ludwig Jacobsohn, of St. Petersburgh ("Die Sexuelle
Enthaltsamkeit im Lichte der Medizin,”
St. Petersburger Medicinische Wochenschrift,
March 17, 1907). He wrote to over two hundred
distinguished Russian and German professors of physiology,
neurology, psychiatry, etc., asking them if they
regarded sexual abstinence as harmless. The
majority returned no answer; eleven Russian and
twenty-eight Germans replied, but four of them
merely said that “they had no personal experience,”
etc.; there thus remained thirty-five.
Of these E. Pflueger, of Bonn, was skeptical of
the advantage of any propaganda of abstinence:
“if all the authorities in the world declared
the harmlessness of abstinence that would have
no influence on youth. Forces are here in
play that break through all obstacles.”
The harmlessness of abstinence was affirmed by
Kraepelin, Cramer, Gaertner, Tuczek, Schottelius,
Gaffky, Finkler, Selenew, Lassar, Seifert, Gruber;
the last, however, added that he knew very few
abstinent young men, and himself only considered
abstinence good before full development, and intercourse
not dangerous in moderation even before then.
Brieger knew cases of abstinence without harmful results,
but himself thought that no general opinion could be
given. Juergensen said that abstinence in
itself is not harmful, but that in some cases
intercourse exerts a more beneficial influence.
Hoffmann said that abstinence is harmless, adding that
though it certainly leads to masturbation, that
is better than gonorrhoea, to say nothing of syphilis,
and is easily kept within bounds. Struempell
replied that sexual abstinence is harmless, and indirectly
useful as preserving from the risk of venereal disease,
but that sexual intercourse, being normal, is always
more desirable. Hensen said that abstinence
is not to be unconditionally approved. Rumpf
replied that abstinence was not harmful for most
before the age of thirty, but after that age there
was a tendency to mental obsessions, and marriage should
take place at twenty-five. Leyden also considered
abstinence harmless until towards thirty, when
it leads to psychic anomalies, especially states
of anxiety, and a certain affectation. Hein
replied that abstinence is harmless for most, but
in some leads to hysterical manifestations and indirectly
to bad results from masturbation, while for the
normal man abstinence cannot be directly beneficial,
since intercourse is natural. Gruetzner thought
that abstinence is almost never harmful.
Nescheda said it is harmless in itself, but harmful
in so far as it leads to unnatural modes of gratification.
Neisser believes that more prolonged abstinence
than is now usual would be beneficial, but admitted
the sexual excitations of our civilization; he
added that of course he saw no harm for healthy men
in intercourse. Hoche replied that abstinence
is quite harmless in normal persons, but not always
so in abnormal persons. Weber thought it
had a useful influence in increasing will-power.
Tarnowsky said it is good in early manhood, but likely
to be unfavorable after twenty-five. Orlow replied
that, especially in youth, it is harmless, and
a man should be as chaste as his wife. Popow
said that abstinence is good at all ages and preserves
the energy. Blumenau said that in adult age abstinence
is neither normal nor beneficial, and generally leads
to masturbation, though not generally to nervous
disorders; but that even masturbation is better
than syphilis. Tschiriew saw no harm in abstinence
up to thirty, and thought sexual weakness more likely
to follow excess than abstinence. Tschish regarded
abstinence as beneficial rather than harmful up
to twenty-five or twenty-eight, but thought it
difficult to decide after that age when nervous
alterations seem to be caused. Darkschewitcz
regarded abstinence as harmless up to twenty-five.
Fraenkel said it was harmless for most, but that
for a considerable proportion of people intercourse
is a necessity. Erb’s opinion is regarded
by Jacobsohn as standing alone; he placed the age
below which abstinence is harmless at twenty;
after that age he regarded it as injurious to
health, seriously impeding work and capacity, while
in neurotic persons it leads to still more serious
results. Jacobsohn concludes that the general
opinion of those answering the inquiry may thus
be expressed: “Youth should be abstinent.
Abstinence can in no way injure them; on the contrary,
it is beneficial. If our young people will
remain abstinent and avoid extra-conjugal intercourse
they will maintain a high ideal of love and preserve
themselves from venereal diseases.”
The harmlessness of sexual abstinence
was likewise affirmed in America in a resolution
passed by the American Medical Association in
1906. The proposition thus formally accepted was
thus worded: “Continence is not incompatible
with health.” It ought to be generally
realized that abstract propositions of this kind
are worthless, because they mean nothing. Every
sane person, when confronted by the demand to
boldly affirm or deny the proposition, “Continence
is not incompatible with health,” is bound
to affirm it. He might firmly believe that continence
is incompatible with the health of most people,
and that prolonged continence is incompatible
with anyone’s health, and yet, if he is
to be honest in the use of language, it would be impossible
for him to deny the vague and abstract proposition
that “Continence is not incompatible with
health.” Such propositions are therefore
not only without value, but actually misleading.
It is obvious that the more extreme
and unqualified opinions in favor of sexual abstinence
are based not on medical, but on what the writers
regard as moral considerations. Moreover, as the
same writers are usually equally emphatic in regard
to the advantages of sexual intercourse in marriage,
it is clear that they have committed themselves
to a contradiction. The same act, as Naecke rightly
points out, cannot become good or bad according as
it is performed in or out of marriage. There
is no magic efficacy in a few words pronounced
by a priest or a government official.
Remondino (loc. cit.) remarks that the
authorities who have committed themselves to declarations
in favor of the unconditional advantages of sexual
abstinence tend to fall into three errors:
(1) they generalize unduly, instead of considering
each case individually, on its own merits; (2)
they fail to realize that human nature is influenced
by highly mixed and complex motives and cannot
be assumed to be amenable only to motives of abstract
morality; (3) they ignore the great army of masturbators
and sexual perverts who make no complaint of sexual
suffering, but by maintaining a rigid sexual abstinence,
so far as normal relationships are concerned,
gradually drift into currents whence there is
no return.
