CHAPTER VII - SEX IN THE MARRIAGE
RELATION
THE HUSBAND
Marriage is the process by which a
man and woman enter into a complete physical, legal
and moral union. The natural object of marriage
is the complete community of life for the establishment
of a family.
THE MARRIAGEABLE
AGE AND ADAPTATION
At twenty-four the male body attains
its complete development; and twenty-five is a proper
age for the young man to marry. Romantic love,
personal affection on a basis of congeniality, mutual
adaptation, a similar social sphere of life, should
determine his choice. Nature and custom indicate
that the husband should be somewhat older than the
wife.
MEN WHO SHOULD
NOT MARRY
Men suffering with diseases which
may be communicated by contagion or heredity should
not marry. These diseases include: tuberculosis,
syphilis, cancer, leprosy, epilepsy and some nervous
disorders, some skin diseases and insanity. A
worn-out rake has no business to marry, since marriage
is not a hospital for the treatment of disease, or
a reformatory institution for moral lepers. Those
having a marked tendency to disease must not marry
those of similar tendency. The marriage of cousins
is not to be advocated. The blood relation tends
to bring together persons with similar morbid tendencies.
Where both are healthy, however, there seems to be
no special liability to mental incompetency, though
such marriages are accused of producing defective
or idiot children. Men suffering from congenital
defects should not marry. Natural blindness,
deafness, muteness, and congenital deformities of
limb are more or less likely to be passed on to their
children. There are cases of natural blindness,
though, to which this rule does not apply. Criminals,
alcoholics, and persons disproportionate in size should
not marry. In the last-mentioned, lack of mutual
physical adaptability may produce much unhappiness,
especially on the part of the wife. Serious local
disease, sterility, and great risk in childbirth may
result. Disparity of years, disparity of race,
a poverty which will not permit the proper raising
of children, undesirable moral character are all good
reasons for not marrying.
MEDICAL EXAMINATION
BEFORE MARRIAGE
Medical examination as a preliminary
to marriage is practically more valuable than a marriage
license. Since many entirely innocent young girls
to-day suffer from disease, incurred either through
hereditary or accidental infection, a would-be husband
may be said to be quite as much entitled to protection
as his bride-to-be. Prohibitive physical defects
are also discovered in this connection.