Between those who unconditionally
affirm or deny the harmlessness of sexual abstinence
we find an intermediate party of authorities whose
opinions are more qualified. Many of those who
occupy this more guarded position are men whose opinions
carry much weight, and it is probable that with them
rather than with the more extreme advocates on either
side the greater measure of reason lies. So complex
a question as this cannot be adequately investigated
merely in the abstract, and settled by an unqualified
negative or affirmative. It is a matter in which
every case requires its own special and personal consideration.
“Where there is such a marked
opposition of opinion truth is not exclusively
on one side,” remarks Loewenfeld (Sexualleben
und Nervenleiden, second edition, .
Sexual abstinence is certainly often injurious
to neuropathic persons. (This is now believed
by a large number of authorities, and was perhaps first
decisively stated by Krafft-Ebing, “Ueber
Neurosen durch Abstinenz,” Jahrbuch
fuer Psychiatrie, 1889, . Loewenfeld
finds no special proclivity to neurasthenia among
the Catholic clergy, and when it does occur, there
is no reason to suppose a sexual causation.
“In healthy and not hereditarily neuropathic
men complete abstinence is possible without injury
to the nervous system.” Injurious effects,
he continues, when they appear, seldom occur until
between twenty-four and thirty-six years of age,
and even then are not usually serious enough to lead
to a visit to a doctor, consisting mainly in frequency
of nocturnal emissions, pain in testes or rectum,
hyperaesthesia in the presence of women or of
sexual ideas. If, however, conditions arise
which specially stimulate the sexual emotions, neurasthenia
may be produced. Loewenfeld agrees with Freud
and Gattel that the neurosis of anxiety tends
to occur in the abstinent, careful examination
showing that the abstinence is a factor in its production
in both sexes. It is common among young women
married to much older men, often appearing during
the first years of marriage. Under special
circumstances, therefore, abstinence can be injurious,
but on the whole the difficulties due to such abstinence
are not severe, and they only exceptionally call forth
actual disturbance in the nervous or psychic spheres.
Moll takes a similar temperate and discriminating
view. He regards sexual abstinence before
marriage as the ideal, but points out that we must
avoid any doctrinal extremes in preaching sexual abstinence,
for such preaching will merely lead to hypocrisy.
Intercourse with prostitutes, and the tendency
to change a woman like a garment, induce loss
of sensitiveness to the spiritual and personal
element in woman, while the dangers of sexual abstinence
must no more be exaggerated than the dangers of
sexual intercourse (Moll, Libido Sexualis,
1898, vol. i, ; id., Kontraere Sexualempfindung,
1899, . Bloch also (in a chapter on
the question of sexual abstinence in his Sexualleben
unserer Zeit, 1908) takes a similar standpoint.
He advocates abstention during early life and
temporary abstention in adult life, such abstention
being valuable, not only for the conservation
and transformation of energy, but also to emphasize
the fact that life contains other matters to strive
for beyond the ends of sex. Redlich (Medizinische
Klinik, 1908, N also, in a careful study
of the medical aspects of the question, takes
an intermediate standpoint in relation to the relative
advantages and disadvantages of sexual abstinence.
“We may say that sexual abstinence is not
a condition which must, under all circumstances
and at any price, be avoided, though it is true that
for the majority of healthy adult persons regular sexual
intercourse is advantageous, and sometimes is even
to be recommended.”
It may be added that from the standpoint
of Christian religious morality this same attitude,
between the extremes of either party, recognizing
the advantages of sexual abstinence, but not insisting
that they shall be purchased at any price, has also
found representation. Thus, in England, an
Anglican clergyman, the Rev. H. Northcote (Christianity
and Sex Problems, pp. 58, 60) deals temperately
and sympathetically with the difficulties of sexual
abstinence, and is by no means convinced that such
abstinence is always an unmixed advantage; while
in Germany a Catholic priest, Karl Jentsch (Sexualethik,
Sexualjustiz, Sexualpolizei, 1900) sets himself
to oppose the rigorous and unqualified assertions
of Ribbing in favor of sexual abstinence. Jentsch
thus expresses what he conceives ought to be the attitude
of fathers, of public opinion, of the State and
the Church towards the young man in this matter:
“Endeavor to be abstinent until marriage.
Many succeed in this. If you can succeed, it is
good. But, if you cannot succeed, it is unnecessary
to cast reproaches on yourself and to regard yourself
as a scoundrel or a lost sinner. Provided
that you do not abandon yourself to mere enjoyment
or wantonness, but are content with what is necessary
to restore your peace of mind, self-possession,
and cheerful capacity for work, and also that
you observe the precautions which physicians or
experienced friends impress upon you.”
When we thus analyze and investigate
the the three main streams of expert opinions in regard
to this question of sexual abstinence-the
opinions in favor of it, the opinions in opposition
to it, and the opinions which take an intermediate
course-we can scarcely fail to conclude
how unsatisfactory the whole discussion is. The
state of “sexual abstinence” is a completely
vague and indefinite state. The indefinite and
even meaningless character of the expression “sexual
abstinence” is shown by the frequency with which
those who argue about it assume that it can, may,
or even must, involve masturbation. That fact
alone largely deprives it of value as morality and
altogether as abstinence. At this point, indeed,
we reach the most fundamental criticism to which the
conception of “sexual abstinence” lies
open. Rohleder, an experienced physician and a
recognized authority on questions of sexual pathology,
has submitted the current views on “sexual abstinence”
to a searching criticism in a lengthy and important
paper. He denies altogether that strict sexual
abstinence exists at all. “Sexual abstinence,”
he points out, in any strict scenes of the term, must
involve abstinence not merely from sexual intercourse
but from auto-erotic manifestations, from masturbation,
from homosexual acts, from all sexually perverse practices.
It must further involve a permanent abstention from
indulgence in erotic imaginations and voluptuous reverie.
When, however, it is possible thus to render the whole
psychic field a tabula rasa so far as sexual
activity is concerned-and if it fails to
be so constantly and consistently there is no strict
sexual abstinence-then, Rohleder points
out, we have to consider whether we are not in presence
of a case of sexual anæsthesia, of anaphrodisia
sexualis. That is a question which is rarely,
if ever, faced by those who discuss sexual abstinence.
It is, however, an extremely pertinent question, because,
as Rohleder insists, if sexual anæsthesia exists the
question of sexual abstinence falls to the ground,
for we can only “abstain” from actions
that are in our power. Complete sexual anæsthesia
is, however, so rare a state that it may be practically
left out of consideration, and as the sexual impulse,
if it exists, must by physiological necessity sometimes
become active in some shape-even if only,
according to Freud’s view, by transformation
into some morbid neurotic condition-we
reach the conclusion that “sexual abstinence”
is strictly impossible. Rohleder has met with
a few cases in which there seemed to him no escape
from the conclusion that sexual abstinence existed,
but in all of these he subsequently found that he was
mistaken, usually owing to the practice of masturbation,
which he believes to be extremely common and very
frequently accompanied by a persistent attempt to
deceive the physician concerning its existence.
The only kind of “sexual abstinence” that
exists is a partial and temporary abstinence.
Instead of saying, as some say, “Permanent abstinence
is unnatural and cannot exist without physical and
mental injury,” we ought to say, Rohleder believes,
“Permanent abstinence is unnatural and has never
existed.”
It is impossible not to feel as we
contemplate this chaotic mass of opinions, that the
whole discussion is revolving round a purely negative
idea, and that fundamental fact is responsible for
what at first seem to be startling conflicts of statement.
If indeed we were to eliminate what is commonly regarded
as the religious and moral aspect of the matter-an
aspect, be it remembered, which has no bearing on the
essential natural facts of the question-we
cannot fail to perceive that these ostentatious differences
of conviction would be reduced within very narrow and
trifling limits.
We cannot strictly coordinate the
impulse of reproduction with the impulse of nutrition.
There are very important differences between them,
more especially the fundamental difference that while
the satisfaction of the one impulse is absolutely
necessary both to the life of the individual and of
the race, the satisfaction of the other is absolutely
necessary only to the life of the race. But when
we reduce this question to one of “sexual abstinence”
we are obviously placing it on the same basis as that
of abstinence from food, that is to say at the very
opposite pole to which we place it when (as in the
previous chapter) we consider it from the point of
view of asceticism and chastity. It thus comes
about that on this negative basis there really is
an interesting analogy between nutritive abstinence,
though necessarily only maintained incompletely and
for a short time, and sexual abstinence, maintained
more completely and for a longer time. A patient
of Janet’s seems to bring out clearly this resemblance.
Nadia, whom Janet was able to study during five years,
was a young woman of twenty-seven, healthy and intelligent,
not suffering from hysteria nor from anorexia, for
she had a normal appetite. But she had an idea;
she was anxious to be slim and to attain this end she
cut down her meals to the smallest size, merely a
little soup and a few eggs. She suffered much
from the abstinence she thus imposed on herself, and
was always hungry, though sometimes her hunger was
masked by the inevitable stomach trouble caused by
so long a persistence in this regime. At
times, indeed, she had been so hungry that she had
devoured greedily whatever she could lay her hands
on, and not infrequently she could not resist the
temptation to eat a few biscuits in secret. Such
actions caused her horrible remorse, but, all the
same, she would be guilty of them again. She
realized the great efforts demanded by her way of life,
and indeed looked upon herself as a heroine for resisting
so long. “Sometimes,” she told Janet,
“I passed whole hours in thinking about food,
I was so hungry. I swallowed my saliva, I bit
my handkerchief, I rolled on the ground, I wanted
to eat so badly. I searched books for descriptions
of meals and feasts, I tried to deceive my hunger by
imagining that I too was enjoying all these good things.
I was really famished, and in spite of a few weaknesses
for biscuits I know that I showed much courage."
Nadia’s motive idea, that she wished to be slim,
corresponds to the abstinent man’s idea that
he wishes to be “moral,” and only differs
from it by having the advantage of being somewhat
more positive and personal, for the idea of the person
who wishes to avoid sexual indulgence because it is
“not right” is often not merely negative
but impersonal and imposed by the social and religious
environment. Nadia’s occasional outbursts
of reckless greediness correspond to the sudden impulses
to resort to prostitution, and her secret weaknesses
for biscuits, followed by keen remorse, to lapses
into the habit of masturbation. Her fits of struggling
and rolling on the ground are precisely like the outbursts
of futile desire which occasionally occur to young
abstinent men and women in health and strength.
The absorption in thoughts about meals and in literary
descriptions of meals is clearly analogous to the abstinent
man’s absorption in wanton thoughts and erotic
books. Finally, Nadia’s conviction that
she is a heroine corresponds exactly to the attitude
of self-righteousness which often marks the sexually
abstinent.
If we turn to Freud’s penetrating
and suggestive study of the problem of sexual abstinence
in relation to “civilized” sexual morality,
we find that, though he makes no reference to the
analogy with abstinence from food, his words would
for the most part have an equal application to both
cases. “The task of subduing so powerful
an instinct as the sexual impulse, otherwise than
by giving it satisfaction,” he writes, “is
one which may employ the whole strength of a man.
Subjugation through sublimation, by guiding the sexual
forces into higher civilizational paths, may succeed
with a minority, and even with these only for a time,
least easily during the years of ardent youthful energy.
Most others become neurotic or otherwise come to grief.
Experience shows that the majority of people constituting
our society are constitutionally unequal to the task
of abstinence. We say, indeed, that the struggle
with this powerful impulse and the emphasis the struggle
involves on the ethical and aesthetic forces in the
soul’s life ‘steels’ the character,
and for a few favorably organized natures this is
true; it must also be acknowledged that the differentiation
of individual character so marked in our time only
becomes possible through sexual limitations. But
in by far the majority of cases the struggle with
sensuality uses up the available energy of character,
and this at the very time when the young man needs
all his strength in order to win his place in the world."
When we have put the problem on this
negative basis of abstinence it is difficult to see
how we can dispute the justice of Freud’s conclusions.
They hold good equally for abstinence from food and
abstinence from sexual love. When we have placed
the problem on a more positive basis, and are able
to invoke the more active and fruitful motives of asceticism
and chastity this unfortunate fight against a natural
impulse is abolished. If chastity is an ideal
of the harmonious play of all the organic impulses
of the soul and body, if asceticism, properly understood,
is the athletic striving for a worthy object which
causes, for the time, an indifference to the gratification
of sexual impulses, we are on wholesome and natural
ground, and there is no waste of energy in fruitless
striving for a negative end, whether imposed artificially
from without, as it usually is, or voluntarily chosen
by the individual himself.
For there is really no complete analogy
between sexual desire and hunger, between abstinence
from sexual relations and abstinence from food.
When we put them both on the basis of abstinence we
put them on a basis which covers the impulse for food
but only half covers the impulse for sexual love.
We confer no pleasure and no service on our food when
we eat it. But the half of sexual love, perhaps
the most important and ennobling half, lies in what
we give and not in what we take. To reduce this
question to the low level of abstinence, is not only
to centre it in a merely negative denial but to make
it a solely self-regarding question. Instead of
asking: How can I bring joy and strength to another?
we only ask: How can I preserve my empty virtue?
Therefore it is that from whatever
aspect we consider the question,-whether
in view of the flagrant contradiction between the
authorities who have discussed this question, or of
the illegitimate mingling here of moral and physiological
considerations, or of the merely negative and indeed
unnatural character of the “virtue” thus
set up, or of the failure involved to grasp the ennoblingly
altruistic and mutual side of sexual love,-from
whatever aspect we approach the problem of “sexual
abstinence” we ought only to agree to do so under
protest.
If we thus decide to approach it,
and if we have reached the conviction-which,
in view of all the evidence we can scarcely escape-that,
while sexual abstinence in so far as it may be recognized
as possible is not incompatible with health, there
are yet many adults for whom it is harmful, and a
very much larger number for whom when prolonged it
is undesirable, we encounter a serious problem.
It is a problem which confronts any person, and especially
the physician, who may be called upon to give professional
advice to his fellows on this matter. If sexual
relationships are sometimes desirable for unmarried
persons, or for married persons who, for any reason,
are debarred from conjugal union, is a physician justified
in recommending such sexual relationships to his patient?
This is a question that has frequently been debated
and decided in opposing senses.
Various distinguished physicians, especially
in Germany, have proclaimed the duty of the doctor
to recommend sexual intercourse to his patient
whenever he considers it desirable. Gyurkovechky,
for instance, has fully discussed this question,
and answered it in the affirmative. Nystroem
(Sexual-Problème, July, 1908, states
that it is the physician’s duty, in some cases
of sexual weakness, when all other methods of
treatment have failed, to recommend sexual intercourse
as the best remedy. Dr. Max Marcuse stands
out as a conspicuous advocate of the unconditional
duty of the physician to advocate sexual intercourse
in some cases, both to men and to women, and has
on many occasions argued in this sense (e.g.,
Darf der Arzt zum Ausserehelichen Geschlechtsverkehr
raten? 1904). Marcuse is strongly of opinion
that a physician who, allowing himself to be influenced
by moral, sociological, or other considerations,
neglects to recommend sexual intercourse when
he considers it desirable for the patient’s
health, is unworthy of his profession, and should
either give up medicine or send his patients to
other doctors. This attitude, though not
usually so emphatically stated, seems to be widely
accepted. Lederer goes even further when he states
(Monatsschrift fuer Harnkrankheiten und Sexuelle
Hygiene, 1906, Heft 3) that it is the physician’s
duty in the case of a woman who is suffering from
her husband’s impotence, to advise her to have
intercourse with another man, adding that “whether
she does so with her husband’s consent is
no affair of the physician’s, for he is
not the guardian of morality, but the guardian of
health.” The physicians who publicly
take this attitude are, however, a small minority.
In England, so far as I am aware, no physician
of eminence has openly proclaimed the duty of the
doctor to advise sexual intercourse outside marriage,
although, it is scarcely necessary to add, in
England, as elsewhere, it happens that doctors,
including women doctors, from time to time privately
point out to their unmarried and even married patients,
that sexual intercourse would probably be beneficial.
The duty of the physician to recommend
sexual intercourse has been denied as emphatically
as it has been affirmed. Thus Eulenburg (Sexuale
Neuropathie, , would by no means advise
extra-conjugal relations to his patient; “such
advice is quite outside the physician’s
competence.” It is, of course, denied
by those who regard sexual abstinence as always harmless,
if not beneficial. But it is also denied by
many who consider that, under some circumstances,
sexual intercourse would do good.
Moll has especially, and on many occasions,
discussed the duty of the physician in relation
to the question of advising sexual intercourse
outside marriage (e.g., in his comprehensive work,
Aerztliche Ethik, 1902; also Zeitschrift
fuer Aerztliche Fortbildung, 1905, Nos.
12-15; Mutterschutz, 1905, Heft 3; Geschlecht
und Gesellschaft, vol. ii, Heft 8). At
the outset Moll had been disposed to assert the
right of the physician to recommend sexual intercourse
under some circumstances; “so long as marriage
is unduly delayed and sexual intercourse outside marriage
exists,” he wrote (Die Contraere Sexualempfindung,
second edition, , “so long, I think,
we may use such intercourse therapeutically, provided
that the rights of no third person (husband or
wife) are injured.” In all his later writings,
however, Moll ranges himself clearly and decisively
on the opposite side. He considers that the
physician has no right to overlook the possible
results of his advice in inflicting venereal disease,
or, in the case of a woman, pregnancy, on his patient,
and he believes that these serious results are far
more likely to happen than is always admitted
by those who defend the legitimacy of such advice.
Nor will Moll admit that the physician is entitled
to overlook the moral aspects of the question.
A physician may know that a poor man could obtain
many things good for his health by stealing, but
he cannot advise him to steal. Moll takes
the case of a Catholic priest who is suffering from
neurasthenia due to sexual abstinence. Even
although the physician feels certain that the
priest may be able to avoid all the risks of disease
as well as of publicity, he is not entitled to
urge him to sexual intercourse. He has to remember
that in thus causing a priest to break his vows
of chastity he may induce a mental conflict and
a bitter remorse which may lead to the worst results,
even on his patient’s physical health. Similar
results, Moll remarks, may follow such advice when
given to a married man or woman, to say nothing
of possible divorce proceedings and accompanying
evils.
Rohleder (Vorlesungen ueber Geschlechtstrieb
und Gesamtes Geschlechtsleben der Menschen)
adopts a somewhat qualified attitude in this matter.
As a general rule he is decidedly against recommending
sexual intercourse outside marriage to those who
are suffering from partial or temporary abstinence
(the only form of abstinence he recognizes), partly
on the ground that the evils of abstinence are
not serious or permanent, and partly because the
patient is fairly certain to exercise his own judgment
in the matter. But in some classes of cases he
recommends such intercourse, and notably to bisexual
persons, on the ground that he is thus preserving
his patient from the criminal risks of homosexual
practices.
It seems to me that there should be
no doubt whatever as to the correct professional attitude
of the physician in relation to this question of advice
concerning sexual intercourse. The physician is
never entitled to advise his patient to adopt sexual
intercourse outside marriage nor any method of relief
which is commonly regarded as illegitimate. It
is said that the physician has nothing to do with
considerations of conventional morality. If he
considers that champagne would be good for a poor patient
he ought to recommend him to take champagne; he is
not called upon to consider whether the patient will
beg, borrow, or steal the champagne. But, after
all, even if that be admitted, it must still be said
that the physician knows that the champagne, however
obtained, is not likely to be poisonous. When,
however, he prescribes sexual intercourse, with the
same lofty indifference to practical considerations,
he has no such knowledge. In giving such a prescription
the physician has in fact not the slightest knowledge
of what he may be prescribing. He may be giving
his patient a venereal disease; he may be giving the
anxieties and responsibilities of an illegitimate
child; the prescriber is quite in the dark. He
is in the same position as if he had prescribed a
quack medicine of which the composition was unknown
to him, with the added disadvantage that the medicine
may turn out to be far more potently explosive than
is the case with the usually innocuous patent medicine.
The utmost that a physician can properly permit himself
to do is to put the case impartially before his patient
and to present to him all the risks. The solution
must be for the patient himself to work out, as best
he can, for it involves social and other considerations
which, while they are indeed by no means outside the
sphere of medicine, are certainly entirely outside
the control of the individual private practitioner
of medicine.
Moll also is of opinion that this impartial
presentation of the case for and against sexual
intercourse corresponds to the physician’s
duty in the matter. It is, indeed, a duty which
can scarcely be escaped by the physician in many
cases. Moll points out that it can by no
means be assimilated, as some have supposed, with
the recommendation of sexual intercourse. It is,
on the contrary, he remarks, much more analogous
to the physician’s duty in reference to
operations. He puts before the patient the
nature of the operation, its advantages and its risks,
but he leaves it to the patient’s judgment to
accept or reject the operation. Lewitt also
(Geschlechtliche Enthaltsamkeit und Gesundheitsstoerungen,
1905), after discussing the various opinions on
this question, comes to the conclusion that the
physician, if he thinks that intercourse outside marriage
might be beneficial, should explain the difficulties
and leave the patient himself to decide.
There is another reason why, having
regard to the prevailing moral opinions at all events
among the middle classes, a physician should refrain
from advising extra-conjugal intercourse: he places
himself in a false relation to his social environment.
He is recommending a remedy the nature of which he
could not publicly avow, and so destroying the public
confidence in himself. The only physician who
is morally entitled to advise his patients to enter
into extra-conjugal relationships is one who openly
acknowledges that he is prepared to give such advice.
The doctor who is openly working for social reform
has perhaps won the moral right to give advice in
accordance with the tendency of his public activity,
but even then his advice may be very dubiously judicious,
and he would be better advised to confine his efforts
at social reform to his public activities. The
voice of the physician, as Professor Max Flesch of
Frankfort observes, is more and more heard in the development
and new growth of social institutions; he is a natural
leaders in such movements, and proposals for reform
properly come from him. “But,” as
Flesch continues, “publicly to accept the excellence
of existing institutions and in the privacy of the
consulting-room to give advice which assumes the imperfection
of those institutions is illogical and confusing.
It is the physician’s business to give advice
which is in accordance with the interests of the community
as a whole, and those interests require that sexual
relationships should be entered into between healthy
men and women who are able and willing to accept the
results of their union. That should be the physician’s
rule of conduct. Only so can he become, what to-day
he is often proclaimed to be, the leader of the nation."
This view is not, as we see, entirely in accord with
that which assumes that the physician’s duty
is solely and entirely to his patient, without regard
to the bearing of his advice on social conduct.
The patient’s interests are primary, but they
are not entitled to be placed in antagonism to the
interests of society. The advice given by the
wise physician must always be in harmony with the
social and moral tone of his age. Thus it is that
the tendency among the younger generation of physicians
to-day to take an active interest in raising that
tone and in promoting social reform-a tendency
which exists not only in Germany where such interests
have long been acute, but also in so conservative
a land as England-is full of promise for
the future.
The physician is usually content to
consider his duty to his patient in relationship to
sexual abstinence as sufficiently fulfilled when he
attempts to allay sexual hyperaesthesia by medical
or hygienic treatment. It can scarcely be claimed,
however, that the results of such treatment are usually
satisfactory, and sometimes indeed the treatment has
a result which is the reverse of that intended.
The difficulty generally is that in order to be efficacious
the treatment must be carried to an extreme which
exhausts or inhibits not only the genital activities
alone but the activities of the whole organism, and
short of that it may prove a stimulant rather than
a sedative. It is difficult and usually impossible
to separate out a man’s sexual activities and
bring influence to bear on these activities alone.
Sexual activity is so closely intertwined with the
other organic activities, erotic exuberance is so much
a flower which is rooted in the whole organism, that
the blow which crushes it may strike down the whole
man. The bromides are universally recognized as
powerful sexual sedatives, but their influence in
this respect only makes itself felt when they have
dulled all the finest energies of the organism.
Physical exercise is universally recommended to sexually
hyperaesthetic patients. Yet most people, men
and women, find that physical exercise is a positive
stimulus to sexual activity. This is notably so
as regards walking, and exuberantly energetic young
women who are troubled by the irritant activity of
their healthy sexual emotions sometimes spend a large
part of their time in the vain attempt to lull their
activity by long walks. Physical exercise only
proves efficacious in this respect when it is carried
to an extent which produces general exhaustion.
Then indeed the sexual activity is lulled; but so
are all the mental and physical activities. It
is undoubtedly true that exercises and games of all
sorts for young people of both sexes have a sexually
hygienic as well as a generally hygienic influence
which is undoubtedly beneficial. They are, on
all grounds, to be preferred to prolonged sedentary
occupations. But it is idle to suppose that games
and exercises will suppress the sexual impulses, for
in so far as they favor health, they favor all the
impulses that are the result of health. The most
that can be expected is that they may tend to restrain
the manifestations of sex by dispersing the energy
they generate.
There are many physical rules and
precautions which are advocated, not without reason,
as tending to inhibit or diminish sexual activity.
The avoidance of heat and the cultivation of cold
is one of the most important of these. Hot climates,
a close atmosphere, heavy bed-clothing, hot baths,
all tend powerfully to excite the sexual system, for
that system is a peripheral sensory organ, and whatever
stimulates the skin generally, stimulates the sexual
system. Cold, which contracts the skin, also deadens
the sexual feelings, a fact which the ascetics of old
knew and acted upon. The garments and the posture
of the body are not without influence. Constriction
or pressure in the neighborhood of the sexual region,
even tight corsets, as well as internal pressure, as
from a distended bladder, are sources of sexual irritation.
Sleeping on the back, which congests the spinal centres,
also acts in the same way, as has long been known
by those who attend to sexual hygiene; thus it is stated
that in the Franciscan order it is prohibited to lie
on the back. Food and drink are, further, powerful
sexual stimulants. This is true even of the simplest
and most wholesome nourishment, but it is more especially
true of flesh meat, and, above all, of alcohol in
its stronger forms such as spirits, liqueurs,
sparkling and heavy wines, and even many English beers.
This has always been clearly realized by those who
cultivate asceticism, and it is one of the powerful
reasons why alcohol should not be given in early youth.
As St. Jerome wrote, when telling Eustochium that she
must avoid wine like poison, “wine and youth
are the two fires of lust. Why add oil to the
flame?" Idleness, again, especially when combined
with rich living, promotes sexual activity, as Burton
sets forth at length in his Anatomy of Melancholy,
and constant occupation, on the other hand, concentrates
the wandering activities.
Mental exercise, like physical exercise,
has sometimes been advocated as a method of calming
sexual excitement, but it seems to be equally equivocal
in its action. If it is profoundly interesting
and exciting it may stir up rather than lull the sexual
emotions. If it arouses little interest it is
unable to exert any kind of influence. This is
true even of mathematical occupations which have been
advocated by various authorities, including Broussais,
as aids to sexual hygiene. “I have tried
mechanical mental work,” a lady writes, “such
as solving arithmetical or algebraic problems, but
it does no good; in fact it seems only to increase
the excitement.” “I studied and especially
turned my attention to mathematics,” a clergyman
writes, “with a view to check my sexual tendencies.
To a certain extent I was successful. But at
the approach of an old friend, a voice or a touch,
these tendencies came back again with renewed strength.
I found mathematics, however, the best thing on the
whole to take off my attention from women, better
than religious exercises which I tried when younger
(twenty-two to thirty).” At the best, however,
such devices are of merely temporary efficacy.
It is easier to avoid arousing the
sexual impulses than to impose silence on them by
hygienic measures when once they are aroused.
It is, therefore, in childhood and youth that all
these measures may be most reasonably observed in
order to avoid any premature sexual excitement.
In one group of stolidly normal children influences
that might be expected to act sexually pass away unperceived.
At the other extreme, another group of children are
so neurotically and precociously sensitive that no
precautions will preserve them from such influences.
But between these groups there is another, probably
much the largest, who resist slight sexual suggestions
but may succumb to stronger or longer influences, and
on these the cares of sexual hygiene may profitably
be bestowed.
After puberty, when the spontaneous
and inner voice of sex may at any moment suddenly
make itself heard, all hygienic precautions are liable
to be flung to the winds, and even the youth or maiden
most anxious to retain the ideals of chastity can
often do little but wait till the storm has passed.
It sometimes happens that a prolonged period of sexual
storm and stress occurs soon after puberty, and then
dies away although there has been little or no sexual
gratification, to be succeeded by a period of comparative
calm. It must be remembered that in many, and
perhaps most, individuals, men and women, the sexual
appetite, unlike hunger or thirst, can after a prolonged
struggle, be reduced to a more or less quiescent state
which, far from injuring, may even benefit the physical
and psychic vigor generally. This may happen
whether or not sexual gratification has been obtained.
If there has never been any such gratification, the
struggle is less severe and sooner over, unless the
individual is of highly erotic temperament. If
there has been gratification, if the mind is filled
not merely with desires but with joyous experience
to which the body also has grown accustomed, then
the struggle is longer and more painfully absorbing.
The succeeding relief, however, if it comes, is sometimes
more complete and is more likely to be associated with
a state of psychic health. For the fundamental
experiences of life, under normal conditions, bring
not only intellectual sanity, but emotional pacification.
A conquest of the sexual appetites which has never
at any period involved a gratification of these appetites
seldom produces results that commend themselves as
rich and beautiful.
In these combats there are, however,
no permanent conquests. For a very large number
of people, indeed, though there may be emotional changes
and fluctuations dependent on a variety of circumstances,
there can scarcely be said to be any conquest at all.
They are either always yielding to the impulses that
assail them, or always resisting those impulses, in
the first case with remorse, in the second with dissatisfaction.
In either case much of their lives, at the time when
life is most vigorous, is wasted. With women,
if they happen to be of strong passions and reckless
impulses to abandonment, the results may be highly
enervating, if not disastrous to the general psychic
life. It is to this cause, indeed, that some
have been inclined to attribute the frequent mediocrity
of women’s work in artistic and intellectual
fields. Women of intellectual force are frequently
if not generally women of strong passions, and if they
resist the tendency to merge themselves in the duties
of maternity their lives are often wasted in emotional
conflict and their psychic natures impoverished.
The extent to which sexual abstinence
and the struggles it involves may hamper and absorb
the individual throughout life is well illustrated
in the following case. A lady, vigorous, robust,
and generally healthy, of great intelligence and
high character, has reached middle life without
marrying, or ever having sexual relationships.
She was an only child, and when between three and
four years of age, a playmate some six years older,
initiated her into the habit of playing with her
sexual parts. She was, however, at this age
quite devoid of sexual feelings, and the habit
dropped naturally, without any bad effects, as soon
as she left the neighborhood of this girl a year
or so later. Her health was good and even
brilliant, and she developed vigorously at puberty.
At the age of sixteen, however, a mental shock caused
menstruation to diminish in amount during some
years, and simultaneously with this diminution
persistent sexual excitement appeared spontaneously,
for the first time. She regarded such feelings
as abnormal and unhealthy, and exerted all her powers
of self-control in resisting them. But will
power had no effect in diminishing the feelings.
There was constant and imperious excitement, with
the sense of vibration, tension, pressure, dilatation
and tickling, accompanied, it may be, by some ovarian
congestion, for she felt that on the left side
there was a network of sexual nerves, and retroversion
of the uterus was detected some years later.
Her life was strenuous with many duties, but no
occupation could be pursued without this undercurrent
of sexual hyperaesthesia involving perpetual self-control.
This continued more or less acutely for many years,
when menstruation suddenly stopped altogether,
much before the usual period of the climacteric.
At the same time the sexual excitement ceased,
and she became calm, peaceful, and happy. Diminished
menstruation was associated with sexual excitement,
but abundant menstruation and its complete absence
were both accompanied by the relief of excitement.
This lasted for two years. Then, for the
treatment of a trifling degree of anæmia, she
was subjected to a long, and, in her case, injudicious
course of hypodermic injections of strychnia.
From that time, five years ago, up to the present,
there has been constant sexual excitement, and
she has always to be on guard lest she should be overtaken
by a sexual spasm. Her torture is increased by
the fact that her traditions make it impossible
for her (except under very exceptional circumstances)
to allude to the cause of her sufferings.
“A woman is handicapped,” she writes.
“She may never speak to anyone on such a
subject. She must live her tragedy alone,
smiling as much as she can under the strain of her
terrible burden.” To add to her trouble,
two years ago, she felt impelled to resort to
masturbation, and has done so about once a month
since; this not only brings no real relief, and leaves
irritability, wakefulness, and dark marks under
the eyes, but is a cause of remorse to her, for
she regards masturbation as entirely abnormal
and unnatural. She has tried to gain benefit,
not merely by the usual methods of physical hygiene,
but by suggestion, Christian Science, etc.,
but all in vain. “I may say,”
she writes, “that it is the most passionate desire
of my heart to be freed from this bondage, that
I may relax the terrible years-long tension of
resistance, and be happy in my own way. If
I had this affliction once a month, once a week, even
twice a week, to stand against it would be child’s
play. I should scorn to resort to unnatural
means, however moderately. But self-control
itself has its revenges, and I sometimes feel as if
it is no longer to be borne.”
Thus while it is an immense benefit
in physical and psychic development if the eruption
of the disturbing sexual emotions can be delayed until
puberty or adolescence, and while it is a very great
advantage, after that eruption has occurred, to be
able to gain control of these emotions, to crush altogether
the sexual nature would be a barren, if not, indeed,
a perilous victory, bringing with it no satisfaction.
“If I had only had three weeks’ happiness,”
said a woman, “I would not quarrel with Fate,
but to have one’s whole life so absolutely empty
is horrible.” If such vacuous self-restraint
may, by courtesy, be termed a virtue, it is but a negative
virtue. The persons who achieve it, as the result
of congenitally feeble sexual aptitudes, merely (as
Gyurkovechky, Fuerbringer, and Loewenfeld have all
alike remarked) made a virtue of their weakness.
Many others, whose instincts were less weak, when
they disdainfully put to flight the desires of sex
in early life, have found that in later life that foe
returns in tenfold force and perhaps in unnatural
shapes.
The conception of “sexual abstinence”
is, we see, an entirely false and artificial conception.
It is not only ill-adjusted to the hygienic facts
of the case but it fails even to invoke any genuinely
moral motive, for it is exclusively self-regarding
and self-centred. It only becomes genuinely moral,
and truly inspiring, when we transform it into the
altruistic virtue of self-sacrifice. When we
have done so we see that the element of abstinence
in it ceases to be essential, “Self-sacrifice,”
writes the author of a thoughtful book on the sexual
life, “is acknowledged to be the basis of virtue;
the noblest instances of self-sacrifice are those
dictated by sexual affection. Sympathy is the
secret of altruism; nowhere is sympathy more real
and complete than in love. Courage, both moral
and physical, the love of truth and honor, the spirit
of enterprise, and the admiration of moral worth,
are all inspired by love as by nothing else in human
nature. Celibacy denies itself that inspiration
or restricts its influence, according to the measure
of its denial of sexual intimacy. Thus the deliberate
adoption of a consistently celibate life implies the
narrowing down of emotional and moral experience to
a degree which is, from the broad scientific standpoint,
unjustified by any of the advantages piously supposed
to accrue from it."
In a sane natural order all the impulses
are centred in the fulfilment of needs and not in
their denial. Moreover, in this special matter
of sex, it is inevitable that the needs of others,
and not merely the needs of the individual himself,
should determine action. It is more especially
the needs of the female which are the determining
factor; for those needs are more various, complex
and elusive, and in his attentiveness to their gratification
the male finds a source of endless erotic satisfaction.
It might be thought that the introduction of an altruistic
motive here is merely the claim of theoretical morality
insisting that there shall be a firm curb on animal
instinct. But, as we have again and again seen
throughout the long course of these Studies,
it is not so. The animal instinct itself makes
this demand. It is a biological law that rules
throughout the zooelogical world and has involved the
universality of courtship. In man it is only
modified because in man sexual needs are not entirely
concentrated in reproduction, but more or less penetrate
the whole of life.
While from the point of view of society,
as from that of Nature, the end and object of the
sexual impulse is procreation, and nothing beyond
procreation, that is by no means true for the individual,
whose main object it must be to fulfil himself harmoniously
with that due regard for others which the art of living
demands. Even if sexual relationships had no
connection with procreation whatever-as
some Central Australian tribes believe-they
would still be justifiable, and are, indeed, an indispensable
aid to the best moral development of the individual,
for it is only in so intimate a relationship as that
of sex that the finest graces and aptitudes of life
have full scope. Even the saints cannot forego
the sexual side of life. The best and most accomplished
saints from Jerome to Tolstoy-even the
exquisite Francis of Assisi-had stored up
in their past all the experiences that go to the complete
realization of life, and if it were not so they would
have been the less saints.
The element of positive virtue thus
only enters when the control of the sexual impulse
has passed beyond the stage of rigid and sterile abstinence
and has become not merely a deliberate refusal of what
is evil in sex, but a deliberate acceptance of what
is good. It is only at that moment that such
control becomes a real part of the great art of living.
For the art of living, like any other art, is not
compatible with rigidity, but lies in the weaving
of a perpetual harmony between refusing and accepting,
between giving and taking.
The future, it is clear, belongs ultimately
to those who are slowly building up sounder traditions
into the structure of life. The “problem
of sexual abstinence” will more and more sink
into insignificance. There remain the great solid
fact of love, the great solid fact of chastity.
Those are eternal. Between them there is nothing
but harmony. The development of one involves
the development of the other.
It has been necessary to treat seriously
this problem of “sexual abstinence” because
we have behind us the traditions of two thousand years
based on certain ideals of sexual law and sexual license,
together with the long effort to build up practices
more or less conditioned by those ideals. We
cannot immediately escape from these traditions even
when we question their validity for ourselves.
We have not only to recognize their existence, but
also to accept the fact that for some time to come
they must still to a considerable extent control the
thoughts and even in some degree the actions of existing
communities.
It is undoubtedly deplorable.
It involves the introduction of an artificiality into
a real natural order. Love is real and positive;
chastity is real and positive. But sexual abstinence
is unreal and negative, in the strict sense perhaps
impossible. The underlying feelings of all those
who have emphasized its importance is that a physiological
process can be good or bad according as it is or is
not carried out under certain arbitrary external conditions,
which render it licit or illicit. An act of sexual
intercourse under the name of “marriage”
is beneficial; the very same act, under the name of
“incontinence,” is pernicious. No
physiological process, and still less any spiritual
process, can bear such restriction. It is as
much as to say that a meal becomes good or bad, digestible
or indigestible, according as a grace is or is not
pronounced before the eating of it.
It is deplorable because, such a conception
being essentially unreal, an element of unreality
is thus introduced into a matter of the gravest concern
alike to the individual and to society. Artificial
disputes have been introduced where no matter of real
dispute need exist. A contest has been carried
on marked by all the ferocity which marks contests
about metaphysical or pseudo-metaphysical differences
having no concrete basis in the actual world.
As will happen in such cases, there has, after all,
been no real difference between the disputants because
the point they quarreled over was unreal. In
truth each side was right and each side was wrong.
It is necessary, we see, that the
balance should be held even. An absolute license
is bad; an absolute abstinence-even though
some by nature or circumstances are urgently called
to adopt it-is also bad. They are both
alike away from the gracious equilibrium of Nature.
And the force, we see, which naturally holds this
balance even is the biological fact that the act of
sexual union is the satisfaction of the erotic needs,
not of one person, but of two persons.